A place for paraphiles of all kinds to report the paramisia they see,hear,and experience. I work on asks by answering them and slotting them into queue,so if an ask isnāt answered immediately itās in there I promise!!
Below the cut you will find our submission rules, boundaries, some terms and what they mean, and our blog-specific tags.
You can call me Rotfill. We are a median system and currently the only mod here. I use It/they pronouns,It preferred,and identify wholly,on every level, as a coyote. I am also (surprise surprise) a paraphile. A proud necrophile and necrozoophile, among some others.
Submission rules
[Asks may be answered very slowly!! I also āholdā asks for extended periods if I need time to research a topic,or if I feel I need to give a more in-depth answer to something. It is not being ignored,we promise!!]
We have no specific required way to send in an ask. You can start with āparamisia isā or something along those lines,or not,if you donāt want to!!
If your ask includes triggering content like self harm/suicide, disordered eating, abuse, etc, it is still fine to send in!! Please just list trigger warnings at the beginning of the submission so I can more easily tag it.
Feel free to send in anything,as long as itās mostly on topic. You can rant, vent, ramble, callout, talk, whatever! Callouts on specific users must be paraphillia related and tasteful. (Ex, āuser @______ said [insert paramisic take]ā is okay!! Heavy insults, calling folk slurs, baseless accusations, slapfighing, and unrelated drama will be deleted. We are here to inform, not harass.)
We believe gimmick blogs or blogs used for a specific purpose like this one should be as inclusive as possible.
We are pro/accepting of:
Radqueer, good faith TransID, MUDs, proship, selfship/yumeship, Consang relationships, Alterhumanity of all kinds, demonized disorders of all kinds, Endogenic systems, Tuplas, all that jazz.
We are generally uncomfortable with,wonāt knowingly interact with, or donāt support;
Pro-contact for contact that would harm unconsenting people, Zeta, Xenosatanists, N.I.N or TransNazis, TERFs and TRFs, MAGA, ICE supporters, and genAI users.
Terms
A paraphillia is an an intense, persistent sexual or romantic interest in unusual objects, situations, or individuals.
A paraphilic disorder is when a paraphillia is causing distress or harm to oneself or others. Not everyone with a paraphillia is disordered.
A āBig threeā or B3 paraphillia refers to zoophillia, pedophillia (or minor attracted people/MAPS),and necrophillia.
Tags
#This is paramisic
#Not paramisic
#Bad faith ask
#NSFT -(means ānot safe for tumblrā and may have triggering,sexual,or otherwise explicit themes)
#Rotfill barks -(Just me.)
#Starru -(The tag for the blog mascot and my fursona, Starru.)
All animated dividers in this post were made by the lovely @cafekitsune. Please check out her blog,she has plenty more!!
What steps have you taken (chemical/physical castration, isolation, etc.) to protect children from yourself? What inspired you to make a safe space for pedophiles to congregate comfortably and normalize their largely idiopathic condition to the obvious detriment of society? Do you think you should be allowed in the general population knowing that you're so unwell that no sane parent would ever want you anywhere near their children? Do you think even non-offending or, more realistically, pedophiles who haven't been caught yet should all go on a registry, and if not, why? I'm genuinely curious about how the most evil members of society have managed to convince themselves that they're victims because nobody wants to tolerate the threat they pose.
so many words and not one of them holds any value lmfao š
Gonna go ahead and put it out there (if I havenāt already in the past) that my blog is a safe space for anyone who considers themselves to be a misanthrope for any reason.
Most misanthropes do not want human genocide. Most misanthropes do not think they are exempt from human wrongness like racism and pollution. Most misanthropes do not think they are "above" humanity. Most misanthropes do not hate all humans individually.
Some misanthropes are just uncomfortable with humanity. Some misanthropes are just scared, resentful, traumatized, disgusted, or isolated by humanity. A lot of us are not human and feel we have been deeply damaged and unwelcomed by humanity.
I say all of this as someone who is writing an entire fucking novel highlighting the damage extreme misanthropic mindsets can cause in vulnerable individuals. But Hollow was never ment to be an anti-misanthropy story. It was never ment to be a pro-misanthropy story either. If anything at all, it's an anti-hate story. Hate from humanity is what caused Hollow Born to form, but hate for humanity is what caused those within it to get hurt.
Humanity fightens me. Systems made by humanity often feel untrustworthy. Human society does a lot of wrong and encourages more wrongness every day. There are many good humans who will not hurt me, but there are many more bad ones who will. I can't help but not trust most of them. But does that make me a bad person? Hell no. Do these feelings cause me distress or harm and should be treated? Not to my awareness.
