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The worst thing you can do, as someone who has recently realised they are transfem, is to let terves and transphobes convince you cis women will never accept you.

I was told that when I came out everyone would reject me. That I would find myself isolated from the world, and from other women especially, who would react to me with horror and revulsion.

In reality, within the first months of coming out, in no particular order:

My sister's reaction on my coming out was, "Right, so I have a sister instead of a brother. Cool. I'm taking you clothes shopping tomorrow."

A friend, when she learned I am a woman, immediately invited me to her women-only, girls-night-out birthday party the following week.

Another friend, when a friend of hers expressed doubts about my gender, immediately shut them down and reaffirmed I am a woman.

I went camping with a group of friends, and we had two tents, one for the boys and one for the girls; I was unsure as to which I should enter, to which a girl friend responded by grabbing me and physically dragging me inside the women's tent.

In the women's bathroom at a movie theatre a random woman, whom I'd never seen before and haven't seen since, stopped me as I was going into a stall, to warn me there was no toilet paper in there, because she'd just used the last of it.

All of these, and more, some from friends, some from complete strangers. All within a few months, as a trans woman who hadn't started medical transition yet, and was very visible as being a trans woman.

I've had some people reject me, true, but the vast majority, including almost all cis women, accepted me as a sister with open arms.

Cis women are cool. It's terves who are bigots.

evil-wild-lesbian-wizard

I needed to see this today

#lgbtq+#not tma

buboplague

#idk who this is but this is gorgeous #not tma

truecrimecrystals

Ryan Larsen has been missing since May 17th, 2021. The 12-year-old was last seen at La Vista West Elementary School in La Vista, Nebraska. Ryan walked off the school’s campus between 11:55 AM and 12:05 PM. He never returned to the school or to his home, and he has not been seen or heard from since that day.

This was not the first time that Ryan ran from the school. He has autism and a history of running off—particularly while frustrated. In fact, reports state that local police were called numerous times about Ryan running out of the school unsupervised. Due to his history of running off, police referred to Ryan as “the king of hide and seek.” Police were able to successfully locate Ryan during these previous incidents, but this time around, they have been unable to find him.

On the day he vanished, Ryan had become frustrated with a math problem. He went to another room to calm down by himself. A staff member from the school was supposed to be in the room with Ryan, but he was left unsupervised for a ten-minute time period—during which he was able to leave the building. The school called 911 approximately 25 minutes later, and a search for Ryan began very shortly thereafter.

Throughout the investigation, it was revealed that a neighbor saw Ryan around 1:30 PM at the Southfield Apartment complex on 84th and Harrison. He was holding an umbrella outside of the apartment building. Ryan lived at the apartment in the complex with his mother and sister, but he did not have a key to the apartment at the time. His mother and sister were not home, and their door was locked, so he would not have been able to enter the apartment. The umbrella Ryan was seen holding was found over six weeks later, behind a dumpster at the complex.

Before Ryan went missing, he reportedly made online searches about how to hide from police. Given his history of running away, these searches may not seem surprising; however, he has never been gone for this long. Police have not ruled out a criminal aspect in Ryan’s disappearance. On the one-year anniversary of Ryan’s disappearance, La Vista police Chief Bob Lausten told reporters, “We’ve had people that haven’t been totally forthcoming with us regarding information. We’ve had people that have lied to us about information, so it’s been frustrating.” While Lausten did not further elaborate on these people, he suggested that someone possibly was not speaking up out of fear of getting in trouble.

Ryan’s case remains open. If you have any information that could lead to his whereabouts, please contact the La Vista PD at 402-331-1582.

truecrimecrystals

UPDATE (January 2023):

Ryan’s mother Tammi Larsen has filed a petition to have Ryan legally declared dead. The law in Nebraska states that “a person who is absent for a continuous period of five years is presumed to be dead.” However, a missing person can be declared deceased prior to that five-year period if enough evidence is provided that the person is no longer alive.

The court documents state that Tammi intends to sue the Papillion La Vista school district for her son’s wrongful death, but a death certificate is required in order to do so. The documents also state that La Vista police told Tammi that Ryan’s case was no longer active in their department; the Omaha Cold Case Unit was handling it instead. La Vista police Chief Bob Lausten has denied these claims but did confirm that several agencies are investigating Ryan’ disappearance.

Tammi’s filing is currently pending, and Ryan’s case remains unsolved. Anyone with information that could lead to his whereabouts is encouraged to contact authorities.

