I’ve been told:
That I’m a ‘straight invader’,
That I’m ‘going through a phase’
That I’m ‘really gay’ and ‘suffering from internal homophobia’
That what happened to me ‘wasn’t conversion therapy’
That my identities are ‘disgusting’ and ‘a threat to children’
Examples of who it was a phase for to ‘prove’ it’s a phase for me as well
That if I don’t ‘admit’ most if not all people like me are ‘gay with internal homophobia’ gay children will hate themselves for years thinking they’re my identities instead of gay
That the rape and murder of gay people is my fault
That I ‘steal resources’ from gay people
That I’m lying about being sexually assaulted ‘for attention’ as my identities are ‘attention seeking’ so I shouldn’t be trusted
That if I go to pride I’m ‘invading’ a space that doesn’t belong to me
That every bit of abuse that happened to me because of my identities either ‘didn’t happen’ or ‘didn’t count’ as oppression
‘Why do you want to be oppressed so badly?’
I’m talking about being bi and trans, but I see every one of these things said to ace and aro people on a daily basis.
Saw a post saying the op wanted to ‘vomit’ after seeing an ace flag at Stonewall because it’s ‘disrespectful to the gays who were beaten and oppressed there’: I have had ‘gays get beaten, bisexuals don’t because Straight Passing Privilege’ used against me, and ‘where were you at Stonewall? Off with your het partners having it easy, cowards!’
People have said the trans flag should be ‘burned’ when seeing it at rallies and tried to get the bi and trans flags removed because they ‘don’t belong’.
I’ve seen the Pulse shooting used to shame ace and aro people. I have been told due to my ‘bi privilege’ it was ‘not my tragedy to mourn’.
Bisexual contingents frequently get booed at pride parades for ‘invading gay spaces’. Visibly bi people get shouted at and told to ‘go home’. Bi and trans people perceived to be in ‘het’ relationships get told ‘get away from our pride!’
I was accused of being ‘divisive’ for planning things for Bi Visibility Day by a cis gay man who then proceeded to tell me how trans people ‘didn’t belong’ in the community. I see ace and aro people get shamed for having their own events and then told they ‘don’t belong’ in the same breath.
These are the same fucking arguments if all you do is replace bi and trans with ace and aro. And I’m not going to let that be forgotten.
