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[witchchild]

[fleebites]

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day 03

‘heal’

[mousidy]

a lot of my disillusionment with the trans "community" comes down to the fact that too many of you take "gender is different from sex" and go "ah ok, so instead of saying women are fragile and men are strong, I should say afabs are fragile and amabs are strong. to be Inclusive"

then you just treat gender like a surface level aesthetic draped over what someone "actually" is. really is indistinguishable from terf rhetoric

[mousidy]

you all need to unpack your bioessentialism, but we also need a better theory of gender than "it's just dressup." I will pick my words carefully here, but the word "gender" itself refers to so many different phenomena that have been lumped together, and we need to un-lump them

[mousidy]

in a feminist context, "gender" has historically referred to externally imposed categorization and the internalization and performance of said categories. in a paper I wrote on this subject, I called this sense of the word "extrinsic gender"

"intrinsic gender," on the other hand, is what I used to refer to the sense of the word "gender" that a lot of trans people are talking about when they discuss social gender dysphoria and euphoria. it's the internal sense of category that's resistant to external impositions

but then we also use the word "gender" to refer to subconscious sex, which is the term Julia Serano coins in Whipping Girl to name the phenomenon we're talking about when we talk about bodily dysphoria. it is the "gender" being "affirmed" by gender affirming healthcare like HRT and bottom surgery

so, "gender" is: a social classing system, a performance, and at least two internal phenomena as well. and I really don't know if it's doing us a service to conflate all of these things!

[mousidy]

a lot of people lately seem to be going heavy on the "performance" use of the word, ignoring (intentionally or otherwise) social classing, intrinsic gender, and subconscious sex. this seems to have led to a lot of "progressive" people treating trans women like men "amabs" who wear womanhood as a costume, and nobody understands why that's wrong because they also think gender is just a performance

[mousidy]

see also "why can't you just be a femboy/feminine man/etc"

[thehalflingsleaf]

wondering how many disabled people are going to die from medicaid work requirements + wondering if i can avoid that fate myself

[okibadesu]

[redlipstickresurrected]

Hulutotoz aka 葫芦头头子 (Chinese based China) - Untitled, 2024, Paintings: Digital Art

[pjackk]

Dont be very woried about me since i deserve all of this

[pjackk]

The crazy part about pain is that it actually hurts alot

[thehalflingsleaf]

when i'm really really depressed sometimes my really really depressed thoughts get stopped mid track because i realize my internal voice sounds exactly like pjackk

[thehalflingsleaf]

desperate pained feeling inside of me all of the time. chronic dissociation is really a lose lose cos if you never try to pick it apart you keep ramming into walls making decisions that hurt terribly treating yourself really badly because you're not real and nothing bad has ever happened to you and nothing that will ever happen to you could possibly bad. and when u finally say this fucking sucks i wanna stop running into walls and feeling like a ghost everything just hurts so much all the time you can't believe or understand how much you've lost and how much people have chosen to take from you and literally can't imagine carrying this and staying functional in any way i don't know how to keep going. it all feels very melodramatic to say but it's very true.

[thehalflingsleaf]

what the hell is wrong with me. aside from the normal stuff

[redmenacealine]

please help two brazilian trans women escape a shitty house

so, my father has moved on from verbal abuse to physical, and almost broke my nose the other day. our home life has become unsustainable, so now me and my gf need to move out as soon as possible, for our own safety.

any amount would be greatly appreciated, we need any help we can get.

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[ivysundews]

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[pup-everasking]

newly unemployed disabled trans girl needs help !

hiiiiiii it's j 💕

yesterday i quit my job due to mistreatment from management. i was hoping to have a lot more time to figure things out before it got to this point, but things hit a fever pitch and i had to get out of there. i'm finding myself back at square one very suddenly, a lot more disabled than i was last time i had to job hunt, and frankly i'm. scared :')

i'm very thankful that my partner, their parents, and our roommates are willing to be flexible in helping cover some of my expenses while i rest and recover and find a new job, but i still need some extra support to make ends meet.

trying to build up savings so i can pay rent and our utility bills over the coming months is my main concern right now. any help at all is deeply deeply appreciated ... even just reblogging helps a ton. thank you all 💖

v: @jmaeveb / c: $jmaeveb / ask for paypal if needed

[amaranthine-paws]

thank you to everyone who helped me make rent last month 💗💗

i currently have enough money in my bank account to pay for rent this month, but we need to get groceries this week and the utility bills are coming up as well.

setting my goal for making rent since i'll most likely have to pull from what i currently have saved to pay for everything else:

$0/$370

💖💖💖

[amaranthine-paws]

$25/$370

[tastylemonbread]

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[posthumousprincessparts]

PLEASE HELP TWO TRANSFEMS IN DANGER

hi there it's princess/nova back again, i'm really sorry i have to come here like this but me and my wife are still struggling abandoned by our families and unable to reach any of our friends. we've been trying to survive without me being exposed to harassment but at this point we're going hungry. we don't have any income and need help affording food for ourselves and our kitties please if you can, donate. I would be so truly thankful

v3nm0: @Crow-Forgemaster , @Prince-Nova

c@sh@pp: $dragonforgedbutch , $StrayNova

and for people from outside of the USA, i take donations on my F@nsly: @lil_puppy_nova

[bbyhog]

micro soft edge sounds like it would be awrsome but no it is actually not that awesome