So... Now What?

Prepare yourself for the randomness of an alternative plus size fashion blogger and nerdy fangirl.

[anexperimentallife]

[theonyxrose]

Facts!

[catbushandludicrous]

[hedgehog-goulash7]

I empathize completely

[youngmoneymilla-deactivated2019]

FACTS

[starshein]

Listen up. There is literally an app that can help you avoid self harm and I don’t know why we aren’t talking about it.

Calm Harm can be tailored to your needs and will provide strategies to help you get past those crucial moments of wanting to harm.

It’s also totally FREE.

once again, it’s called CALM HARM

[ridiculouslyphotogenicsinosauru]

SIGNAL FUCKING BOOST

[saranghwa-deactivated20190606]

WHY WOULD YOU NOT REBLOG. IDGAF ABOUT YOUR BLOG THEME

[winwincity-deactivated20200412]

For anyone that needs this!

[cabinet-dude-deactivated2019091]

Please it’s gREAT.

[jinmaeda]

This app is really helpful and cute :3

[ftmconfessional]

This helps me a lot, as when my dysphoria gets really bad, I often get really intrusive thoughts of self harm. This app is one of the ways I deal with it!

[thin-as-flowers]

hey yes pls

[arabwife]

[mediokurrr-deactivated20200405]

Can i get a step by step on how to do this?

[catastrofries]

So far for me it’s been something like:

1. Become aware of how and when you tearing yourself down.

2. Now that you can catch yourself doing it. Offer counters to the negative self talk. A really useful thing I read was to talk to yourself almost the way you would child. Gentle and patient. Even when they fuck up.

3. Take time to celebrate your small accomplishments. You’ve been attacking yourself for every little mistake. Apply that same fervor to the positive things in your life. Did the dishes even though you didn’t want to? Fuck yeah! Got up and took shower? YES!!! You are taking positive steps to feeling better. Celebrate it.

4. Make lists of things you’re good at/ like about yourself. The first time I did this the only two things in my list we’re that I liked my hair and I had good friends. It was start.

5. Don’t beat yourself up if you screw up steps 1-4. It’s counter productive. When I catch myself calling my self stupid for some mistake or other my response now is,“We don’t talk to ourselves like that anymore. What’s something constructive that could actually help solve the problem.”

Most of the time that seems to work. Not always. But more and more Everytime.

I hope any of that made sense.

[absolutely-walnuts]

oh my goodness there are instructions!!

[kittenkat-and-kirby]

Omg I was doing this without knowing

[dwarven-beard-spores]

In which Howl’s Moving Castle is full of those Relatable Millennial Feels

Sophie

Convinced she’s fated to be a failure by pervasive societal messages

Depressed and anxious to the point that leaving the house terrifies her

Constant excuses to not talk to people

Wears one color and it is grey (like her soul)

“I’m eighteen but I’m ninety at heart”

RAGE

Has to get away from her home so she moves into a terrifying moving castle bc it’s free and at this point why not

*everything’s on fire* “This is fine”

I KNOW EXACTLY HOW THE WORLD WORKS o wait shit fuck

Feelings? What are those? I only know cleaning.

Howl

Fancy degree that he has to move to another world to use

Loves his blood family but just… can’t be around them 

“Why don’t you have a real job”

Cannot handle responsibility

Is responsible for things anyway

“Howl we have no money” “I’m going to buy a skull”

Embodiment of Do It For The Aesthetic ™

also “treat yo self” 

Just Can’t anymore and has a meltdown over his hair (aka everything else in his life)

“Oh no I care for all these people why”

Overcharges rich people and undercharges poor people bc the system sucks

Last night on earth? Time to get wasted.

“I don’t care” he says caringly, while caring deeply.

Michael

Anxious bab

What is happening why this plz help

Stresses out over his homework only to find out the papers had gotten mixed up and he was doing the wrong thing

“I guess this now” :/

Better at adulting than the actual adults

Loves his gf so much and is so openly happy about it

A bit useless in a crisis

Tries so hard, gets so far

Found family is the best family

Calcifer

“I’m being exploited!”

Complains about everything

Bored. Just. So bored. Give him attention.

Used to be literal star but things went wrong and now he’s living in a fireplace

Eats everything and anything. 

“Guys I have arms be impressed by my arms”

Creates a castle for the Aesthetic that also looks like it’s about to fall apart and frightens people.

Oops he cares about these assholes now time to ride or die for them 

[princesseblade]

More black princesses, more black fairies, more black mermaids, more black girls doing all the things, for fucks sake

[dragonbuttsandrandomness]

More all girls doing all things for all fucks sake.

[sichore]

More black princesses, more black fairies, more black mermaids, more black girls doing all the things, for fucks sake

[politicalsci]

[theonyxrose]

This! All of this!

