Commie Queer Gardner

Worst pear out there. trans man, he/ him, 21, 🇵🇱 Osteoarthritis please give me a break sometimes. Heroin addiction survivor, chronic struggler.

[i-am-a-fish]

I'm very sorry to ask something like this, I've really been struggling with this question, and I wanted to ask the combined wisdom of the people on this site

I would like to know why you keep going, and what drives you to keep living. I know there are a lot of reasons to stay alive and enjoy life, I can think of a few that personally resonate with me, but I really want to know what your reasons are

You do not have to comment on this if that's too big of an ask, and I'm very sorry for asking something like this, I really need someone's help, I feel like I don't have much purpose

Also if I may ask, please don't post any suicidal ideation in the comments of this post, I really can't handle something like that right now

[theworstpear]

The pure dread that comes with losing a loved one. Unfortunately have lost many people from my life, and there's nothing that really fills the void you're left with after they're gone.

Also, remind yourself of that time your SO kissed and smooched your face all over and you couldn't stop giggling. That time you were with your friends after smoking way too much and rolling on the floor laughing because you saw the apparition of Jhon Lennon in one of your faces. That time you took a hike with your lover (although you both dislike hiking) and upon making it to the end of the trail saw such a beautiful view it made you feel small in comparison.

Also, the vision of being old. Really. I can't stress this enough, if you are trans or queer in any way, please, please, please keep going. The kids of your siblings, your cousins, all the young people that are and will be in your life deserve a queer grandparent/ uncle or aunt/ relative in general. We have to be here, to tell our stories, to destigmatize, just to prove we can.

Just look!! There's so many places you haven't seen, not even talking about the ones thousands of kilometers away, the ones right next to you!! The cats? The dogs? The food? You still have so much to experience.

I lost a very close friend in a car accident very recently, not my first loss. And right now, well, you just have to keep living, because they can't. I've known so many people way more ambitious than me, and after they're gone their goals sort of dissappear, unfinished. Just experiencing is a treasure we don't think about, especially when you have chronic issues, depression, etc.

Find a job that's not dreadful, get a place that's not too expensive (all of them are though), schedule yourself some mandatory break time. You'll find that you're not an always tired husk of a person, it's just the system that chewed you up

[maive-the-sheep]

I'm so tired of assimilationists.

I'm so tired of furries hating therians to try to be accepted

I'm so tired of gays pushing for hatred of trans to be accepted

I'm so tired of binary trans pushing for hatred of non binary or other side of binary to be accepted. Or against intersex

I'm so tired of vanilla lgbt hating kinksters to be accepted

I'm so tired of "mainstream kinksters" hating more extreme or wild or controversial

I'm so tired of monogamous lgbt hating poly

I'm so tired of lgbt hating aro

I'm so tired of anti endo hate

I'm so tired of autistic hating schizophrenia and aspd and npd

I'm so tired of assimilation, and I would despise being assimilated

I want liberation for all

[a-book-dragon]

You don't have a male or female brain – the more brains scientists study, the weaker the evidence for sex differences

Rather than distinctly male or female, the human brain is much more like the heart, kidneys and lungs – basically the same no matter the sex of the body it's in.

rb to make a biological essentialist mad <3

[liminalweirdo]

“This collapse is a telltale sign of a problem known as publication bias. Small, early studies which found a significant sex difference were likelier to get published than research finding no male-female brain difference.”

[mckitterick]

the notes on this are toxic - to help clear up any misunderstanding, here’s the actual science paper:

Dump the “dimorphism”: Comprehensive synthesis of human brain studies reveals few male-female differences beyond size

With the explosion of neuroimaging, differences between male and female brains have been exhaustively analyzed. Here we synthesize three dec

in short: brains are brains

[reasonsforhope]

Putting this on my good news blog, because yeah, you know what?

Proof that sexism, transphobia, and bioessentialism are biologically incorrect is absolutely a reason for hope - for society and for the world

[bovineblogger]

[fatartappreciation]

The Three Graces by the late photographer Leonard Nimoy (yes, Spock from Star Trek!) from his Full Body Project

[sunbleachedbitch]

And for the blonde man, perhaps some torture?

[get-in-losers-were-boldly-going]

[theworstpear]

[transfemme-shelterdog]

[transfemme-shelterdog]

Yep. You have chest hair. You're not "deformed". Go grab a fucking razor and quit making your dysphoria the problem of others.

Signed someone with SEVERE dysphoria around my (admittedly patchy) facial hair.

[marigold-22]

What the fuck are you talking about. My dad has a penicillin allergy, he has, in reference to himself, referred to penicillin as poison in a similar way this commenter has. He also understands that for most people penicillin is really good and useful and he would never call someone using penicillin poisoned. Maybe there’s context I’m missing but given what you’ve provided as context I don’t see anything wrong with the person referring to testosterone as poison. It seems to me like you are policing a transfem’s speech for no real reason.