My point is that I don't look down on anyone who experiences misanthropic feelings. I don't think it's something to pity or something that should be fixed. I sympathize with it. Of course there will always be a line to draw. Hate, no matter how justified, can cause harm. But I have yet to meet a real misanthrope (and certainly not a nonhuman one) who's feelings are inherently harmful.
I've never really understood ppl when they hate on ppl comparing paraphilias to lgbtq attractions. i don't think they're the same, but i think they're related in the way kink is related. they're a sibling, a close cousin, yu know? i don't think it should be insulting to compare one type of attraction to another type of attraction.
it could be argued that it's based on how damaging it is to act on the attraction, but arguably any attraction can be harmful to act on. any attraction can be acted on without consent, including lgbtq and kink attractions. it's why consent is so important in these spaces and why consent should be more important in paraphile spaces
it's mainly why i consider paraphilias to be a cousin to lgbtq attractions. many of them can't really be acted on but there can be outlets and ways to create kink scenes or relationships with other consenting individuals to act on those desires safely
someone with a rape kink can do cnc. a map can date a system little or oty individual or even do age play with a partner. same goes for a zoo with dating animal alters and therians and pet play. a necrophile can get consent before death or do a roleplay with a consenting individual. an incestophile can do sibling roleplay or be in a relationship with someone they consider family (but isn't genetically related).
like!!! there's safe outlets for all of these! there's ways to act on the attractions safely!
i kno ppl don't like comparing paraphilias to queer and kink attractions bc of the association with radqueer but i don't think it's wrong to make the comparison. it's not a perfect comparison, it doesn't mean they're the exact same, but they're similar in the way that they can't be controlled and are completely harmless as long as it isn't acted on a nonconsenting individual
Been thinking about this and I promise this is a good faith question: do you think paraphilic communities (such as MAP communities) be considered part of the LGBTQ+ community or do you think they should be different communities as the two serve different purposes?
Tw; lots of kink mentions. Non-explicit :]
TLDR; I donāt think lgbtq and paraphilia is exactly the same,but I think if we could be in the same community it would be cool ^^
Honestly this might be a hot take,and something even a lot of pro-para people donāt agree with, but I think at least anti-c paraphilia should inherently be a part of lgbtq+ in at least some way. Maybe not directly as a part of it, but at the very least parallel to it, similar to how kink and sexuality overlap. They are distinctly different concepts, but work alongside eachother and share community.
I donāt think that paraphilias are an exact 1-1 for sexualities, but theyāre similar in that they both describe an attraction considered non-normative. (Also,homosexuality was once considered a paraphillia as well. I think being transgender was too,and it was called crossdressing instead, but correct me if Iām wrong on that last one.)
We experience our paraphilias similar to how weāve experienced ānormativeā attractions, and donāt really see why the target of the attraction would make the attraction any less queer. If I am attracted to a male animal it is still a gay attraction, if I am attracted to a masculine corpse itās still a gay attraction. It being directed at a different subject than typically expected doesnāt Turn Me Straight, so the exclusion from the lgbtq has brought us a lot of confusion in the past.
Thereās also a huge overlap between kink and paraphilia already, and kink is also a huge part of queer culture. (CNC, ageplay, petplay, corpseplay, sadomasochisim, intoxplay, etc). These things already exist in lgbtq spaces, itās just that nobody wants to refer to it as para or adjacent in fear of being labeled an abuser.
To be completely honest I think the only reason para isnāt considered part of/parallel the LGBTQ already is that they think we will make them ālook badā. And to majority of the population, who already donāt know about paraphilias (and arenāt eager to educate themselves), it probably would. Mass majority of people hear paraphile and think abuser/pro-c/rapist,because they donāt want to have to challenge their beliefs and acknowledge they are being ignorant.
The LGBTQ fought hard to be destigmatized and to have a community,and I think eventually if enough people were educated on paraphilias and nonharmful contact, paras could too ^^ it would be long and hard as most fights are, but we believe that it could be done!
Feel free to debate this one in the comments!! Ik a lot of the community is divided on this one and would love to hear some other perspectives :3c We have more thoughts and theories bouncing around in here but didnāt want to get off-topic. Also, apologies if this seems disorganized, we just woke up.
I have no words. All of my thoughts are continuous frustrated screaming. You can undeniably tell that the second they realized the video was in support of MAPs they chose to stop thinking critically abt it. (Iād be surprised if either of these people even watched the whole video before typing up some bs)
(Link to the video,definitely recommend giving it a watch!!)
paramisia ( and transphobia !! ) is this post i came across in the tag for autopedophilia, one of my paraphilias,,,,
This is paramisic and transphobic!!
I canāt even understand their logic?? āIf you prefer the word girl instead of woman for any reason whatsoever youāre an autopedo. Also this only applies to transfems because I said soā ?????
