The Science of Sir Steve @thescienceofsirsteve - Tumblr Blog

This piece about slut-shaming is some kind of expansion of this post and companion to this post about prude-shaming. None of my stuff is ever intended to be totally comprehensive or the last word on any subject. For example, in this piece I didn’t even have a chance to talk explicitly about gender, or mention intersections with race, or overlaps with rape culture, or the way slut- and prude-shaming work together to create a terrible double-bind. But if you follow SexEdPlus, maybe I’ll get to some of that stuff later!

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My piece about prude-shaming has been getting a bunch of reblogs, so I wanted to reshare this companion piece. Both parts are important, and they kind of go hand-in-hand! (Particularly because *sometimes* affirmation of having sex can be used as their own kind of prude-sharming and affirmations of not having sex can be used as their own kind of slut-shaming.)

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Some suggested further reading: Why Would Anyone “Come Out” As Kinky? The Reality Behind 3 Myths About BDSM Applying Leisure 101 to Simplify and Complicate BDSM The Difference Between BDSM and Abuse Leather Subculture

They definitely overlap, but they're different.

Reminiscing of amazing times at MIR with my boy. (at Mr. International Rubber (MIR)) https://www.instagram.com/p/BqvLpjwBx6qs9kBQ6gH0mNn6IONruuVvCzUsac0/?utm_source=ig_tumblr_share&igshid=1a04bbxm2gzc8

About to join the Twin Cities Rubbermen for Mr. Minneapolis Eagle weekend. (at EagleBoltBar) https://www.instagram.com/p/BqREaGRhsGkuobSjjIue2gsEVz5PlQdqsI1hmU0/?utm_source=ig_tumblr_share&igshid=iv4ibq1en59i

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And here’s a wonderful article about that story of vibrators being used to induce orgasms as a medical treatment.

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Good read

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Very good information! @mastersfaggots

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Read more about this on Medium: What Does Bisexual Even Mean?

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Emotionally-healthy submission

Tumblr is chalk full of emotionally abusive people who shroud their toxic aggression and lack of empathy as pseudo-Dominance. There, I said it. Recognizing this line between healthy BDSM and unhealthy abusive tendencies has been a challenge for me, and I want to pause the smut for just a second and explain how I feel about this topic:

The “classic” definition of Dom/sub roleplay I have been given is one of vertical hierarchy. The Dom is “above” the sub in terms of power, and the sub submits to the Dom because of that difference in power. In other words, the Dom is the chief executive, and the sub is just an intern. I’m aware of countless people who thrive under this protocol-driven relationship dynamic, but it doesn’t work for me. In my mind, D/s roleplay is a horizontal categorization. Doms do not have any more or less quantifiable “power” than subs do; rather, both have the same amount of power but it is expressed in different niches. To further my earlier example, the Dom is the head of the marketing department and the sub is the head of the finance department. There is still a difference between the two, but it is a difference without any value-judgment or superiority attached to it.

So why do I not like “traditional” D/s power dynamics?

As someone who was bullied when I was younger, I found that the easiest way to avoid being bullied was to set aside my own needs, bite my tongue, and just let it happen. Resisting or standing up for myself only made me stick out more, which made bullying worse in the long run. As you might expect, now that I’m older I still have a hard time sticking up for myself and I’m immediately wary of giving up power to make someone else happy (even if I do care about the person!) because it painfully reminds me of middle school. And as someone who overcame anorexia, I have an immediate knee-jerk reaction away whenever someone threatens my basic bodily autonomy as a punishment (esp. with food, but to a certain extent it happens with any arbitrarily-derived protocol that only exists to differentiate Doms and subs).

Speaking of punishment, let’s unpack that.

But first, let me elaborate on something. I have depression (which means my brain produces less serotonin, the “feel good” neurotransmitter, than a healthy brain would). Up until a year and a half ago, I was on an anti-depressant that managed my depressive episodes but also numbed my emotions overall. It was literally impossible for me to cry from any sort of emotional stimulus. My interest in pain (particularly spanking, as I’ve written about earlier), began as a way for me to find emotional release through crying that could only result from physical pain. Fast forward to today, and I’m on a different medication that manages the depression caused by my brain-chemistry imbalance without impacting my ability to process other emotions without needing physical pain. Even though I still enjoy the endorphin rush of certain sensations and some light impact play, when those feelings ramp up in intensity and cross line into real pain, I go into a very unhealthy headspace where I (wrongly!) convince myself that I “deserve” pain because I’m not worth feeling happy and that it would be “selfish” to use my safeword because my wellbeing is less important that the Dom’s. Physical punishment wrecks me because it almost encourages my brain to engage in that negative self-talk. Thus, I’m at a point in my life right now where I cannot experience pain or punishment in a D/s scene or relationship. I’m still in the process of finding happiness in where I am as a kinky person, but I refuse to be feel like any “less of a sub” for standing up for myself and (finally) growing my backbone.

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Sir Steve's 9 Sins

“Have you seen Kraken’s ass yet?”

- That was the popular conversation-starter while Oxhana and I were out at the club for her drag performance this past Monday. We celebrated the long Labor Day weekend by driving up to Dallas for ILSB (International Leather Sir/Boy), a conference for “old-school gay leather traditionalist” crowd, as my Sir had explained it to me. The trip, although less than 24 hours, was jam-packed with experiences that either taught me something new, introduced me to something I didn’t know existed, pushed me outside of my comfort zone, or enveloped me in blissful pleasure. - The most powerful of those experiences was my first caning session. The one that left my ass looking like this:

To those of you who, like me, would initially react to a video like that with concern, I can assure you that the entire session (and post-care), was handled safely, consensually …and with panache.

