a lot of behaviors that get attributed to "female socialization" can be so much more easily and accurately understood as a person recognizing the power differential surrounding them and behaving sensibly in response to that.
like. does a woman politely listen to a man monologue at her because of some experience she had when she was twelve that magically cursed her to behave that way forever, or does she do it because the man has the power to hurt her and she knows it?
does a woman do all the dishes in her household because she is less capable of breaking out of a long-ago conditioned response than, like, your average trained dog, or is she doing that because she knows that all the men in the house will blame her if she doesnt and will make life worse for her if she speaks up?
maybe a lot of sexist patterns of behavior that are widely observed in society arent caused by women like, lacking willpower or backbone? maybe it is super fucking weird for supposedly feminist movements to imply this is the case when they talk about female socialization as the end all, be all of predicting human behavior?
isnt it both more useful and more respectful toward women to consider that they are perceiving their present circumstances accurately, and recognize when power is already being wielded against them, and take logical measures to deescalate and protect themselves because it works? is it not fucking clear to everybody that trans women in particular have to do this all the fucking time?
im a bit of a pointless hater about certain usages of the term “monsterfucker” bc i think it’s often one of those things people say but don’t believe with their whole chest. like if all the “monsters” you like are vampires and similar mopey human-looking folks it’s possible you are actually just into goths. Let’s not dilute the beautiful world of teratophilia for our bloodborne sex soldiers out there fucking and sucking in yharnam or whatever. Anyone on earth would fuck a vampire. that’s vanilla
Don't you DARE gatekeep monsterfucking OP, all fuckers of all monsters are valid. If one person mostly prefers the twink bodytype and another prefers the bear bodytype, they're both still attracted to men. Some people fuck monsters because of the taboo of finding something dangerous or other than "human" attractive and some people fuck monsters because they want to feel a tentacle force their butthole open like an anteater snout into a termite mound. All of us are nasty freaks and there's no need to create unneeded barriers between us.
if we’re considering essentially cannibalistic human people with bad teeth to be monsters we must include those who are attracted to British people under the banner of monsterfucking lest someone feel invalidated
The "attraction to vampires and other mostly-human monsters" end of the spectrum gets debated like this because it is both monsterfucking AND normie at the same time. It also has its equal and opposite twin in wanting to fuck a person so idealized they no longer resemble a human.
Hear me out. (Long post under the cut)
I think that at least some degree of interest/attraction to the monstrous is an extremely commonplace human condition. See how insanely popular monster movies and tales are. See how we keep mixing sex into our horror movies. I think the vast majority of people WOULD or already do find Dracula Castlevania or Pyramidhead or Beast Disneyfranchise hot. It's monsterfucking because it is an attraction to the monstrousness, it's also vanilla because most of us experience some degree of that.
What it clarifies for me is that it attraction to the mildly monstrous is the middle of the normie/spectrum, the far ends are not the total absence or total inhumanity, but two very different extremes of monstrousness: broad-spectrum hyperpersonalization and narrow-spectrum depersonalization.
We freaks on Tumblr are more familiar with the hyperpersonalization end of the spectrum: attraction to beings that in no way resemble humans in form or consciousness, but who are still find mentally *people*. Wanting union with sapient mycelial networks. Thinking The House from House of Leaves is kind of a milf. The monstrousness here is the horror of personhood in a formnot recognized as a person. You can see the appeal to all the ND and disabled people here. It's broad spectrum because not only has the definition of person been widely expanded, people on this far end are attracted to multiple very differently shaped monsters. This is important because it helps explain what's happening on the other end.
The far opposite end involves attraction to extremely specifically shaped beings that have been completely stripped of any personhood. Really putting the objectification in the Object of Affection. It begins with being into people with very specific features, like being into perisex cisgender Caucasian women with blue eyes and blonde hair under the age of 25 and ONLY them. Having a preference for certain features is normal, but it begins to loop back when the presence of these features eclipses the actual personality of the subject when it comes to attraction- both in the sense of "would not even consider looking a 26-year old" and "the specific entities they're looking at? They are not listening to" . As you continue down that end of the spectrum, not only does personhood become less important, the desired body becomes more and more specific until you have an entity of such outrageous proportions and inorganic perfection that it no longer resembles a human. The monstrousness is in the total absence of personhood, even in something that (sort of) looks like a conventional person.
This isn't a value judgement on either end. You can have whatever bizarre fantasies you want so long as you are kind to your fellow beings.
This is only one of the two snakes in this double oroborous of monsterfucking because of course the kink is shaped like that.
