Lucy

I'm looking for myself because I think I got lost somewhere along the way. detrans, she/her, bisexual

[thelittlestmy]

Why is doping illegal in sports? Because testosterone gives you an advantage before competition. It's not that male athletes can't have testosterone at all—they have it because that's how biology works. Testosterone is, by definition, a male hormone, not a doping substance in itself.

Biological males shouldn't compete in women's competitions because biology doesn't allow them to. We all know that women are less strong than men, so why should we pretend otherwise in this one case? Okay, be MTF, but don't rush into sports. You have other things you can do with your life.

I don't really believe this is even a topic for discussion. Half the population have to feel unfair because a small group of people HAVE TO use the strength they gained during male puberty... why? To feel better?

[bushpropaganda]

so becoming a woman isn't a fetish for males, but there's a whole "hard kink" community on tumblr dedicated worshipping girlcock (transfem supremacy/transfem superiority)

terfs reduce women to their genitalia, but they call women "cuntgirl" and "ciscunt" (actual tags btw)

many trans women have a rape "kink" where they are the rapist fetishizing their own penis through feminization, but they justify this behavior as coping with oppression from women

rape is okay when the penis-haver calls himself a woman. rape is okay when the victim is a gross terf

the rise in kink/paraphilia acceptance definitely has nothing to do with paraphilic males calling themselves oppressed

nooooo u don't understand these are just fantasies. it isn't like every documented male serial killer started with fantasies before they moved on to rape and murder actual women

women: unlearn your disgust with highly-detailed rape fantasies. unlearn your gut feelings that warn you of danger. unlearn every survival instinct you have. millions of years of evolution and pattern recognition is transphobic

these male bodies will not hurt you. these penises will not rape you. sure, they fantasize about it, but fantasy means nothing. after all, they said they were safe. isn't that sweet? isn't that nice?

no no no, don't ask questions. you don't need proof. evidence is the devil's writing. just trust me. i say, therefore i am. just trust me. unpack your transphobia. just trust me. i'm a victim, same as you. just trust me just trust me just trust me just tru

[female-uncle]

[womanyellsatcloud]

Morons thinking gnc/tomboy/butch women who don't give the slightest fuck about female beauty standards must be closeted transmen is the same thing as religious morons thinking atheists must worship the devil or be mad at god.

[thelittlestmy]

Some people can't understand how someone else can be so unconcerned about a topic that them have based their entire personality on. Literally, one person can spend several hours a day fighting a war that exists only on the internet, and someone else has no fucking clue and lives their life peacefully lol

[radfemme-rage]

i just watched sabrina carpenter’s latest music video for her song “house tour” (house is a euphemism for “pussy”)

and i’m disgusted

it’s entirely pornography of herself and multiple other women at a “sleepover” stripping naked and in weird sexual poses for 3 and a half minutes straight

her fan base is literally children and teenage girls - her and her label are obviously aware of this, and i can’t help but think about how insanely pedophilic this is, to groom literal minors into this hypersexuality

it gets even worse when the comments are all like “oh, i love this sapphic representation” when women sexualising themselves and larping as lesbians for the male gaze is the most heterosexual thing you can do

[laysplaining]

i said it many times before but...

detrans cis womanhood will never be normie womanhood.

detrans cis manhood will never be normie manhood.

living as trans for years affects you DEEPLY. trans people should know this first-hand. detrans folks, simply by starting to live as cis or bio/non-trans men/women again, cannot suddenly erase all those years as if they never existed. we just can't. i'm sorry. i tried. dear goddess i really fucking tried harder than you'll ever know. and so did so many of my beloved detrans friends.

but detrans people need other detrans people. it's why having "detrans" in your bio doesn't immediately make you a raging bigot.

mainstream trans activists don't understand us.

non-detrans radfems often misrepresent us.

we need eachother, we need community.

and our voices NEED to be heard.

we NEED detrans sisterhood & siblinghood.

only detrans women understand other detrans women. only detrans men understand other detrans men. we need our spaces.

i will always be seeking out lost detrans sisters, too many of us stay quiet. and i will always want to hear out my detrans brothers. i love my detrans/desisted community. we've been through really tough shit, we're more likely to be gay, more likely to be traumatized, more likely to be autistic. we're not what you think. and now you need to sit down and hear our stories. sorry. it has to happen. or feel free to block all detrans voices and plug your ears and go lalala! even though hearing us out and preventing detransition is critical to fight against trans stigma and trans oppression. you need us more than you think.

detrans/desisted gyns i love you!!! you're not alone.

