Can You See?

18+ only! If anything here offends you unfollow! No plagiarism intended, as I claim none of the pictures or videos as My own. "I have as many names as there are winds, My Wolves are Geri and Freki My Ravens Huginn and Muninn. I am called The Hooded One, Old One Eye, Evil Doer, True Guesser, and Wise One..." May Odin keep His eye on you. This is a window into My mind and My journey. Enjoy at your own risk. M-30's- Taken

[michellepsychologist]

The Benefits of Neuroplasticity

Neuroplasticity also known as brain plasticity is the brain’s 🧠 ability to adapt. It does so by making changes in the brain while we learn through experience.

Did you know through neuroplasticity we can reinforce neural connections?

This is good news! Each time you think of a specific thought or emotion you strengthen 💪🏽neural connections that support it. Meaning you can reinforce positive thoughts and emotions while weakening negative ones. Small continuous changes will change how your brain works.

But how can you do this?

1. Combat 🤺 your intrusive thoughts. For every unwanted thought, think of three good ones. For example, if you catch yourself thinking you’re unattractive. Tell yourself, “My beauty is unique, I am vibrant, & I am confident”.

2. Learn new positive descriptive words 📝and incorporate it when you speak 🗣. This helps your brain access uplifting vocabulary that in turn will impact you for the better.

3. Train your brain to see 👀 the positive in each situation by changing your narrative. Ask yourself, “how can I interpret this differently”? For example, if a person cuts you off on the road and you think they are rude individuals who did it on purpose. You can change the narrative by considering that they might of had a hard shift at work and therefore they are distracted while driving.

4. Practice gratitude 🙏🏽! You can do this by expressing how thankful you are for the things and friends you have. For example, being thankful for the warm meal you had.

5. Enjoy 😊 the small moments. At times we focus so much on what upsets us. That se forget to see the good around us. We can be so focused on what we want that we don’t enjoy the little things. For example, your favorite song being played on the radio, or the beautiful bird singing in front of your house.

6. Watch funny 😆 videos or comedy movies. Read motivational stories from around the world. Clean out your social media from triggering or upsetting content. The more your brain observes positive and fun things. The better your thinking will be.

By: Michelle, @awake-society

For more: Instagram

[dark--khaos]

[submissive-seeking]

“you deserve love. your crush does not owe you a date.

you deserve success. your coworkers do not owe you extra hours.

you deserve emotional support. your friends do not owe you free therapy.

what ‘you deserve this’ means is that it’s ok to want it and hope for it and try to achieve it, not that you have the authority to demand that a person provide it. it’s good to ask for it, but you have to be willing to take no for an answer.” – jumpingjacktrash

[kiss-my-piss]

Resources for Male Victims of Abuse

How to Recognize Abuse

**Emotional Abuse of Men

**Sexual Assault of Men and Boys

**Men Can Be Victims of Abuse, Too

**Domestic Violence Against Men - Know the Signs

**Information for Male Survivors of Sexual Abuse

**Help for Battered Men

**Battered Men, Battered Husbands

**For Male Survivors of Rape and Sexual Abuse

**Male Survivors of Incest and Sexual Child Abuse

**Help for Men Who Are Being Abused

Help Lines (Phone and Text Chat)

National Domestic Violence Hotline: [phone] (or 1-800-787-3224 for TTY)

National Dating Abuse Hotline: [phone]

National Sexual Assault Hotline: [phone]

National Suicide Prevention Hotline: [phone]

Domestic Abuse Helpline for Men: 1-888-743-5754 (US and Canada)

Hopeline Suicide Prevention Hotline: [phone]

National Hotline for Victims of Crimes: 1-855-484-2846

National Human Trafficking Hotline: [phone]

Polaris Human Trafficking Text Line: Text “BEFREE” to 233733

**1in6/RAINN Chat for Male Survivors of Sexual Abuse

Support Groups

**1in6 Support Groups

Male Survivor Support Groups

Pandora’s Aquarium - Chat (includes chats specifically for men)

Pandora’s Aquarium - Forums (includes forums specifically for men)

How to Find a Shelter

Domestic Shelters Search (shelter locator with filters to find shelters specifically for male survivors)

SAFE (located in Austin, TX, but states they can help people find resources/shelters in their area)