There is so much that I could reflect on from this trip - from my first pup mosh, to my introduction to Littles, to my first attempt at following D/s protocol. For this entry, however, I want to focus on what made my ass look like an evil Rorschach test.

My first caning session wasn’t technically my first caning session.

What I’m calling my first caning session happened in the early hours of the morning at our hotel room. Earlier that afternoon, however, Otto (Oxhana’s pup persona) and I attended a seminar on rhythmic caning. The instructor of the seminar asked for volunteers almost as soon as the class began and there wasn’t a moment’s hesitation before Otto and my hands shot up into the air.

I was asked to strip down completely naked and hop up on a massage table for the demonstration. They put some music on and the instructor dove right into the caning. He must have had a dozen different pairs of canes that he used like drums on my back and my ass. As each new instrument was introduced, he would explain how it would feel on the recipient and any particular things to keep in mind with each tool.

Here are a few things I learned:

Keep the strikes concentrated in two areas of the back – between the base of the neck and the bottom of the shoulder blades, or on the ass from the top of the crack to the top part of the ham string.

Strikes that are timed quickly together like a pitter-patter drum roll are easier to process than strikes that are spaced out apart, even if the strikes have the same amount of power behind them

Moving from one area to the next is important for processing the pain. More than a dozen or so back-to-back strikes to the same area quickly starts to hurt.

Big, thuddy instruments can be used as breath control tools when striking between the shoulder blades

Just like variety of striking area is important, so too is the variety of canes. The moments I enjoyed the most were when a new tool was introduced.

Later that night is when the real fun began.

Although the caning at the seminar was fantastic and definitely left a few bruises, it paled in comparison to what happened later, which is why I’m counting Sir Steve’s caning as my first proper caning session.

The scene was held in our hotel room and began around 1:00 AM, give or take. We had been out dancing at the club but we all made sure not to have more than a few drinks so we could keep our wits about us.

The Cast

Present in the room were Otto and myself, our Sir (Sir Eric), Sir Steve (who is a Sir to our Sir Eric) and two other friends – who I’ll call Ishmael and Ricky. Otto and I had briefly discussed the scene ahead of time with Sir Eric, who explained that he would be handling Otto, while I would be left in the expert hands of Sir Steve. Sir Eric is very familiar with my boundaries and assured me that he had discussed all of the important parts with Sir Steve ahead of time.

The Canes

Sir Steve refers to the experience he provided for me (and has provided to many others) as the “9 Sins.” He used nine different canes over the course of about an hour, and each one of them is intended to represent the original 9 sins (two dropped off over the years). To introduce each cane, he would slowly run the cane over my back so I could get a feel for it and he would tell me the cane’s name. He then made me say the name out-loud, which worked well for both building anticipation, and allowing Steve to get an idea of how I was doing mentally.

A few days after the session, I followed up with Sir Steve and asked him to elaborate on his (very clever) thought process behind each cane. The text in italics came directly from Sir Steve.

Greed

This is the first cane that was used. Greed is made of carbon, so it makes me think of diamonds. It also was the first cane I ever had and definitely led me to wanting more. It’s also the cane I always start off with so the sub is wanting more as well.

Sir Steve’s touch was merciful and light with this one. He’s right, it definitely left me wanting more.

Pride

Pride is my prettiest cane. It’s white leather wrapped around a Teflon core. White Leather is definitely my aesthetic and if I were to pick a sin to describe myself, Pride would be it.

I can deeply relate with Sir Steve on this one. After Steve finished with Pride, he asked me which of the first two canes I preferred – Greed or Pride. I first picked Pride because I genuinely preferred it over the former. As we progressed further into the session, Sir Steve asked me a few more times which of my canes was my favorite. I chose Pride every time – partly because it’s the sin I identify with the most …and partly because it’s the only one I could remember as we got deeper into the scene.

Wrath

Wrath is made of aluminum and is super thuddy and pretty thick. If I were to get in an actual fight with someone, wrath is the cane I would want. Temperature-wise, it starts off as extremely cold and absorbs heat through the caning. It may be my midwestern-ness, but when I think off wrath, I tend to think of a cold shoulder more than a fire.

I agree with Sir Steve’s sentiment and think that this cane is aptly named. Now that I’ve had some time to play with caning on the giving side, I know how big of a difference it makes when a cane is bendy versus when it’s rigid like this aluminum one. MUCH less forgiving!

Envy

Envy is my most stingy cane. It seems like my most feminine cane, and it kind of reminds me of my ex-wife, who was jealousy wrapped up into a person. She definitely inspired that naming.

Stingy is right. It felt like liking a D battery but times a thousand. It was a welcome reprieve from the thuddy canes that came before.

Gluttony

Gluttony is my fattest cane. Not very original, but that’s why it’s named that.

I remember distinctly disliking Gluttony. It was MUCH thuddier than any of the others. I’m not sure if it was this difference or how hard Sir Steve was using it that made it my least favorite. Either way, this one was a tough pill to swallow.

Sloth

Sloth is made of rubber, but it’s much thinner and is basically a short single tail. Because the material just falls over, it looks really lazy. I also feel lazy using it sometimes because I barely move my wrist and spin it in a circle to use it. However, it’s probably my most difficult cane to use…

Definitely the most unique of the canes in the set. This is another one that’s kind of a blur, although I do remember wondering if he had switched to a whip at some point.

