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weepingwidar

William Wegman (American, 1943) - Warehouse Wally (1988)

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minotauri

[louder than everyone] MAN I THINK IT DEPENDS!

Do Ho Suh

Sculptural works created from translucent polyester fabric.

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danceundersparklinglights

i’m going to be really honest with you guys i think the tendency to read the absolute worst possible intentions into every action you don’t agree with is getting too automatic and it’s eating you from the inside out

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opossum-handz

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leebrontide

Can I offer a reframe of the common "write the shitty first draft" advice? I like that advice a lot but I think the way it's often presented bounces off a lot of people and activates shit that does not help writing happen.

I think of the first draft as an armature.

If I was making a beautiful bronze statue, I would need to make a clay model first. And, depending on the shape, before I even got out my clay I would need to get some good thick wire and create a basic shape for the clay to adhere to, so it doesn't all fall down. Once I have this essential 3D wire frame, I can start building and subtracting and refining.

But if I try to refine on just clay, it won't have enough of a core to hold it up. I'll sculpt a beautiful hand only to have the whole arm fall off and go smush.

The armature isn't the sculpture. It is the frame you build the sculpture around.

The first draft isn't the novel, it's a sort-of-novel-shaped thing that will hold up everything you build and beautify later.

Write the armature draft. Try to make it a good armature, instead of trying to make it a good novel before it's ready.

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fangorn-forest

mutuals let's sit at the end of the dock and splash our feet in the water while we watch the sunset

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depsidase

dandelionsresilience

Just gonna drop these here as a starting point :)

How to identify, and then deal with, your emotions

Emotional regulation skills

Conflict resolution skills

Creating and enforcing boundaries

Dialectical Behavioural Therapy skills

Emotional intelligence ideals to aim for

Axes of self-care/wellbeing

Self-care self-evaluation (find out where you’re starting)

How to make a self-care checklist

How to start a self-care habit

Reparenting resources

Crash Course Psychology

KhanAcademy: Understanding the Self and Society (some units more relevant than others)

Emotional education activities for children and teens

Social-Emotional Learning activities for kids (information can be adapted for adults)

radak1985

I'm reblogging to actually use this

a-pocket-0f-scarecrows

Reblogging so I can read all of this; I think I do need to do better with my emotional maturity so this will come in handy.

#I have not checked these courses #and I think REAL emotional regulation as opposed to intellectulisation is hard to learn as an adult #and must be holistic and involve the body too #but what a point #q

gothredy

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kafkasapartment

Incoming Tide, 1934. Hayley Lever. Oil on canvas

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The cover of Trouble Will Find Me by The National, but it's Shane & Ilya.

(I made this for an epub cover for I have only two emotions (careful fear and dead devotion) by tiredtiredsharl on ao3, but I also just like the illustration so I'm posting it here too)

#heated rivalry #hollanov #shane hollander #ilya rozanov #fanfiction inspired #I cannot post this anywhere else #because the rest of my art is not fan art #and therefore it would be confusing #so tumblr please be kind to me and my first foray into posting in this fandom #yes Ilya is maybe too pale #but in the universe of this fic I think he wouldn't have a tan #and that's my truth

ellisonwongparty

actually have nothing funny or snarky to say about episode 5. this is just actually the most moving and heartwrenching television i've ever witnessed and it changed my life. it changed so many people's lives. sometimes i'm like the hr hype is lowkey a little too insane and then i watch this episode and i feel like the world writ large actually underreacted to how legendary this episode was. i too would actually soul bond with francois, hudson, and connor if i witnessed this live in the dead of winter.

ellisonwongparty

like i'm sorry rr/tierney ate with this....... like the idea that someone else coming out being the impetous for you yourself taking a big leap of faith too is so like. what being gay and in a community is about. like you just literally don't know you aren't the only one if someone doesn't come out and do something so ridiculously brave. sorry i'm being so earnest about this because i'm writing this mid tears. like that thing jacob said about how scott's coming out needs to be outlandish and loud to contrast the like quiet and tender coming together of shane and ilya. the problem with this show is that it's literally that good.

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riseofthecommonwoodpile

you make one fucking post where the point is “women are encouraged to develop disordered eating from a very young age and that impacts how we view the ‘natural’ size and shape of women” and too many reblogs later i am being accused of saying short people wouldn’t exist if they ate better growing up. i’m sorry but if you genuinely think i was saying that you are just a buffoon. i cannot and will not sanction your buffoonery.

#I have a pet theory that a lot of women have destroyed their hunger signals so thoroughly #and have internalised diet culture so hard #that they genuinely do not know they are giving themselves a smaller portion than they desire #anywho #q