I really am in my 40's

[thirdsexmanifesto]

About Me Thingy

I post random thoughts on lgbtqia subjects mostly and occasionally coin mogai terms that directly relate to me. I practice decolonization and avoid using concepts and terminology invented by the Colonizers in the 19th century in preference for traditional knowledge.

I'm of mixed ancestry and my ancestors had a more naturalistic view of human nature, with three to four sexes (both, female, male, neither), and four to five genders (feminine, man, masculine, woman, virgin).

Some of the traditional concepts you'll see me using:

Gender Incongruent: "cisgender" and "transgender" didn't exist in the old days; being born with a gender that didn't match one's sex was considered normal. Though this phrase comes from modern medical terminology, it's close to how my ancestors thought.

Nature: "sex" and "gender" are the same word in most languages and, furthermore, in the old days, sex, gender, and sexuality weren't dichotomized: each person was seen as a unified whole, a concept best translated as "nature."

On to personal details.

PRONOUNS

My ancestors used in/animate gender-and I did make a flag for this, the Animate Gender Pronoun Flag. Specifically, the pronouns I use are ta/tama (possessive)/tada (objective), which apply to all beings. I currently live in a society that uses feminine/masculine gender, so I usually use masculine ones.

GENDER

I am considered a "man" by my culture.

GENDER MODALITY

My ancestors believed gender was biological: everyone is born with a gender. Thus I coined the term Brethgender.

SEXUAL ORIENTATION

Fluid: I have the potential to have sex with just about anyone; "fluid" comes closest to how my ancestors conceived of such a thing, though for the sake of community I hang out in multisexual spectrum spaces-particularly pansexual ones, because their experiences most closely reflect my own. I made a flag for the traditional term for this, Kaami(nii). However, what my ancestors lacked was a concept for "queerness," as we understand it now. I experience sexual attraction as queer: as a man I want gay sex with men and gay sex with women. So I also like the terms Panqueer, Glazialean and Aziacean.

ANATOMICAL SEX

I am a third sex/nature person: I was born without a reproductive function. A Third Sex flag already exists. Due to health problems I had all my reproductive tissues removed so I am literally sexless. A Sexless flag also already exists, but I decided to coin the term Neutrian for those who don't have a reproductive system. In modern society we are called Eunuchs and Nullos. I've made several variants of the Eunuch pride flag.

Adjacent concepts to this are the terms I coined: Trikaros to describe third sex people who are sexually fluid; and Lexfluid, for queer-bodied people who use several terms, often contradictory, to describe their anatomy. I also designed a Third Sex and Third Sex Eunuch symbol.

As such, my anatomy is unique, and I've made pride flags for all these things, which I've recently learned have been claimed by the Intersex Community and have been put on all these lists and wikis of intersex terminology...and ultimately I blame myself for not being precisely clear on what these flags were for, and have conducted a major overhaul of the posts.

To summarize: they are not "intersex" flags, nor are they to be described as such nor claimed as such. They are for people with a specific anatomical detail, whether that is congenital or the result of a medical condition. The list:

Inverted Nipple, Cratered Areola, and Athelia Pride Flag (just this week this was flagged as mature content. Don't know why.)

Micro-P Pride Flag

Perineal Urethra Pride Flag

XXMale Pride Flag

Zero-V Pride Flag

The review of my coined terms is still ongoing-and eventually I'll get around to it all.

[thirdsexmanifesto]

Thoughts on a Doc

A year later the radqueer community is the same, save for being more disingenuous: a lot of them will say they're anti-rq now, but still spout the same propaganda, like transrace, or blaming children for failed romantic relationships with adults.

With the interesting statistic that a lot of radqueers are actually children, it's clear to me that a part of the problem is that children lack some instincts: parental and risk assessment.

Several times in my life I've seen a child, even as old as five or six, chase after someone walking a cute dog, through lanes of traffic without a thought, to cuddle the puppy. Which always necessitates an emergency rescue. When children see something they want, they grab it. The radqueer community with all its pretty flags and promises of safety has the same affect.

When one becomes An Old, you develop a herd instinct to protect all children. To a teenager, seeing a child standing on a street corner doing nothing would be interpreted as "they're just blowing off steam because their parents won't let them play pokemon," or something, but for an adult this triggers the Mama Bear Psychic Alert Field, with surrounding adults getting out their telescopes, sending out the drones, or suddenly needing to buy waffles as an excuse to drive up to the child to ask if anything's wrong.

Predators lack this instinct. Teenagers like to complain about how stupid adults are...well, predators are the stupidest adults.

Another thing contributing to the problems with the intersection of youth and radqueer is that children have troubles with abstractions.

Just the other day, I found a radqueer making this argument: since gender is a construct and transgender is considered real, then being a transneurologist or transairforcepilot is equally valid.

This arises from a misunderstanding of what "construct" means in this context, being construed with things that aren't real, when in fact it refers to when a real thing is real enough to be socially acceptible.

The qualifications to become an air force pilot in Canada and Korea are probably different, but due to international laws and treaties each country must accept the pilots of the other as real pilots.

Air force pilots are real, but each country has constructed that realness differently.

Gender is the same thing. Each country, and each ethnic group in that country, has a different way of determining proper gendered behavior. In Morocco women are free to wear hijabs, or burqas, or not. In France, many towns have passed laws trying to make it illegal for Muslim women to wear hijabs or burqas, because in France, in order to be a Real French Woman, you can't wear such things.

Women are real in both countries, but defined differently.

Like all cults, the radqueer community engages in what I like to call the "reality distortion field," altering the definitions of words just enough to isolate members from mainstream society, such as their definitions of transgender and consensual sex. Just enough to suck a child in.

[thirdsexmanifesto]

Got What I Wished For

One of my ongoing criticisms of the "pro paraphile" community is that self-identified paraphiles don't list their paraphilias, which contradicts their professed interest in destigmatizing paraphilias. Just be normal and list them next to your three neurodivergencies.

Well, someone finally did, and it's kinda what I expected. This person (let's call tada Mg. Shady) stated that ta automatically blocks anyone who describes paraphilias as harmful, which was rather...odd, because any sex act can be harmful if done with stupidity or malice, so shutting down any conversations about how sex can be used to harm or control was a red flag.

So I took an interest in tama lengthy paraphilia list, which was in Latin, of all things, and none to my surprise some of the top results I got were for criminal statutes and recommended minimum sentencing. Because of course it did. Looking through "pro para" tags awhile back showed an exclusive interest in acts of violence. So, Mg. Shady, the reason why people keep describing your paraphilias as "harmful" is because the judge keeps saying you need five years in the slammer for doing them. Jus' sayin' there might be some cause and effect going on here.

What was also interesting was the number of paraphilias ta claimed to have. It is possible to have co-morbid paraphilias, but THAT many, and so young?...something else is going on here. Most likely Mg. Shady is confusing fetishes with paraphilias-one of the things ta listed was bondage, this is real mundane normie shit that everyone does.

Over the past two hundred years, the concept of paraphilia has evolved. Originally, any sex act that didn't result in impregnation was classified as a paraphilia: getting a blow job too many times in a month could get you in an insane asylum.

Now, the definition is centered around acts of violence, which need to be quickly intercepted and carefully controlled to prevent the person from becoming a career criminal.

The next subset in the definition of paraphilia is obsessive behaviors, which are not violent, but still ruin one's life, particularly interpersonal relationships: most of the articles I found were about collapsing marriages. With obsessive sexual behaviors, if left to fester, can lead one to view other humans as objects to be used, which can cause one to become very controlling, which can lead to an abusive relationship. Which then makes everyone depressed.

Destigmatizing acts of violence is The Big No-No. Too many young women are murdered every day by their boyfriends and too many young men don't see a problem.

Your average obsessive-sexually-behaviored person is not a bad guy: often there's co-morbidities with anxiety or something, but the relationship can take more effort and maturity to work that a lot of people aren't prepared to manage.

With kinks, fetishes, the bdsm community, psychologists don't care anymore because these behaviors rarely turn into paraphilias. Teenagers whine about not being able to find information on kink, and I can easily see this winding up to them finding a book on paraphilias and thinking that's what this is all about. Kinks and fetishes are things you do sometimes because they're fun; paraphilias tend to be obsessions to the exclusion of all else.