Lust

Lust is made of wood.

It’s the only plant-based cane I own, which makes it feel more naturalistic to me. Typically, when I use it, I add more body contact and/or genital touching to the scene to accentuate its name.

I REALLY liked lust.

Vainglory

Vainglory is made of steel and the sin stands for unjustified boasting. It’s my longest cane and usually when I use it, I use a violet wand to electrically charge myself and the cane to add electro to the impacts, which is a technique I had never seen anyone else do before, so that cane boasted my own ego. Lol

I remember Sir Steve explaining the concept of charging the cane during the session and how it struck fear in me before I realized I wouldn’t be subjected to any shocks. In retrospect, I’m burning with curiosity to know what that would feel like. Looks like I’ll have to do this all over again sometime!

Acedia

Acedia means to neglect something or a kind of procrastination. It was the last cane in the sins that I acquired, and it took me a long time to decide on it, which kind of fits the name. It has actually become one of my favorites and I tend to use it towards the end because by that point, the endorphins are usually high enough for me to just start wailing on them and don’t have to worry about being as careful (which kind of connects with the neglect meaning).

Wailing is right. By the end of the session, every stroke had power behind it and I was practically screaming every time the cane connected.

The Moment I Broke

At some point during the last few canes, it felt like Sir Steve really started to turn things up a notch. Initially, Sir Steve’s strikes were mostly taps with every few strokes (like on the down-beat at the end of each bar in the song we were listening to) hard enough to get me to yelp in pain. Towards the end though, EVERY strike was sending shock waves of pain up and down my body. I began to tremble. At some point my convulsions were so strong that I pulled the rope bondage that had secured my wrists out in front of me completely apart. Being out of bondage made it even more difficult to process the pain because I no longer had anything to strain against.

When lifting weights in the gym, they say that the goal of the entire set is to get you to the point of failure - that last half-push that you can barely get out is where all of the magic happens. Everything before that is just to weaken your muscles to get them to that point. Looking back on the session, I feel that everything was just preparing my body to receive what was waiting for me at the end. I was screaming with each lash. My mind was racing in a million different directions. I remember one thought sticking out above the rest that really resonated with me. I had this visceral awareness of all of my ego (I’ll admit, I’ve got a lot), my bravado, the masks I wear - were all stripped away. I couldn’t be anyone, or do anything, except process the pain I was receiving. As much as I wanted to be strong, I was reduced to whimpering, and eventually sobbing. I was completely removed from the world… floating somewhere above it. I had broken open. I was reduced to my rawest, purest, simplest self - and that is what made everything worthwhile.

The After-Care

My first memory of the session coming to a close was seeing my hands trembling as they fumbled to remove the blind folds. My whole body was shaking, my face was a mess of snot and tears. Sir Steve’s announcement that I had made it to the end wasn’t a coo of comfort or concern, but a celebratory, “You made it!” I fucking made it! Sir Steve laid down beside me, held me in his arms and sang along to the music while I openly weeped into his chest. It wasn’t until two or three songs later that I started to calm down and come back to my senses.

Around that point, Otto and Sir Eric came back into the room. They had left about halfway through the session so Sir Steve and I could have our privacy. Otto and Sir Eric were naturally concerned when they saw me crying but I did my best to assure them that everything was okay. They cuddled me close and after another ten minutes or so, I was smiling again.

While they were cuddling me, Sir Steve excused himself saying he was going to listen to some music. I later learned that his own after-care had been cut short by Otto and Sir Eric’s interjection which is why he left for a bit. After-care for a top, as he later explained to me, is critically important as well. It helps him process his own emotions, and lets him know that he’s not a monster for getting so much pleasure out of hurting someone. Fortunately, Sir Steve was able to use his music to get back to the right headspace and the evening drew to a close.

I felt like a god.

There are many aspects of pain play that I enjoy, but what makes it so enticing for me is the feeling of accomplishment once I’ve come out the other end of something that was challenging. I was victorious. I had weathered the storm. This whole week, I’ve felt the after-glow of the session. My bruises are like battle scars - visible reminders of what I had endured (and enjoyed)! It makes me proud to see them. Every time I wince when I sit down, I can’t help but smirk. I survived Sir Steve’s 9 Sins - a right of passage that has left me all the more eager to explore BDSM.

Sir Steve and Sir Eric were both in close contact in the days following our session, like good Doms should be. They checked in on how I was feeling and made themselves available to talk if I was having a hard time coping. I didn’t experience sub-drop, but they were well-prepared to recognize and respond to it if I did. They’re both so fucking fantastic.

So that’s the story of my first caning session - a transcendent experience that pushed me to my limits and left me feeling like I could conquer the world. I wish everyone could experience what I went through but I recognize that there are so many aspects of the session that could have ruined the experience if they were not handled properly. If you have any questions about this experience or how to re-create something similar for yourself (or your Sub), leave a comment below or shoot me an email. I’m happy to share what I’ve learned and point you in the right direction to learn more.

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I got the opportunity to cane this awesome pup a couple weeks ago during ILSb-ICBB. He created this really great write-up regarding his experience.

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What I've learned being a Dom so far

I started my page to explore and live my kinky Dom side. It went lots of places and I’ve learned a lot, about me, the others and the scene.