How to Find a Therapist

**Male Survivor Therapist Directory

Mental Health Services Locator

Resources for and About the Abuse of Kids/Teens

Love is Respect Hotline: [phone] (Hotline for teens)

Darkness to Light Helpline (Sexual Abuse): 1-866-367-5444

Darkness to Light Text Line: Text “LIGHT” to 741741

ChildHelp USA National Child Abuse Hotline: [phone]

Children of the Night Hotline (Children in Prostitution): 1-800-551-1300

National Runaway Safeline: 1-800-786-2929

Covenant House Nineline (Homeless Youth): 1-800-999-9999

Stop it Now Hotline: [phone] (for adults concerned about the welfare of a child)

Jennifer Ann’s Group (for teens experiencing dating violence)

Other Resource Lists 

(While I tried to include the most helpful resources I could here (i.e., resources that lend themselves to one-on-one communication, individual reading, etc.), there are plenty of other great resources, including regional resources, listed in these links. Some of the resources are specific to men and others aren’t, but they are all helpful for male survivors.)

**Male Survivor (regional, international, and online resources)

**Husband Battering: Men and Domestic Violence

**Help for Battered Men: Online Resources

**Help for Battered Men: National and International Resources

**Help for Guys: Help for Victims (some resources for men, many general resources)

[thefoxof86-deactivated20220707]

Boost

[babygirl-1972]

For Better or worse...not just for marriage

Hold on tight, this is a rant that has been many days in the making. I try to be positive in my answers to reblogged asks as well as the asks that land in my own ask box. This week has proven to be a challenge. Many of the asks that I am seeing come from “doms” ( and yes I am not capitalizing this for a reason) who express no respect at all for their subs. These asks show that these “doms” believe that taking care of their subs when they are ill is beneath them and not their job. These asks show these ‘doms’ unwilling to shop for their subs sanitary products. The feeling that I get from these ‘doms’ is that they are just in the relationship for the fun part. Well I am sorry to inform you but D/s isn’t all “spankings and blow jobs”. First I want to discuss the alarming opinion that aftercare is unnecessary and silly. Aftercare SHOULD NEVER be an option. When we play hard in a scene both the Dom/me and Sub will experience spikes of adrenaline and endorphins. Meaning natural chemicals flood our blood stream causing an amazing natural high. When a sub goes into subspace, he/she may experience blackouts, become incoherent and there also could be bleeding, bruises and more that need attention.  When the scene is over it is time to make sure everyone is safe. Depending on the person the aftercare someone requires could be first aid,  cuddling, hydration, food, a warm bath, playing games, watch movies, and much more.  Your sub should not be left alone.  If you are going to play with him/her and do all kinds of unspeakable (yet fun) things to him/her it is your RESPONSIBILITY to take care of him/her afterwards. I am not saying you have to stay with him/her for days but if you have time to play rough you need to have the time she (he) needs to feel safe and normalized again. Aftercare can lessen the blow of subdrop. Aftercare also brings the two of you back together in a loving way. For me as a sub I need to hear the soft voice that was calling me dirty, nasty names softly calling me Babygirl. Reminding me that he loves me and he is so proud of me. I need to be reminded that those hands that were so rough and violent to me can be soft and loving. This helps me come back to being coherent and normalize. And yes Doms need aftercare too. Some experience emotional drops and can feel very guilty about what they just did. Even though everything is done with consent, it can be rough on some when it is over. Take care of each other. Figure out what you NEED in aftercare. When you are vetting a Dom/sub this should be a topic. If the person you are vetting says they don’t do aftercare, you should end that conversation. You are worthy of being cared for.  