So far, we have only been discussing someone being attracted to a variably monstrous subject. The other snake is when the monster they want to be fucked is themselves. Again, the hyperpersonalization/depersonalization axis is in play: people who would want to BE the parasitic goo monster and have their personhood recognized in a grand romance, and people who wish to shed their personhood entirely and become a sexy, sexy table lamp.
These two orobori- attraction to the monstrousness of the other and monstrousness of the self- cycle through each other in many ways through many intersections, but the thing that both the hyperpersonalists and the depersonalists have in common is the creative exploration of the form that could be, whereas the normies have only begun to consider "huh. That guy is kinda fucked up, and that sorta makes him hot?"
Re: the middle of the spectrum: monsterfucking exists as extremes of what could be, and normcore is the absolute lack of creativity, but I think humanity in general sits in a bimodal distribution centered on the first deviations away from that very boring middle. Wanting to be or fuck a vampire is not the most vanilla, but it is very common.Likewise, wanting to be or fuck Barbie is also not totally vanilla, but more common than actual vanilla is.
TL; DR: wanting to fuck a vampire is both normie and monsterfucking, as is wanting to fuck Jessica Rabbit, to about the same degree in the other direction.
Actually I'd like to revise my opinion a bit because I'm hydrated now and my friend in chat pointed out that my "inhumanity of form" and "recognition of personhood" are just two of the MANY axes upon which the monsterfuckerness of anything can be judged, so I propose this:
Kink in general, but ESPECIALLY monsterfucking, is the exploration of what could be. Playing Imagination, if you will. Therefore, it's opposite is a total lack of imagination.
Since it's extremely weird for a human to be totally without creativity, what you get is a bimodal distribution on either side with a sharp dip in the middle, where the vast majority of people are into something A Little Weird, tapering out the Spiders Georgs out there who want to be actually jacked off by the invisible hand of the marketplace or suchlike esoteric and unachievable fantasies.
Hence, wanting to fuck a vampire is both monsterfucking and normie at the same time.
An Example Graph for people that didn't take stats back in high school: The distribution of attraction on the Hyperhuman-to-Inhuman Anatomical Axis of Monster Fuckery (one of MANY axes of monsterfuckery)
Figure 1: classic Nonhuman Antatomical Form Monsterfucker Spectrum
Figure 2: Proposed Inverse of the previous spectrum, AKA "Hyperhuman Anatomical Form" Monsterfucker Spectrum:
Figure 3: The full spectrum of Deviance From Human Anatomy Axis of Monsterfuckery:
My theory is that you can analyze "Monsterfuckery" on various axes (inhumanity of form, social monstrosity, etc.) and the population distribution will shake out the same way.
…..not even six hours later i got an offer of a well paying full time long-term job with free room and board in queens in nyc, allowing me independence and a way to escape an abusive situation and an unhealthy environment
likes charge reblogs cast, folks, this is the good luck post
the last time I reblogged this post right before I got a great job, in a permanent work-from-home position, with benefits, retirement, and a salary literally 3x what I was making before, doing something I really like.
Ok but legit the actual video is so good and goes pretty in depth of how they actually did it. It was a "potion for melancholy" and he explains some history behind it, including how much knowledge they really did have about certain plants and herbs and the benefits behind them. It goes into the process of This Particular way of extracting those plants properties(oils and stuff I think through distillation??). Pleeaaaaase go watch it if it sounds even slightly interesting to you. And he also does really try it.
Honestly just go listen to some of his videos. He's great.
This is my legit favorite YouTuber. His entire channel is scholarly discussions on ancient and medieval religions, magic, the occult, and philosophy. he literally has a PhD in this stuff and provides a ton of information on how to find resources for further reading on topics
Say hello to Triple Sec, out June 4, 2024 from Simon & Schuster! (Art by Petra Braun.)
It’s queer! It’s poly! It’s cocktails!!! Official synopsis below the cut.
A jaded bartender is wooed by a charmingly quirky couple in this fresh and sizzling polyamorous rom-com, set in the exclusive world of high-end cocktail bars—from the acclaimed author of the “tender, decadent, and sparklingly funny” (Lana Harper, New York Times bestselling author) Chef’s Choice.
As a bartender at Terror & Virtue, a swanky New York City cocktail lounge known for its romantic atmosphere and Insta-worthy drinks, Mel has witnessed plenty of disastrous dates. That, coupled with her own romantic life being in shambles, has Mel convinced love doesn’t exist.
Everything changes when Bebe walks into the bar. She’s beautiful, funny, knows her whiskeys—and is happily married to her partner, Kade. Mel’s resigned to forget the whole thing, but Bebe makes her a unique offer: since she and Kade have an open marriage, she’s interested in taking Mel on a date.
