Dramatic and Theatric

Adult, Early Twenties.

[teathattast]

Happy Pride!

[theterminalskeptic]

There's the victim, the aggressor, and the savior. The victim is the cis white woman and cis white children, the savior is the cis white man, the aggressor is whatever minority group you want dead.

[galactic-mayhem]

saw this on pinterest but i think it belongs here too

[iceeericeee]

arguing w/ my brother and I needed to make this

Reblog if you think ‘transmasc lesbian’ is a valid identity

I’ll show him the number of notes after about a week or so

[theterminalskeptic]

I know many folk who see anti transmasculinity as simply "infantilization" which is why I'm ever so grateful for the term transandrophobia. I grew up very androgynous and gender ambiguous, something I'm still unpacking to this day, and I'm often treated like a predator and hyper aggressive.

It's to the point where I was assaulted repeatedly by a woman and she ended up turning it on me claiming I was spreading lies and harassing her when I was speaking out and starting to go out to events again.

I'm terrified of hurting people, I'm terrified of topping or being dominant, and becoming the very picture of what everyone already seems to believe me to be.

[theterminalskeptic]

People can say that I'm not being punished for transitioning but the shit you say about transgender men you don't say about cisgender women so I'm starting to think I am being punished for transitioning.

[theterminalskeptic]

The reason transgender men are very upset at the idea of being called simply "men" is the same way you can't say "masculinity" when referring to female masculinity.

"Masculinity is always rewarded" Incorrect, women are encouraged to be feminine, not masculine, female masculinity is a marginalized version of masculinity.

We live in an incredibly cissexist world where "man" as a term has a subtext of "cisgender" meaning the context of discussion being a transgender man is important and incredibly relevant.

[theterminalskeptic]

I see a decent amount of posts by trans women and transfems who may be resistant to the idea of transandrophobia or anti-transmasculinity and my understanding is maybe they're under the impression support is a limited resource? Or that transmisogyny loses it's meaning when it's brought up that trans men also have a unique experience? But honestly I think transmisogyny further confirms the existence of transandrophobia and anti transmasculinity.

Trans women and transfems or those who experience transmisogynistic violence and harassment are targeted in a unique way indicates that transgender men and non-binary folk may each have experiences that differ as well.

[ftmtftm]

I just think every trans person who has come out as an adult needs to spend more time thinking about the experiences of people who came out as trans as youths and the ways in which trans youths are subjected to gendered violence for trying to come out in ways that trans adults literally never are because children and youths are treated like property.

[theterminalskeptic]

My first time with a girl as a teenage asexual lesbian was a girl saying she was horny for me and I ruined the moment laughing and accusing her of making up the word. I said it sounds like the word hornet. Suffice to say it was a false alarm and I can tell you right now I haven't much improved.

[theterminalskeptic]

This actually was the start of a mission I have where whenever I enter any kind of situation where sexual intercourse may occur I take it as a challenge to ruin the moment with my bullshit. You ever grab your boobs and go "honk honk?"

[theterminalskeptic]

My first time with a girl as a teenage asexual lesbian was a girl saying she was horny for me and I ruined the moment laughing and accusing her of making up the word. I said it sounds like the word hornet. Suffice to say it was a false alarm and I can tell you right now I haven't much improved.

[theterminalskeptic]

I don't know if any aromantic and or asexual people relate to this but growing up I thought romantic things like kissing or even making out was a fucking weird thing to do.

Same with sexual intercourse. And the word "horny" it reminds me of the word "hornets" what do you mean you're hornets????

There are allosexual or alloromantic people who feel like being aroace is such a curse and all I'm thinking is how weird sex is and how silly it seems when you aren't all that into the concept.

[theterminalskeptic]

It wasn't until I was into my late teens that I discovered that places hung pride flags outside of their homes and establishments. I had never seen it before. It was a life changing experience after being stuck in my conservative town for years before then.

[ethanmaldridge]

The horrors persist, but so does Pride

[theterminalskeptic]

Transmasc/FTM/Trans Man Chasers

I notice a lot of times when we discuss trans man or transmasc chasers they aren't even recognized as chasers a lot of the time.