Today there was an ask about a Dom who was taking care of his sub after surgery. She woke up crying, she had pissed the bed and she threw up all over him. He was upset and didn’t want to see her this way. Well, dude, that is part of your role. You took on the responsibility of her and that means….”in sickness and in health”. Yep, that is also not just for marriage. Yes it is upsetting to see your girl in such a horrible state. Anesthesia messes with a person and can for DAYS affect their mind and body. Add in pain meds, not eating or hydrating properly and you have a recipe for a not so pleasant couple days. But is she supposed to take care of herself? What would happen if you left her ALONE??? The possibilities are not pleasant and possibly could be fatal. She needs the one person she TRUSTS the most and that is YOU. You are her Dom and she trusts you MORE than anyone else. She hands you her life in her submission and trusts that even though you can do serious damage to her, that you won’t.  So when she is sick, she needs the same. I am going to let you ‘doms’ in on a little secret. In these moments when she is so sick she is her most vulnerable, she will remember how you treated her. Take care of her, be there when she is making a mess of herself and all over you. She will remember you telling her it’s okay and she is going to be fine. She will remember you cleaning her up. And all of this builds deeper TRUST. And with deeper TRUST comes a love that is so strong. And when the TRUST and LOVE is strong your sub will be incredibly devoted to you. Now comes the topic of the dreadful…. PERIOD. Pads, tampons and blood OH MY! All we read is how GROSS and DISGUSTING the girls period is. How UNMANLY and embarrassing it is to go to the store and buy pads and tampons. Guess what…IT IS A NATURAL occurrence. Yes it is messy and if you don’t want to be all up in it, that is FINE. But we need love and attention during that time. We are bloated, in pain (sometimes a lot of pain) and our hormones are out of control. Please go to the store and pick up what we need. No one is going to think they are for YOU. Be a man and just do it. While you are there pick up our favorite “period” food and some wine (if appropriate, beer or whatever her favorite is.) I know if my man came home with a big greasy cheeseburger, a bottle of wine and chocolate I would LOVE him forever.  Don’t make her feel like an outcast. Don’t tell her it is disgusting. When we here “It is disgusting” that means WE are disgusting. So please don’t comment negatively when she says it’s her time of the month. I recommend asking immediately if there is anything she needs at the store or if she wants anything to help her. Rub her back, cuddle her, get her the heating pad. She will be so happy. A happy girl means a happy YOU!

In sickness and health, for better for worse is just not for marriage. It is your responsibility as a Dom/me to take care of your sub. If you think that it is beneath you to take care of your sub when he/she is unwell you really don’t understand your role. If you think that aftercare is silly and you refuse to give your sub aftercare, you are ignorant and in my opinion dangerous. If you are embarrassed to go shopping for pads and tampons, then you are too immature to be playing in the vagina and need to go back to the sandbox with all the little boys.  

To all the subs out there. You are worthy of being taken care of. You are worthy of having your Dom/me care of you after a scene and when you are sick. Ladies if your “man” won’t buy you pads/or tampons or makes you feel disgusting because of your period, then you have a boy and not a man.

[instructor144]

A good and righteous rant.

[theblackwolfroz]

For Any who wish to know.

I now have a new blog in creative work for any and all to enjoy. In this community wide move off of Tumblr, I am hopeful that We together will finally find a home. Here is the new address on bdsmlr : https://bdsmlr.com/blog/TheBlackWolfRoz

[tami-taylors-hair]

I was in line at Aldi and this girl with two toddlers in front of me had her card declined and she looked so fucking sad and said “let me call my husband real quick” and it was only 18 dollars, so I just paid for it, and she was very sweet and then as she walked off, the lady behind me said `”You know that was probably a scam, right?” and like, even if it was, like what a sad fucking scam, right? 18 dollars at the Aldi. If you’re “scamming” me for some Tyson chicken and apple juice and cauliflower, then just take my fucking money. 

“A scam” people are fucking wild.  

[dragginage]

This happened to me, too. A woman had used WIC for the majority of her stuff (which I say from personal experience is such a long and embarrassing process) and to buy the remainder of her groceries, which included diapers and wipes, she used a card, and it got declined. I bought the other $30 of her groceries because hey, I’ve been there, and now I’m not. She was extremely emotional and began to cry and even hugged me. My mom called me on the drive home and could tell I had been crying myself, asked what was wrong, and when I told her what happened, she berated me for being “duped.” I couldn’t believe she could be so disappointed in one of her children for doing something- nice? Is that the hill you want to die on? Getting mad about people needing groceries?

[systlin]

I once paid for a woman’s bill at the vet…it wasn’t a big one, but she was trying to pay for some medication for her dog, and her card was declined. And her lip started trembling, and she says “I don’t get paid until Tuesday, would he be ok until then?” 