[transfemme-shelterdog]

Huge difference between "I am allergic to a drug that will kill me" and "I think anyone who willingly puts testosterone in their body, or who naturally produces it is diseased, deformed, and should be ashamed of it"

And yes, I have a reason for getting a bee in my bonnet when people say that. Reason being? I've seen testosterone save people's lives in many ways, many times, and I also don't think that transfems and trans women who are testosterone dominant should be treated like shit for that.

[marigold-22]

who said that they think anyone who puts testosterone in their body is diseased, deformed, and should be ashamed of it. Certainly not that anyone on that Reddit thread. For the love of god stop extrapolating the way people talk about themselves and their own insecurities into ways they must view others. If a transfem refers to herself as deformed from male puberty that is clearly a reaction to extreme dysphoria, it reflects nothing about how she views other people. If upon seeing someone insecure and in pain express those insecurities about themself your first thought is “this must mean they hate me and the way I am” then you need to fix that.

[marigold-22]

Also for a lot of transfems, being on testosterone does kill them.

[transfemme-shelterdog]

It's not the T that kills them, it's being treated like shit, especially by their own siblings who should have their back, especially fellow trans women and transfems that kills them.

The number one variable that mediates suicide risk among trans people? The presence of a supportive community. And let me tell you, saying you're "poisoned" IS NOT supportive.

[marigold-22]

No, its the T that kills people. Of course a supportive community is important, extremally important, but you can have an entirely supportive community and still be awfully suicidal from dysphoria.

[transfemme-shelterdog]

T killed my grandma ok!

Is that why cis men, trans men, and anyone who is testosterone dominant are dropping dead from testosterone?

Yeah, you start androgenizing puberty and you just fucking drop dead once your testosterone levels go up. Yeah. Sure. The T totally kills people. Yeah. Mhm.

[trans-masc-kirby]

Ok but like if T kills transfems due to crippling dysphoria, what about all the trans masc & afab non binary folks that are suicidal due to dysphoria associated with being forced to go through an estrogen-dominant puberty? Or do their lives not have as much value as their trans sisters?

[transfemme-shelterdog]

You should be happy to go through estrogen-dominant puberty you transmisogynist shitbag. Don't you know that by calling estrogen suicide inducing is incredibly transmisogynistic? You should be happy to go through the changes of estrogen based puberty at a young age compared to trans women who often don't. It's like a free transition!

[kerink]

i can't stop thinking about this part from the eridian lore bible

the biodome team watching grace get up in the middle of the night and easily navigate his hut without turning any lights on:

[i-am-a-fish]

when the belly has rolls

[myfootyrthroat]

Someone will say "as a queer person in the heart of empire, my life is in danger every day" and you'll find out they're a developer for Amazon and live in San Francisco or Seattle or some shit, and then you'll meet a trans girl from Alva, OK who's like "Yeah, things are pretty good. AutoZone moved me to full-time."

[myfootyrthroat]

Someone in a queer group in my current blue city said that they didn't like expressions of solidarity because it "diluted their oppression".

[teaboot]

[msvorderofoperations]

#That's what I mean when I say the foundation of feminism and queer community should not fixate on victimhood #Once you feel that our suffering is our shared experience an not our love then our suffering becomes vital to the culture #I don't want a culture where suffering is vital #I want a culture where love is celebrated #The suffering is an imposition not a prerequisite #And yeah I sure fucking hope our oppression is diluted bitch you WANT us freebasing the uncut shit???

[hailmarysuggest]

I just think that Rocky is the most feral possessive bitch to ever exist when it comes to Grace. Sorry, if you don’t fix my space horse I’m NOT giving you any of the bacteria we almost died to get- oh hello mate Adrian, yes yes, Rocky DOES think this is perfectly rational, why do you ask? No, Rocky ran out of his Eridian Lexapro like four years ago this is now a hostage negotiation-

[bogleech]

Why are there just blobs of fake rubber meat that a bunch of unrelated microbes can build in the dirt but they've only ever been found in china and can't be classified any further than "biological objects"

[scramratz]

ngl i hate the idea that estrogen is some passive force compared to testosterone. estrogen is the reason im 5'3 while my brother is 6' foot. Estrogen is the reason i have triple D breasts that are impossible to bind and have to save 12k to get them cut off. Estrogen is the reason i have to manually lower my voice to be taken seriously. In the wrong body, estrogen is just as much as a poison as testosterone is

[mumblesplash]

‘project hail mary is about the power of friendship’ ‘project hail mary is about hope’ ‘project hail mary is about accidentally becoming too important at work’ wrong wrong wrong you’re all wrong. project hail mary is about what it would take for a single man in his 30s to own a fully paid off beachfront property in today’s economy

[redstonedust]

tragic: looking for reference images for drawing a specific body feature and noticing half the results are before shots for comsmetic correction surgery and weight loss services. i blow everytihng up forever?

[grubstrate]

Trans women on my phone have you seen chainsmoker cat. I think you need to see it. Tailor-made

[ravenlynclemens]

horse world 2