wanna support my activism? here's my kofi. i am also always looking for more creative staff. if you can do art, writing, research, blogging, graphic design, or anything at all lmk <3
more info about my activism below u_u
tirf = trans-inclusive radical feminism.
if you face tangible misogyny irl, i care about your pov on feminist issues! and i care very much about anti-trans oppression as well in general. as a detrans woman with reverse dysphoria i am never uncritical, but i refuse to add to transphobia and gncphobia. i love fellow gnc people very dearly, trans included.
i tend to use ofab/omab with o meaning observed, since afab/amab terminology is typically for intersex experiences, but i will use whatever language reaches people the most in certain posts.
manhood & womanhood are not always the same as maleness & femaleness imo. trans experiences are complex. gayness is wonderful, including exclusive same-agab/sex attraction like transfem4omab, transmasc4transmasc, and any kind of atypical experiences someone has that leads to them risking homophobia in the world. if you don't risk tangible bigotry experience irl of homophobia or misogyny, please be a good ally and don't talk over those who do. same thing if you don't risk tangible transphobia or gncphobia etc.
cis/bio/non-trans women, transmasc people, transfem people and intersex folks are all oppressed under the patriarchy in unique ways, especially if they're gay/bi as well. being a nuancefem means exploring every single side of this, and not putting one experience as inherently worse than another. it's all about what the specific person is actually experiencing. you can be oppressed on one axis and privileged on another; all of us are both in some way or another, and we all need to speak up on our experiences and boost voices of those going through things we aren't. i am against creepy "cotton ceiling" rhetoric, misogyny, homophobia and detrans stigma in trans activist spaces, and against racism, intersexism, genuine transphobia and ableism in radfem spaces. i boost the voices of misogyny-affected people of all kinds on this rad-leaning feminism blog. my experiences as a gnc woman in a wheelchair who had chronic dysphoric for 13+ years affects my feminism very deeply. i love my trans gyns <33 i know the struggle, and i will fight against trans stigma tooth and nail. i am also post-gender without being trans, and i believe more cis women should be! gender is fake, we should all be free to express ourselves under the heteropatriarchy however we want to.
as an ex-camgirl who was traumatized and exploited in the industry, i am very critical of the sex industry but care deeply for those who must rely on it to survive. selling access to your body is risky. you can never take back those pictures/videos/acts, and disgusting cis men can share those around even if you quit, and often will weaponize those against you even years later, possibly ruining your chances at future work or personal relationships and irl reputation. your consent cannot be removed. the internet will most likely keep those forever and old creeps with disgusting ideas of female/ofab people & transfemmes will get off to it. it is not a safe industry. so many videos out there are genuine sexual abuse and coercion. no porn site is ethical. i am critical of the industry, not its victims and the people who use it to survive. i want a better world for us all. please reach out if you're in it and trying to get out, or out of it and still traumatized. it's not your fault that your consent was purchased. you deserved better.
btw, reblogs aren't an endorsement of every reply in the post or the op of the post. i tag any potential misgendering in other people's replies to insightful posts - often the op will have deleted their blog, and only a shitty reply remains... so i reblog to use it in later writing - as misgendering cw. i'm reblogging less and less content like that, but i used to rb a bunch early on when i needed more topics to dissect. so be careful scrolling too far, especially if you're trans!!
do you like discussing the complexities of the cisheteropatriarchy and how rad-leaning feminism can thrive in lgbtq spaces, while still calling out predatory moids, lesbophobes, bigotry and misogynistic bs?
JOIN OUR NUANCEFEM SERVER!! [click here]
...which, yes, is pokemon themed due to my @tirfpikachu blog and our shared collab blog @pokegyns :] we do not always keep invites active to not overwhelm our mods, but we're opening our doors once more.
if you're a nuanced rad-leaning feminist who is highly critical of mainstream lgbtq spaces, toxic bigoted radfem spaces, and watered down feminism, come join our tightknit community! rbs appreciated!! pls make an intro when you join & our mods will let you in <3
ok i got a higher dose of pain meds so it's less horrifically painful but i gotta remember not to KEEP WRITING LIKE AN IDIOT and make my wrist pain worse. if i write here again pls bonk me with a stick
feel free to send an ask w/ the 🎤 emoji for a voice note/vid!!
ok i got a higher dose of pain meds so it's less horrifically painful but i gotta remember not to KEEP WRITING LIKE AN IDIOT and make my wrist pain worse. if i write here again pls bonk me with a stick
feel free to send an ask w/ the 🎤 emoji for a voice note/vid!!
i'm on unpaid medical leave rn due to severe pain in both wrists -- definitely icing them after typing this 💀 -- and as a wheelchair user who now can't even do a job from home since most require typing, i'm kind of screwed. i'm stuck with very little $$ for food, bills, etc.
so if you ever want to support me pls consider giving me a little ko-fi to get through this rough patch!! i can give audio essays/bunny pics!
so I still owe my parents $500 on their credit card. lol. because of the phone bill and doctors appointments and medications. so I do really still need commissions. like really really badly
"READ MY DNI" no. use your block button like an adult. i'm not scrolling through the many-paragraphs-long pinned posts of every blog i reblog something from. if you insist certain types of people aren't welcome in the notes of your posts then it's your responsibility to curate that. or choose a closed social media platform like facebook or instagram. or go and live in a barn away from humanity if you really don't like sharing the world with people who are different from you
some people can't fathom "rudeness" as a concept outside of identity, power, and oppression dynamics. so you point out they're being assholes and they start doing identity math at you to prove they're justified.
like sure, it's true that you are technically "punching up" in terms of that framework. but we're just hanging out rn, so why are you punching at all? you aren't challenging any power structures, you're just being mean to my friend kayla who has been nothing but lovely this evening.
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