This summarizes (yet still a bit long, but I felt it was necessary) all chats I’ve had with boys and other doms before. If u are in a hurry, just read the bold ones.

Having a kink might seem weird or complex, but in the end it’s just liking something people usually don’t. Being different. And that’s ok.

Embrace who you are and be happy with it. Be proud.

And by that, I don’t mean just embracing your submissive side. Or your Dom side. But all you are, all u want for life, whatever that might be.

A cumdump for men around? A muscle boy training to be better every day for your owner? A dom who wants a sub boyfriend? A sub and a Dom at the same time? Go for it.

It’s ok not liking everything. It’s ok being different from what u see around. This should be a place for exploring and trying what u want, not to be judged. You can get that on your everyday world.

Forget labels. They are boring. Be what you wanna be and someone will appreciate u for that.

There’s no right or wrong. And your body shape, dick size or bank account won’t say much about how much of a Dom or a sub u truly are. I’ve seen all types of both and it all depends on what u wanna be. Don’t judge based on the outside. Power, strength and resilience come from within.

Sometimes we get stuck in this fantasy world, seeing models, porn actors and porn scenes or people trying to do like those. And we think we gotta be like that.

But reality is much more complex and not always as glamorous and pretty (or rough and nasty haha) as we see around.

This is a fantasy world. Don’t forget reality out there can and probably will be different.

You don’t have to be marked and out to everyone as a sub, walk around in your lock or cage, to be a good one. Live it in the depth u want to. And that’s fine.

Being real means kink is just a part of your life. And it might be a huge part of yours, but it might not even be in someone else’s. So be careful with using some words outside a safe, known environment.

Rape might mean a rough, as the top wants fuck for u, but it also means pain, suffering and darkness for some other people out there.

Faggot might mean a submissive male here but it also carries prejudice and hate for some.

Words have power, never forget that.

In the end, always be clear about what u want and what they should expect from you. It’s an exchange.

Including power. That’s the base of it all. Doms have what subs give. Control, ownership, use. Otherwise it’s just abuse.

Some are learning still, some need more time or encouragement. Some won’t give u that. All is fine if it’s clear for all the ones involved.

Respect above all.

Between you and your partners. Between you and the ones around you. Between us all.

Your kink is not an excuse for being abusive. Or just a fucking cunt. For making anyone feel worthless. For hating anyone. For picking on races, gender roles, sexuality or whatever.

I guess it always comes down to this:

Be honest, healthy and happy. Safe, always. Explore and enjoy.

Honest with yourself and with others. About your needs, expectations and goals.

Healthy about your body and your mind. Some kinks involve dangerous stuff. Be aware if u ever decide to try them.

Safe from bad places, bad practices, bad people. They are all around.

Explore. Cause you might not like all u think you will. Or love what u thought you wouldn’t stand. That’s how we learn about ourselves and the scene.

And if you are not enjoying it, why are u doing it? Having a kink is already hard without people from inside judging and being shitty about it.

You’re not alone. Reach out and find those to help you grow.

If some people won’t or can’t understand it, a lot of them can and will. Find them. Your community, online or where u live. Talk about it.

Don’t be afraid to ask, to learn, to share. That’s how we can find each other. And improve the scene and start helping the ones dealing with toxic, bad examples out there.

It’s never easy. Work hard and give your best.

Be your best to serve the best. I’ve always told my boys that. And be the best to be served by the best. It works both ways.

And always do it for yourself, not just to please others. People come and go, but you’ll be with yourself every fucking day till u die.

Damn, what a long post haha

And just to be clear, that’s just part of MY experience with all of it. Some will disagree. Some will think less of me because of it. I don’t care.

I just want to improve the discussion around and show younger and inexperienced boys (and Doms and other people who are into any kink) that sometimes all u see around is not all there is.

If u agree or want to add anything, reblog, comment, share. It might help a lot of those who are starting their paths and may be lost or confused.

Take care.

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How do I use a dildo without it hurting/causing me to bleed? Like I am too tight and idk wtf to do

Gasp, your poor hole!

I love the ambition, but first of all: either get a smaller dildo or start with your fingers and get your lube ready, cuz you gotta use a LOT. (Think of it this way: if you’re ever even a LITTLE dry you need another handful. That hole needs to be more slippery than a snail. And if it’s water-based, re-apply frequently. Frequently!)

Start with a finger (a single finger - very important), and slowly run it around the edges of your hole before gently pushing the tip in. Retreat, rub, push in, and repeat all very slowly and steadily and while being careful to not clench your hole. As you begin to get your finger in more deeply, swirl it slowly in a clockwise or counterclockwise motion; essentially, you’re gently massaging the interior of your hole and very gently beginning to stretch out the sphincter.

If you can’t make it to two fingers this time, no worries - just enjoy the sensations and try again tomorrow. If you can, though, you can begin to slowly start spreading your fingers apart from each other while massaging - this will continue to gently stretch you out. Stop if you feel any sharp pains or more than a bit of stretched discomfort! Your hole is a beautiful treasure you must love and cherish and not harm.

If you want to try a small dildo (small! Small. This is important.) then you can do the same thing you did with your single fingers - rub, slowly push and SLIGHTLY insert, retreat, all the while reapplying lube if it ever feels even slightly dry and only going deeper as your ass begins to relax.

Remember, for now stick with slow swirling motions and gentle, very slow thrusts - more aggressive thrusts will come later after your ass gets used to relaxing.

