wanna support my activism? here's my kofi. i am also always looking for more creative staff. if you can do art, writing, research, blogging, graphic design, or anything at all lmk <3
more info about my activism below u_u
tirf = trans-inclusive radical feminism.
if you face tangible misogyny irl, i care about your pov on feminist issues! and i care very much about anti-trans oppression as well in general. as a detrans woman with reverse dysphoria i am never uncritical, but i refuse to add to transphobia and gncphobia. i love fellow gnc people very dearly, trans included.
i tend to use ofab/omab with o meaning observed, since afab/amab terminology is typically for intersex experiences, but i will use whatever language reaches people the most in certain posts.
manhood & womanhood are not always the same as maleness & femaleness imo. trans experiences are complex. gayness is wonderful, including exclusive same-agab/sex attraction like transfem4omab, transmasc4transmasc, and any kind of atypical experiences someone has that leads to them risking homophobia in the world. if you don't risk tangible bigotry experience irl of homophobia or misogyny, please be a good ally and don't talk over those who do. same thing if you don't risk tangible transphobia or gncphobia etc.
cis/bio/non-trans women, transmasc people, transfem people and intersex folks are all oppressed under the patriarchy in unique ways, especially if they're gay/bi as well. being a nuancefem means exploring every single side of this, and not putting one experience as inherently worse than another. it's all about what the specific person is actually experiencing. you can be oppressed on one axis and privileged on another; all of us are both in some way or another, and we all need to speak up on our experiences and boost voices of those going through things we aren't. i am against creepy "cotton ceiling" rhetoric, misogyny, homophobia and detrans stigma in trans activist spaces, and against racism, intersexism, genuine transphobia and ableism in radfem spaces. i boost the voices of misogyny-affected people of all kinds on this rad-leaning feminism blog. my experiences as a gnc woman in a wheelchair who had chronic dysphoric for 13+ years affects my feminism very deeply. i love my trans gyns <33 i know the struggle, and i will fight against trans stigma tooth and nail. i am also post-gender without being trans, and i believe more cis women should be! gender is fake, we should all be free to express ourselves under the heteropatriarchy however we want to.
as an ex-camgirl who was traumatized and exploited in the industry, i am very critical of the sex industry but care deeply for those who must rely on it to survive. selling access to your body is risky. you can never take back those pictures/videos/acts, and disgusting cis men can share those around even if you quit, and often will weaponize those against you even years later, possibly ruining your chances at future work or personal relationships and irl reputation. your consent cannot be removed. the internet will most likely keep those forever and old creeps with disgusting ideas of female/ofab people & transfemmes will get off to it. it is not a safe industry. so many videos out there are genuine sexual abuse and coercion. no porn site is ethical. i am critical of the industry, not its victims and the people who use it to survive. i want a better world for us all. please reach out if you're in it and trying to get out, or out of it and still traumatized. it's not your fault that your consent was purchased. you deserved better.
btw, reblogs aren't an endorsement of every reply in the post or the op of the post. i tag any potential misgendering in other people's replies to insightful posts - often the op will have deleted their blog, and only a shitty reply remains... so i reblog to use it in later writing - as misgendering cw. i'm reblogging less and less content like that, but i used to rb a bunch early on when i needed more topics to dissect. so be careful scrolling too far, especially if you're trans!!
do you like discussing the complexities of the cisheteropatriarchy and how rad-leaning feminism can thrive in lgbtq spaces, while still calling out predatory moids, lesbophobes, bigotry and misogynistic bs?
JOIN OUR NUANCEFEM SERVER!! [click here]
...which, yes, is pokemon themed due to my @tirfpikachu blog and our shared collab blog @pokegyns :] we do not always keep invites active to not overwhelm our mods, but we're opening our doors once more.
if you're a nuanced rad-leaning feminist who is highly critical of mainstream lgbtq spaces, toxic bigoted radfem spaces, and watered down feminism, come join our tightknit community! rbs appreciated!! pls make an intro when you join & our mods will let you in <3
so I still owe my parents $500 on their credit card. lol. because of the phone bill and doctors appointments and medications. so I do really still need commissions. like really really badly
"READ MY DNI" no. use your block button like an adult. i'm not scrolling through the many-paragraphs-long pinned posts of every blog i reblog something from. if you insist certain types of people aren't welcome in the notes of your posts then it's your responsibility to curate that. or choose a closed social media platform like facebook or instagram. or go and live in a barn away from humanity if you really don't like sharing the world with people who are different from you
some people can't fathom "rudeness" as a concept outside of identity, power, and oppression dynamics. so you point out they're being assholes and they start doing identity math at you to prove they're justified.
like sure, it's true that you are technically "punching up" in terms of that framework. but we're just hanging out rn, so why are you punching at all? you aren't challenging any power structures, you're just being mean to my friend kayla who has been nothing but lovely this evening.
lonelyyyy if anyone wanna call somtime hmu on discord... having sprained wrists is so boring and i keep compulsively writing like an idiot and making them WORSE like a stupid baka adhd idiot!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! so tired of only watching tv and listening to podcast eughhghghg
I’m not gonna platform this idiot but I saw somebody reblog a post from a radfem I think by accident. But the post claimed that men who hire prostitutes are “rapists who buy their victims silence”
I don’t think I need to explain to y’all why this is wrong but in case I do, buying a service from someone and following their rules as a client is not a breech of consent.
