H is For Howl

Just Another Voice In the Void

[theredhistorian]

I want to post happy, funny, or even delirious things. But I've only been sad lately.

[theredhistorian]

Got everything done but still feel like I failed. What the disquietingly specific German word for that?

[theredhistorian]

Hello?

Reviving this blog with all of my college depressions reblogs intact (for now). I don’t know what I want to do with it. I just felt like there were too many eyes-of-consequence on my other social media accounts.

I missed screaming into the void. 

[livebloggingmydescentintomadness]

Do your or your followers know of any canon queer rep (that has tons of buildup and has a happy ending). I'm just so sick of the baiting and hurt I feel, and today was the straw that broke the camel's back. I'm done with SPN now tbh, its hurt me too much, and I want to find something like Destiel that is canon and isn't constantly bashed on by the show.

I’m sorry, sweetheart, I know how much it hurts. I’m not a big TV buff, but I know that Yuri on Ice, Supergirl, and Sense8 have explicitly queer romances, and Hannibal went 95% canon at the end, though that’s not exactly a happy fluffy show. I’m sure there are more, but I’m drawing a blank at the moment because I don’t watch very many shows.

[winchysteria]

if u dont wanna read all of this the ones that i could recommend most highly to someone who liked supernatural until the queerbaiting got to be too much are shadowhunters and carmilla (which is a webseries, not tv)

skam season 3 is a great mlm love story! it does deal with some heavier issues, like internalized homophobia and mental illness, but in a thoughtful, respectful way. you definitely don’t need to have seen the first two seasons either! it’s a norwegian show, but you can find it with subs.

eyewitness is another young mlm romance, although that one is SUPER heavy- but i promise there’s a happy ending!!

shadowhunters hits quite a lot of the buttons that made me love supernatural (campy modern-day fantasy full of beautiful people) but actually has a canon interracial gay romance with the MOST SATISFYING BIG KISS MOMENT.

lost girl- have not seen this one, but it’s first on my list as the protag is a bi/pan lady who does have a romantic storyline with another woman, but again i don’t know too much else besides that it has cool vampire mythology.

legend of korra is a cartoon, but a cartoon with a slow burn queer lady romance and fantastic writing. and cool fight scenes.

carmilla is a webseries published on youtube that centers on a nancy-drew-esque college girl and her annoying but also sexy vampire roommate and it’s just. i love it. also very campy and fun, plus 90% of the important characters (and all the mains) are girls, which is a nice palate cleanser after supernatural.

crazy ex-girlfriend is a wild, wild ride with an objectively terrible title and a very cute mlm romance (with an explicitly bi dude, which i love) with very satisfying buildup. it’s not the main storyline of the show, unfortunately, and starts i think in the second season, but it’s nice and fluffy.

in the flesh is a zombie show with fucking fantastic writing, and the main romance is between two guys, but it’s quite quite dark and the ending isn’t, like, disney-esque.

and if you want a quick happy fix, the way he looks is a brazilian teen movie centered on a wonderfully poignant romance between two boys and it’s one of my faves of all time.

also, here’s a link to a frankly incredible set of masterposts of queer media. it can be a little intimidating to wade through, but it’s a fantastic resource.

[smeliot-deactivated20220528]

Fun Christmas idea:

Hang mistletoe but instead of kissing you have to FIGHT whoever else is under it

[smeliot-deactivated20220528]

Mistlefoe™

[fivetrillionelves]

mistletoe to toe

[chandi10things]

Mistlego

[samcannon]

💅 killer nails 💅

[tabbydragon]

Reminder: Don't take photos of your vote

It’s been a while since a big election and this is the first time some Tumblrites are voting so here’s a quick warning:

Please Don’t Snapchat, Instagram, take a selfie with, etc, your vote in the voting booth! There are laws in almost every state forbidding sharing your vote, especially if polls haven’t closer yet. If any officials get wind of it they can invalidate your vote, basically throw it away. This was actually a thing during Obama’s election.

So make sure you get out and vote, and make sure it counts! Keep your phone in your pocket for this one.

[narcissiste]

Alexander McQueen, The House of Beccaria

[arreter-deactivated20140107]

[d-archive1948-deactivated202303]

Young Palestinian shepherd playing the violin in Gaza, Palestine.

[nellucnhoj]

gravity

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[sixpenceee]

“A house I pass on the way to work has this sculpture in its yard. Its about 8 feet tall.”

(Source)

[geostatonary]

“HELLO NEIGHBOR STEVE, I WOULD LIKE TO INVITE YOU TO BARBEQUE ON THE EVE OF THE BLOOD MOON.  I FEEL WE GOT OFF TO A BAD START.”

“NEIGHBOR STEVE, DO YOU NOT WISH TO PARTAKE OF THE UNCLEAN FLESH-MEATS OF PIGS AND THE POLLUTED ESSENCES OF TOMATO?  PERHAPS YOU ARE A CAROLINA STYLE MAN, NEIGHBOR STEVE?”