A person who admits to being aroused by acts of violence is, yes, technically, a paraphile, but violence is always a Bad Thing, and can't be justified or condoned by a medical diagnosis. Violence is still just violence. Maybe you won't be abused because you're not the "type" they go after, but a guy who refuses to talk about how tama violent thoughts can be harmful to others (assuming ta hasn't done anything yet), has already installed the program that'll be used to gaslight victims. "Oh, you just hate paraphiles." "Since when did you start thinking all paraphiles were perverts?"

Destigmatizing obsessive disorders, including non-violent sexual ones, is a good thing, because they cause so much suffering...but when your paraphilias involve thoughts of finding an innocent victim to do horrible things to, that's a whole 'nother planet of not okay, and because Mg. Shady didn't seem to be able to distinguish between violent and non-violent behaviors (the list was in random order) gave me the impression that some undiagnosed narcissism was at work.

Bottom line: stay safe out there. Trust your gut if something feels off. If a relationship isn't fulfilling your needs you are under no obligation to stay. Both parties must put in an equal amount of effort and be open to criticism.

[thirdsexmanifesto]

So, Your Date Doesn't Have a Vagina: What to Expect when You were Expecting Penetration

A companion piece to my article "So Your Date's Sexless: What to Expect when there's Nothing Down There," which covered the broad spectrum of Eunuch and Nullo sexuality, this one will be focused on the vaginaless who belong to the female-spectrum, looks-like-they-might-have-a-vagina, Zero-V community.

Chapter One: Who are the Zero-V?

Unlike the Eunuch/Nullo community, the vast majority of whom are gay men, most vaginaless people are straight women-but here at the Department of Queerology we don't discuss such controversial, alternate lifestyles. Still, it has to be said, because straight women dominate any information on zero-v-ness, there is no information on what sex is like when your anatomy suggests you should have a vagina but do not, and that is because the straight women all get vaginas so their husbands can orgasm.

So, once more I rise to fill the void in queer sex ed.

Chapter Two: It's a Spectrum

Zero-V people can have any, multiple, or no gender, be cisgender or transgender, and can be attracted to anyone or no one. In the context of this article "female-spectrum" will be used to refer to the labioscrotal folds we all start with that end up looking more like labia, or, in fact are, which increases societal expectations that a vagina should be present. Phallic-wise, they can have anything from the tiniest clitoris to a noticeable micro-phallus, to a well-sized penis, and that is because labioscrotal folds and the clitorophallus arise from independent structures: one does not necessarily follow the other. When we say that someone is zero-v, we don't mean, necessarily, that there is absolutely nothing there: in cases of vaginal agenesis and hypoplasia there is usually a vestigial structure present. Being zero-v broadly means you don't have a penis-sized tube, whether that is because there was nothing there to begin with or because you have a micro-hole.

Chapter Three: Sometimes It's a Dud

Zero-v folk have higher rates of not feeling pleasure in the back, for various reasons: with vaginal agenesis and hypoplasia, since the vagina and uterus are underdeveloped (if there was any development), it's more likely the uterovaginal plexus (the nerves that control the organs) aren't fully formed as well, resulting in either feeling pain (dyspareunia) or not much of anything. With vaginectomies, when you remove an organ, the nerves it was connected to get severed, combined with scar tissue, leads to loss of erogenous sensation and pain under stimulation. So it's not a matter of "oh, you just need to have more sex to get used to it," it's a matter of the nerves not being there. And there ain't nothin' wrong with that. Unless you're engaging in sadomasochism, pain during sex means something's off. So a lot of v-less people switch to anal or focus on their clit or peen-of which there are innumerable guides.

Chapter Four: Isn't It Obvious?

Having spent an hour looking at crotch shots-solely for scientifical purposes, mind you-the only circumstance in which I could see a vaginal opening was after or during intercourse, when the vagina is fully stretched open. Before that, you'll have to dig to find it, and that is because the vagina is buried in the labia and closes vertically when not in use. Being able to lubricate also can't be used as an indicator because it's very common for the bartholin's glands to be present in vaginal agenesis and hypoplasia. Unless you find out by accident after trying to stick something in there, the only way you can tell is by asking, and to illustrate that point, here are three people, none of whom are female, but they are on the female-spectrum. One has a short vagina, one just has perineal skin, and the other has a vestigial membrane. Can you guess which is which?

Chapter Five: The Membranes

For those with vaginal agenesis or hypoplasia, usually there's a membrane, or an indentation, even a tiny vagina present, but, lacking muscle tissue, it can't dilate, can't contract, can't hold its shape indefinitely after being stretched into a tube-if enough tissue is available to do so. Also, it has very poor nerve endings: only 5% of female persons can orgasm from vaginal stimulus; with v-less people, it's zero point something. It doesn't happen. And creating a penis-sized hole is not easy-months of dilation therapy if you can't afford surgery. So, don't come to your partner's bed with the idea that your dick is the right size to get in there: it ain't. Also don't pressure your partner to get a vagina, because for the most part they won't be able to feel a thing, or it'll be more pain than it's worth, or not angled correctly to connect to the g-spot, so a waste of effort. Having a vagina is for the vagina-haver's pleasure, not yours, so respect your partner's decision to remain zero-v.

Chapter Six: The Skins

These are the completely zero-v, whose labial-spectrum organ just dead ends in the perineum because they were born that way or had a vaginectomy. In cases where the person is also more female-spectrum in that the urethra doesn't connect to the phallus, the urethral opening can be much larger and further in back, in the perineal zone: in female persons the urethra is a wrinkled pinhole on top of the vagina; for zero-v it's like a little cavernous tunnel about as wide as a sipping straw, very visible from a distance when the legs are spread or if the labial-spectrum organ is pulled open. In both types of skins bartholin's glands are rarely present, and even though the perineum looks normal, the patch where a vagina typically would be can be strechier than normal.

Also, having such a urethra comes with special hygiene needs; because the hole is so large, the urine stream might not be able to flush the sebaceous secretions that keep the tunnel moist, leading them to build up as a white paste that can cause irritation and pain if unchecked. Stretching the cavern open while crouching over a mirror, or having your caretaker assist you if of limited mobility, take a q-tip and gently scoop out any pale spots to ensure squeaky cleanness for your date.

Chapter Seven: Sex in Zero-V: The Interlabial Dimension

Interlabial is a term I found to describe the mechanics of doing sex without a vagina, because intercourse isn't possible-but if you want to call what you're doing intercourse that's fine, I'm just putting it out there that there's a specific term for this.

So, for some v-less people, that spot in the back where a vagina typically would be can still experience arousal and intense pleasure, and I have a couple theories as to why that is: the pudendal nerve, which controls sexual arousal in humans, connects right there, so it could be that these people have a strong pudendal nerve. Or, the nerve plexus that controls the pelvic organs is extremely complex, and it could be that even though a vagina never developed or is no longer present, the plexus is still vagina-shaped, thus making sexual arousal vaginal in shape. A phantom vagina, if you will. Which means that your partner might want to be stimulated in a way that is simialr to vaginal stimulation.

Lubrication: A lot of zero-v people have troubles lubricating: the bartholin's glands may not be present, or underdeveloped, or were damaged by radiation therapy treating vaginal cancer. So if you're doing a lot of rubbing you'll need to reapply lubricant multiple times, and there are some fun ways to do that: you can put a drop of lube on a sex toy and spread it around their genitals; or, if your partner has well-developed labial folds and is comfortable with it, you can place a glob of lube between the folds, and it stays in there like a well, and whenever their clitoris/phallus/penis dries out, you can slide your fingers into this well, like dipping them into a wet vagina, and reapply that way.

Fingering: you might think that because nothing's there or they have a finger-sized hole, that you don't need to worry about waiting for them to get fully aroused before poking around. That actually isn't the case because the same mechanisms are in play: genitals are designed to inflate with blood to make them stretchier for intercourse, and combined with the fact that perineal skin, membranes and divots don't wanna stretch, it can be easily painful to just start jabbing at things. Keep your fingernails well trimmed to prevent cuts, and gently massage your way deeper so their body can adjust to your presence. In some cases you might be able to stretch far enough inward that you're in between the arms of the levator ani, one of the muscles that contracts during orgasm, which will feel like your finger is being squeezed by two rubber bands. You don't need to worry about damaging them, and your partner will be able to feel their body clutching you, which can add to the enjoyment.