#not tma #missing persons #this poor boy.

solitaryfossil

necrodivergent

It’s called the foot-in-the-door method. First, you propose something that is slightly outside of allowable norms: denying gay people wedding cakes on grounds of “religious freedom”. Then, you slowly ramp up how extreme your demands are, coercing the other side to giving a tiny bit of ground each time, until you’ve shifted the entire fucking playing field. Conservatives are also very fond of the door-to-face method, which is demanding something completely outlandish that you know will be refused, and then asking for something less ridiculous by way of compromise, again resulting in a gradual shift in norms until views that were once considered moderate or reasonable become unthinkably liberal by destroying people’s sense of standards. The combination of these methods is called the “foot-in-the-face” method, which sums up where this whole thing is headed quite nicely.

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Door-in-the-face_technique

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Foot-in-the-door_technique

unthrifty--loveliness-deactivat

Hey remember how you guys kept saying “why not just go to another bakery”?

sushigal007

#not tma #homophobia discussion

abigaillarson-deactivated202501

Something wrong?

#can i have a cigarette?#no idea how to tag this #eye contact #creepy #i love them

snailspng

Wilhelm pantomime costume design (1890-1910) PNGs, part 3

(from: vam)

#not tma #love

givemeinternet

This is a theater stage for a play

tenofswords618-deactivated20140

no thats a boss battle

dexthorn

catgifsinthesenate

This is the Bregenzer Festspiele opera house, and it’s worth noting that this is not a one-off. Every single one of their productions looks like a boss battle and/or smash bros stage

whatsajulian

These are all horrifying. Thanks for sharing

#this is definitely a ritual #eye contact #clowns

thoughtlessthinkythoughts

I just realized that there is another way to read the line “I am at least as much ‘Helen Richardson’ as you are the ‘Jonathan Sims’ that first joined this Institute.”

The more Jon insisted on being Jon, the more the distortion had to play the role of Helen to trap him. If he had truly embraced being “the archivist,” the distortion could have felt free to be truly monstrous in his presence.

The more Jon remained Jon, the more the distortion had to mirror the humanity as “Helen.”

In retrospect, this line actually speaks rather well of Jon, I think.

dathen

excuse me this post deserves thousands of notes because it BLEW MY MIND the matter of jon’s humanity and how helen played a part in our perception of it is something that has obsessed me for two seasons every time she drew parallels between them she planted doubts in me but that was her plan all along - on us and jon both if she posed as a human slowly leaning into her monstrosity as something both natural and inevitable then we’d think that’d inevitably be the case for jon too she kept pretending to be as much helen as jon was the archivist because on the one hand she wanted to prove to jon they were similar and on the other insinuate jon was losing himself because he /knew/ she wasn’t helen and how do you know if you’re still yourself? you can’t. you have to trust others to be mirrors but all jon had in s4 were people distrusting him and helen she truly played the game and while jon is undoubtedly a monster he retained his humanity and sense of self the distortion kept playing at being helen because of it but it stopped working when jon had daily proof of his human selfhood in an inhuman body martin is his reason and his mirror. he believes jon to be jon. he’s a reminder he can feel human emotions and that’s why helen didn’t want him there. she needed to sow the doubt she planted and Martin’s presence would’ve made it impossible goddamn a perfect episode (via @blake-wyatt )

#jon #martin #helen distortion #meta #LOVE this interpretation

middlevolga-deactivated20230127

The No Fly List isn’t a laughing matter and you all need to but down your “it/she lesbian catgirl hacked the government” memes for 5 fucking seconds and see that this is a massive exposition of the US government’s deeply entrenched racism and xenophobia that rips away people’s basic human rights and presumption of innocence. Everyone KNOWS that the US has severe issues involving the treatment of Southwest Asians and muslims, issues severe enough to pillage civilians for oil and destroy entire cultural monuments and history that cannot be ignored, and yet you all choose to look the other way anyways. If you all really gave half a fuck about tearing down imperialism and colonization as you say you do, you would do the bare minimum and acknowledge that 10% of the names on there are “Muhammed”. That there are CHILDREN on this list, because their name betrayed them and is used against them to accuse them of suspected terrorism. You would point how someone just exposed the US for violating basic rights everyone should have on a massive scale, how this airline wasn’t even supposed to have this list, and you would talk about it instead of saying “holy fucking bingle!”.

We need to learn when to put down our memes and face the reality that we can no longer avoid. We cannot stand idly by while we watch one of the world’s massive, most powerful governments mark people as terrorist with almost no procedure as to who can be put on there because of someone’s race and religion. We can’t keep avoiding the legacy that 9/11′s justification of going to war has created. We can’t keep avoiding the way that elected officials, especially Trump, have openly and proudly confessed to supporting things like this. We also need to acknowledge how lucky we are that this didn’t get into the wrong person’s hands, because it very easily could have. This isn’t funny, this is vile, and by laughing and not actually caring, we’re only serving to help this continue.

source 1 | source 2

#four year olds #toddlers.#racism discussion #islamophobia discussion #not tma