Aro and ace activism is housing reform, is well-funded public housing, is an expansion of affordable housing, is allowing single people to get affordable and public housing, is rent controls to make it possible for single people to be able to afford to live alone on a single salary.
Aro and ace activism is healthcare reform, so that no one needs to rely on a spouse for health insurance, so that healthcare is available to everybody regardless of income, so that no oneâs lived experiences or basic dignity are dismissed or overridden by doctors
Aro and ace activism is well-funded and expansive public transit, so that you donât need to have someone on hand to drive you places if you are incapacitated, so that you donât have to pay for an ambulance if you need to get to the hospital quickly
Aro and ace activism is disability and elder care services, so that no one needs a spouse to care for them, so that no one needs children to care for them, so that marriage is not a bind for disabled people, so that people on disability who want to and can live alone can
Aro and ace activism is community-building, itâs public events, itâs free social activities, itâs mutual aid, itâs activities that bring community members together without socializing relying on just a romantic partner
Aro and ace activism is developing a culture of believing when people tell you who they are and what they want rather than assuming you know them better than they know themselves
Aro and ace activism means a better world for people without ânormativeâ desires or ânormativeâ social support, which means a better world for everybody
#isn't this just aro activism? like op is right but this is like. about relationships
Quick question do you think ace people donât have a complicated relationship to relationships. Do you think ace people donât have a significant incentive to not tie basic quality of life things to having a partner and children. Do you think ace people are respected by doctors or society.
#fighting amatonormativity is primarily an aro thing but there is overlap because even alloromantic aces are affected by it!
Amatonormativity affects everyone.
Fighting amatonormativity is an everyone thing.
Making sure everyone can get healthcare regardless of if they have a family member (expected to be a spouse, if you are an adult) who can care for you when youâre ill or injured, can drive you to your doctorsâ appointments, who can pay for your medication and medical care when you canât work, is disability activism. The fact that we have woefully inadequate infrastructure for most of that because your spouse or romantic partner is expected to provide it is, among other thing, amatonormativity.
Untying basic rights in finances, healthcare, housing, immigration, and hospital visitation from marriage so that those tights canât be taken away if gay marriage is restricted is gay activism. The fact that these rights are tied to marriage in the first place is amatonormativity.
Untying these things from marriage is also polyamorous activism, so in a poly relationship youâre not left with one partner who gets full rights and another partner who does not. It is activism for anyone with any kind of intimate relationship with more than one non-blood-related person. (Hell, itâs activism for people who have a spouse and a sibling all part of the same household.) The fact that marriage, the only taken-seriously relationship you can legally form between individuals as adults, is between two non-blood-related people in a romantic relationship and no other options, is amatonormativity.
Making it easier to survive on your own without a familial support system is queer activism, for all the queer people who donât have those support systems! And the fact that your spouse is supposed to be your entire support system as an adult is amatonormativity.
Making it so elderly people who donât have a spouse or children can still get care when they can no longer take care of themselves is elder activism. The fact that your spouse and children are supposed to be the ones who handle that and if you donât have any then fuck you I guess, is amatonormativity.
Making it possible for a woman to leave her abusive husband, and not lose everything, to live on her own, maybe with her children, and have a place to live and money to live on and infrastructure to support her living without a spouse, is just about the most basic feminist activism that there is. And the fact that society is structured such that staying in an abusive relationship can look like a better option than trying to leave is because ofâimagine it!âamatonormativity!
You also just⌠donât need to be aro to be single. Plenty of single people are not aromantic and they deserve to have a house and healthcare too.
I really, really wish people would stop acting like amatonormativity is a niche aro issue that doesnât really matter because it only affects aros. (Also wish people would stop acting like aros are not ace and aces are not aro and ace people have no reason to have an opinion on amatonormativity because it just doesnât affect them.)(Amatonormativity affects everybody.)