Sex Toys: yes, it's possible to find itty-bitty toys for their itty-bitty holes. Anal trainer kits come with butt plugs in various sizes, including very small, that can be used like dildos. Small anal beads can also work. Narrow urethral sounds can be repurposed to playfully prod the area.

The D: yes, v-less people want to have a big hard cock between their legs just as much as anyone else. Because the average-sized penis/dildo is so wide, pressing inward will be painful, and if the urethra is in the back, this'll put pressure on the bladder. So just thump the area, only exerting force if you're engaging in sadomasochism and your partner wants to be in pain. If you have a penis/long phallus and really want to thrust into something, you can do intercrural sex, where your partner presses their legs together and you slide into the crack. Use lots of lube.

The G-Spot: most people have this, a cluster of nerves just below the bladder, that most people stimulate through penetration to intensify orgasm. Not wanting or being unable to do anal sex doesn't mean your partner is cut off from their full sexual potential: what male-spectrum people do is massage the perineum or sit on a little ball and hump it to trigger the nerve, which can be adapted for your partner. Other zero-vs who have a developed vaginal plexus, might have discovered the phantom vagina method, which entails visualizing yourself as having a vagina, even a full-sized one, and receiving penetration, which tells the nerves to start doing stuff. Be open to the idea that your partner may be fantasizing about vaginal penetration a lot. Often, an external source of stimulation is needed to maintain pleasure levels, and offer to help out. If your partner is very comfortable, you can discuss the possibility of roleplaying vaginal intercourse. It does take longer for v-less people to orgasm, since the g-spot isn't being tapped directly, but the extended period soaking in pleasure is very rewarding.

Chapter Eight: In the Event of Orgasm, Don't Panic

As I said earlier, orgasming solely from zero-v spot stimulus doesn't happen. Until it does. I've had two pudendal/vestigial-vaginal-nerve/whatever-the-damn-thing-is orgasms in my life without my microphallus being touched, both were cosmic experiences, but I don't know why they happened at all. Maybe it'll happen for your partner, but not because you were trying for it or expecting it. So, as the guy wanting to get it on with a zero-v person, don't go into the bedroom thinking you're Mx. Right who can make a fossilized chunk of wood cum (you're not that good). Don't even acknowledge that zero-v orgasms exist, treat the spot as just another erogenous zone and have a fun time.

And the answer to that quiz that's been driving you nuts this whole time: the person on the left has a membrane, the person in the middle has a vagina, and the person on the right has skin.

[thegrayangel]

Please Help Save the Gender Wiki

Hello, Tumblr. I've never posted here, only lurked. But this is one of the most important things in the world to me, and I honestly need to ask you for help. Please reblog if you can.

This will be a long post. It will be summarized with a TLDR at the end, including ways that you can help.

With over 9,200 pages, we are the biggest collection of gender identities on the Internet, especially the biggest source that is readily available. We are a community that has existed since 2009, and has taken off in terms of growth in the last few years.

Today, Fandom decided to close the Gender Wiki. We were given absolutely no warning, and they've only given us a two-week deadline to move the entire wiki to a new host, which we are utterly unprepared to do. The download would also not include any of the 17,000+ images on the Gender Wiki, many of which do not exist anywhere else on the Internet.

Here is a link to the post Fandom staff gave us today, and a paraphrased summary of it below:

https://gender.fandom.com/f/p/4400000000000132176

Fandom staff says that they won't continue to host our wiki because it "spreads harmful misinformation". They believe we have gone too far in "positioning everything as a gender identity", referring to xenogenders. They mention pages with xenogenders referring to suicide/self-harm and violence --- which we, the staff members, were /already/ in the process of deleting before this notice was given to us. They decided that the best solution was not to ask us to delete those pages, or even delete the pages themselves, but instead to remove our entire database.

There are many other wikis on Fandom with much worse references to violence than the Gender Wiki, which Fandom appears to have no problem with whatsoever.

I cannot express enough that this is erasure, and it will absolutely negatively affect the LGBTQ+ community to not have this treasure trove of information readily available.

I am an admin on the Gender Wiki, and I can assure you that our entire staff team is already trying to appeal to Fandom staff. I'll add any updates if they decide to respond to us, but they have no yet given staff any more information than the above

PLEASE help in any way you can. Reblog, spread awareness, or sign this petition if you have a Fandom account. Archive any Gender Wiki pages, especially ones that don't have pages elsewhere, with the Wayback Machine or alternatively archive.is, or even write posts about them here or on other sites. Please help us save this information. It can't possibly be done this quickly without help.

TLDR: Fandom staff decided that, in two weeks, they will close the Gender Wiki, the biggest gender resource on the Internet. They gave us no warning. It will be impossible to save all of the information on the wiki. Please reblog or sign this petition if you have a Fandom account. Help save the data by archiving pages here or here. Post about this. Help spread awareness.

[thirdsexmanifesto]

Damn shit. Fandom is a Texas company, so do the math.

[thirdsexmanifesto]

This is Abrosexual, Aceflux, Panflux, Mspec, Heteroflexible Phobia

And whatever other flux and flexible is out there. This post has bothered me for awhile, but after being harassed last night for being queer for the umpteenth time, I'm just gonna fuck it.

Okay, okay...medical centers are required to ask if patients have had sex. The same way they are required to check your blood pressure. It's to screen for disease. And you hate the fact that the world revolves around sex, cupcake? Well, only 0.08-1.7% of the population is asexual, which means that 99.3-99.9% of the population is having sex. So, yeah, the world revolves around sex. And that's not gonna change.

And honestly, how is asking that question cissexist?

Ooooookaaaaaay...you don't know what doctors mean when they say "male" or "female"? The universal definition, recognized by all scientists everywhere, is that female spectrum people, on average-again, 99.9%, have vulvas, vaginas, uteri, and ovaries, and male spectrum persons, 99.9% average, have testicles, vesicles, epididymi thingies, prostates, and penes. You hate the fact that most people are born this way? Sucks to be you.

So, yeah, no shit, the doctor was referring to "people with penises" and "people with vulvas." And, nooo, that does not refer to "people who produce sperm" or "people who produce eggs" because depending on the average age of the population you live in, the majority might not produce those, and furthermore, eggs and sperms do not transmit sexual diseases. It's all the other fluids ya got to worry about.

Aaaand, NO ONE after the seventh week of gestation has a wolffian or mullerian duct anymore-and may I remind everyone that all humans have both ducts. For fuck's sake, please study embryology.

And I had to look up "dysex": sex variance that does not amount to a difference in sex development-meaning, that it's an utterly meaningless word. People with twelve-inch dicks are freaks of nature. People who have triplets naturally are freaks of nature. I have seen so many "intersex-adjacent" terms popping up in the past years...and the definitions are so vague that it renders everyone on the planet intersex-adjacent-because it's a spectrum. You can't box these things in.

What I don't like, when people insert "intersex" into these conversations, is that they're viewing sex from the 1950's. Okay, so, most differences in sex development is an extra chromosome that don't do shit. Or an endocrinological imbalance. Outside of high rates of infertility the genito-urinary tract is mostly unaffected...the vast majority of people the Intersex Community like to call intersex still produces semen or menstruates...so when I say "it sounds like the 1950's in here" because these "why won't they ask if I've had sex with an intersex person?" people treat "intersex" as a distinct sex, like the true/pseudohermaphrodite shit. Being perfectly neither sex isn't really possible. Being a perfect balance of male and female really isn't possible. And again it's because no one studies embryology: the m.o.g.a.i. community talks about "genitals" and "sex organs," but it is correctly termed the genito-urinary system because the bladder, ureters, and kidneys come from the same bud: if you want to be truly neither sex, you need to be born without kidneys and a pituitary gland-which isn't possible.

"Intersex" is not a separate sex, because they're mostly male or mostly female still. But I'm digressing.

