Boring Crap

I don't check my activity but you can DM me for recipes: super easy peanut butter cookies (like 5 ingredients or something) or no box brownie (make a brownie from scratch with pantry items

[sapphling]

omg cute couples post! tbh the monogamy thing would never work for me or my partner but this is cute. honestly monogamy is just like NOT something i could ever do but that's great. i hope you're both happy! personally because of MY boundaries i'd cave my own fucking skull in before trying monogamy but that's sooooo cute for you different strokes for different folks ❤️ i mean i've just had such bad experiences with monogamy that the idea disgusts and upsets me but it's so great that you only fuck each other i think that's beautiful, love is love ❤️ your relationship is just as valid as a poly one even if it upsets and frightens me, i'm glad you're somehow able to feel loved like that ❤️

[a-little-beastie-most-foul]

[depsidase]

[gloryofdawn]

I don't think there's a single nation with more right to this proverb than Haiti

[anarchistmemedistro]

[free-and-to-none-accountable]

#my mom's first apartment after the divorce with my dad was $600 in 2018#now my wife and I are paying more than that to live WITH HER PARENTS in 2026#and grateful that that's such a relief compared to if we were out on our own#I swear to god I've watched rent prices triple since I graduated high school#and I'm still made to feel like there's something wrong with ME for still being at home

I paid $400 a month for a decent place in 2016. Four hundred of God's own dollars. Now I pay more than triple that to live in a literal tenement like a Charles Dickens character.

[ifoundmybeatingheartagain]

I've lived in the same apartment for 11 years. my rent has gone up FIFTY PERCENT. same landlord, no major improvements. FIFTY PERCENT.

[ifoundmybeatingheartagain]

i can't find a third roommate to renew the lease on this place because there's more availability in boston and bc this place is overpriced and because the lease ends august 31

he demands all his tenants' leases and renewals start at the same time: sep 1, when half of boston is moving because they're students. finding a uhaul is impossible. but hey it's more convenient for HIM and that's what matters!

i told this man straight up that i would be homeless if he made me move out and he did not give a shit. landlords are fucking EVIL and we need to say it to their faces!!

rent control is going to be on the state ballot in november because our politicians are dragging their feet on passing it legislatively, and they keep moving the goalposts for the referendum. you can't trust politicians to do shit except enrich themselves and their friends.

[existennialmemes]

Companies in the 2000s: You wouldn't download a car! Digital copies are still stealing, even if the original copy remains with us.

Companies in the 2020s: That digital copy, which you have paid for, doesn't really belong to you. We're removing it from your library now.

[existennialmemes]

Companies deleting media you've literally purchased is 1000x more realistically "stealing" than digital piracy, you cannot change my mind

[ceruleanheaven]

religion is so fucking funny the world is just too beautiful there must be a higher entity behind all this. lets oppress women

[amygdalae]

I absolutely adore dogs but I think dog haters are (usually) more justified than cat haters wrt their reasoning

[amygdalae]

your average cat hater: I don't like how they r bitchy and ignore me/ won't let me manhandle them

your average dog hater: I have been mortally endangered by an ill-trained dog

[thememedaddy]

[holy-leapin-splits-batman]

[ranaeley]

Obligatory truck I don’t trust reblog

[genderkoolaid]

from "Promoting and Protecting Human Rights in relation to Sexual Orientation, Gender Identity and Sex Characteristics" by the Asia Pacific Forum of National Human Rights Institutions

For those who haven't heard of Shivy Bhat: he was 19 years old and already being abused by his family while living in California, when after asking his mother if he could cut his hair, she demanded he give her access to his phone and was outdated as trans. Under the pretense that they were taking a trip back to India to see his grandmother, Shivy's family kidnapped him, planning on forcing him to live in India in order to "fix" him by teaching him to be a "cultured Indian girl," and planning on forcing him into an arranged marriage. They had taken away all his identifying documents and his phone. He managed to escape with the help of a local queer feminist group, which then resulted in a legal battle as Shivy's family tried to accuse the group of kidnapping and sex trafficking to get access to him again.

