“And when I’d fight, you used to tell me I was brave”
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“And when I’d fight, you used to tell me I was brave”
Sometimes self-care is, actually, NOT getting onto the computer and little treats and watching youtube videos. Sometimes those things are self-care, but sometimes they're also avoidant behaviors.
Sometimes self care is waking up and just. Fucking getting in the car. And driving to the bank. And the store. And buying the cat litter. And changing the cat boxes you've been avoiding because your brains been stuck in a hole. And picking up the trash you've been piling up. And getting a load into the wash. And mowing the lawn before the village council sends you a formal complaint and potential-fines warning.
Like its hard and annoying to do because it sucks. It sucks so much. But if I don't start working on this pile of bullshit I've let build up because it stinks and i was stuck in deer-in-headlights mode, I risk letting it turn into fuckery. I do not have the patience for fuckery that I once - foolishly! - thought I had.
This mentality helped me so much. Framing my "chores" and mundane tasks as self care and something I can do for myself, really helped me. On a good day I feel like I can genuinely enjoy basic to-dos because I get something nice for myself afterwards, even if that nice thing is just a better living environment. And sometimes it's still too hard, and that's okay too.
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So someone pointed out to me recently that in a few years, maybe a few decades, the history of the us during covid is probably going to get twisted. The fact that we all had to make and wear cloth masks is going to be hailed as a symbol of how we “"came together as a nation”“” or whatever the fuck propaganda spin they try to put on it.
So I just want to say, for the record, the time of the corona virus pandemic was not a time when america came together.
This was a time when people hoarded toilet paper and sanitizing supplies either for themselves or to sell at absurd prices to the desperate people who didn’t get to the store soon enough during the shortages
This was a time when scared parents were sending their kids to finish school in the spring in plastic trash bags because they couldn’t think of any other way to possibly keep their families safe
This was a time when grocery store and retail and service workers were forced to keep working whether they wanted to risk their health or not because they couldn’t make rent otherwise and the people with enough privilege to have remote jobs tried to repay them with applause instead of fair wages
This was a time when nurses had the hold the hands of multiple dying people every day as their families watched their loved ones die over a video call because the hospital couldn’t risk having visitors
This was a time when city governments had to handle so many eviction hearings that they rented out convention centers and called in the national guard instead of doing a rent freeze to stop predatory landlords
This was a time when racism and police brutality were so unbearably horrible that people protested in the streets for months even though there was a god damn pandemic that our federal government wasn’t doing shit to stop and the cops were so mad that they were being asked to stop beating up black people that they were beating up everyone
This was a time when schools being forced to reopen in the fall or lose their federal funding had to draft templates for letters if a teacher or a staff person or a fucking child died from exposure to corona at school
This was a time when the president of the United states demanded that the cdc stop releasing data about all the people who were dying because of the warnings he ignored for months were making him look bad
This was a time when some state governments didn’t mandate masks and forced businesses to reopen because they didn’t want to pay unemployment to people trying to stay safe at home anymore
This was a time when Jeff Bezos was on track to be a fucking trillionare because everyone was ordering things on amazon instead of going to the store and the people he worked to death to get it didn’t see a single cent of it
This was a time when instead of providing homeless people with housing, we painted boxes on the ground to show homeless people how far away the had to be on the street to maintain social distancing
We did not come together to make cloth masks. Cloth masks represent nothing less than the absolute and utter failure of a nation’s government to inform and protect its citizens
This was not a time when we came together. This was a time when we survived, and not all of us made it.
This was a time when people casually talked about how many human lives the economy was worth without considering the evil that had just come out of their mouths.
This was a time when thousands of us died for profit and the ego of a cheating narcissists con man who scammed his way into the white house
This was a time that we survived. Most of us tried to do the right thing, stay home, limit trips to the store and socializing, wear a mask. And still, so many of us were lost. Thousands every day.
But that wasn’t a good enough reason for some people, for those among us who were too selfish to recognize the responsibilities we have toward one another as human beings.
This was not a time that we came together
This was a time that we survived
Not all of us made it
And those of us who did survive will never forget the evil we saw daily in our politicians and those around us
To all the people commenting on this post that there were some groups of people who came together to help each other, you are right, but that’s not what I’m talking about in this post.
What I’m talking about is how the US government is going to use coming together over cloth masks as propaganda to hide how they failed their citizens in the worst way possible.
People DID come together and show up for each other but the US and many state governments absolutely did fucking not
Also and not to derail from the very important point that we CANNOT let the government turn the history of Covid into pro-American-government propaganda, of course but Also, let’s not forget that there were an awful lot of Americans who did NOT come together to help anyone at all. Let’s not let the anti-maskers and anti-vaxxers off the hook. Let’s not let the people who held or willingly attended superspreader events off the hook. Let’s not let landlords who evicted tenants/tried to evict tenants/hassled tenants about rent off the hook. Let’s not let the “It has a 99% survival rate and most of that 1% who dies is old people or people with chronic health conditions” off the hook. And so on and so on, I’m sure others can add more examples if they want. Let’s not forget the complete and utter failure of basic human compassion and altruism in huge swathes of the population across the country. This isn’t a blue vs. red, urban vs. rural, north vs. south, east vs. west, coast vs. heartland issue. this is a basic failure of American culture across the board. We need to remember that in one of our darkest hours, tons of people looked around themselves and decided that their own convenience and comfort was more important than the health and safety of their neighbors. And we need to learn to do better.
