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19 | ash | tired as shiiitttt | formerly everythingisonfireohdear

[bernard-jackson]

[yossyislandd]

you fucking suck at burger

[zangoonse]

[lucy-vanpelts]

when someone calls me their friend my heart skips a beat it’s like i won at being myself

[shamebats]

Imo the best type of system for children to grow up in would be one that assumes the birth parents/primary guardians won't do shit and takes care of every aspect of childcare that's essential for their wellbeing and development, collectively.

[shamebats]

But I'm just a guy who only learned how to brush his teeth properly and got glasses as a child because we had both a dentist and a doctor come to school on a regular basis. The dentist would have us all stand in a circle with our little toothbrushes and show us how to brush and correct our technique. The doctors would give us general health assessments and then have the teachers contact our patents and essentially peer pressure them into getting us any health intervention we needed. My parents only reluctantly got me glasses because they knew the teachers would judge them if they kept seeing me sit in the very front row and still squint to see the chalkboard. So I'm biased.

[shamebats]

The only times I ever remember seeing a dentist or doctor as a child was at school. I'm quite healthy physically and I'm very grateful for all the care I got from the various professionals who cared about my well-being and development more than my actual parents did.

We had free healthcare including dental, mind you, my parents just couldn't be bothered. When my brother, as a teenager, asked our mother if she could take him to his orthodontist appointments (which he'd already arranged for on his own) she basically told him she didn't feel like it and he had to take the bus.

If I could improve anything about that system, I'd take it even further and make it so kids could see a doctor and get meds, treatments, therapy, tests, disability aids etc. without having to rely on their parents as well. I shouldn't have had to put up with being bullied and guilt-tripped about the family finances and the time investment needed to take me to the optometrist every time I needed new glasses.

[shamebats]

Some parents would not take care of their children even if they were given all the time and the resources. Mine are a great example of that — my mother stopped working and became a homemaker when I was in kindergarten, my father worked from the garage and was also always home. They had a car and our village even had a bus that would come once or twice an hour that would take you to the next two bigger cities.

Did that, plus the free healthcare, translate into them actually parenting and caring for us properly? It did not. They only ever did any of that reluctantly when not doing it would make them look bad, and most of the time they did a shitty job because they could never resist the urge to boost their egos by means of bullying literal children.

So I have to wonder: what did they actually contribute to our upbringing? Like they didn't teach us shit and mostly they just endangered our mental and physical health — but hey, at least they gave me cPTSD! That took some work too.

[anarchistmemedistro]

see also family abolition, and youth liberation .

[applefae]

A knee-jerk response to neglectful parenting I see a lot is “people should have to get licenses and take rigorous tests to PROVE that they should be ALLOWED to have kids” which is eugenics. That’s just the starting line for eugenics.

We are at a point in humanity where there is no meaningful reason why we shouldn’t be structuring our societies around wellbeing for all instead of wellbeing for the “deserving”.

Assume some parents will fail. Build social infrastructure that is designed to support failed kids rather than punish would-be parents.

[queer-riot-dragon]

Parents do not have to be neglectful to fail!

They can be busy, tired, stressed about finances, ignorant, etc. They can want to do the best for their kid and Fail Anyways.

The best thing is to support the children and give them the tools they need to succeed even if the parents are already giving them those tools. Because you can never learn something too much.

[lessproblematical]

Also sometimes parents become disabled or die and family can't always be counted on, and sometimes there isn't other family

[joyflameball]

[4r4chn1dsc4l18r4tor]

boobs. heheswweweheheeheh boob

[phumblr]

if u even care

[madame-snail-smooches]

watching people get into tma for the first time is SUCH an experience. they'll be like "man Jon is such a cunt he really should be knocked down a peg"

and you just have to sit there quietly and NOT say "oh honey he gets knocked down sooooo many pegs. there are legitamately no pegs left to knock this man down. you are going to be begging him to take some pegs back before the end of this"

[bleachblondephil]

quick someone tell them!!

[korokio]

do you think she spent the entire night looking for them

[otakusheep15]

Phil after meeting Dan:

[hauntedchronicler]

thank you ao3 for always delivering what i need alongside insights into strange and beautiful lands of which i have no knowledge

[ghostpotion]

I ❤️ ghost cousins

[sassking-trevor]

My friend with a weird yet harmless kink: I have this weird yet harmless kink

Me, a loving and supportive friend that doesn’t judge them for their weird yet harmless kink:

[the-haiku-bot]

My friend with a weird

yet harmless kink: I have this

weird yet harmless kink

Beep boop! I look for accidental haiku posts. Sometimes I mess up.

[disabledandtrans]

email to: [email protected] or fill out this form

[disabledandtrans]

progesterone tracker is here.

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and if you can't. please. please do reblog. i need this to be as big as humanly possible. it is the best way forwards to inform decisions.

[demilypyro]

You fool, assuming I'm a dog girl just because I'm trans. I'm a cat girl, the classic, the original. If you tell me what to do I'm gonna lay down and stare at you. If you tell me I'm a good girl my claws are going in your face

[demilypyro]

You may leave it near me and I'll deign to investigate when it pleases me.

[demilypyro]

This is allowed. Perhaps I'll let you brush me later.

[demilypyro]

Shit hang on I gotta look into this

[mafuyuh]

little guys in ghibli movies

[sailorstar-usagi]

I’ve always loved the soot sprites in Spirited Away!

[cool-deltarune-fun-facts]

Deltarune Fun Fact:

Susie is a normal, healthy girl and there is nothing wrong with her.

[cool-deltarune-fun-facts]

Deltarune Fun Fact:

Susie is a normal, healthy girl and there is nothing wrong with her.