The transmasc, trans man, even often the enby/enban are treated like they're misgendering themselves to get in a specific cisgender man's pants.

People can even envy the fact that these trans folk are dating specific chasers, especially the bulk of them, who are cisgender women and cisgender men.

Cisgender women will make entire blogs, tiktoks whatever, about their transgender partners and people will eat it up without asking why her entire post content is about having a trans partner they sexualize or "accept."

I've even seen people legitimately joke about transmascs in relationships with cisgender men, speculating about whether these men actually respect them and they laugh about it? I mean the amount of times i've seen people talk about how transmascs/FTM/Trans men are subtext: "stupid girls who want to be gay men so bad." I'VE MET GAY MEN WHO JOKE ABOUT THIS WITH MEMES THAT CONTAIN CARICATURES OR SOME UNREALISTIC PICTURE OF A CHARACTER THAT'S OTHERWISE KNOWN AS A CISGENDER WOMAN KNOWN FOR HER SEX APPEAL?????

The transmasc/ftm/ trans male chasers are literally right under our noses we just don't take them as seriously as we should to be honest.

[theterminalskeptic]

Stop Comparing T4T to Sexuality4Sexuality

Transgender 4 Transgender, Transsexual 4 Transsexual, Trans 4 Trans, whatever you may call it or be your preferences stop including transgender identities and transgender relationships to queer sexuality politics when it doesn't need to be. We're not here to legitimize your dating preferences.

A lot of times trans individuals are seen as less attractive and dateable across the board. Dating is difficult, especially if you don't disclose immediately there is risk of dealing with violence from angry cisgender people who feel entitled to knowing every personal detail about you on a first date.

Cisgender people have privilege over transgender individuals full stop, that's fairly obvious. Transgender 4 Transgender isn't a guarantee for safety, but it's often safer, there isn't anything morally better or worse about being t4t or t4c, there are risks being a marginalized person dating at all.

Sexuality4Sexuality preferences don't exist in the same way, unless we're talking about a cis bisexual man or cis bisexual woman open to dating cis women or cis men respectively, wanting to date another queer person over a cisgender heterosexual woman or a cisgender heterosexual man makes sense, there's a preference to date other queer people.

les4les does not exist in the same way, neither has bi4bi in a same sex/gender nature. Lesbians have a variety of different experiences as well as bisexuals. Lesbians can, down the line, find interest in men or experience a sexuality shift, it's not guaranteed they won't leave you for a man. Bisexuals can date mostly the same sex, mostly the opposite sex, anything in between, there is such a wide variety of bisexual experiences. There is no guarantee that bisexuals won't become lesbians or may happen to only date the same gender/sex.

I hear a lot of lesbians express that not liking men was hard for them to figure out, and not to say it can't be, this was never an issue for me when I was a lesbian. Not liking men was not ever a big deal, until other lesbians, bisexuals, queer people in general insisted I MUST like cisgender men because of how they perceived me, having your sexuality challenged all the time sucks, and this can be a universal experience across identities.

How you are perceived in a relationship varies, when I was feminine with other feminine girls, we were assumed to be friends, when I was more masculine dating girls, since I was seen as a tomboy, we were seen more as queer and the queerphobia but it's very dependent on outside perception which varies.

Now you can do whatever you want but the lesbian vs bisexual discourse in the sapphic sphere has a problem tokenizing transgender people and trans identities and here's my plea to stop.

I understand there are transgender people who make such comparisons engaging but frankly as much as I disagree with them they're sharing their own experiences, I just wish the cis sapphics didn't do it and tokenize those folk.

At the end of the day you'll do whatever you want and I'm not here to harass you about it I'm just really sharing my perspective as someone who is openly clocked as trans on the regular gazing on the hell of these debates, and my personal thoughts boil down to is you're all cisgender queers doing cisgender queer things.

I frankly think neither lesbians or bisexuals are more privileged than the other and it can be more complex and individual than it's made out to be and everyone is way too fixated on men when talking about sapphicism but that's just me.