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[transmascrage]

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#transmasc hairdresser tales -> stories of the high and lows of haircuts and cisgender hairstylists;

#non/transmed experiences -> first-hand accounts of people who were transmeds at some point, and those who never were;

Transandrophobic caricatures, "transtrenders", and fatphobia;

Lou Sullivan wanted there to be a support network for trans men after his death, and we owe it to him;

Transmasc erasure hurts transfems too;

Infantilization, specifically that of Elliot Page;

It's 4%, not 40%;

By the way, you should read "Becoming a Visible Man";

The Clothing Industry and Men;

Some historical (probably) trans men and transmascs you may not have heard of;

Relationship with pronouns in different languages;

The Rose of Versailles Trans Representation;

Trans men and transmasculine people, victims of domestic violence;

[genderkoolaid]

also the thing about "we need to focus on the people most vulnerable, and transmascs may be vulnerable but not more than trans women!" is that it doesn't consider transmasc erasure as an active force.

its a take from the perspective that trans men are "vulnerable" is some vague abstract generalized way, not in a way which would behoove anyone to adjust their behavior or take action on their behalf. its the erasure of erasure; the assumption is that trans men probably have enough resources and support anyways, which could not be farther from the truth. some local communities may have more transmasc-focused resources, but many others do not. transmasculine people are left out of vital conversations, are excluded from vital resources, are ignored and forgotten when they are abused and killed.

it treats transmasc erasure as something which is passive in itself and which can be solved passively. which is erasure itself in action. i do not really give a fuck about "who has it worse," it is not about that. it is about the fact that if YOU do not make an ACTIVE EFFORT to advocate for transmascs, to make transmasc suffering and oppression visible and legible, it will not happen. it simply will not happen.

erasure is an active force. we all internalize transmasculine erasure and we can all easily contribute to it; we are expected to contribute to it. trans men&mascs cannot afford the model of "well we only need to raise awareness for the most vulnerable" because our vulnerability is defined by being ignored.

this is why unlearning anti transmasculinity has to start from (un)learning erasure. once you start to see it as an active force/tool of the patriarchy you realize it is the lynchpin that holds so much (especially intercommunity) anti-transmasculinity together. transmaculine absence is so normalized people experience our presence as an intrusion, and people genuinely do not understand why we would ever need to be more visible than we are. it is fucking everywhere.

[genderkoolaid]

like idk i remember reading about a trans man in India who, after he came out to his family, was literally locked in a room in their house. just shut up in a basement somewhere, out of sight and out of mind, until he managed to escape (and even then, there's also a trans man in India whose parents sent the police to track him down and kidnap him from a shelter meant specifically for trans people).

or trans men like Sophie Lederer, who was only 19 when he was arrested for "talking silly and claiming to be a boy" in the early 20th century, and the only other thing I know about him is that he spent the rest of his life, over a decade, institutionalized for his transmasculinity. god only fucking knows what was done to him in those years by his wardens.

that is the image of transmasculine erasure. it is boys and men locked in closets and basements and prison cells disguised as hospital rooms for years until they are dead and buried as women. if they even get a headstone at all. it is dead-eyed mothers with three children who have no income or job experience and are married to a cis man ten years older than them who they know would kill them, and possibly their children, if they even mentioned being trans. if you think of transmasc erasure or "invisibility" and imagine a white cis-passing guy working stealth at his office job, congrats! transmasculine erasure is already living like a fungus in your mind. i am trying to make you feel the horror the patriarchy has trained you out of feeling about the state of transmasculine oppression.

[genderkoolaid]

#Robert Eads died a preventable death from ovarian cancer because no gynecologist would see him#They refused to have him in his clinic because they werent familiar with trans men and because it “would reflect badly on the practice”#By the time he was finally seen the cancer had metasticized and it was too late.#Transmasculine erasure kills#and it's still happening TO THIS DAY.#There is very little difference now than there was 30 years ago.#The other day i watched a video from a trans man who called at least 30 different gynecology clinics#before he found one that wouldn't be weird and cagey and discriminatory against trans men.#All to get a pap smear. A routine examination to screen for cervical cancer.

[lurkingtman]

It's baffling how normalized it is to be casually transphobic to trans men and transmasculine people

[mothcrumbs]

happy pride month to intersex people!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[tboy-cock]

happy pride to trans men btw🏳️‍⚧️🏳️‍⚧️

[rivertheartist]

I bring a sort of "all the stereotypes surrounding trans men are based on kids who never made it to their twenties" vibe to the function that people who call us childish find rather off-putting.

[riv3rboychaos]

"trans men are privileged over trans women because they earn 10 cents more" yeah and trans women cannot be forcibly impregnated or impacted by abortion bans and have lower sa rates than trans men but you dont see me yapping about how trans women are the ultimate oppressors

[nonbinary-wrath-month]

Conservative misogynists: Women are dumb and irritating. Their brains are poisoned by their hormones. The art they make is shallow and silly, their political theory is not worth taking seriously, and they're constantly whining and being drama queens about their stupid problems. They need to shut up and realise they don't belong in leadership positions.

Leftist "transfeminists" (so-called): Trans people AFAB are dumb and irritating. Their brains are poisoned by their hormones. The art they make is shallow and silly, their political theory is not worth taking seriously, and they're constantly whining and being drama queens about their stupid problems. They need to shut up and realise they shouldn't be leading our movement.

