anxious, ace, armed with mace

Asexual, panromantic, nonbinary (they/them) sun sign cancer, INFP. 1997. Neurodivergent.

[favorite-steam-reviews]

[wordfather]

do you fuck with my unwritten story

[wordfather]

do you fuck with the weird guy i made

[bintro]

[chasm-side]

My therapist, who specializes in adults with ADHD, recently told me that all of her clients need a three day crashout period after a big life change. Finish the semester? Crashout. Change jobs? Crashout. Go on a really cool, really relaxing vacation? Crashout the moment you get home.

It's true of literally all of her clients. She works with a lot of them to put systems in place so that their crashouts are only three days. This includes the high-powered execs who travel regularly for work. It does not matter how successful or high functioning they are - they have ADHD, and a crashout is just part of the process of living with it.

I'm sharing this with all you ADHD friends out there, just in case you (like me) start shaming yourself if your crashout lasts more than one day. It turns out three days is kind of the best case scenario. Be kind to yourselves!

[valtsv]

being a symbolism enjoyer should humble you because at the end of the day no matter how eloquently you articulate it youre essentially saying "i love it when things have meaning"

[valtsv]

my hobbies are Colours and Shapes but, like, in a mature, sophisticated adult way

[funnytwittertweets]

[quasi-normalcy]

What I can tell you as a transgender woman is that occasionally I will read trans woman characters written by cisgender authors. And I can pretty much always tell when the author is cis, even if the character is portrayed respectfully, because they get some details wrong or something. But I certainly don’t think that they shouldn’t be allowed to take a stab at it, and I actually appreciate any representation that isn’t egregiously harmful. And I certainly don’t think that only transgender women should be allowed to write transgender women because then it falls on me, and that’s rather tokenizing, isn’t it?

[quasi-normalcy]

Also it seems like demanding that only #OwnVoices authors should be allowed to write certain characters is an excellent way to enforce a situation where most books are about cishet white people.

[quasi-normalcy]

And no: you probably won’t get all of the specific details of someone else’s lived experience correct, in much the same way that most authors don’t get all of the specific details about how, say, nuclear reactors or space work. But so long as your character passes as realistically human and not a one-dimensional caricature of what you think that other types of people are like, then I think that that’s reasonable.

[quasi-normalcy]

It’s telling that this is one of my most popular posts and it’s literally just giving people permission to write fiction

[whereonceiwasfire]

There's something so UNBEARABLY funny about some 40 yo billionaire being archrivals with a kid. Vlad could so easily just pat Danny on the head, be like "oh yes, of course we're enemies, Daniel. Yes, yes, you've stopped my evil plot. Now run along home, it's past 9:00pm and you should be in bed" but no. He's just as invested as Danny and actively acknowledes that they are bitter rivals. And that's. Just. So funny. It's like if your little niece told you that no, you don't get to be the fairy princess, she's the fairy princess, and you WENT OFF. "That's not fair! You always get to be the fairy princess and until I get a turn, we are ENEMIES." Cracks me up every time.

[faewaren]

Nicknames: when you shorten someone’s name affectionately

Nicholasnames: when you elongate someone’s name affectionately

[gazehoundz]

you would undo God's punishment?

[ot3]

lord grant me the serenity to do my laundry, the courage to do my laundry, and the wisdom to do my laundry

[annwn]

[bakwaaas]

Why are job interviews psychological warfare

[bakwaaas]

Like genuinely what is the intention behind asking someone what their biggest weakness is. No one is actually gonna be honest in that situation so it’s like a weird game to see if they can give a clever answer

[anneonomus]

That relatable (older) Gen Z memory: when all the projectors and white boards got replaced by Smart Boards™ around like fifth grade and none of the teachers knew how to use them but they Had To Use them otherwise the school just wasted a bunch of money and it was a rlly weird transition

[space-ex]

an addition: when they calibrated the board by pressing the dots and everyone in class lost their minds

[femslashfantasies]

this how I know I’m really a millennial cause I have no idea wtf y'all are talking about

[nostalgicmess]

sometimes i need to remind myself that i'm writing fanfiction for free and i'm allowed to have a shitty sentence or two

[besweetbyjapanesebreakfast]

the fact that welcome to the black parade was recorded in a haunted mansion called the paramour and they recorded it in the middle of the night in the ballroom and the bass player had to go live with a therapist and the lead singer would have night terrors of being strangled and the guitarist would see a woman in white walking the halls. who is doing it like my chemical romance. fucking no one

[theconcealedweapon]

[durkin77]

Like I get that it's a dick move if it's not necessary. But if you break down in tears because you have to actually go to work you're a massive fucking pussy.

[creation-of-pokerus]

It's more like they were given a brief, happier, healthier alternative to being stuck inside a small space for 8 hours a day for a year and a half and going back to that is realizing how awful it really is.

[all-hail-trudos]

Calling someone a "pussy" for breaking down in tears over being subjected to fresh, unreasonable misery is contributing to the problem of letting corporations dictate our lives and sounds a lot like deep throating the boot. (Aside from the casual misogyny of saying tears, Feeling Things, and apparently not wanting to go to work are feminine and not something a manly man would do).

Dude literally had a year of freedom. He could go outside, go to the park, stay home, just generally go where he pleased. Like a fucking adult who understood he had work to do, and obviously still got it all done because he hasn't been fired or "laid off". Now he's got a collar back on his neck and a chain keeping him at a desk between a set of beige walls and an equally boring ceiling, which was there before, but now he sees it for what it is. And why is it there? Because his boss has a deep insecurity about letting people work without oversight. Because his manager starts to look a little redundant if people can do their jobs without touching base, attending meetings, and generally doing stuff that makes said manager look like a Leader. Because there's people who think "this is the way my parents did it, and their parents did it, and presumably (but actually not) how their parents did it, so it's good enough for me and you, and let's have no more talk of this change nonsense".

This is why there's talk of a literal Great Resignation coming, as people who've come to appreciate their freedom give the bird to unreasonable bosses who want them back in an office. And other people who actually preferred the structure and routine of the desk look for another one when their own bosses decide to keep the work-from-home model coming. Covid has caused a cultural shift, and ridiculing our fellow man for wanting something better is the stupidest thing you can do.

[bogleech]

The whole year proved that people still get enough work done without going in person and we know all that commuting is hell on the environment. There actually ought to be a push to “ban” physical office work; absolutely no business should be able to force you to go somewhere if your work can be done from anywhere at all.