Was this doctor inquiring about specific sex acts? Hm... sort of: doctors want to know if you're exchanging body fluids-any fluid, to assess disease risk. That your partner may have been transsex is inconsequential if you were spitting into each other's eyeballs or drinking blood or some other fluid fetish.

"What are they asking?" Oh, you precious little snowflake: they wanna know if you've been swapping body fluids, which is what causes sexually transmitted diseases. This is Sex Ed 0.1. This is not fucking hard. "The question isn't specific enough"? What the fuck is wrong with you? If the person I'm-So-Angry-Someone-Asked-If-I-Had-Sex had answered "yes," I bet the questions would have gotten more specific. But there was simply no reason to delve further into the subject...and yet, it still triggered this snowflake-level freakout.

Now onto the delightful tags.

How the fuck is asking someone if they've had sex acephobia? A lot of people are aceflux, or some other flux that involves periods of asexuality. How the fuck is asking someone if they've had sex transphobia? Most trans people are male or female and the majority don't want genital surgery. "Trans" is not a distinct sex. Same for varsex-which is even more useless a descriptor than "dysex." How is asking a man if ta's had sex with men "heteronormative bullshit"? How is asking someone of any gender if they've had sex with "both" "heteronormative bullshit"? Can someone make it make sense? All people have the capacity for sexual fluidity-the majority of men who comment on my porn are straight men because most men are heterosexual-but that has never been an impediment to the fun.

People have sex because they want sex: sexual orientation is a preference, not an absolute. And the vast majority of people do have sex with both in their lifetime. This has been known for a long time, precious snowflakes.

But despite all this, despite all the straight men I've had sex with, even the liom-mogai community likes to pretend the world is black and white, or likes to pretend that sex isn't normal. Didn't get much sleep last night, either. What's the point I'm trying to make?

Ya wanna know what the real heteronormative bullshit is? Being offended when someone asks you if you have sex with "both." Being offended when you're asked if you've had sex with someone of the same gender. Lumping intersex, transsex, varsex, altersex, dysex and whatever fucked up stupid word you've made up into An Other Sex, like they're this weird, third, separate thing. Trans men just wanna be male; that would literally solve all their problems. You don't need fluids to spread herpes. Or pubic lice. Why cant' you be queernormative?

[indigenous-mogai]

apsáalooke lgbtqia+ flags

aromantic & asexual

transgender & nonbinary

transmasc & transfem

pansexual & bisexual

gay & lesbian

flags coined by an indigenous queer belonging to the tsalagi and mvskoke nations, requested by an indigenous queer who belongs to the apsáalooke nation

many of these designs feature variations of pink and blue as a nod to the crow rose, a distinctive element of apsáalooke beadwork which represent the sky and the early morning

apsáalooke beadwork is long standing and recognizable traditional craft, with the medallions being a defining staple seen in apsáalooke work. all medallions used are made by crow artists, in both traditional and more modern styles and designs. credits for these beadwork’s are below

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taglist (ask to be added/removed): @emailmeurheart @certified-pretty-flags

[thirdsexmanifesto]

"Wolffian" (and "mullerian") is a crock

This Valentine's Day turned out to be a bit of "not how boys work" in the anatomy department. First was a woman, of limited sexual experience, but under the impression that most men are twelve-inchers or something, freaking out when tama date turned out to be...not that, and wondering if ta should recommend a therapist to help tama boyfriend deal with tama "condition." (Shiva save me from these dipshits.) And next was a girl saying how ta thinks ta is starting to fall in love with the wolffian ta's been dating-never mentioning the gender of tama partner, just kept describing tada as a "wolffian." So, you describe the potential love of your life...as a fuckin' tube ta had as an embryo?

There is a disturbance in the force.

Here is a diagram of the reproductive tract of a seven-week-old human fetus. Notice anything in the bilateral symmetry? (Thank you, Duke University Medical School.)

Even a three-millimeter-long fetus needs to pee. The mesonephros (not pictured) is an excretory organ that drains through the mesonephric and paramesonephric (hence the name) ducts, to the urogenital sinus (the tan cup on the bottom). When the kidneys form after the seventh week, the para/mesonephric ducts no longer serve a purpose, and turn into other things: in male-spectrum persons mesonephric and paramesonephric ducts combine to form the male variants of the reproductive system; and in female-spectrum persons the paramesonephric and mesonephric ducts combine to form the uterus and ovaries.

Oh, I forgot to mention the vagina, you don't say? The vagina pops outta the urogenital sinus with the bladder. Did you honestly think the vagina was a "mullerian" trait? (Again. Shiva. With the dipshits.)

So, when I see naysayers who say "wolffian" and "mullerian" are just code words that only serve to reinforce the sex binary, I go "yep." It's just callin' piss rain. One of the downsides of the M.O.G.A.I. community is the utter fuckingly ridiculous lengths they go to to avoid saying "biological male," and it keeps getting more ridiculous: first there was amab, then wolffian, then person-with-a-penis, then testodominant, then someone-expected-to-estrogenize.

Why did I include the last, you ask? Because men being treated for prostate cancer are expected to estrogenize. Can't kill dat cancer without pumpin' estrogen right up the taint.

Well, 'cept for the last one, whenever someone uses these ridiculous words, it's transparently obvious they're sayin' "biological menz." If you're not talking about penis cancer, there's no reason whatsoever to use "person-with-a-penis." They could be asexual, or impotent, or a celibate monk. And the fuck with testodominant. When you hit your fourth decade your hormones start petering out. Ever seen a naked nonagenarian? The only thing gettin' those guys hard is sheer will power. Just say men in their 20's and 30's; and if you were referring to non-binary people using testosterone, then for fuck's sake be specific.

It's like that whole-what was it called...trans-misogyny-excluded? Not worth a ray of sunshine. Beating about the bush and avoiding talking about someone's gender isn't progressive, it's disingenuous bullshit.

The debate over civil rights for trans women isn't about what room penises can get into, it's about the overton window. Convince the populace that one group of women deserve to be disenfranchised, then it becomes extremely easy to disenfranchise the next group of women. Deny them votes. Deny them jobs. Trans women were simply a means to work the kinks out.

It started with disqualifying trans female political candidates for not having a name that matches the original birth certificate. Now we have the S.A.V.E. Act going through Congress, which would require voters to have names that match original birth certificates, which would remove millions of women from the voter rolls. How peculiar.

Fascism demands women be slaves...but first you must convince women that slavery is freedom. Tradwife TikTok influencers on the left, anti-trans laws on the right. Pincer movement. End battle. Dehumanize by referring to people by their genitals, or their wolffian ducts.

That the LGBT community uses [barf] amab constantly is bad enough because my I.Q. deteriorates by the second when I have to listen to such a conversation, but wolffian is so much stupider: that's what it was called back in the 18th century, but now, with modern science, we know it's a mesonephric duct because it's a FUCKIN' URETER. And you better hope all your female embryos you paid a $100,000 for at the fertility clinic got one otherwise they might not be viable.

But, please, continue to refer to me as a .001 nanometer line of cells I haven't had since I was a twenty-eight-day-old germ cell, and I'll only kick you in the mullerian side of your testes.

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If One Falls, All Fall

An article just popped up in my news feed from the Washington Post: Tiktok is in the process of erasing information about the political assassinations in a certain state that likes loons and shades of blue (the name of the state evades me at the moment).

That's what the corporate lapdogs do: they type a new code into their A.I. filters and let the algorithm loose. But the body remembers what the mind has forgotten, and the trauma this nation has survived will be felt for generations to come. Sadly, that is true.

Save everything. Make back-up copies. Never trust corporations because the only thing they care about is the next tax loophole Sugar Daddy is giving them.

As long as the winds blows the names of the fallen shall be remembered, and the names of the disappeared etched in stone. Justice will come, for a day will dawn on a nation reborn.

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Tiktok is now owned by the Nazis

Outside of fifteen Emiratis who own shares, the rest is now owned by the American tech bros (and Couch Potato helped!) who helped put the Lord White Father in office. They'll also be paying folks 0.40-1.00 American coin to anyone creating A.I. generated (propaganda) photos, videos, and sundry deepfakes. Sure, A.I. generated content needs to be labeled-but the law doesn't say the label needs to be larger than a pixel. So embrace the reality distortion.

