Bex Kohlington

This is my personal blog where I post art, zelda, anime, books, funny stuff, and basically just geek out.

[snackwizard]

a fools guide to not wanting to die anymore

by me, a fool who doesnt wanna die anymore 

never make a suicide joke again. yes this includes “i wanna die” as a figure of speech. swear off of it. actually make an effort to change how you think about things.

find something to compliment someone for at least 4 times a day. notice the little things about the world that make you happy, and use that to make other people happy.

talk to people. initiate conversation as often as you possibly can. keep your mind busy and you wont have to worry anymore

picture the bad intrusive thoughts in youe head as an edgy 13 year old and tell them to go be emo somewhere else

if someone makes you feel bad most of the time, stop talking to them. making yourself hang out with people who drain you is self harm. stop it.

[the-leftie]

Welcome to College

Average stories about an average girl (me) at a not so average college. Feel free to follow along as I try to sort out my life.

Lol, I made the lineart too thick so it looks like a got a black eye.

Um, but yeah I don’t do much of anything art related nowadays except this comic so feel free to check it out. (I’ve gotten so much better than I was back in my high school days trust me)

[the-leftie]

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Ya so I have a comic now about my life at college. Mostly all true stories. I think I’m funny. Go check it out maybe? U don’t have to I guess... I mean it’s not like it’ll change your life or anything but it actually it will...

[the-leftie]

I’m like a Phoenix rising from the ashes... Only to most likely crumble away and disappear again after posting this thing of beauty.

[warriorzelda]

“It is said that an evil and wicked power is bestowed upon the one who wears that mask…”

[daeranilen]

"Should parents read their daughter's texts or monitor her online activity for bad language and inappropriate content?"

Earlier today, I served as the “young woman’s voice” in a panel of local experts at a Girl Scouts speaking event. One question for the panel was something to the effect of, “Should parents read their daughter’s texts or monitor her online activity for bad language and inappropriate content?”

I was surprised when the first panelist answered the question as if it were about cyberbullying. The adult audience nodded sagely as she spoke about the importance of protecting children online.

I reached for the microphone next. I said, “As far as reading your child’s texts or logging into their social media profiles, I would say 99.9% of the time, do not do that.”

Looks of total shock answered me. I actually saw heads jerk back in surprise. Even some of my fellow panelists blinked.

Everyone stared as I explained that going behind a child’s back in such a way severs the bond of trust with the parent. When I said, “This is the most effective way to ensure that your child never tells you anything,” it was like I’d delivered a revelation.

It’s easy to talk about the disconnect between the old and the young, but I don’t think I’d ever been so slapped in the face by the reality of it. It was clear that for most of the parents I spoke to, the idea of such actions as a violation had never occurred to them at all.

It alarms me how quickly adults forget that children are people.

[daeranilen]

Apparently people are rediscovering this post somehow and I think that’s pretty cool! Having experienced similar violations of trust in my youth, this is an important issue to me, so I want to add my personal story:

Around age 13, I tried to express to my mother that I thought I might have clinical depression, and she snapped at me “not to joke about things like that.” I stopped telling my mother when I felt depressed.

Around age 15, I caught my mother reading my diary. She confessed that any time she saw me write in my diary, she would sneak into my room and read it, because I only wrote when I was upset. I stopped keeping a diary.

Around age 18, I had an emotional breakdown while on vacation because I didn’t want to go to college. I ended up seeing a therapist for - surprise surprise - depression.

Around age 21, I spoke on this panel with my mother in the audience, and afterwards I mentioned the diary incident to her with respect to this particular Q&A. Her eyes welled up, and she said, “You know I read those because I was worried you were depressed and going to hurt yourself, right?”

TL;DR: When you invade your child’s privacy, you communicate three things:

You do not respect their rights as an individual.

You do not trust them to navigate problems or seek help on their own.

You probably haven’t been listening to them.

Information about almost every issue that you think you have to snoop for can probably be obtained by communicating with and listening to your child.

[daeranilen]

Part of me is really excited to see that the original post got 200 notes because holy crap 200 notes, and part of me is really saddened that something so negative has resonated with so many people.

[isitscary]

I love this post.

Too many parents wonder why their kids aren’t honest with them, and never realize their own non-receptive behavior and their failure to listen are the reasons why.

At one point or another, a child WILL keep a secret from you, but if it’s to a point where all their emotional feelings are being poured away from you as opposed to toward you, it’s probably because you haven’t been emotionally trustworthy or open. 