“PUT THE GUN AWAY NEIGHBOR STEVE, YOU KNOW I SHALL ONLY RISE AGAIN WITH THE DAWNING OF THE MOON.  WE HAVE BEEN THROUGH THIS MANY TIMES.”

“LOOK AT THIS PICTURE MY SON DREW OF YOU AND CHILD TIMMY, YOUR SON.  ARE THEY NOT THE PICTURE OF PACT-MATES?  THIS COULD BE YOU AND ME, NEIGHBOR STEVE.”

“YOU MISSED THE UNHOLY NEXUS OF POWER THAT IS THE KEY TO MY CORPOREAL FORM, NEIGHBOR STEVE.  YOU WILL NEED TO RELOAD NOW, SO I WILL GO INSIDE TO MY HELL-WIFE AND PUT YOU DOWN AS A SOLID ‘MAYBE’.“

[meltdraw]

Drew a comic thing of the neighbors.

[brandirecognition]

thanks, DW!

[yosilog]

post apocalyptic philippines

[dynastylnoire]

Black tumblr aunties: what advice do you have for the babies?

I get asked for advice ( a lot) about love and growing up etc. Post anything you want to tell the kids here.

My random advice:

Don’t sign no lease with your significant other. Don’t let them get mail sent to your house either

Always use two forms of birth control

Spend more time with your grandparents. Seriously, they will leave this earth sooner than you will be able to prepare for

If you can afford it, go to therapy. Being grown is hard. Life’s changes take its toll. If you can’t afford therapy Google income based therapy/counceling. Most cities do have services for you.

If you lose your job temp agencies are your friends. Apply to them all. Follow up with a phone call after submitting your resume. Officeteam.com saved my life

Don’t be ashamed of dropping out of college. Lots of people leave and come back way later in life .

[jamaicanblackcastoroil]

Make time for yourself. It’s okay to say no to hanging out, etc. and to recharge. if it won’t hurt you too much, say no when they ask you to come in for a shift or even take a day off from class.

Use a schedule and break down your projects. I cannot stress this enough.

If you have extra time get started on an assignment as early as you can.

If you can help you it, please pay your bills on time. You know they’re coming.

Don’t plagiarize your papers!!!! You can get kicked out of school (some places you can’t even attend another school in that state.)

Keep a diary/journal. It’s not just for little kids.

Do things that make you feel good. Eat the ice cream, watch two hours of your favorite show, buy that face mask.

Lots of things can be solved with a nap.

Eat something in the morning!

[audio-sexual]

Become selfish. Don’t be an asshole but learn where you draw the line then don’t move it. Especially as a woman. Learn to put yourself first & care about yourself.

Seriously, don’t be like me. There’s no reward or prizes when you constantly sacrifice yourself. Don’t expect it to be reciprocated when you /do/.

Sometimes you will want to just help someone & that’s enough. Sometimes you just want to make someone else smile & that warms you. Learn to recognize when you’re wanting to do just to do…& when you’re doing because you want them to treat you a certain way.

Learn the difference between fear & caution. Take some risks if you’re comfortable. Don’t try to imagine every thing that can go wrong. Don’t overthink. Don’t always seek the opinion of others to solidify your own.

Learn to trust yourself. Even if you’re wrong sometimes, you’ll still do right by yourself.

Be utterly ridiculous at least once a day.

Stop “should"ing all over yourselves. (“I should act like this”, “I should be more successful by now”, “I should be married/dating/sexually active by now”). You’ll do shit when you do shit.

[b-morevony]

You get one life. Do not spend time being unsatisfied or unhappy. It’s ok to say no. It’s okay to not trap yourself in a situation out of a sense of obligation. You can’t get time back. Honor your time.

[daygopeach]

1. Protect your credit–it is as important as your word. Be mindful of that too. 

2. When you see a red flag, even if you can’t understand why at the time, trust your gut. 

3. Travel. It doesn’t have to be across the world, but get out of your comfort zone and grow. 

4. Never fear being yourself. Anyone who is judging you is jealous AF.

[blkartlove]

Try to save money from each pay check.

[phoenixtattoogirl-deactivated20]

Do any of you have any advice on better ways to save money. I just got a better paying job and since I’m still at home I’m trying to save for a car and hopefully my first apartment 😊 thanks in advance

[jamaicanblackcastoroil]

Make sure to keep your accounts separate so you won’t be tempted to spend all your money. What helped me was I opened a savings account at ally and it’s not as easy to take out the money. Pnc is a good online bank too if you’re into that. Like @dynastylnoire said, go through a credit union (even if you’re not a member; but it doesn’t take long to join.) they have way better rates for car loans - like 1 or 2% vs 5%. Choose locations where you think you’d like to live. See how close they are to your job. Search for banks, restaurants, a gym, etc. close by. Rent.com, Zillow.com, trulia.com are helpful to use when you want to see what’s out there. They tell you how much rent would most likely be in that area. Also check postings on the university websites. Craigslist doesn’t hurt either. More apartments are available in May-September when students are leaving.