Oh, and are you a minority? Then they'll also be tracking EV-RY-THING:

Yeah, the robots will kill us all.

There's a Youtube channel, MindSeedTV-the host makes a lot of conspiracy junk and hocks fake vitamins, but ta's a music producer and is working on an animated series, and tama video on the horrors of A.I. content is entirely factual, explaining how the technology is making tama career more difficult...lemme see if I can link to this thing...it's titled "SORA 2: Dangerous Ai Evolution," posted in October 2025:

Looks like it's workin' on my end, anyway.

The reason why the Lord White Father so desperately pressured for the sale of Tiktok, constantly threatening to ban it, was not because it was owned by the Chinese (it was actually owned by the guy who created the Truthsocial platform), but because of a very simple truth: own the children and you own the country, and most Tiktok users are teenagers, easily manipulated. I await the enfuckening.

[thirdsexmanifesto]

wish I could down-vote the transID shit

The lack of self-awareness is alarming. Since when wasn't this radqueer?

For the wee ones in the audience: if you want to become a doctor you need to get good grades in high school, go to a medical college, get even better grades, then get a license from your district's medical board. Takes about twenty years.

[thirdsexmanifesto]

The Anti-Salmcian Discourse Gets Stupider

This is such utter fucking bullshit. Salmacians don't use the "h-slur," and NOT ONE believes people with differences in sex development are bigenital or can self-impregnate-this is the equivalent to the terf belief that all trans women have auto-gynephilia. "Salmacian" originated when a human invented it like the rest of all the mogai terms. The coiner is still alive, by the way.

I find it very interesting that no one had any problems with people who wanted both sets of genitals when they identified as the standard flavor of trans non-binary-and a lot probably still do, but the minute they decided they wanted a specific term to describe their specific experiences all hell breaks loose.

I was alive long before salmacian was coined, just another term to add to the pile. If you're fine with the aldernic xenogender shit but lose your shit when a woman gets a phalloplasty there's something wrong with you.

HOLY FUCKING SHIT WHAT AN ASSHOLE.

Consider this a sequel to my Salmakis article, where I explained how anti-salmacian arguments are bad faith, well, I tried talking to this asshole and it's the exact same shit I have to put up with every time a person claiming to be intersex talks about gender incongruent people.

This was in response to That Fucking Asshole saying "salmacians are named after a rapist".

We can argue that Salmacians are reclaiming the name of a rapist, but That Fucking Asshole would automatically reject that for some stupid reason. Salmacis and Achilles are both mythological figures worshipped in Turkey that both have one story about them raping someone, whose names are used to describe modern LGBT identities. That is, in the vernacular, the exact same thing. Again, That Fucking Asshole is making an outrageous claim: Salmacians "proudly" want to be named after a rapist. Where's your proof?

Can I prove you're lying? I can just ask a bunch of Salmacians, again, whether or not your claims are true. They always say "no," but for some reason you never believe me.

You just asked me for a study proving intersexuality is talked about in the Salmacian community? Are there studies proving Bangladeshis talk about red balloons? It's just fucking bullshit.

Yeah, terfs always demand studies proving trans women aren't all rapists but they always reject them for right-wing garbage that confirms their biases.

You keep asking me to provide "citations" from "studies" that contain "actual proof," that's a fucking science journal, You Fucking Asshole. I've never met someone who identifies as "achillean," so I'll just have to trust your word. And yes, you keep changing the goals: first you wanted proof that Salmacians don't choose to be named after a rapist. Then you wanted proof that Salmacians aren't intersexist jerks. Now you want proof that Salmacians have "nuanced gender discussions." What the fuck is that? On what gender?

Couldn't say it better myself.

The classic "you don't understand how words work" defense. That Fucking Asshole.

Sounds like you just admitted you knew all along that there are no studies proving Salmacians have done anything we've claimed, yet you persistently keep asking, like a fucking asshole. Still waiting for all that proof on achilleans-honestly never met one, only see the term in dictionaries on mogai archives. And we have a new goal: advocating for scientific studies of Salmacians. Why are you so obsessed with Salmacians? Why aren't the studies on non-binary surgeries in general good enough?

This was an insult to my intelligence, which I do not tolerate. This is exactly why gender-care for children diagnosed with gender dysphoria is being criminalized in the United Kingdom and United States: politicians don't believe lived experiences are true.

When these bills were first introduced, the medical professionals sent their articles proving people are born gender incongruent and a majority of them suffer from gender dysphoria and need hormone blockers.

The politicians simply hired people to write anti-trans garbage off the top of their heads, or had chatgpt poop out some garbage as proof that all the medical experts were lying.

So a hundred gender incongruent children with their two hundred parents walked into the legislature and sat down for a ten-hour hearing on these gender care ban bills, and all the politicians said, "I don't believe you're telling the truth about your experiences; you're either being coerced by your parents or are an actor."

But the children kept coming in every week by the hundreds, along with the doctors and their science journals. What's a humble asshole politician supposed to do?

Create an impossible standard designed so that every gender incongruent child will fail every single time:

"Can you prove-cite actual proof from a study-that hormone blockers have never, and will never, cause harm to a child? That no child has ever changed their mind on their gender?"

And there's the death blow. The bill gets passed. Allergies exist, and the only way to test for a medical allergy is to give someone a pill. So yes, children have been harmed by hormones because they had an allergic reaction. Such a child will be born again. Children do change their minds on gender: maybe they're gender fluid and don't actually have gender dysphoria. Maybe they'll change their minds in their eighties, who knows.

But because there are verifiable cases of adverse effects to hormonal treatments and children switching genders, even if it's only one, that's all the assholes were looking for: probably cause. A smokescreen to prove their anti-trans bills aren't bigoted. We're just protecting the children.

This Is Intersexism is just protecting the intersex community by arguing that because one Salmacian did something bad (allegedly) at some point in history, the whole of Salmacdom is offensive, and by demanding studies proving Salmacians talk about intersexuality-well, in my experience, they don't, but negatives, by their nature, cannot be proven, thus my lived experience must be a lie. Again, it never occurred to me to record my conversations with Salmacians while they were happening. You only do that if you expect abusive or illegal activity is afoot and need evidence.

Terfs always tell stories about how they barely escaped with their lives being raped by trans women in a gas station lavatory-but where are all these trans rapists?

Where are all the Salmacians that choose their name because they enjoy being rape-adjacent? Where are all the Salmacians that believe differences in sex development means self-impregnation? Where are all the Salmacians who make fun of intersex people? Where where where where where? Do they only talk about these things when I'm not around?

Whenever a person claiming to be intersex says "the salmacians are being intersexist again," they never provide a screenshot, they never provide audio of a conversation, never provide video of such an act, never link to a blog post-so where's all this shit happening? Where are all the gas stations where trans women go for their rapin's?

It's all just bullshit.

Another 'nother edit: so, with that last reply from This Is Intersexism, ta stopped talking to me, but immediately another guy, claiming to have no idea what we were talking about, Ang3lsp1llz, decided to get out a dictionary and educate and educate me on the correct definition of words:

My weird-shit-o-meter started ticking.

My weird-shit-o-meter started vibrating.

Ang was twisting the meaning of words so similarly to That Fucking Asshole it was too suspicious. The question must be asked.

Well, my weird-shit-o-meter started to smoke, so I asked again if Ang were an alt account of This Is Intersexism, to which I got blocked. Then another 'nother weird thing happened: That Fucking Asshole immediately started talking to me again, saying, "You never said 'leave me alone'." First, I literally just fucking said that; and secondly, I wasn't talking to you, bozo-it was just too, too weird...so again I asked if Ang3lsp1llz and This Is Intersexism were the same person and was instantly blocked before I could make a screen capture. Too much fucking coincidence. My weird-shit-o-meter broke. This is why I don't like people who make multiple accounts: it's usually done to evade consequences for their actions.