So I just told them to add the $20 something onto my bill, and I thought she was going to break down crying right there.

And I don’t care if it was a scam or not. Just do nice things for people sometimes. 

[flurrin]

Do good recklessly.

[solarpunk-gnome]

I think “Do good recklessly” would be fantastic word art to hang on one’s wall. Artistic people, go!

[thecorporatewhore]

Story time. I had a sick kid who spent a lot of time in the NICU, in cardiologists offices, and in the ER. I also went into kidney failure shortly after giving birth and began growing weird lumps in places lumps shouldn’t be. At the end of the first two years we had mortgage style medical debt. It was also the perfect opportunity for the economy to freefall and we became a single income household for an uncomfortable period of time.

We may have been eating ramen and on-cor meals every night but I had far too much pride to ask for help. 

That Christmas all of our holiday shopping was done at The Dollar Tree. The girls were given $10 to buy things for their favorite people and we made crafts to fill in the gaps. I didn’t want to steal their joy even though I wasn’t sure if I’d have enough gas to get to work the next week. To them ten dollars was $100… to me it was figuring out how to make the grocery budget stretch a little extra.

As we were about to checkout my oldest daughter walked up to me and handed me a stack of gift cards. Confused and concerned she may have pickpocketed someone (she could be shifty at that age) I asked her to tell me where she got them. She pointed to a lady fleeing out of the store and said “she told me to give these to you after she left. She asked me if you were a good mom. I told her you were and she gave me the whole pile”.  Needless to say I spent the better part of the next thirty minutes ugly crying in the middle of the dollar store.

The cashier told me she would come in every few days during December and look for a family who seemed like they could use it. There was $300 in gift cards and that was just enough to get some bills caught up with a little extra to spoil the kids.

Be someone’s dollar tree lady and shame on anyone who tries to smother your compassion.

[instructor144]

The ancient Celtic virtue of “Gart,” or “openhandedness.” Those who are able help those who need help. Not so we can buy our way into Heaven. Not to set our Karma aright. Not to give ourselves a warm fuzzy feeling. But because it is what an honorable person does.

[babycutie]

kissing under the mistletoe is so overrated. deep throat him.

[tmblrexodus]

Websites (that still work).

I did not list regular blogging sites that don’t come with some sort of social platform built in.

Swarmr (Tumblr clone, abandoned). 

BDSMlr (Fetish site). 

Soup.io (Dead but a microblogging site).

Pillowfort.io

Neocities

Roleplayer.me is similar to classic MySpace, for roleplayers.

VK is Russian but offers English support, and is more similar to Facebook than Tumblr.

Band.us

SkyRock is French, but offers some English support.

Minds.com

Plurk

MeWe

Plerb

Listography

Sub.cafe

Chttr.co

Sola.ai

Dowatchalike

Over-blog

OpenDiary

MyDiary

Weibo (Chinese only)

Livejournal

Dreamwidth

Stampsy

Ello.co

Blogger

Medium

WeHeartIt

Twitter

ByFandom

Steemit

[zaddy-archive]

Care Space: An Upcoming Alternative To Tumblr

We all need a site that will listen.  We all need a space that cares about the users.  That’s why we’re creating an alternative to Tumblr.  It’s called…

Care Space is an upcoming social media platform made for people in communities that are being cracked down on by Tumblr.  We know that the feelings of comfort and freedom on a site like Tumblr can’t be matched on any other social media platforms out there, so we want to create a safe place for people who wish to create all kinds of alternative content.  We want people to be able to express themselves without fear.  

We need to secure funding to make it happen, so we would greatly appreciate if you would spread this post around like wildfire to let everyone know about our Patreon.  

If we want a chance at growing a community and everything, we need as many people as possible.  We want to rely on users for funding so we will feel more obligated to serve you all in the best way possible.  The site will not be locked behind a paywall, we just need donations to get up and running.

Feel free to PM us.  We want to get in contact with as many people as possible so we can do this right.  We’ll be posting more info on this blog, on Patreon, and on our site-specific blog.  Be sure to follow us wherever you can so you can stay up to date.  (We’ll also try to have a Twitter account up and running soon.)