[intersectionalparenting-deactiv]

Adultism :(

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not to mention, you then take away one of your child’s coping mechanisms. if your parents read your journal, you’re never writing in it again. if your parents monitor your conversations with friends, you won’t tell them when you’re depressed anymore. if you have a therapist that reports what you say to your parents, you won’t tell that therapist anything. now all those methods of venting, feeling better, self-soothing, sorting out your issues, and feeling safe are gone. “i want information” is not synonymous with “i want my child to talk to me.” those are two separate goals, but i think parents conflate them – i want my child to talk to me, but since they won’t, i’m stealing information from them. no. you didn’t ever want them to talk to you. you wanted information. if you wanted them to talk to you, if that was your entire end goal, you would have approached things completely differently. stealing information from a child ensures they will never talk to you again. but if all you want is information, then you can take it however you want and call it a parenting success. if what you wanted was a child who talks to you, you would apply the same principles you do to literally any other human interaction in your life, and cultivate a relationship and trust.

[fdsfjdsfjkf93723679267-deactiva]

hey im baku!! first of all theres no pressure whatsoever here to buy anything so you dont have to i promise! dont worry!!

but as most of you know i study the korean language, but my ability to buy study material is essentially impossible because i just. dont have any money and it really hinders my learning

if any of you have any spare change and dont mind helping me out i made a wishlist on amazon with the books i need! i added some notes beside them to say which ones i need most/which to buy first!!

http://www.amazon.co.uk/registry/wishlist/3FY3UTTFF4FY

there is no pressure whatsoever but if you guys buy anything let me know so i can thank you personally!! thank you so much again and no pressure ;;

[tachikoma]

[babypadawan]

I want a “just checking in” kind of love.

a “baby did you eat today?” kind of love.

a “you’re the first person I told” kind of love.

an “I gotta kiss you before you leave” kind of love

an “I love you” before we say bye kind of love.

an “I noticed that you need this so I got it for you” kind of love.

a “we’re not going to bed til we’ve made up” kind of love.

a wipe my tears away kind of love.

a nonstop joke fest until I smile again kind of love.

a goofy smile when I walk in the room kind of love.

a hold me until my panic attack passes kind of love.

a rub my back after work kind of love.

I just want to feel completely, totally, truly loved.

[radsity]

Commissions are Open!

Prices are in USD, per character. If you’re interested, please contact me via my commissions form after you read my payment info and tos!  ʕ•ᴥ•ʔ

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[the-leftie]

So like...  trying to draw Yato...   does anyone else...   I mean, am I the only one...?   How?  What is the secret?

He looks so simple... but then you try and...  you just wanna do something evil....

[the-leftie]

*tries to do something different but it doesn’t work out* 

Just... just forget everything I’ve ever done.

[the-leftie]

Wrote a poem for school writing competition

<3

 Let’s go dancing, you and me,

We’ll waltz across the seven seas,

At least we would if I could be,

Better at writing poetry.

 I have to put my thoughts to words,

Let them sail on wings of birds,

And hope that you have never heard,

Lyrics such as mine absurd.

 It’s hard to speak but I can mime,

And show my words to beats of time,

All and all, at least I can rhyme,

But even that is difficult.

 Yet still I have not yet conveyed,

The words that I so long to say,

Nonsense is all I’ve spoken today,

But I’ll let you know, I wish to stay.

 Let’s go dancing, you and me,

I’ll keep writing you poetry,

We’ll waltz until we fall asleep,

Because I like you, well, I think.

[scampthecorgi]

[smmamm]

friend: are you okay? me: *trying out coffins* why do you ask?

[dollyriot]

Artist Asks!

Do you prefer traditional drawing, or digital?

How long have you been drawing?

How many classes have you taken?

Do you have a DeviantArt, personal website, or art blog?

What’s your favorite thing to draw?

What’s your least favorite thing to draw?

How often do you use references?

Do you draw professionally, or just for fun?

How much time do you spend drawing on an average day?

Are you confident about your art?

How many art-related blogs do you follow?

Is it okay for people to ask you about your process?

Do you prefer to keep your art personal, or do you like drawing things for other people?

Do you ever collaborate with others?

How long does an average piece take you to complete?

Do you draw more today than you did in the past, or do you draw less?

Do you think you’re justified in giving other people art advice?

What are you currently trying to improve on?

What is the most difficult thing for you to draw?

What is the easiest thing for you to draw?

Do you like to challenge yourself?

Are you confident that you’re improving steadily?

Do you draw more fanart, or more original art?

Do you feel jealous when you see other people’s art, or inspired? (Be honest!)

Do you like to draw in silence, or with music?

For digital artists: what program(s) do you use?

For digital artists: how many layers does a typical piece require?

For traditional artists: what medium do you like most? (Pencil, charcoals, etc)

For traditional artists: How do you usually start on a big piece? (Light sketch, colored lead, sketchpaper, etc)

What inspires you to not just make art, but to be a better artist?

[the-leftie-doodles]

practice with skeletons