[swagintherain]

It’s that simple.

[theonyxrose]

Facts people often ignore.

[theonyxrose]

Life imitating art. Love how @jonquelart styled these models, just slaying in jeans and bralettes. 😍 #psfashion #fatshion #curves #curvystyle #fatshionista #plussize #plussizefashion #effyourbeautystandards #plusisa_must #visibilyplussize #thisisplus #celebratemysize #fashionillustration #latergram #psmodels #nycevents #nycblogger #jonquelart #latergram (at Ashley Stewart)

[theonyxrose]

So much body love here at the #gbflatiron pop up shop kick-off party. #psblogger #fatshion #latinablogger #textgram #wordstoliveby #quotes #bodypositive #bodylove #allbodiesaregoodbodies #styleatanysize #ownyourcurves #plussizestyle #fullfiguredfashion #nycblogger #nycevents #bloggerlife #bigcitycurvygirlthinwallet

[girlonthegowithafro]

Hello all! I started a women’s magazine back in December 2015 and as we enter our second year, we are expanding and in desperate need of funding. Thus far we have operated strictly off of volunteer support and my own funding, but we need your help! Please consider donating at www.gofundme.com/modesttruthmag or just sharing! We are working to create a magazine that is representative of the diversity that we see everyday in womanhood. Thank you!

[theonyxrose]

Please support this project if you can.

[theonyxrose]

Making Straight Sizes Werk

Shopping in general can be a very frustrating and draining experience, even more so when you attempt to do so in the straight sizes, however it doesn’t have to be. I think the key to shopping…

Talking about shopping straight sizes while plus on the blog today.

[theonyxrose]

What I love most about this outfit is the fact that it combines my past with my present. For one, I have amassed a huge collection of turtlenecks and knit sweaters because of my teenage-want/need to be as covered as possible. When I began my #bodypositivejourney I took time to make some changes with my closet and I struggled with the idea of getting rid of any of them. It took a while to realize that although I once used thsese tops to hide my body, I could now use them to create polished, chic and refined looks unlike what I did before, even going so far as to incorporate prints into a once very monochromatic wardrobe. Head over to the blog for outfit details and links to this @ftfsnaps skirt which is on sale for less than $6! Link in the bio! 📸: @madamefinehouse #icymi #psblogger #nycblogger #latinablogger #afrolatina #fullfiguredfashion #curvystyle #celebratemysize #ownyourcurves #plussizestyle #fatshion #thisisplus #ftfselfie #honorthecurves #whatfatgirlsactuallywear #mystylishcurves #goldenconfidence #iamsimplybeautiful #plus_isamust #plusmodelmag #plussizefashion #mystylishcurves #iembodyme #effyourbeautystandards #nofilter #fatgirlscan #girlwithglasses #psootd #ootd #bigcitycurvygirlthinwallet (at Washington Mews)

[michellepsychologist]

[If anyone knows the artist let me know so I can give credit]

[theonyxrose]

These are the facts, though I would add that as a woman you don't owe "prettiness"to anyone other than yourself. #redefinebeauty #effyourbeautystandards #psfashion #psblogger #fatshion #latinablogger #afrolatina #textgram #wordstoliveby #quotes #feminism #selflove #bodypositive #bodylove #sizeacceptance #Repost @mslindsaym with @repostapp ・・・ I'm learning to embrace my high maintenance femme-ness, without feeling guilty for enjoying it.💋 #SelfiesForSelfLove #FemmeFatshionista #BodyPositiveBabe

[b-binaohan-deactivated20140530]

Being feminine is being desired and hated at the same time. A feminine body or mind is expected to be open and receiving to everything from others’ emotional baggage to sexual fantasies of total strangers. At the same time, receptivity (not that this defines femininity by any means) is considered weak and inferior. The result of this is often violence. Femininity is to be present for other’s needs and then destroyed for its perceived weaknesses. Being feminine and of color is especially dangerous. Not just because we are a walking target for racist, stereotyped sexual fantasies but because so often we are blamed for being that. I am Latina so I shouldn’t press my luck by acting and dressing too “spicy” too provocative. I can’t be a femme as I want to be because then I am acting out my own stereotype and perpetuating it further and drawing in potential violence. I cannot act, speak, dress or think feminine on my own accord or because I am being myself. Being a woman of color means that whatever I do, I do on account of being Latina. If I am femme, it’s because that’s how I was raised to be in that culture.

Womanist Musings: Processes of Feminization: Becoming Myself (via biyuti)

On. Point.

(via quelola)

So much truth

[varrka-deactivated20170709]

From hence forth I will use Monty Python skits to portray my frustrations with this years elections

[livingdeadpoetssociety]

Making some votes more valuable than others is no basis for a system of government.