[spacedewey]

Call me old fashioned, but I think the president saying "a whole civilization will die tonight" is the part where he should be deposed immediately.

[marbleguard]

I’m watching a medical documentary about the treatment of a female burn victim, and at first I didn’t notice, but I just realized all of the simplified infographics use a male body to visualize her injury and treatments (see below)

Why???

Obviously the team was tasked with finding/creating graphics to explain these medical issues and procedures the patient was going through, and without even realizing, they thought “default human= man” and wound up with all male graphics even in a documentary focused on a female patient. And we as the audience don’t even catch it or notice it’s weird. Imagine if you watched a documentary about a male patient, but all the figures used to explain his medical treatment had female anatomy. That would immediately be recognized as strange.

Male bodies are not “default” human anatomy. Fucking stop it

[hyeenagurrl]

its hard to know where to begin with these anti-jkr people. its like arguing with christians about whether god is real. “shes KILLING trans people with her MONEY.” okay well. thats not reality. step one failed already

[a-lesbian-feminist]

It's even more ridiculous when you try to group her in with people who actually are doing that.

People who use their money to do significant damage to other people: Donald Trump who is bombing civilians in other countries. Jeffrey Epstein who had an island where he and countless other men raped little girls. And... JK Rowling, who is... donating money to women's shelters.

[mala-santa-radfem]

i really hate how people don't understand how important public bathrooms are for women and girls. having no access to them not only restricts us from public life but when you have no choice but to be out and you have no options available, you're putting your health at risk.

god i wish access to a fucking bathroom wasn't such a big concern in women's daily lives but it is. it fucking ruins your day.

[a-lesbian-feminist]

Women being unable to access public bathrooms is a very intentional way of controlling women and it's been happening as long as public bathrooms have existed.

Sometimes it's called "the urinary leash". When public bathrooms were first invented, they were only for men, so women could not stay out of the house for too long, or go too far from their homes, because they had nowhere to use the bathroom other than their house. Men saw nothing wrong with this, because they didn't see why a woman should be out all day anyway.

Even women's public bathrooms were introduced, most women were still not given social permission to actually use them, because the tendency of prostitutes to use them meant that using one was "indecent".

The introduction of public bathrooms also required women to pay every single time they used one, whereas men had free access to urinals and only had to pay for stalls.

The history of this is fascinating and rage inducing. Men are trying to take women's rights back to the Victorian era by eliminating our bathrooms, and I cannot believe so many people are falling for it.

[colombinaa]

The urinary leash is still a thing even with access to our own public bathrooms.

Even with equal numbers of bathrooms, men still get stalls and urinals, and take on average less time to use the bathroom. So they have double the options when it’s us who need it more. That’s why the line to our bathrooms is usually longer. On top of that they have everything they need (toilet paper) while we lack menstrual products.

Even our fucking female bathrooms are built on male anatomy.

Caroline Criado-Perez in Invisible Women:

[misandristwoman]

Strapped events ‘for dykes’ is a joke. Their Saturday event (which I didn’t go to), held a deep throating carrot contest. No lesbian wants anything to do with deep throating. At their winter event, FLINTA wonderland, most of the music played before I left was misogynistic rap like 50 cent. When I confronted the DJ about the misogynistic music at an event FOR WOMEN, I get told to ‘fuck off’. The DJ (transwoman) tells me the music is queer because they like it and they are queer. How does that make any sense? You would think at a FLINTA event you would be able to escape music played by domestic abusers and misogynists. After that, I decided to never go to a strapped event again, and clearly that was the right decision.

[thelittlestmy]

Why do people generally associate the queer community with sexual promiscuity? Most lesbians and gays I know are normal people who, seeing how sexualized their community is, feel cringe

[female-uncle]

I'm so fucking proud to be born a woman. Being in a room full of just women is truly so powerful; it's crazy how just one man can poison the vibe completely. I believe all life on earth will collapse if women are not allowed to have our own private spaces together.

[thelittlestmy]

I agree, women's space and friendship is priceless and natural, social media tries to get into it and distort it, but I hope that every girl will find her own unique support group someday ❤️‍🩹

[kkoffin]

by the way like 30-65% of female labour voters in the UK are “terfs”, depending on ur standards. 40% of liberal women are not comfortable with trans identified males in the women’s changing rooms. 65% think trans women should not be competing against women in sporting events.

if you’re shocked by that information as a TRA, it’s because you scared women into submission. particularly transwomen, with the “rape all terfs” at women’s rape shelters and the “i’ll piss on you if you have an issue with me in the women’s bathroom” and the “terfs can suck my girlcock”, “terfs don’t deserve teeth”

you scare us into compliance and you scare us into staying silent when you make us uncomfortable. women pretend to be allies because they have self-preservation instincts, not because they agree with you in any capacity.

i wonder if any other ideological groups have a habit of scaring people into silence? and how did that work out for them?

it’s not a sustainable method.