I have finally learned that non-Autistic people only expect a very limited amount of information to be transferred to them at a time. If you try to explain something to them in too much detail or add too much background info, they get overwhelmed in processing it, and they don't know which details are important to parse, and so they get frustrated with you for bombarding them, or they don't listen and miss out on what's important. This isn't them being any less intelligent or caring than anyone else, by the way, it is just a processing difference. And so while it may feel unnatural at first, I have learned that if I want a non-Autistic-seeming person to understand me, I should give them less information and let them color in between the lines. It keeps their mind engaged and keeps them from becoming upset!
I just pick the most OBVIOUSLY important information ("pick me up at the drive thru"), without any of the background or the "why" behind it (the bus broke down and it was raining so i'm under the awning at the drive thru to stay dry) , and I don't worry whether they understand it fully, because they actually do not want all that extraneous information.
hilariously the place where i finally mastered this was on Grindr. I used to explain to people at length my preferences, dysphoria triggers, specifics of where and when we could meet and why my schedule was what it was...and I rapidly figured out that it's much more effective to just tell someone the bare minimum of what you are looking for and where you currently are. and only get into anything deeper if the situation warrants it.
When I talk to an Autistic, conversely, I let the information flow freely because I know it will be helpful to them, and because it's fun to get to be very didactic and precise, too
Also, in my experience, they generally like it if you pause after important points and let them say something/ask a question
#it is nice to be able to turn to listening mode and stay in that mode while someone talks at length#it requires a lot less energy input than say back and forth short speaking lengths#where one is repeatedly having to switch back and forth between active and passive conversational modes#not to mention having to scan the situation for signs that you are expected to switch modes
so true. "active listening mode" is a hard core masking mode
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A new Harvard analysis finds people across income levels got squeezed by rent hikes during the pandemic. The market has lost millions of low
Admittedly, when I first saw this headline, my immediate thought was, "yeah, no shit," but it's good to have studies giving hard numbers. It also makes me feel a little better, weirdly, because at least our struggles with rent aren't just because we suck at money or something. It's the system, not the individual.
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My son once came back from a record shop visit with his uncle and with wide eyes and excited smile presented me with a cassette tape. “Look what I found!” As though he’d unearthed ancient pottery at a dig sight.
I love it. I love when my kids discover something that I take for granted. I hear songs with new ears because they are in a state of wonder. My son played me “Paint it Black” the other day, I’m like yeah Rolling Stones so what? And then I see his face and that LOOK like he just discovered sunsets and he’s like yeah but listen to this part, listen to the guitar right here - and I hear a song anew. Like watching a puppy see a bird for the first time, and oh oh right yeah birds are fucking amazing, forgot about that.
#finally a comment that doesn’t have disdain for kids discovering old things #isn’t it cool that someone didn’t know Queen and they got to hear it for the first time? #isn’t it cool to witness that excitement?
I think this is largely why “react” channels on YouTube have become so popular. Watching someone experience something you love for the first time is exciting. Rediscovering that thing through their eyes is also exciting.
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you know what’s a good feeling? a real good feeling?
when sunbeams do this.
that is all.
At least do the sky puppies right.
This!!!
Also, agave nectar as a sweetner is absolutely trashing the ecosystem where the plants grow, throwing other plant species, mammals and insects out of whack in order to meet rising demands.
If you are trying to cut sugar or go vegan to help the environment, stay away from agave, it's a disaster.
Honey, actual farmed honey, from honey bees, is more eco-friendly than agave, sugar beet, or sugar cane. And, contrary to popular belief, properly managed hives don't actually change the bees' lives from what they would be doing in the wild anyway.
Please be kind to our mouse dragons, we need them so much (and they are so fucking cute).
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Spirit Animal is racist.
Patronus was invented by a transphobe.
I think it’s time we all suck it up and say what we mean: fursona.
I know this is a jokey post (rip OPs notes) but a fursona is typically an animal REPRESENTATION of YOURSELF, not an external animal that is strongly meaningful to you and your life/journey.
I've seen daemon and familiar proposed, but to keep in line with the cursedness of the original post, may I suggest: spiritual tamagotchi
do you have any idea how refreshing it is to see a correction/suggestion to this post that actually understands the assignment
Pokemon. Is a pokemon.
“I love Danny Devito. Danny Devito is my starter pokemon”
oh yeah that’s good. that’s really good.
i have the opposite of that “everyone is an npc” mentality people have embraced where i’m instead like. the person next to me in line has someone they can’t wait to go home to, the person picking up their mail has felt devastation before, everyone in this grocery store is doing their sunday shopping, maybe the person that just honked at me is having the worst day of their life, my neighbor has doctors appointments and favorite foods and a song they can’t stand to hear anymore… you are all fully realized complex people and that is overwhelming me on a spiritual level…
This - this is actual truth. Each person is a universe.