[theonlyleftydesk]

I don’t even know if I’m old enough to be an auntie so I’ll call myself a Big Cousin. Anyway:

If you ever start to feel bad in a relationship, sit down and think hard about it. Are you happy as long as you’re with them and distracted? Do you feel dread when your phone rings and do you get anxious when you see it’s them? These are signs something is wrong.

Don’t date a guy who buys you cheap shit and never takes you anywhere, but then turns around and buys himself expensive stuff and is always going on nice vacations (without you).

Demand that your doctors LISTEN to you and don’t let them brush you off. Don’t be quiet or try to be a ‘good patient’ if you’re sick or hurting and it’s something they can’t find. Conversely if you feel like your doctor doesn’t care or listen to you, get a new one ASAP, because the longer you wait, the more averse you might become to going g the doctor at all. :(

Ask yourself, when you are spending tme with people because you feel like you have to, if you could be doing something better with your time. Even if it’s sitting and watching a movie by yourself or something. Don’t feel like you have to stay friends with people who don’t make you feel great.

Wear that style you want to wear. Dye your hair that color. Get that piercing. Do it. One day you might look back at that time in your life and wish you had. Make memories, not regrets.

[dynastylnoire]

^^^^^^^^ all of what your big cousin said

[mercedesnechelle]

If you can stay at home to stack money while working/going to school PLEASE do it! Do not be in such a rush to get out of the house.

Invest your money into something that you enjoy that generates extra income.

Save for a rainy day!!!!

I moved out at 18 and due to bad spending habits and procrastination I had tons of debt and it took me until 28 to get my finances together.

Please educate yourself on how to save/invest. Come up with a game plan…implement it and don’t move out until you are absolutely ready.

DONT GET YOUR BF/GF NAME TATTOOED ON YOU!

Pay your bills on time….protect your credit.

[dynastylnoire]

Stay home as long as you can. I know your parents are probably pissing you off (at best )

But living on your own costs way more money than you can anticipate. expensive as hell.

I’ve said it before if you are determined to go start buying small stuff for your place as soon as you decide too.

Also don’t be ashamed to move back home of you have to. A lot of us have. Just stack up until you can get out again

[lovelyandbrown]

I feel like 28 is too young for auntie, so can I be a big cousin, too? The one you can borrow heels from and listen to trap music with? Anyway - 

be okay with not knowing everything right now. save yourself the headache.

however, you know far, far more than you think you know. trust me.

any man (or woman) who doesn’t have books in his home is not a man (or woman) worth lying down next to.

send random texts, make random calls, give random gifts to the people you love who are far away from you. let them know distance means nothing.

eat well. drink well. you won’t have this metabolism forever. get a head start on healthy habits.

check-in on an ideology/political party/figurehead you completely disagree with. listen to their sentiments. they are passionate on the same subject you hold opposite truths on for a reason.

volunteer when you can. it’s bullshit to think you’re too busy to.

at least once a week, give yourself a tune up. with a book. a spa day. meditation. a quiet meal. a nice movie alone. pay you some mind.

travel. near or far. down the block or off in brussels, berlin, or budapest. go find something new. you may find a piece of yourself. don’t think the destination necessarily is the most important part of the journey - you may find the humanity you’ve been looking for in a park across town. just go.

the world isn’t always going to be fair to young black women in their teens and early twenties. don’t be too jaded. don’t be too cynical. you’re this age for a moment for a reason. the reason is to be the change you wish to see.

[sauvamente]

Don’t sacrifice yourself to die in your feet for NOBODY

Being self reliant will save your ass but don’t be afraid to ask for help

Weak is not a cuss word learn to understand that you are allowed to be vulnerable.

You ain’t his mama

[alexander]

[velno]

i wish to be this person when i get older 

[theredhistorian]

She needs to get on Sesame Street or The Muppets and do a bit with Kermit

[bunlly]

“Imagine you’re at a party. A guy offers you a drink. You say no. He says ‘Come on, one drink!’ You say ‘no thanks.’ Later, he brings you a soda. ‘I know you said you didn’t want a drink, but I was getting one for myself and you looked thirsty.’ For you to refuse at this point makes you the asshole. He’s just being nice, right? Predators use the social contract and our own good hearts and fear of being rude against us. If you drink the drink, you’re teaching him that it just takes a little persistence on his part to overcome your ‘no.’ If you say ‘Really, I appreciate it, but no thanks’ and put the drink down and walk away from it, you’re the one who looks rude in that moment. But the fact is, you didn’t ask for the drink and you don’t want the drink and you don’t have to drink it just to make some guy feel validated.” —The Art of “No” (Jennifer P.)