time for being

A sideblog. Personal posts and recovery resources along with food, home, and nature pics. Occasional survivor feels and rants about healthcare but mostly calming, comforting things. Trying to find a new and sustainable normal whilst being gentle and honest with myself and others. - Main blog at themostradicalthing

[llovinghome]

[llovinghome]

November leaves

[nordicsublime]

Garden path via pinterest

[fullcravings]

Salted Peanut Butter Hot Chocolate

[silvaris]

A world where there are Octobers…🍂 by silvarisrose

[coiour-my-world]

cool serenity ~ Photo by @wolfypic

[5-and-a-half-acres]

Pond view.

[pastelparrotlet]

Sometimes you have to just treat yourself like an overtired toddler.

“Okay, as soon as you finish this assignment you can take a little nap.”

“You just cleaned your room, good job!”

“Hmm..maybe eating a snack will stop you from wanting to cry.”

[cutlerydeficient]

Sometimes? I think you mean all of the time.

[friendraichu]

Being an adult is just parenting yourself.

[rynnay]

It’s true and highly effective self care. Speak to and treat yourself with the same love and care you would want your child self to be given.

That means: no insults or name calling. No judgement. Patience. Gentle firmness. Health, safety and happiness first. Encouragement. Rewards and validation for a job well done. Self soothing. And above all else, love. 

[timeforbeing]

So I got my formal autism diagnosis exactly a week ago! Not a shock - I've been getting gradually more confident and accepting of this self-knowledge for the past couple of years - but definitely a huge relief. My first thought was, "so I'm NOT a failed neurotypical..?" Yay for certainty and validation (two of my favourite things lol). Still quite a lot to take in, though. How do I process the grief of 30 years not knowing, not having the right support, masking frequently, and repeatedly burning out? I guess I might have to see my most recent therapist again on that front.

This is a really positive step though, as now I can get more relevant disabled students support in my next year of college, and might even be eligible for a social care and/or occupational therapy assessment which would really help my everyday life. And I have the amazing neurodivergent community for peer support too 💛

The assessor also recommended me getting screened for coexisting ADHD, but in my local NHS area that's another 2+ years(!) wait if referred for assessment arghh. The level of executive dysfunction, burnout, and shut down I've had this year especially (since new responsibilities/stressors of having a toddler and being a full time mature student) is just Not Sustainable At All. My partners and I have been realising a lot lately that I am in dire need of sources of actual external support and we can't do it all alone.

[actuallylorelaigilmore]

“Optimism is radical. It is the hard choice, the brave choice. And it is, it seems to me, most needed now, in the face of despair—just as a car is most useful when you have a distance to close. Otherwise it is a large, unmovable object parked in the garage. These days, the safest way for someone to appear intelligent is being skeptical by default. We seem sophisticated when we say “we don’t believe” and disingenuous when we say “we do.” History and fable have both proven that nothing is ever entirely lost. David can take Goliath. A beach in Normandy can turn the tide of war. Bravery can topple the powerful. These facts are often seen as exceptional, but they are not. Every day, we all become the balance of our choices—choices between love and fear, belief or despair. No hope is ever too small.”

— Guillermo Del Toro (via veinsofmantra)

[llovinghome]

[sweetoothgirl]

crinkle top brownies

[bakwaaas]

someone said ‘the version of me you created in your mind is not my responsibility’ and wow

[darlingdaisy-blog1]

[aftepes]

“I’ve noticed something about people who make a difference in the world: They hold the unshakable conviction that individuals are extremely important, that every life matters. They get excited over one smile. They are willing to feed one stomach, educate one mind, and treat one wound. They aren’t determined to revolutionize the world all at once; they’re satisfied with small changes. Over time, though, the small changes add up. Sometimes they even transform cities and nations, and yes, the world.”

— Beth Clark, Kisses from Katie (via psych-facts)

[aplusbabe]

Don’t look at things you know will make you angry. Don’t read the comment sections. Don’t look at the blogs of people who add dumb comments to posts to confirm that they’re dumb all the time. Don’t read old conversations you had with people you don’t talk to anymore. Go look at pictures of kittens or something instead. Protect yourself from negativity in every way you can.

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Abendrot by louhma