This is your Beginning Ass Play 101.

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slave contract

OK this is long - but is possibly the most comprehensive I have ever seen. So realistic and takes into account the “real-life limitations” that so many don’t understand about slavery. Enjoy folks and send me your thoughts or comment it. Reblog too!

slave CONTRACT

The slave, through signing this contract, is binding itself totally and completely, without limit (except as explicitly defined herein, or in Appendix L – “Hard Limits”), irrevocably in servitude to Master. slave relinquishes all and both explicit and presumed rights, privileges, prerogatives and status to Master in order to become His property as a slave for Him to own and use as He sees fit.

slave’s Basic Role

(a) slave agrees to obey and submit completely to Master in all ways. There are no boundaries of place, time, or situation in which the slave may wilfully refuse to obey the directive of Master without risking punishment. This is with the exception of those situations defined below as “slave’s Veto”.

(b) slave agrees that, upon signing this slave Contract, it’s body, mind and soul belongs to it’s Master, to be used as He sees fit within the guidelines of this contract.

(d) slave understands that all that it has, and all that it does, shall now move from right to privilege, granted only as Master wishes, and only to the extent that He finds useful.

slave’s Safeword

(a) If slave feels that a situation has, or is imminently about to, cause permanent or damaging physical harm to the detriment of it’s long term health, slave may use the safeword “____________” to signify this. Master accepts the responsibility of assessing situations where slave uses the safeword and will, to the best of His ability, make judgment on whether to continue, modify or stop the current activity. slave will accept and uphold Master’s safeword decision. slave acknowledges that use of the safeword is not a guarantee that an activity will end but instead is a request for Master to pause for thought. slave accepts that it might endure punishment for impromper use of the safeword.

(b) No other safewords exist.

slave’s Veto

a) In accordance with conditions one through four outlined below, slave may veto a command given by Master and at that time refuse to obey that command. The veto only applies if:

1) The command conflicts with any existing law or may lead to fine or prosecution or other social defamation of slave, or

2) The command may cause extreme damage to slave’s life, such as losing it’s job or causing it’s family stress etc.

3) The command will cause serious psychological or physical trauma to slave.

4) The command is given when Master is under the influence of drugs and/or alcohol or any other mind-altering substance that leads slave to believe Master is not considering His actions with due concern for slave’s well-being.

slave’s Behaviour

(a) slave will willingly, freely and to the best of it’s ability, immediately obey any order as demanded by Master. This includes, but is not limited to, unspoken standing orders that Master has taught slave.

(b) slave will willingly, freely and to the best of it’s ability obey all rules set out by Master and live by them whether or not slave is in Master’s presence. All such rules will be kept in Appendix R (“Rules of slavery”) and will be recorded as acknowledged by slave by it initialling next to each rule.

© The rules by which slave must abide can be added to, or altered, at any time by Master and the new or amended rule applies from the moment Master issues it, irrespective of whether that rule has been added or amended to Appendix R and irrespective of whether slave has acknowledged that rule.

(d) slave will willingly, freely and to the best of it’s ability submit to any training or training methods that Master wishes to use or apply in order to help slave to better serve Him and meet His needs.

(e) slave will always be completely honest and truthful and will never lie to Master or omit to mention all facts, actions or inactions, breaches of this contract or appendices or failed responsibilities implicitly inherent upon it through this contract and associated appendices.

(f) slave will never make any excuses for any failures, or for any of its actions, inactions or breaches of this contract or the associated appendices.

(g) slave will show Master the utmost respect at all times and never cause Him any embarrassment. This includes in any discussions, actions or activities with third parties and applies whether Master is present or not.

(h) slave will always endeavour to improve itself physically and mentally to better serve Master.

(i) slave will always be available to serve Master when required except by prior agreement with Master, or for work or family emergencies. Following any emergency that prevents slave from serving Master then slave will, at Master’s convenience, present itself for any punishment deemed necessary.

(j) Master may, at His discretion, define rules requiring slave to seek permission to perform any and/or all independent actions such as making sounds, moving, bodily functions (urinating, defecating etc), eating, drinking and sleeping. Master may also choose to allow slave to perform any or all of these actions independently to avoid being bothered unnecessarily by slave’s base functions. Master will make it clear to slave when it has been placed under this kind of full and unlimited control and again He will make it clear when that has been relinquished.

(k) slave will strive diligently to re-mould it’s body, appearance, habits, and attitudes in accordance with Master’s desires. slave agrees to change it’s actions, speech, and attire to be more indicative of it’s owned state, under the direction of Master.

(l) slave will always speak of his Master in terms of love and respect, and address Him appropriately as “Master”, “Sir”, or however else as directed by Master. slave will never address any other person as “Master” but will use “Sir” or “Madam” as directed by Master.

(m) slave will seek to learn how to please Master better, and will gracefully accept any criticism given in whatever form Master chooses.

(n) slave renounces all rights to privacy or concealment, of any kind, from Master.

(o) slave will keep itself clean and scent free at all times.

(p) slave will not engage in malicious gossip or use insulting or demeaning language towards others.

(q) slave shall not reveal the terms of its slavery to anyone else, even if such slavery comes to an end at any time.

® slave shall not sit, lie on or use the furniture, in any way, without permission from Master.

(s) slave agrees to confess all of it’s desires and fetishes if requested to do so by Master, for His consideration.