A lot of the danger that comes from being a prostitute has to do with its illegality. If a client breaks the rules and the service provider can’t file a complaint without risking imprisonment of themselves and/or their client, that’s not a safe work environment.
The idea that nobody would willingly sell sexual services unless they’re desperate is just false. There’s also a lot of other jobs people do when they’re desperate and they don’t like doing. For me it was working retail.
The difference between me pretending to be happy for clientele while working retail and someone pretending to be happy while selling sexual services to clients is that while I was working retail I at least theoretically had sick leave, health insurance, and a way to file a complaint if a customer assaulted me.
Sex work isn’t inherently any more degrading or miserable than any other kind of work. The issue is the lack of protection and workers rights.
we are fucking REFUSING to allow sex to become a cog in the capitalistic machine. we are REFUSING to allow female bodies and fetishized transfem bodies to be used as products.
YOU CANNOT BUY CONSENT.
YOU CANNOT BUY CONSENT.
YOU CANNOT BUY CONSENT.
johns and pimps need to be beaten the fuck up.
sex workers do need to be helped & uplifted. not shamed out of the industry and left to rot with no other way to get money, but gently helped out of an industry that objectifies their body and commodifies their orgasms - or, usually, lack thereof. someone's pussy or asshole can never be a product that a random businessman can be selling, and even if you try to girlbossify it... you're still talking about someone's pussy, tits, and/or asshole being used as a product to sell for money.
how fucked up is that? people are only anti-capitalistic when it doesn't involve a female body, or any body they deem as fuckable.
those who are just doing it in a kinky way with those who they're genuinely attracted to are the ones making the industry bigger but not the ones impacted the most. we need to obliterate the sex industry because rape is treated as entertainment. allowing a john to sue a prostitute for not taking his cock also wouldn't make it better. we're already seeing the impact of that in the parts of the world with it.
you cannot buy consent.
you are feeding a machine that rapes teenagers and anyone in deep poverty or vulnerable situation. you call it Sex Work instead of prostitution because, like i was as a camgirl, it's triggering to call it what it is. sex workers are some of the most abused "workers" out there. if you're doing it as a kinky polyam thing on the side, you're not our fucking target here, though it can still 100% traumatize you.
my wrists hurt so bad everytime i type (including this) but i love writing So Much and i love interacting with you gyns & being in my nuancefem server...... i just filled out the form for my leave of absence from my main job, so on my leave i'll really try to rest. i'll rest FORREAL this time.
this means i'll have to be a lot less active writing-wise. BUT. i will try to record more audio content and try to organize some livestreams. i can play marvel snap (silly card game) since it doesn't involve a lot of wrist movements, or have a nuancefem buddy of mine do smth visual while we chat about feminism stuff and dyke dating things. right now my wrists are sooooo busted though. i need to rest. (so boring...)
once you stop fantasizing about that ideal version of yourself and start working towards becoming that person by setting your alarm clock earlier and actually going to the gym and actually volunteering at places and actually eating healthier and not procrastinating and working just a little bit harder you’ll realize that it was so easy all along. becoming your ideal self will only ever exist in your mind until you make the decision to work towards becoming that person. get up!! get going!! it’s now or never!! there is no light at the end of the tunnel!! get that flashlight and pave your own path bitch bc no one else is going to do it for u!!
Dizzying how much you have to dehumanize someone before the idea of "friendzoning" as a slight even makes sense. You don't want a sexy friend who will never fuck you but finds your attraction to her tolerable if not outright enjoyable? You're fucking stupid. You can feel her breasts when you hug.
heyyy gang if a friend rejects you or makes it clear she has no interest in you and you still sexualize platonic behaviors she does with you, and focus on her breasts when you hug etc... that's creepy behavior. fyi.
sexualizing the concept of the friendzone doesn't actually confront the behavior. many incels will pretend to be friends with women just to get off to them secretly, and just bc a woman or nonbinary person does it doesn't actually make the behavior any less disgusting. sexualizing the friendzone isn't solving anything, shockingly enough, including in gay friendships. it just normalizes creeping on friends. do better.
The haters and other dolts have try to cancel me yet they keep coming back like stupid little kittens with there mouth dry, from no milk! Well i will feed your loser ass,because i love you
my personal quest is buying an air conditioner before midnight so that amazon can ship it for tmrw... i'm frugging dying in here scoob. the heat is suffocating. my poor gf had us hangout in the mall instead
