recently I saw a bunch of posts going that Wally to a certain extent abused Bart and it kind of shocked me because my view was that, Wally was a dick to Bart but it was in the same way cousins are dicks to each other.
oh is it time for this yearly discourse again? to put it simply: no, i don't think wally abused bart. it's true that theirs is a complicated and adversarial relationship even at the best of times, but to elevate it to one of deliberate abuse is...well, not all there is to it, at the very least. like, neither of them can even understand the other's perspective about their respective lives / problems and it takes a while for either of them to reach the point a frank conversation about their reactions to each other can even be had. not to mention, there's a lot of moments across a lot of different series wherein wally opens his mouth to insert his own foot in his mouth re: bart. wally is constantly frustrated, snappish, and he tends to verbalize a lot of unkind opinions about bart both to his face and to others. like let's not beat around the bush: wally is very much a dick to bart. BUT it's a complete misnomer to suggest that their relationship is always in the pits or that it doesn't ever improve. on more that one occasion, bart will deliberately seek out wally to hang out with and talk with. wally acknowledges his mistakes with bart and tries to do better, even if he's still sometimes irritable and dismissive of him. (which to be honest, is kind of just wally's base personality anyway). but they like each other! sometimes. depends on the day. are there a lot of hurt and unspoken feelings there? duh. of course. but no, bart is not the fanon!tim drake of the flashfam he's just a regular kid in a new, unstable environment that everyone is struggling to adapt to and so are acting in some unsavory, not-so-perfect ways as a result. which, to clarify, wouldn't absolve them of the consequences of those decisions, but to call it abuse? idk about that.