(t) slave will answer truthfully and completely, to the best of it’s knowledge, any and all questions Master may ask of it. slave will volunteer any information that Master should know about it’s physical or emotional condition by respectfully requesting permission to “speak freely”. This request may be granted or denied at Master’s discretion.

(u) When in the same room as Master, slave will ask permission before leaving the room, explaining where it is planning to go and why. This includes, but is not limited to, asking permission to use the restroom.

(v) When in public, slave will stand and remain at Master’s side at all times and will never speak to others without permission.

slave’s Permanent Chores

(a) slave shall immediately start the oral servicing of Master’s Cock every morning as soon as it is released from it’s cage. This should be without any encouragement or command from Master.

(b) Upon Master’s arrival home, or at any other moment as demanded by Master, slave shall “present” by dropping onto all fours with it’s pussy pointed toward Master, back curved and forehead down against the floor. slave shall silently and covertly follow Master wherever He goes, repositioning itself to always have it’s pussy pointing towards Him. This will continue until Master acknowledges slave by issuing a new order or stating “continue”. slave will not rise from all fours until this time.

Cooking all meals including preparing food for Master while He is at work if required,

Cleaning including vacuuming, dusting, and maintaining the kitchen, bathrooms, etc.,

Ironing, laundry and dry cleaning,

Running errands and shopping,

(d) Chores do not apply if:

The slave is caged or somehow otherwise confined in such a manner that it is unable to physically complete assigned chores,

The slave has received leave from chores, given by Master alone, due to illness or work requirements.

slave’s Dress/Body/Appearance

(a) slave shall diligently maintain and adorn it’s body parts in such manner as will ensure that they are fully open and available to Master. slave’s body parts shall be able to be displayed in public or private, to others or to Him, when so ordered by Master.

(b) slave will only ever wear a simple, minimalist jock-strap when at home. This is in addition to any bondage or other adornments fitted to slave by Master. At times when slave has been ordered to be entirely naked, it must not return to wearing the jock-strap until ordered to do so.

(d) slave shall keep it’s hair, cut and style, as directed by Master.

Slave’s Time Off

(a) slave may request “time off” from Master but this must be approved by Him in advance. With the exception of work or family emergencies, slave can be recalled by Master at any time and slave will provide an estimated time of arrival back into service when it acknowledges the recall.

(b) Master will not unreasonably deny requests made by slave to visit it’s parents/relatives provided such requests are made with adequate notice.

© Under no circumstances shall Master force slave to cease communication with it’s parents or relatives. However, slave accepts that Master may decide on the appropriateness or otherwise of slave’s friends and as such may order slave to break contact with friends He does not approve of.

Master’s Role

(a) Master accepts the responsibility of slave’s body to do with as He sees fit. Master agrees to love, care for, protect, and cherish slave, and to arrange for the safety and well-being of it. Master also accepts the commitment to train, punish and use slave as He sees fit.

(b) Master shall keep slave physically fit and healthy.

(d) slave will retain control of it’s finances. it will pay a total monthly “tribute” of £ _______ to Master, which will cover slave’s contribution toward rent, food, bills etc. and also covers the required “appreciation tribute” to Master. slave will have no further financial burden other than this monthly £ _______ unless it wishes to make further expenditure.

(e) Master accepts that slave is a valuable possession and as such Master will keep slave safe at all times.

(f) Master will not instruct slave to perform any unsafe or illegal acts or anything that is listed in Appendix L “Hard Limits”.

(g) Master will, at His own discretion, allow slave limited but regular periods of “free speech” where slave will be permitted to freely express its thoughts without fear of retribution. slave will, however, remain entirely respectful to Master, but may ask for clarifications or express it’s concerns openly.

(h) Nothing Master shall request of slave shall cause it illness or physical permanent damage.

Punishment

(a) slave agrees to accept any punishment Master decides to inflict, whether earned or not.

(b) slave agrees that severe punishment may be required for any infraction of the letter or spirit of this slave Contract, and it will accept the correction gratefully. The form and extent of punishment shall be at Master’s discretion. He may also punish slave without reason, in order to please Himself. slave may cry, scream, or beg, but accepts that these expressions will not affect Master’s treatment. Furthermore, slave accepts that if Master tires of it’s noise, He may gag it or take other actions to silence it.

Rules of Punishment

(a) Punishment of the slave is subject to certain rules designed to protect the slave from intentional abuse or permanent bodily harm.

(b) Punishment must not incur permanent bodily harm, nor the following forms of abuse:

Blood may not be drawn at any time. Punishment must stop immediately if blood is drawn

Burning the body

Drastic loss of circulation

Causing internal bleeding

Loss of consciousness

© Withholding of any essential materials, such as food, water, or sunlight for extended periods of time will not occur. With the exception of water, the maximum amount of time that these essential materials will be withheld is two days. The availability of water will not be withheld for more than four hours.

Terms of Address

(a) When around “non-scene” members of the public, the terms “Master” and “slave” shall not be used by Master, slave or other people. In this situation slave should address Master using “Sir” unless instructed otherwise. Master and other people will address slave using any term other than “slave”.

(b) When around only those involved in the “scene” and at all times in private, slave shall address Master as “Master”. In this situation there is no limit to the terms of address that may be used by Master and other people to address slave.

© Written word – slave must ensure that it never capitalises a term of address relating to itself in written word. slave must also ensure that it always capitalises terms of address relating to Master in written word. This slave Contract follows this format. Master may choose whether or not to follow this format but will, nevertheless, always expect slave to do so.