This is not the first case of a trans man in Uttar Pradesh experiencing his family use the legal system to kidnap him after he escapes to a trans shelter. A trans man, 'Aditya', came to a shelter "starved and scared," telling shelter staff his family had confined him for days and he feared for his life. Three days later, in the middle of the night, police forcibly took Aditya from the shelter, without a warrant and without following the procedure of the shelter. In a different incident, a trans man, 'Deep', fled to the Asra shelter because his father, a police officer, was violently abusive, writing in a letter that "I know if I go [back home], I will not be able to come back. They will either kill me or marry me off" and that "I believe [my family] will lock me in the house and there is a threat to my life." Five policemen came to Asra and physically attacked shelter workers, arresting two trans men who worked there and taking them to the police station where they were assaulted further. Similarly, in this article trans man named Vivek Azad talks about his family beating him, having men sent to rape him, not allowing him to cut his hair, and having all his school certificates burned by his brother which prevents him from getting employed. A 17-year-old trans man named Manoj was beaten, tied by his hands and feet, and locked in a room in his family's house after coming out, and forcibly married to a man twice his age, although he was eventually able to escape with his girlfriend and get a divorce from the man he was forced to marry.

[genderkoolaid]

#these are heartbreaking#but also tie precisely back into what i keep saying about how violence against those reared into expected girl/womanhood is invisibilized#ie less political legislation is made specifically targeting these groups not because they are let off scot free#but because the unwritten social contract of a high-control patriarchical society says from the outset 'these are the people you are#EXPECTED to rein in. EXPECTED to discipline. shame upon the patriarch of the house if he cannot 'correct' a deviant member of the lesser#gender class.' and so because it is such a social shame this violence is carried out in the home and not publicly.#obviously this is not to say these groups don't also face public violence but that saying these groups aren't publically/legislatively#targeted is a) untrue b) conveniently obfuscates societally-sanctioned private violence as just a fact of this side of gendered rearing#the statistics on IPV alone corroborate this but are somehow dismissed as 'lesser violence'. default violence.#i keep meaning to write up a post about honor killings as gendered control mechanisms but i am so tired of this blog at this point#on a lighter note im mallu (not tamil but a closely related language) and learning the tamil word thirunambi from reading this did make me#go :) for a moment. yay queer terminology in L1s#anyway it is not an exaggeration to say in some cultures and parts of the world one is born into the property class of the familial unit.#and not even wanted property at that; the perceived girl child is a money pit and a burden to be foisted off on a man as soon as possible.

[have-you-been-here]

Statistics Update

I think I have found my new favorite image in the stats.

This illustration comes from an exchange with user @skull-bearer in the notes of this post, and from the fact that the USA visits hit a new low this week with only 25% of total visits (it was nearly 30% when I started keeping an eye on it, and it was probably higher before that). The percent of US American people amongst tumblr users comes from a couple of polls that asked this precise question (with approximate answers, since not all of tumblr answered).

Keep sending places from other countries than the USA! As of July 26th 2026, 114 countries on 201 still have less than 10 visits (and 192 have less than 100).

Congratulations to the one and only new decade winner of the week, Germany 🇩🇪, with 220 visits (OK, UK and USA too, but from 500 visits one I only celebrate every 50 visits).

I don't have any particular idea for the end sentence so stay safe, be happy, take care of each others, and see you all next week.

Statistics sheet

Thanks for the stats!! As always, keep on sending in places that aren't in the US and check the submission guide before you do!

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[saxifraga-x-urbium]

https://twitter.com/vagina_museum/status/1628046312275935232

[saxifraga-x-urbium]

YEAH

[derinthescarletpescatarian]

Highlighting that this is “considered quite rare” but in actuality we have absolutely no idea how common this, or indeed a great many variants in sexual development, are. Because if it’s not visible from the outside then we only learn about it if doctors (or coroners) go looking, and doctors only go looking if it’s causing a problem.

[jupiterjames]

Did I just employ the "Treat Them Like You are A Kindergarten Teacher Again" method with my insurance company today? I surely did. Did it work? Probably better than intended because I made an actual doctor feel contrite.

So, my insurance has been trying to not cover my SNRI because it is new on the market and no generic available yet, so pricey.

I apply for a refill and the request gets locked for review. Again. For the 3rd time.

This time I call and immediately ask to speak to the actual doctor making these clinical decisions. Very politely. Must be a slow day because they allow it.

ME: [Teacher voice] I'm calling in regards to the SNRI you have placed a lock on. Why was this decision made?