What starts as a fun romp turns into a burgeoning relationship, and soon Mel is trying all sorts of things she’d been avoiding, from grand romantic gestures to steamy exploits. Mel even gets the self-confidence to enter a cocktail competition that would make her dream of opening her own bar a reality. In the chaotic whirl of all these new experiences, Mel realizes there might be a spark between her and Kade, too. As Bebe, Kade, and Mel explore their connections, Mel begins to think that real love might be more expansive than she ever thought possible.
With TJ Alexander’s signature “witty and insightful voice, complex characters, and full-throated celebration of the joy of queer community” (Ava Wilder, author of How to Fake It in Hollywood), Triple Sec is a passionate, thirst-quenching love story that will have you asking for another round…or three.
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some of my favourite vídeo essays about art history:
whose migrant mother was this? the story of the native american woman who became the face of the 1930s depression (and got almost nothing for it)
bauhaus design is everywhere, but its roots are political how even a simple choice between what font to use can be a political act
edvard munch: what a cigarette means munch + tobacco = art? (yes we’re still on the topic of art as a political weapon)
art that was never finished how great masters sometimes even didn’t finish stuff. also! the history behind the colour aquamarine
fka twigs on mary magdalene (if you like asmr you’re gonna love this)
having a coke with frank ohara (technically not art history but this video is too good for me not to mention)
video postcard: woman at her toilette a quick dive into my favourite painting of woman impressionist berthe morisot
this documentary about georgia o´keeffe (that ive seen about 10 times)
david hockney on vincent van gogh on love of nature, beauty, attention, and the art of looking (essentially a mary oliver poem in interview format!!!!)
dante and the invention of hell short film about centuries of art depicting dante’s circles of hell, my favourite works possibly ever made were inspired by his writing (sky arts documentary so it’s not your standard v. essay)
who’s afraid of modern art: vandalism, video games, and fascism about the meaning of modern art and the publics response to it, as well as a political campaign to eradicate it or moreso make an example of the so-called ‘undesirable’ nature of their art
how to make communist art on the future prospects of art for art’s sake and creativity outside of capitalist restraints
Brigsby Bear, nostalgia culture and millennial optimism a little off topic but an essay about a film that questions our need to attach our identities to our past and our childhoods in particular, questionning whether we should put our faith into recreating our old loves or creating new ones - i think its relevant based on the films perspective on art
museum theft PLEASE watch this introduction if nothing else today, it will make you cling to the edge of your seat; truly a masterpiece
James Baldwin and the Annihilation of Gender by Anansi's Library - stunning essay about gender, sexuality, and Blackness in the works of James Baldwin, and Moonlight (2016).
astronomy has a colonialism problem by Dr. Fatima - Libyan-American and former physicist Dr Fatima discusses the links between colonialism, scientific academia, and the Palestinian liberation movement.
Saltburn: The Tumblr-ification of Cinema by Broey Deschanel - fun essay on how Saltburn is a cheap rip-off of The Untalented Mr Ripley and refuses to admit it, and how such pastiche is a growing problem.
How Shirley Jackson exposed the horror of home life by Books n Cats
This Video Isn't Just About Taylor Swift. It's About You. by Alexander Avilla - a juggernaut of an essay about how so much of Taylor Swift's success is just about the weaponisation of whiteness in marketing.
Time Travelling While Black by Aishyo - comparative essay about media that portrays Black characters who time travel.
Why We Can’t Build Better Cities by Philosophy Tube - Abigail Thorn investigates the ideological links between gentrification and the 15-minute-city conspiracy theory.
Why Sci-fi Can't Fix Its White Savior Problem by Princess Weekes - an essay about how white supremacy and white feminism is baked into science fiction.
Eminem and the White Rapper Problem by F.D Signifier - a retrospective on Eminem's impact on rap, for better and worse.
Why YouTubers Hold Microphones Now by Tom Nicholas - a fascinating piece about how the slow corporatisation of YouTibe has impacted content creators' aesthetics over time, and how this is also a wider trend on the internet.
first of all, FLAWLESS. shes everything. two, i cannot expresss how fucking much im obsessed with her outfit. she came onstage in corporate-drag, then changed into an outfit thats more typical of her. but the mlst eye-catching detail was her too that said “eat me” in bold letters. i didnt think much of it, thought it was jsut a cunty queer move. but i looked at her band and their tops all say “eat the rich.” that puts chappell’s in context, which is her admitting her complicity in the accumulation of too much money under capitalism. i fucking love her. she is a fucking genius and shes bold and oh my GODDD