Permanent Bodily Harm

(a) Since the body of slave now belongs to Master, it is His responsibility to protect slave from permanent bodily harm.

(b) Should slave ever come to permanent bodily harm during the course of punishment or in any other slavery related activity, whether by intention or accident, this contract will enter a state of unlimited suspension until such time when slave is ready to decide whether to re-enter slavery or be freed.

Death

Any damage that involves loss of mobility or function, including broken bones.

Any permanent marks on the skin, including scars, burns, or tattoos, unless such tattoos are accepted by slave.

Other People

(a) Slave may not seek any other Master or lover, or relate to others in any sexual or submissive way, either in "real”, “virtual” or “cyber” time, without Master’s express permission. To do so will be considered a severe breach of this slave Contract and will result in extreme punishment or slave Contract termination.

(b) slave agrees that Master possesses the right to determine whether others can use it’s body and to what extent such others may use it. slave has no say in the choice, volume or frequency of this use by others.

(d) The use of slave’s throat by others does not require a condom but, before ordering slave to service others, Master will ensure that slave’s mouth, throat, lips and surrounding areas are free of ulcers, cuts etc. that might put it at risk of infection.

Unsafe or Illegal Acts

(a) Master will not submit slave to any unsafe or illegal acts, sexual or otherwise, including scat, blood, needles, knives or other weapons or indecent exposure. This does not limit any oral use, pussy use (with a condom) or drinking urine but slave will not be ordered to perform any acts with women, children or animals.

Work and Family

(a) Master will not submit slave to any actions that may result in it losing or seriously impacting relationships with it’s family.

Alteration of slave Contract

(a) This slave Contract may not be altered, except when both Master and slave agree. If the slave Contract is altered, a new slave Contract must be printed and signed, and the old slave Contract must be destroyed.

Termination of slave Contract

(a) slave may not terminate this slave Contract unless the Master breaches any of the clauses contained herein, especially with regards to physical harm or endangerment of the slave.

(b) Master may terminate this slave Contract by providing slave with six months notice.

slave’s Signature

i have read and fully understand this slave Contract and Appendix L in its entirety. i am also aware of Appendix R and the requirement to remain fully knowledgeable in it’s content.

i hereby agree to be bound by the clauses and limits of this slave Contract between the two parties identified as Master and slave herein.

Furthermore i agree that this contract will be held by Master and in the event of conflict with any other versions held securely online or elsewhere then the version held by Master will be deemed to be the authoritative copy.

i agree to accept Master’s claim of ownership over my physical body, heart, soul, and mind. i understand that i will be commanded, trained and punished as a slave, and i promise to be true and to fulfil the pleasures and desires of my Master, and to serve Him to the best of my abilities. i understand that i cannot withdraw from this slave Contract except in the case my Master becomes mentally or physically ill, is incarcerated or breaches the terms and conditions of this slave Contract.

i certify that i am of legal age in the United Kingdom. i am legally and mentally able to sign this contract. i attest that i have no history of mental illness or any other condition which would impede me from submitting this document as a legally binding agreement. i have no other contracts that will conflict with this contract including power of attorney and i certify that i am signing this contract of my own free will.

Signed by, _______________________________

Dated _________________________.

Master’s Signature

I am of legal age in the United Kingdom. I am legally and mentally able to sign this contract. I attest that I have no history of mental illness or any other condition which would impede me from submitting this document as a legally binding agreement. I have no other contracts that will conflict with this contract including power of attorney and I certify that I am signing this contract of my own free will.

Signed by, _______________________________

Dated _________________________.

To be applied in conjunction with:

Appendix L

Appendix R

Appendix L – Hard Limits

To be completed by Master, at His discretion, after discussion with slave.

If nil, indicate “nil offered”.

To be acknowledged by slave by initialling, prior to contract signing.

Appendix R – Rules of slavery

To be created and amended as seen fit by Master, at his will.

All rules issued by Master apply immediately, even if not yet entered here. slave is expected to abide by all rules from the moment they are issued, whether written here or not, and whether acknowledged by slave’s initials or not.

slave may pencil in a new rule that Master has issued but not yet written for Master to then make permanent with pen or re-printing, at his convenience.

1) slave will never touch it’s genitals.

2) slave will never ejaculate in the traditional masculine manner. Fluid release is permitted only as a result of anal penetration, prostate stimulation or penile stimulation by Master, and only then when given permission by Master. slave will thank Master on every occasion it is allowed such fluid release.

3) slave will not use urinals but will always sit on the toilet for all functions. Where possible, Master will direct slave to use female toilets.

4) slave will not speak unless first spoken to.

5) slave will never interrupt anyone else when they are speaking.

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Tips on Fucking Doggy Style That Tops Often Don’t Tell Bottoms

Here are some tips on becoming a better bottom that the tops you have sex with may not tell you either out of a desire to not offend or because they get a thrill from telling others that we bottoms cannot handle their cock ;-)

SPREAD YOUR KNEES WIDE. The wider the bottom spreads his knees, the easier it will be while in doggy style. YES! If this is the first position he puts you in, use this trick to get used to his cock.

ARCH YOUR BACK. This will not only look sexier to him, but also make deep penetration easier and less painful.

PUSH YOUR ASS OUT. This shows the top you crave his cock in your ass. Once he is in, you can push back to the rhythm of his thrusts.