The edits keep coming: I increasingly see the wisdom in people who have a rule about blocking "blank" blogs: those zeroes posts, zero likes, just a little triangle at the top ones. These "blank" guys only start interacting with me RIGHT AFTER I get blocked by a bunch of people. Very, very interesting. Such as this one I just got:

One of the things I've noticed about these trolls-who are all probably half my age, is that they always complain about how immature I am, how I should be acting my age. I'm not an age regressor so whatever I'm doing I'm doing as a middle-aged guy. This is another bad-faith argument called "tone policing": what you're saying is invalid solely because you're deemed "too emotional." Like how protestors of police and school shootings are told they're being inappropriate.

Again with the coining of "salmacian" back in 1996: intersex and hermaphrodite were the only words back then to describe what Raphael Carter had in mind: someone with mixed genitals-and even back then people knew "hermaphrodite" was offensive. The term "bigenital" wasn't coined until 2018. Are we to describe the abolitionists in the 19th century as racist for using the word "negro" because "African-American" hadn't been invented yet? That's simply stating historical fact. A lot of historical facts are offensive, or inconvenient, but the past can't be changed. People who want to rewrite history always have bad intentions.

Bood 4, Lines 274-388 of Ovid's Metamorphoses is a round-robin tale about a group of weavers taking turns telling stories to pass the time. I've been looking over the original Latin while writing this, and it doesn't say how old Hermaphroditus was. Ta is described as "puer," which is the Latin word for "boy," but it also means "bachelor," so it had a similar range of meanings as in English: it could mean a child, or simply someone younger than oneself, and in English translations "boy" and "youth" are used interchangeably.

But who decided Hermaphroditus was fifteen? Furthermore, in Ovid's culture, ancient Rome, a male person was considered a young adult at fifteen and a man by seventeen. In modern Italy the age of consent for sex is fourteen, but one can't marry until eighteen-which is kinda messed up, when one thinks about it. Anyway, in our modern culture fifteen would be a "literal child," but back in Ovid's time boys that age weren't considered children anymore.

But that's all beside the point: regardless of the lyrical Latin prose, Salmacis raped Hermaphroditus; there's nothing under the lines to read. So, in Ovid's version, the fountain is cursed. Makes sense.

However, the claim that this fountain only became important, and is inseparable from, this act of rape is a lie: this fountain existed centuries before Ovid was born. As I mentioned in my Salmakis article, Strabo, who lived in the area, couldn't find anyone who knew why the fountain had this reputation of making men effeminate. How could Ovid, who lived on the other side of the world, know differently?

He couldn't have. He heard about this fountain, from travelling merchants at the docks, no doubt, and used it as inspiration when writing Book 4 of the Metamorphoses. He made up the story to explain the folklore.

In Turkish mythology-actual history, not poetry written by a guy paid to write poetry, Salmakis never raped anyone. Ta was considered a benign beneficent being. Hermaphroditus was also a divine figure, either named after Hermes and Aphrodite or Aphroditus, or was a member of a group of divine beings called hermaphrodites. Why were they called that? Who knows. Hermaphroditus was either envisioned as a normal male person or born as a mixture of male and female, as we see in later frescoes and statuary.

But what did that mean, to be of mixed sexes to the ancient Romans and Greeks? Well, based on all the artwork, this meant a male person with fully developed mammary glands-big boobs.

So, in that sense, Raphael's use of "salmacian" is incorrect: Hermaphroditus did not have a mix of genitals.

But, again, the past can't be changed. We can only point out its errors.

One of those errors being Blank Blog Guy is accusing me of being salmacian-I'm not. But the thought of me being salmacian inherently makes my existence harmful to the intersex community.

Label dictators. The label police. I have issues with people who police the terms used by other groups. I really do. It's not about you. The term doesn't apply to you. Why are you having a stroke over this? Go live your life.

But no. You have to have a stroke because some guy wrote a poem for the entertainment of the amphitheater 2,000 years ago? Why aren't you stroking out every time the LGBT community uses "queer" to describe itself? Or when African-Americans use the n-word to describe each other? Why are these two communities allowed to change the meaning of a word but Salmacians are not? WHY IS IT THAT YOU ONLY HAVE AN APOPLECTIC FIT WHEN A TRANS PERSON USES A WORD?

I'm still waiting for an answer. "It makes me feel bad" is not an answer. So what? Why are your feelings superior to those of the LGBT community, the African-American community, or the Salmacian community? Who gives a fuck about your feelings?

Anyway, the argument always ends with "just use aphrodisian," which is a word coined by Plurgai, a pedophile whose account was deleted by Tumblr when tama child abuse activities were uncovered.

So, you hate to the point of wanting to strangle people, those who use a term that is the name of a fictional character in a work of fiction, because, as I've been told repeatedly, "I hate people who are named after rapists," but, you want these same people to use a word made by a real live rapist?

How is this any better? Tell me you hate trans people who want non-binary surgeries without telling me you hate trans people who want non-binary surgeries.

People using a term for themselves that has nothing to do with you does not harm you. You just hate self-determination. The label police always block me because I believe the trans community should have the right to self-identify. And people get so mad about that. "Salmacian," "queer," and the "n-word" have been used in their respective communities for decades. It's not your culture, you don't get the right to dictate the terms they use.

Hopefully this will be my last edit. Something Blank Blog Dude said has nagged, and nagged, and nagged at me. In my Salmakis article I wondered for a moment if Plurgai were still active on Tumblr, and it's because of responses like that, that make me wonder, particularly "raped a literal child" bit, because Plurgai would say things like that, "so-n-so's a literal rapist."

As I mentioned in my aforementioned article, Plurgai is active on Reddit under the name Iron_Real, and is currently interested in Chinese cinema. Due to recent events, I began to wonder if Iron_Real might delete tama posts in the Salmacian group, so decided to better preserve them, so you can see what the coiner of aphrodisian was really like.

These posts were written between February 22 and March 15, 2022, after which point (at least under the name Iron_Real) ta has had no contact with the LBGT community.

So, from all this, we can see Iron_Real/Plurgai identified as salmacian/aphrodisian/hermaphrodite/androgynos/futa/otoku/altersex-and probably everything else as well. Otoku is the male version of a futa, which are characters from Japanese porn comics, who are half male, half female; when used to describe a real person it's considered a slur. But Iron_Real also believes in transID and everyone should have the right to use derogatory slurs because they're "comfier."

This guy still creeps me out.

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Thrice Exiled: the Inability of Queerness in Northeastern Bharat

When the British finally began penetrating the mysterious, jungle-covered mountains bordering Myanmar they noted that the tribes already criminalized gender non-conforming behavior-sometimes with death, and little has changed in two hundred years. So entrenched in the cultural subconscious are the rigid gender roles that even after successful conversions to Christianity, Islam, Sanaatana and Buddha Dharmas, the natives quickly re-interpreted the new doctrines to uphold ancient bigotries.

Though the tribes just as eagerly embraced urbanization and higher education like the rest of South Asia, it led to a parallel rise in xenophobia and a fear of cultural contamination, with the resultant creation of cultural preservation societies that police the gendered behaviors of their communities to such an extreme that if a boy were to spontaneously start dancing to music on the radio ta would be instantly reviled as an aberration, and told point blank, "you're a girl now."

Due to this borderline harassment gender policing, when a child realizes ta is attracted to someone of the same sex, this causes severe gender confusion and high rates of mental illness-and mental health is equally stigmatized in these tribes.

Rejected by their villages (the first exile), they move to big cities and out-of-state colleges to begin new lives, only to find out the Indo-Aryan-speaking areas believe Northeasterners to be savage primitives, and are subjected to dehumanizing racism, finding no friends (the second exile). Eventually, though, they find the LGBT community, perhaps containing a pocket of their tribal members, only to find that long ago they adopted either English, Hindi, or Hinglish to describe their deepest feelings, their language having no place for queerness (the third, and final, exile).

So, to summarize, the realization of same-gender attraction or gender incongruence often results in the total loss of ethnic identity, with high rates of suicide.

Now, most states have government-funded LGBT aid programs, and many of these outer state agencies have tried to set up offices in the northeast, but the all-powerful cultural preservation societies have declared LGBT people "non-locals," foreign invaders, basically, and they're not allowed to immigrate. So, little progress has been made.