The site is expected to be up and running as soon as we come close enough to our goal on Patreon.  If 100 people pledge to donate 1 dollar per month, we’ll be all set, so I really hope we can make it happen.  

PLEASE RETWEET, FOLLOW, AND DONATE IF YOU CAN.

PLEASE RETWEET, FOLLOW, AND DONATE IF YOU CAN.

Thank you.  More info coming soon.

[instructor144]

fyi

[theblackwolfroz]

Informative boost.

[dominantlife]

If I can get an adult version of something kinda like Tumblr up and running, would you guys be interested?

Mostly same features but with extra features like…

No bullying.

No kids.

No one under 18.

Stronger blocking tools.

All the female associated nipples you can handle.

Please let me know and PLEASE SPREAD THE WORD!!!

[dominantlife]

All genders and orientations would be welcomed.

More like Tumblr and less like Fet.

[fae-kisses-deactivated20201120]

Yeeeees!

[enscenic]

Go on…

[the-new-sysco-deactivated201812]

I’m interested

[naughtychef6969]

Go on …

[mymmm]

Run with it! Sound idea

[dangerouswomanxxx-deactivated20]

Yes please!!

[thealphawithin-deactivated20230]

Reblog this.

[crusoesampersand]

More like Tumblr and less like Fet? Sign me up!

[belfast62]

Agreed! @crusoesampersand….. Tried Fet once, scared the beejeesus out of me…..

[auroradragon1]

@crusoesampersand keep me informed! 

[sweet-but-spicy-girly-deactivat]

i’m in

[itsallprimal]

Let us know how we can help

[dominantlife]

For now, get the word out! I have the domain registered and the corporate site. I will reveal them here once they have propagated and I have something for you guys to see.

[prettylilredhead]

Absolutely

[prin-xxx-ess]

A reminder not all subs are the same. Tumblr sub blogs almost appear like a monoculture of “popular” kink but remember not all subs like being degraded, not all subs like being used, not all subs like being bratty. Not all subs are poly or play with multiple partners, not all subs enjoy sex, not all subs like being slapped, not all subs like being spit on, not all subs like being spoilt financially, not all subs like older partners, not all subs enjoy being tied up, not all subs are masochists!! And this doesn’t make them any less of a perfect sub.

[everythingfox]

Wild doges

[i-am-dubs]

DEEP BREATHS EVERYONE

Ok. Shit. This sucks donkey balls. (Can I still SAY donkey balls?).

This is cataclysmic for many many people who have found friendships and confidence here. It feels like a gigantic punch in the nads. I know @comicbookj82, @bravegirl23 and I are all floored right now.

So we’ll be angry today. We’ll wallow and bitch. We’ll get drunk and throw one last glitter infused bash at @instructor144’s house.

Yet I know that every single one of us has the testicular fortitude (even those of us who do not own testicles) to develop a plan of action.

Where will we go? What space can we use to be ourselves and let our kink flags fly?

I for one am NOT willing to lose solid friendships just cause I can’t post porn on my blog anymore. So I’ll be right here. I’m still going to post. Im still going to post everything I do now. Only, I’ll be clothed in my pictures. That’s it. Only change I’m making. Cheers my loves! We’ll get through this!

[instructor144]

[yungkiitten]

⚠️Please read if you are a content creator or sex worker!! Adult content will no longer be allowed on tumblr starting December 17th⚠️

I do not give a fuck if this doesn’t suit your blog. Boost this so everyone can prepare and have a backup plan. This is absolute bullshit but they were never supporting us anyway.

And don’t give me “we don’t pay our taxes” because we do. Bye. Thanks for turning into shit Instagram.

[xpemblesx-deactivated20200301]

Just fuck, way to nuke yourself Tumblr. Genuinely feel abhorrence that our communities will be damaged by this. Looks like most people are migrating over to Twitter. We are as well, username on profile.  Please be aware of Twitters guidelines regarding mature content. 

- Mike 

[southernalphawolf]

This is some fucking bullshit. Welp…where to now?

[kinkygirl4321]

As it comes to an end I will be searching for a new platform, if you would like to follow me please like this post. If I get over 500 likes I will continue this blog somewhere else

[foreverkissmegoodnight]

[eroticimages]

[luvnlifelady]

So very true 💋❤💋