PLACE YOUR CHEST SQUARELY ON THE BED. There is a reason a top pushes your head in the pillow or the sheets. This helps arch your back and push your ass out. It’s visually stimulating, because the focus is now completely on the ass you have presented to the top. The symbolic submission is also a big turn-on to a dominant top.

RELAX YOUR ANAL SPHINCTER. Having adopted the position described in steps 1-4, you should now focus your mind on relaxing your anal sphincter. It may help to remember how you take a dump, because the muscular relaxation is identical. Steps 1-5 should, with practice, enable very deep penetration with little or no pain.

ALLOW DEEP PENETRATION. Once you’ve mastered the previous steps, you may let him spread his own legs wider than yours so he can get more directly above you to pump his cock down and deep, with his balls bouncing off your ass.

REACH FOR HIS BALLS. Many tops find this very arousing, because you are fondling the sacks that produce their sperm, affirming their manhood.

COMMUNICATE. Tell him how much you enjoy having his cock in you. Let him know if you like his scent. Ask him to go slow if you feel pain.

Additional tips may be appropriate to partners who thrive on domination and submission. In all cases, these should be within reason. Both partners must be comfortable with this. Experiment to see what works best.

LET HIM SPANK YOU. A lot of dominant men get turned on by slapping the asses they are fucking, and seeing those asses turn a rosy color.

LET HIM GRAB YOUR HAIR. Another turn-on for many dominant tops.

LET HIM HOLD YOUR NIPPLES OR MAN BOOBS. As he pumps his cock up your ass.

LET HIM CALL YOU NAMES THAT TURN HIM ON IN THE HEAT OF THE FUCK. “Bitch,” “cocksucker,” “fag,” etc. But only when used in a non-derogatory way. This is about breaking taboos (which are charged with emotional intensity) and letting both of you get aroused by embracing your (contrasting) inner natures.

LET HIM CALL YOUR HOLE A “PUSSY” OR “CUNT.” That is, after all, its functional equivalent.

SHOW HIM RESPECT. Be polite. Call him Sir. Thank him after a good fuck.

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Rules for a chastity slave

10 Commandments of Compulsory Chastity

 1. As your owner, owns every part of you he is entitled to determine which bits are used and when. Your owner therefore has the right to secure your genitals in any sort of chastity device of his choosing whenever he likes and for whatever period he likes.

 2. Your owner does not require any reason or justification to lock you in a chastity device. The fact that he wants to is reason enough. Whether you do or don’t want his to is irrelevant. You gave him the right to make the choice for you.

 3. You may not attempt to remove or circumvent any device with which you owner fits you. You are obliged to co-operate with your owner in the fitting of the device, help him in the securing of your genitals and draw his attention to any shortcomings in the functioning of the device so that he may ensure that it performs as he intends. An attempt to remove the device will and should be harshly punished.

4. You must keep yourself clean and well cared for so that the wearing of the device is not impeded on health grounds and you can continue to be locked up for as long as he wants. This includes submitting to prostate milking to keep you clean internally.

5. Your owner has locked up your genitals to deprive you of the ability to play with yourself, attain erection or orgasm. They are no longer for your pleasure: they’re for his. You’re wants and needs are no longer relevant.

If trying to get erect causes you discomfort, then don’t do it!

6. You are obliged to keep your owner informed of your experiences in wearing your device. You should look at and touch the locked up area regularly to remind yourself of what you used to be able to use and enjoy,

Which he has locked away from you. Let him know how that makes you feel. He enjoys hearing about your suffering. If he does not you will soon be fitted with a gag to stop your pathetic whining.

7. Your owner is entitled to tease you about your lack of ability to attain an erection or gain any satisfaction. He has taken it away from you and wants to enjoy his power over you. He can get satisfaction whenever he wants: you can’t. Tough. In future many of your duties will include giving him such pleasure, whether through your cunt hole or your mouth.

8. He probably finds your lock up amusing. You are not entitled to have your neutered status kept secret. He may decide to inform your friends, boss, or family as he see fit, or just random strangers in the street. If he wants to show off your condition, he can and will.

You are no longer a man, but a chastity bitch, you exist for his pleasure in whatever form he decides to take it in.

 9. Your owner is entitled to stimulate you by exposure to erotic material, direct contact or otherwise so that he can enjoy the fact you gain only discomfort, not pleasure from it. You Will never touch your unlocked pathetic excuse for a cock again, from now you will be bound with your arms behind your back when ever you are unlocked for cleaning or to shave off your pubic hair. You will already be shaving the rest of you hair off on your own, he does not want to waste his time shaving the rest of you this is your responsibility, Fail to keep up with this duty satisfactorily will result in the loss of your eyebrows on a 1st offence and a following offence will result in a loss of all hair any where. Fail a 3rd time and this status will be made permanent.

 10. You should take pleasure in the fact that your owner takes the time to control the use of his property and happy that it gives him some amusement. You should always thank him for securing you in chastity and let him know how grateful you are to have your genitals locked up under his control. You should always be happy if he decides to extend your time in chastity and tell him how much you would like to continue to be Locked and serve him. Ask your self do you want to be home alone sat in front of you computer jacking off alone, or down on your knee’s sucking his cock where you belong?

alphap88

Great rules!

Read up, subs.

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If you follow me, then you may know about my love of impact play. At MAL 2018 I got an opportunity to participate in a caning session for the first time.

Here’s to the @thescienceofsirsteve and his canes named after the deadly sins. Thank you! ❤️

Stay tuned for more posts from this session. 🐶

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