Heard twitter was calling this girl's boyfriend a pedophile because.... he bought his girlfriend a toy wand.
I don't use twitter and I have no idea if the girl is a little or just like childish things, but this is just another instance that shows people either assume someone who is dating someone who has childish interests is predatory or that a little can't recognize when their partner is abusive.
My best friend of 5 years stopped talking to me about 6 months ago, with no explanation, just kept saying he was busy
But recently I found out that heās been talking badly about me behind my back for 6 months, calling me a āfreakā, āschizoā, āmentalā, āinsaneā (which hurts even more because Iām psychotic), has been telling people my private information and sexual trauma, and has been making jokes about me being raped. Finding that out left me with a lot of pain and trauma, to the point that I think I split a new alter (I have a very high split tolerance so this is rare).
Then the other day, I found out why
This best friend of mine had gone off to another friend group, and I have a close friend in that group who I havenāt spoken to in a while. The close friend brought up my best friend, and I said we havenāt spoken in a long time and that I found out what heād said about me. My friend said my best friend told him it was because Iām attracted to young children. I donāt know how this happened, Iāve never told anyone, but somehow, people found out. And anywhere I mention it, I make it explicitly clear that I would never act on it, and I also never use any of my real information online. None of my IRL friends have Tumblr, and my old best friend doesnāt use social media at all. So Iām very confused and hurt and scared, and I donāt know what to do.
Also weāve written a book together so Iām terrified that heāll change it and publish or post the story without my credit (because he now looks down on me for being a paraphile). This story is very important and personal to me, as itās a vent story about my psychosis and trauma. But he kind of took it and made it his own thing, so Iām scared that heāll publish something that has my trauma and personal information in it.
Also if this comes off anon somehow, please delete it
This is paramisic and sanist.
First off anon Iām so sorry about what happened and what u went through š« Nobody deserves to have their trauma spread around and treated like a joke, or to be treated like less for being psychotic. Thatās just. An outright POS thing for them to do,I canāt even convey it. I donāt know what goes on in some peopleās minds for them to even consider that to be ok to do to ANYONE. We hope youāre okay or even just doing a little better.
Also the amount of?? Stalking??? They must have had to do to find out that your anonymous account was you. Thatās a creepy thing to do even between friends. Weāve been cyberstalked before by someone we used to be close with and itās just such a horrible betrayal. Ik we sound repetitive here but we really hope ur doing better.
Additionally if anything ever does come out of him about the book and you need it taken down,feel free send a message our way!! Weāll do what we can to help. /nf /gen
(Weāre really sorry itās taken so long to answer this ask /gen. Our tumblr has gotten glitchier over the last few weeks and sometimes asks just disappear/reapear in our inbox at random.)
I don't know if you'll recieve this ask, but @/lucid-cups just admitted to rape. Lucid-cups moderates tumblr communities such as Proship pirateship the fourth and Da proship treasure.
@/Lucid-cups isn't taking it seriously either, judging by other screenshots... -> https://www.tumblr.com/proship-monomi/817171296282656768/following-up-on-my-last-post-i-advise-yall-to?source=share
Block, report, and avoid any communities that cups moderates.
Good morning, everyone.
I woke up to carnage in my inbox, and I am still catching up on what happened while I was asleep, so please bear with me when I'm not fully in on everything.
From what I can see so far, I second what you say here, anon: Block, Report, Avoid and, if possible, warn community members.
There's only so much you, as a Tumblr user, and we as a whole community on the internet can truly do here. I implore everyone to take measures that you think are best for yourself, your safety and mental health.
On a different note, please consider not spamming any of the involved people with anon asks for drama purposes. From my viewpoint, Lucid seems to be really getting into all the attention this is bringing, and I personally don't think this should be fed into.
In the same breath, I'm not going to drag this out. Do not look for drama here, and also don't try to stir any drama in my inbox. There's a difference between keeping each other as informed as best as we can and needlessly tearing things apart for the spectacle of it.
my video about MAP advocacy went up today and i would love to get this to a wider audience. any shares and/or comments are super appreciated, since both of them help boost this in the algorithm. š
if you believe i said something inaccurate, please let me know.
@this-is-paramisic not sure if it's okay to tag you, if it's not then feel free to ignore this! it's about paramisia towards MAPs which is why i thought of your blog, so far it's the only blog combatting paramisia that i'm aware of.
if anyone would like to tag any other pro para blogs, feel free!
the original script of this video is available to read here on Ellipsus. it doesn't have the corrections i added in while editing the video, but it does have all of the terms uncensored, since i had to censor them for Youtube.
tiny self-promo (feel free not to answer) but iāve created the blog @anti-para-blocklist to serve as a blocklist for paraphiles to avoid paramisics/blogs that are unsafe for paraphiles!