The Sour Patch Crew Archived

Group system blog - check pinned for new account

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Moved system blog to @the-sour-patch-crew

Originally it was Ashe's blog, but now it's going to be our main. Her account has a ton of people blocked, so if you suddenly can no longer interact I'm so sorry. ;_;

[holographicapples]

Commissions are Open Reminder

(Or in other words, we let ourselves go during a convention and need to make up for our lack of self-control around the amazing vendors that were there)

$20 USD through Paypal

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Starting to seriously consider swapping Ashe's account to be the main system blog. We want to join communities and for account interactions to make sense. Everything is listed under her, and she doesn't want to be affiliated directly sometimes, ya know? Things were so much easier when it was just two of us, so two main accounts made sense lol

[animarums-deactivated20251115]

Me when somebody talks about my fictotypes, not knowing I'm fictionkind:

[holographicapples]

~ Happy Lammas to those who celebrate, and happy birthday to me. ~

[chaos-in-one]

Syscourse Question of The Day: If you could permanently change one aspect of syscourse, what would you change?

[ellipse-society]

More civil discussions happening please :)

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Ban certain words

[cdd-safe-haven]

[contradictory-label-culture-is]

Hi I have a question. I don’t quite understand how lesboys work or why theyre valid, I know they are. I just don’t know why, could you explain?

I don't know how to answer this other than "it's harmless" but I guess going through the wiki and the lesboy tag would let you know some things?

[geo-is-queer]

Deadass this meme explains it better than most things I've seen

And to add to the list

cisgender man who's attraction to women is queer in some way

genderfluid person who's orientation doesn't always "match" the gender they are

Lesbian who was raised masc/as a man, could be a perisex woman or intersex (believe me it happens to both, and much more often than you'd think)

An intersex person that feels no other labels accurately describe their attraction to women (could be for a vast array of reasons)

Someone who's transneutral, androgynous, agender, etc. and likes a label for attraction to women that invokes both masculinity and femininity

an agabpunk or genderfuck person rejecting the idea that their agab or gender(s) entirely control what kinds of attraction they "can" and "can't" feel respectively

[chaos-in-one]

Syscourse Question of The Day: What's something connected to syscourse that you think that those connections should be talked about more?

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It kind of what syscourse is at heart but

The idea that ostracizing others is going to protect you. Doesn't matter *why* you are doing it. The overall way that ostracizing and shaming are looked at as an answer to a problem that will NEVER actually be solved by pushing people away, or trying to make someone else the target of someone's ire, really needs to be talked about more.

And it IS brought up. But, not nearly enough.

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I dislike how I seem to have the hardest time in front than the others. My words, actions, and just everything in general feels so much harder. I do not know why it is. I do not feel dissociated. I do not feel out of place. I do not know why front is more difficult but I am rather bitter about it.

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Not a second later my dear daemon reminds me I am a wolf.

I suddenly feel much better about all of this.

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I dislike how I seem to have the hardest time in front than the others. My words, actions, and just everything in general feels so much harder. I do not know why it is. I do not feel dissociated. I do not feel out of place. I do not know why front is more difficult but I am rather bitter about it.

[numberonesnarkfan]

Cars and computer terminals seem to be almost universally the way it feels to front in a system (controlling a larger being). Makes me wonder how systems perceived their headspaces differently before those inventions.

1900s system whose fronting room is a horse and buggy, 1800s system whose fronting room is Just The Horse. System whose front is one of those royal thrones carried by servants on sticks. Ancient Greek system whose fronting room is a Forum.

[chaos-in-one]

Syscourse Question of The Day: What is something you wish other people in syscourse would understand?

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There is a living person on the other side of the screen

[thecircularsystem]

Oh one last quick post real fast cause I see it a LOT online, particularly in system spaces

You literally do not need to put your age anywhere on your blog. You don't need to put any personally identifiable information on your blog. You can lie about yourself on your blog.

IDK what happened to internet security, but like. I have seen this week such things as, "It's creepy if you don't disclose your age and interact with people of a different age group."

How about everyone please remember I don't know you, you don't know me, and I am entitled to some privacy?

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Yay for discovering a new trigger that makes the system end a conversation in the worst possible way because our nerves went into fight or flight right as we need to sleep. Thought this friendship had fizzled, but pretty sure Alastor and Ashe just set it up in flames right under my fingertips.

Was my original response irrational and I was overthinking and projecting because trauma? WHO KNOWS?! (Likely. There is a very strong chance I misread everything all because of a few choice lines.) But I certainly don't remember any of it anymore so who can say?

Dissociation

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There are things we do to protect ourselves that others may not understand or see as fair. It certainly isn't seen as kind.

[theweirdwideweb]

[rimonoroni2]

unfortunately very true. Doing Better does not always mean never being upset or never being triggered or never having trouble. often Doing Better means experiencing those things and being able to keep going/cope healthily/move on. if you’re in a bubble with no sensation, if you’re numbing yourself out, that’s not what recovering really is. it won’t help you have a happier life it’ll just make your world smaller and smaller until you can’t fit anywhere anymore. gotta learn to make peace with the hard stuff too, that’s the only way to keep going

[the-sour-patch-crew-archived]

Yay for discovering a new trigger that makes the system end a conversation in the worst possible way because our nerves went into fight or flight right as we need to sleep. Thought this friendship had fizzled, but pretty sure Alastor and Ashe just set it up in flames right under my fingertips.

Was my original response irrational and I was overthinking and projecting because trauma? WHO KNOWS?! (Likely. There is a very strong chance I misread everything all because of a few choice lines.) But I certainly don't remember any of it anymore so who can say?

Dissociation