DOC: Well, there are dozens of other medications on the market in that tier, and far cheaper for you and [insurer]. We have sent a request to your doctor to consider alternatives.

ME: I am aware of that. So, can you do me a HUGE favor and look up my prescription history really quickly and tell me how many SSRIs and SNRIs were only filled once in 2022 for me, showing they were poorly tolerated?

DOC: It looks like eight.

ME: Great job! Now, can you please look at my genetic test for psychiatric drug tolerance and tell me how many medications are listed in the safe category?

DOC: Two.

ME: Awesome! Now, can you tell me what type that other drug is that I'm not taking?

DOC: Yeah, totally, it's an MAOI.

ME: That's correct, you're really knowledgeable! Should I be taking something as dangerous as an MAOI with my other medications, or even just in general?

DOC: It's contraindicated for sure.

ME: It is! So true! So, last question since you've been incredibly smart and helpful. Is it less expensive for [insurer] to pay out for the medication knowing they already get a huge manufacturer discount anyway, or is it more expensive for them to pay for me to need potentially long-term inpatient psychiatric care?

DOC: I'll clear the code, ma'am and flag it as medically necessary. I'm sorry about this.

ME: I appreciate you SO MUCH. You have a great day now.

WALGREENS PHARMACY TECH WITH 5 NOSE RINGS AND PURPLE HAIR STARING AT ME: ........... OKAY! It'll be ready in five minutes. You wanna come work here?

[headspace-hotel]

Kill them with kindness

BUT KILL THEM

[tlirsgender]

"You know what's harder than Getting Better? Living Like That" is just the thesis for my whole shit going on right now honestly. You know what's harder than doing my physical therapy? Hurting All The Time. You know what's harder than addressing my gender dysphoria? Hurting All The Time

[tlirsgender]

I'm Doing The Hard Thing and it's *easier* than how I was living before. If you make yourself feel better you will have more energy to spend on Getting Better. Nice inch nails - the upward spiral. Crawl out of your grave Thursday

[lovestruck-lusagi]

trans girls are allowed to be annoying and stereotypical and socially inept and hyperactive and hypersexual and various types of animalgirl and there's nothing you can do about it. in fact if you're mean to that skirt go spinny reddit trans girl i'm stealing your entire house

[un-revenant]

Not finished yet, but my latest crochet project

[dogmotif-deactivated20240505]

the main problem i have with america is that nothings old as hell there. i cant be so far away from a castle it damages my aura

[chillyfeetsteak]

man people really just say stuff on here huh

[lame-kid-on-couch]

Noooo haha don't spread racist ideals and colonizer propaganda by idolizing white european aesthetics above all else and denying the life and accomplishments of native peoples on their own lands

[brehaaorgana]

People have been living in the downtown area of Tucson, Arizona for at least 4,500 years. The greater Santa Cruz river valley has been occupied by humans for 12,000 years.

You see this?

That's not a river. That's the South Canal in Mesa, Arizona (Phoenix metro area).

This is a view of the East and South canals. At least half of all the Phoenix metro canals were originally built by the Hohokam (from roughly 200-1400 CE), and are still in use (restored) today.

Phoenix, Arizona actually has more miles (kilometers) of Canals total than both Venice and Amsterdam. No, really. Phoenix has about 180 miles of canals, many of which are built on ancient canal foundations.

below is an aerial view photo taken in the late 1930's of one branch of Phoenix's canal systems:

Also have the "Montezuma Castle," if you need a castle:

I don't need to look at some 12th century European castle to see age.

[aetherograph]

Also want to point out that many Indigenous nations literally decided to prioritise NOT building permanent buildings. That was a choice they made. You know what permanent human-created things they left instead? THE LITERAL LANDSCAPE. Even though the settlers did their best to destroy it, the landscape was still tended and shaped by Indigenous people. Every biome that exists here was created by some nation or other, every plant was encouraged or discouraged by the local people who ranged in that area.

But more to the point: I don't need fucking buildings to know that people have been here millions of years, the people are here telling me that, and I fucking listen to them.

[sapphoandvanzetti]

What is now New York City has been continuously inhabited for 3,000 years, and many of its streets follow paths established by those indigenous inhabitants, including fucking BROADWAY, the single most famous and arguably one of the most culturally important streets in the entire United States and people want to say this place isn't OLD?