[thelittlestmy]

I think it's interesting that in every single category, men were more strongly against it. I don't know what to think about that, but I find it intriguing.

[thelittlestmy]

What's your take on paying on dates?

Firstly, I feel like paying for someone else makes sense in adulthood, not among teenagers or very young adults who don't have much or no savings yet. This might seem obvious, but I feel like a weird amount of pressure is put on people right from the start of dating. I personally believe that it's good to pay for yourself on initial dates, because it can always turn out it's not the right person. It would be weird to break up with someone who's already bought me two coffees and lunch (I'd feel like I'd taken advantage of them financially, even if I know that wasn't my intention).

And later in the relationship... I probably wouldn't have a problem with it. Sometimes one person pays, sometimes the other. It happens when I go out with friends too.

Personally, I don't want to be in a relationship where my partner pays for everything, because I'd feel strangely objectified and dependent, and it would put pressure on me to prove myself in other ways. I earn, the other person earns—let's be partners in the relationship. This is how my parents raised me and this is how I've been going through life for some time now.

[g1rluninterruptedd]

“his mother didn’t raise him right” hey have you considered that maybe this grown ass man should be held accountable for his actions and not his mother that you know nothing about? also, why not blame the father as well? why is everything the moms fault? why is everything a woman’s fault? why do yall automatically need to find a woman to blame when it’s a male doing something heinous.

it’s always a woman’s fault, it’s absolutely ridiculous. women have done literally nothing for people to be so damn evil towards them. it’s ridiculous. quick to insult a woman and call her a bitch, then when you need to insult a man, you insult him by saying he’s adjacent to a woman or just dismiss him entirely and blame another woman in his life 😒

[thelittlestmy]

Can we stop excusing ADULT MAN because of their mothers' mistakes from 20 years ago?

This may offend someone, but childhood trauma can be a REASON, not an EXCUSE. The fact that someone was hurt in childhood is tragic. I absolutely don't belittle anyone's traumatic experiences. On the contrary, I believe that every person deserves help and support, regardless of age/gender/social status. But that doesn't mean they have the right to go through life hurting other people.

[thelittlestmy]

Many people think that if they have masculine/feminine interests, they automatically have to change their gender, because that's the only way to fit in in society. There's no such thing as gender-specific interests

Well, socially, there is, but in the long run, it harms everyone. That's why feminism was created – oppressed women started fighting for their rights. And then men realized they weren't fighting, so they're less accepted and, for some reason, blamed feminism.

I don't know about your culture guys, but in Eastern Europe, if a man has female interests, it means he's gay. Not trans, but always gay. Because conservative layers of society believe that progressiveness (e.g. makeup) = lack of masculinity = gay. And transgenderism is just a terrible Western fad, lol.

[a-lesbian-feminist]

That guy posting his dick and balls on instagram is another example of everything being rape culture. His defense was that his account is 18+ therefore if minors saw it then it was their own fault. It's a typical case of victim blaming.

This is the exact logic child rapists use when they say "well I thought she was 18". A 16 year old girl gets raped by a grown man in a bar, and the rapist thinks he should get a pass because she got in with a fake ID.

As an adult, it is your responsibility to treat children and teenagers with respect, and not endanger them. When you go to a bar and you're 40 years old, "I thought she was 18" is not an excuse, because you shouldn't be seeking out an 18 year old anyway, and you kmow how common fake IDs are. And when you're on instagram, the app that's made for teenagers and is explicitly 13+, and has notoriously weak age verification, it is your responsibility to assume teenagers and children are there, and not to share sexual images with anyone unless you are one hundred percent sure they are an adult and they consent to seeing those images.

[thelittlestmy]

You've raised an important point. If someone is 40 and rapes a 16, he's no less guilty just because he thought she was 18. What kind of argument is that? It's not like sex with an age difference of 22 is okay but not with a 24. Both are disgusting, but one is more so because it involves a child

Yes, a 16-year-old is mentally different from an 18-year-old, but that's a dilemma for other 18-year-olds, not for the old perv. He's completely out of reach