A compounding factor in this lack of progress is the language barrier: when a LGBT support group finally makes ingress to a grass hut village, the lessons about queer identities are given either in English or Hindi, whereas most Northeastern tribes speak Tibeto-Burman languages (which are mind-boggling complex compared to Indo-European languages), reinforcing the alienness of queerness and the belief that native languages CAN'T have words for gender incongruence and same-gender attraction.

I've spent the week studying Tibeto-Burman and Austroasiatic languages, and I can understand the problem (some of the verb conjugations are too bizarre for words), but, on the other hand, the problem is a very simple one: there's nothing inherent to the nature of Tibeto-Burman or Austroasiatic that prevents queer terminology from being formed, and I think it's mostly a lack of imagination and being too literal minded-and what I mean by that, is I get the sense from these tribal members that in order for Tibeto-Burman and Austroasiatic to have concepts for queerness, they must be identical to the English/Hindi concepts of queerness, which simply is not possible with these monosyllabic languages and how they conceptualize reality.

So, for the remainder of this article, I will jot down notes I've found on the subject of LGBT history among these obscure peoples.

KHASI-SPEAKING TRIBES OF THE KHASI AND JAINTIA HILLS

In Khasi society, social status is a life and death matter, and if one clan member does something indecent, this can lead to the rest of the clan losing status and being discriminated against, so honor killings are still a problem. They are also matrilineal societies: though effeminate men who love men may achieve some degree of toleration, men who want to live as women have no place and bring shame to the clan matriarchs.

An Austroasiatic language, I found Khasi to be almost like binary code in its monosyllableness, and from the few words translated into English from a Khasi text describing the experiences of a gender incongruent woman, I sort of deciphered the whole language in an hour.

The woman referred to tadaself as "jinglong (doh) shynrang," literally, "nature (flesh) man," and described a gender incongruent man as "jinglong (doh) kynthei," "nature (flesh) woman." In English this would be translated as "male-bodied/bodily male" and "female-bodied/bodily female" respectively. For the full phrase this would be: shynrang jong jinglong (doh) kynthei (man possessive-particle nature [flesh] woman: man who has female body) and kynthei jong jinglong (doh) shynrang (woman possessive-particle nature [flesh] man: woman who has a male body). When ta referred to "trans people" this came out "jinglong doh shynrang ne kynthei" (nature flesh man or woman).

When still living as a man, ta described tadaself as "uba ieit shynrang" (masculine-one-who love man), "same-gender-loving man" in English, which would make the feminine counterpart "kaba ieit kynthei" (feminine-one-who love woman). The only gender-neutral pronoun is the plural ki(ba).

Though rather wordy compared to English, this shows that the Khasi are just as capable of creating new concepts when the need arises, with the phrase "jinglong doh" being the equivalent of "trans" in English.

MIZO-SPEAKING TRIBES OF THE LUSHAI HILLS

The Mizo peoples had strictly hierarchical social structures with male chiefs on top and women and slaves on the bottom. The wealth imbalances resulted in the chiefs collecting harems of women, and like the Ottoman sultans, needing someone to guard all their wives: the Tuai.

"Tuai" has the sense of "half man," and with their feminine counterpart, the Patil (having the sense of "half woman"), they are described by the Mizo as their third gender. Because the Patil adhered to the chivalrous code of manhood, they had more tolerance and freedom in society than most women, but the Tuai were narrowly confined to being the servants/slaves of the chiefs, required to wear women's skirts, but barred from having sex with men under pain of death.

When the British invaded, they converted everyone to Christianity, which led to the abolishment of slavery, but also to the collapse of the system of chieftainships and with it the social function of the Tuai, who were then outlawed along with the Patil as "sexual deviancy."

Nowadays, though women who love women (which is gender non-conforming behavior) are harassed constantly by the cultural preservation societies, they are not subject to violence, per se, and claim that they can gain a single toe of tolerance in their villages (but I have a nagging feeling this involves celibacy).

Boys, on the other hand, who display any degree of queerness (even so much as touching a woman's skirt that has fallen off a clothesline) are fetishized from a young age as "fresh meat," and can be sexually exploited by large swathes of the community the minute they hit puberty, often ending up as sex workers in young adulthood, forced out into the cities.

MEITEI OF IMPHAL VALLEY

The Meitei are children of a once grand empire that rivaled the Far East in civilization, and once had a third gender called Pheidaa, described as "nupaa nupi marak" (man woman between), but what that meant no one knows anymore, the existence of the Pheidaa died with the collapse of much of Meitei society during the Chahi Taret Khuntaakpa, a campaign of genocide led by the Kingdom of Myanmar. What is known is that they were the bodyguards of the royal family.

From the ashes arose traveling theater troupes, divided between all-male and all-female groups, who were mostly same-gender-loving people. Among these were the Nupaa/i Saaba/i (man or woman imitator), individuals who took on the role of the opposite gender in their plays. Though revered as culture bearers, the ones that wished to live permanently as the opposite gender, the Nupaa/i Maanba/i (man or woman similar-to), were outcast in society as violators of the code of manliness that governed all things.

Rejected by their troupes and families at a young age, they settled in the old royal capital of Imphal and became sex workers for a time before taking control of the beauty salon and film production industries, becoming outspoken advocates for "queer-trans" (as they often call it) rights, and many LGBT aid groups in the northeast are run by them.

Though the terms Nupaa/i Maanba/i are most often used to refer to gender incongruent people, they are actually umbrella terms, Nupaa Maanba applying to women who love women or multiple genders and men assigned female at birth, with Nupi Maanbi meaning men who love men or multiple genders and women assigned male at birth.

Same-gender-loving people who are gender congruent, after the Pride Parade is over, go back to their inconspicuous lives in order not to bring shame to their families, but the incongruent stick out like a sore thumb in the cities, unable to marry because no man would dare think to have a woman who can't bear children, and are only tolerated so long as they are successful business owners or otherwise wealthy and can continue supplying their aging parents with money.

Meitei words used in their original script:

NYISHI OF THE KURUNG AND KUMEY RIVERS

Under the simple farm life of the rolling mountains lies a strictly stratified society of upper and lower classes. Desperate to gain economic prosperity, lower class Nyishis often convert to Christianity, but regardless of faith, polygyny is widely practiced, putting great pressure on young folk to get in heterosexual marriages.

Along with this comes rigid gender roles that cannot forgive deviance: if you play sports, you are male; if you dance, you are female. Only by escaping the river valleys and getting a good college education in the cities, finding the LGBT community, can they begin to understand what their gender is, and how it differs from sexuality and gender expression, only to learn from their families that they will no longer have a home to return to.

Nyishi is a very obscure language-it doesn't even appear to have a standard writing system yet. I was unable to make a complete translation of the phrases: it was only through studying a much better attested, related language, Apatani, that I was able to get of sense of what the phrases mean.

In most cases, Nyishi either use the Hindi or English word for something, but there are always moments where indigenous insight breaks through-again these are only the rough sense of words:

"Nyiga mepe kopiyo" refers to love of men. "Nyime mepe kopiyo" refers to love of women. "Nyiga tallo pe nyime sangbo" has the sense of "man who moved over there to woman," referring to transwomen. "Nyime talo pe nyiga sangbo" has the sense of "woman who moved over there to man," referring to transmen.

BOD PA OF THE TIBETAN PLATEAU

Among the peaks of the oxygen-deprived sacred Himaalaya an ancient civilization has thrived for thousands of years, with a wealth of philosophical literature just as old. Polyandry was the norm, and who would mind lawfully-wedded husbands showing affection? So there were never any prohibitions against same-gender love, and whole books have been written on the subject of LGBT equality by native thinkers...and yet, if you were to ask a Bod Pa about such things, you would be told firmly, "that never happens here," and get a door slammed in your face.

Such is the paradox of this Buddhist land: despite few laws regulating sexual activity the general population, long ago, decided that to ensure a good afterlife, one must emulate the celibate clergy: the Bod Pa believe sex should only be for procreation, never love or fun.

Compounding this factor was the conquest by Zho1nghua2 Re2nmi2n Go4nghe2guo2 in the 1950's and its oppressive communist, and heterosexist, propaganda, which has even seeped its way into the refugee population.