It's a match made in heaven! I ship it ❤️

[molartplusotherstuff]

if you think saying "trans men have gynecological body parts and are thus are affected by misogyny" is equal to saying "all trans men are actually women" then sweetheart you might be a bioessentialist

[useless-stray]

ughh i hate trans men because they’re men! never mind that i treat them completely differently to cis men or that i casually infantilize them and insult them using specifically very stereotypically gendered insults like bitch or cunt. sigh, men ammiright

[waterlilyworld]

pro tip: you ever see someone, anyone, making reference to trans men having short heights or small sized bodies or small genitalia even, that is immediately your sign that that person is deeply hateful and should no longer be given the benefit of the doubt or engaged with. 

there is this odd sort of plausible deniability that is happening these days because references to things that make trans men physically dysphoric is not widely seen as an issue, (because if we take issue with it we are just upset about being ‘emasculated’ and are not trans people with dysphoria. obviously.) and that leads to people talking about us in explicitly transphobic ways with minimal to zero push back. 

if someone was constantly referring to the large height and size of trans women in disparaging or fetishistic ways i’d hope you’d be able to clock how fucking weird and transphobic that was, and this is no different.

[transmasc-theory]

Why are so many of you on this site more willing to align yourselves with cis male MRAs than with transmasc feminists, while calling yourselves "transfeminists"?

You eat up all their talking points. You say that pedophiles aren't real and age of consent laws are wrong. You fearmonger about babytrapping in response to people with uteruses who are afraid of dying due to abortion bans, and then call those things equivalent. You equate circumcision with FGM. (I am against both, but the former is NOT equivalent to the latter). You insult trans men with slurs referring to their genitals and call them bitches and cunts. You fearmonger about "men" who are "invading women's spaces," except instead of trans women, you mean trans men.

You aren't acting like trans feminists, or any kind of feminists at all. You're acting like MRAs. Why are you doing this? You aren't transfeminists. You aren't pro-anything, even pro-trans woman. You're solely anti-trans man.

[transmasc-theory]

I will not apologize for talking about transmasc issues exclusively. You are free to apply my posts to all groups of trans people, as transmasc issues have overlap, but trying to guilt-trip me for making posts about trans men and not trans women is a non starter.

[perverted-asexual]

Every day tumblr users get closer and closer to saying you can only be trans in a god honouring way.

[a-polite-melody]

And it’s people claiming trans men deserve a word to speak on our oppression who are the reactionary ones? Hm…

[queer-as-city-folk]

If anyone has a right to call people out on this, it's fucking Joan Baez, she was at the forefront of activism in the 60s and marched arm in arm with MLK

[riv3rboychaos]

shut the fuck up. shut the actual fuck up. is this person genuinely fucking stupid.

i remember the first time i bought any clothes from the "mens" section a couple of years back. i remember growing up begging my parents to let me buy the "boys" version of whatever we were buying. i remember swapping the little pink or blue based on what gender you are bags from birthday parties and shit with the little boy in my primary school who preferred the colour pink because i felt uncomfortable being labelled as a girl before i even knew what a trans person was. i remember wondering around the "boys" section in shops and telling strangers who would look at me funny i was "shopping for my little brother" even though i was actually looking at what i would want if i was allowed it. i still wish my parents would let me buy stuff from the "mens" section when im out with them instead of having to wait until i can go back to the shop alone. i miss the period of about a month when i had a binder that vaguely fit me that was a friend's old binder and i wont be able to get another one until i move out. i fucking miss being able to be comfortable in my own skin and i only got a taste of it for a month. i remember being in primary school and wishing i could be on the boys team when we would be split into boys vs girls for activities despite not knowing what that meant about me. i learnt about misogyny and then thought that me wanting to be seen as a boy was misogynistic and hating myself sometimes for it to the point where i suppressed it until i met another trans man and realised "oh maybe this doesn't mean im misogynistic it just means I'm not a girl". i remember begging my parents to let me keep the same duvet cover on my bed for as long as theyd let me because i had two duvet covers and one was a pretty pink princess one that said "sweet dreams princess" and the other one was (still 'girly' but less so) pastel elephants and spots and i didn't want to sleep in a bed with the word princess on it. i remember making sure i wouldnt have the princess sheets on whenever a friend came round so that they wouldn't see me as a princess. i remember about two years ago being so happy when my parents decided that i was too old for either of those duvet covers anymore and getting a red tartan fleecy sheet which is snuggly and less 'girly'. i remember even as a child hating summer because it meant i had to stop wearing baggy jumpers and cardigans and go back to t-shirts. i still hate summer because of this and literally the second its cool enough to put a jumper back on i do so. i remember buying the baggy shorts im wearing while writing this last summer and trying them on in the shops changing room and making my mum take me to the bathroom in the shopping centre immediately after buying them so i could change into them because i liked wearing them so much better than the skinny jeans a friend had given to me because they "thought it would help me be more fashionable". i remember going to a country for medical reasons) and it being so hot and me not being prepared for heat (i only had black trousers) so we had to buy shorts and my parents trying to get me to look in the women's section but not wanting to and keeping wondering over to the mens aisle because that was were the only pair of shorts that was long enough for me to be comfortable wearing them were (i hate showing my legs because people often say they "look feminine"). i remember first realising there was a trousers version of my school uniform and begging my mother for a full year to get it for me and being so so happy when i finally got it

so yeah actually trans people who aren't trans women or transfem probably do know the feeling of wearing clothes that "match" your gender presentation

if you genuinely think this shit then im sorry but you're fucking delusional and shouldn't be allowed to say anything about trans men and transmasc's experiences until you learn that this shit is fucking delusional to say

[not100bees]

They should invent a method of asking for reassurance that nobody secretly hates you that doesn't make people secretly hate you.

[god-monsterr]

this reply deserves to be here.