Due to the abject silence on sexuality, each individual queer Bod Pa believes they're the only one on Earth, and have high rates of depression and suicide as a result. This has also led to gender incongruent Bod Pa being the only visible representatives of the LGBT community on the plateau and broader diaspora: shirking gender norms and reproductive mandates, they cannot hide in monasteries or joyless marriages.

As such, I couldn't find words for sexuality and gender, only gender-neutral terminology that is beyond the scope of this article.

THE RAINBOW HILLS

The elders sneer at the woke gay agenda infiltrating their homeland, touting honor killings on the conservative side, with conversion therapy considered liberally progressive on the other. What stands between is the silence the LGBT community must endure-a silence on two fronts: tribal communities who refuse to acknowledge the existence of queer people, and state governments who point to the annual pride parade in the capitol as proof that all's well with the world, and refuse to fund studies into the lived experiences of this marginalized people.

So, I thought, I would break some of this silence. I'm most familiar with the Ao language-meaning, after a twelve-hour crash course I could put exactly two syllables together before having a mental breakdown.

Tibeto-Burman and Indo-European languages are exact opposites: one must reconceptualize reality. Based on the limited queer studies done in the Northeast, historical manifestations of gender variance and how modern forms are conceptualized in broader Asian cultures, I think I've constructed some working phrases:

What is the perfective anterior, you ask?...that...is a good question. It is the concept of a completed act performed in the past that still carries current relevance. Ao requires extreme specificity in all things.

Due to the rigid gender roles in northeastern cultures, loving women is considered boyish behavior, while loving men is considered girlish, so why not embrace this gender queerness? Women who love women are manlike, while men who love men are womanlike.

Again, because of the rigidity of society, changing gender is very stark, and extremely heterosexual-gay trans isn't really a thing. So, a literal description of the transition.

Using Hindi or English words only reinforces the silence in the hills and prevents social progress. To be heard is to be seen; the people of the hill country must reclaim their language, carve a place out in it for themselves, and go from there. Then the soul-crushing silence will end.

WORKS USED IN WRITING THIS ARTICLE

"Third Gender in Mizo Society: An unflinching look at past and present," Ruata Lungchuang, East Mojo, 4/8/23

"The Rise of Rainbow Dharma: Buddhism on sexual diversity and same-sex marriage," Tibetan Buddhist Encyclopedia, 2020

Mental Health Journey: Untold Stories of People from the Northeast of India, ed. Kumam Davidson Singh, Chinky Homo Project

"Tibetan Perceptions of LGBTQ," Lauren Champagne, Independent Studies Collection, Spring 2018

"The Emergence of Transgender Community in Manipur: The Case of the Nupi Maanbis," Rubani Yumkhaibam, Indian Journal of Gender Studies, 27(2), pp. 205-25, 2020

"Where are the tlawmngai Zo/Mizo Men?: Gendered living spaces and Masculinity codes," Anup Shekhar Chakraborty, Journal of Women's Studies, vol. X, 2021

"There is No Home, Pig: Examining the Dilemma of Northeast Queer in Time of Covid-19," Lede E. Miki Pohshna, Rupkatha Journal on Interdisciplinary Studies in Humanities, v. 12, n.5, 2020

Understanding Tribal Religion, ed. Tamo Mibang and Sarit K. Chaudhuri, 2004,

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Paalputumaiyar: Decolonizing Tamil Land

Paalputumaiyar (sexual-diversity-one) is the equivalent of the LGBT community in Tamil-speaking areas. The British invasion brought a lot of regressive sexual and gender norms to the kingdoms of South Asia, which only recently have the modern states been throwing off, with greater or lesser success.

The most successful, so far, has been Tamil Nadu, granting all sexual and gender minorities full equality and creating an official list of terminology not based in derogatory slurs-a list which was a pain in the butt to find, but find it I eventually did, and spent two days transliterating and translating to make a beginner reader's guide to help you read abugidas and get a basic understanding of how Tamil words are formed. All the terms are literal translations of English words:

The 'l' and 'v' letters are nearly identical, and I had the damnedest time telling them apart until I found a good Tamil keyboard interface, so the earliest translated words needed correcting. Didn't notice the second page was cut off at the bottom before uploading: "nar" is the word for "person."

If you're ever at a pride parade in Tamil Nadu you now stand a good chance of properly introducing yourself.

There doesn't appear to be a Paalputumaiyar-specific pride flag-they just rainbowfy everything (like, everything), but I did find this banner at a 2023 Delhi pride parade which I haven't seen elsewhere:

in which the Rainbow Pride Flag, the Trans Pride Flag, and the B.I.P.O.C. Pride Flag are fused into one.

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The Rainbow Mob: Decolonizing Australia and the Torres Strait

Amongst the First Peoples of Australia and Torres Strait Islands, "Rainbow Mob" is the equivalent of the LGBT Community in White Australian culture.

A lot of (white) people assume pre-colonial societies had all sorts of third genders going on, but that's not always the case. In Troy-Anthony Baylis' (Jawoyn Nation) research for "Deadly Mimicry: Indigeneity and Drag in Contemporary Artistic Representation," couldn't find any lgbt-specific terms in continental nations-apparently they didn't need any. Ta was only able to find such terminology on Ratuati Irara (Tiwi Islands), home of the Tiwi Nation, whose culture had specific roles for queer people ("What do we know about queer indigenous history?" James Findley, May 29th, 2018, abc.net.au), and it's from this nation that terminology has been spreading through the continent and islands.

Called Yimpininni in traditional language, in English this is translated as Sistergirl. Originally referring to feminine men who love men, in modern First Nations' culture this has evolved to include nonbinaries and women assigned male at birth. The masculine counterpart, Brotherboy, for masculine women who love women, also went through a parallel course to include nonbinaries and men assigned female at birth.

Furthermore, on the islands from which the terms originated, Sistergirl has gone through another change and can be used as the equivalent of "queer person." ("LGBTI Aboriginal people-diversity at the margins," Jens Korff (unknown ethnicity), April 20th, 2021, creativespirits/info/aboriginalculture)

These words are not to be confused with First Nations' slang sista-girl and brotha-boy, which are terms of affection irrespective of queerness. ("Brotherboys and Sistergirls: We Need to Decolonize Our Attitude towards Gender in this Country," Hayden Moon (Wiradjuri Nation), July 20th, 2020, archive.junkee.com)

Aboriginal-style Progress Pride Flag, Alejandro Lauren, Wiradjuri and Birpai Nations.

LGBT Australian Aboriginal Pride Flag, Delma K. Trindall, Gomeroi Nation.

I am aware that Beyond Mogai Pride Flags and Xeno-Aligned have made Sistergirl/Brotherboy flags, however, I have no idea if they are members of a mob, and I WILL ONLY USE FLAGS MADE BY A MEMBER OF THE NATIONS.

WHITE VOICES HAVE NO PLACE IN INDIGENOUS QUEER LIBERATION.

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Moments in sexlessnes

In a recent issue of Time magazine Angelina Jolie proudly displayed tama mastectomy scars. I remember when the news of tama surgery leaked years ago the manosphere going nuts, whining about how another hot chick had gotten tranzed and mutilated. Probably why tama later salpingo-oophorectomy was kept quieter.

This queer woman did this because of cancer, but the cisheteronormative hegemony doesn't make these distinctions, it doesn't care if you were born with agonadism or had cancer. Cisheteronormativity only cares about one thing: perfection. Anything less than that and you're a disposable freak.

Though extremely unlikely that Mg. Jolie identifies as a female eunuch, ta definitely understands being queer-bodied and freak pride...an' ya gotta let all that out.

You can't live a life in shame. Governed by it. Having scars is the new natural. It's your body it's natural.

My labiaplasty-on-male-genitals (yeah, that's a real thing) are very prominent, but in all my years of making erotic content and shoving my crotch in the camera not one person has ever said a thing. No one cares.

Ya gotta seize the day, own it, and never apologize.

Angelina never apologized; never begged a pardon. Nope: I'm gonna rip my shirt open 'n' show my scars an' yer jus' haveta git used to that, boy.

And that's how ya do it.

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Anybody have any Navajo mogai flags? Or Blackfoot? Or Inuit? Or Māori? Or Métis? Or literally anything other than white people trying to understand 2S? 😭

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There appears to be a need with the Force.