The Collection

Nothing serious, just things I think are cool. Formerly aroaceinthestreets. If you're looking for it that's now a sideblog.

[tvmblribarelyknower]

Airk bro lock in

[travelerbetweenworlds]

Me head-cannoning a character as autistic and my autistic friend head-cannoning the characters best friend as ADHD is true ADHD-autism friendship

[rotund-squirrelmeister]

thank you for the brilliant template @justcakethanks!!!

[cookiethebirddoll]

bus is my friend. shes no train but shes trying her hardest in a world that hates her

[dreamwatch]

How am I only just learning this!?

[livingmeatloaf]

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[westiec]

Wait

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IT WORKS

Is this new???? I've been wanting wildcard relationship search for YEARS 😍😍😍

My multishipping ass is about to go ham...

[mysteryteacup]

helpful info for those who need it

[shrinkthisviolet]

Explanation of what this does for anyone confused!

[travelerbetweenworlds]

WAIT YOU CAN DO THAT?????

[ravioliet]

huge fan of when characters love each other and are closely bonded in an explicitly nonromantic way. however ☝️ i am very much not a huge fan of what happens when characters like this are introduced to fandom

[tearstaineddangel]

i love when someone confirms we're friends

[angel-pd]

it genuinely means the world to me when my friends refer to me as their friend 🙏

[i-am-bic]

"There's no platonic explanation for this" <-you need to be nicer to your friends. Right now

[esmeralda-anistasia]

#STOP SAYING 'PLATONIC' WHEN YOU MEAN 'CASUAL'#RELATIONSHIPS CAN BE PLATONIC AND ABSOLUTELY DERANGED

[feralboo-the-weirdo]

I think one of the wildest parts about discovering you're asexual is realizing almost everyone else isn't.

[sodomit]

Regardless of how wronged and hurt you are, regardless how much of a horrible piece of shit the other person is being, you still should not say bigoted things about them.

Bigotry is not a more advanced degree of insults that stings more, it's a reinforcement of the framework where certain marginalized traits are inferior. This is not about you and that person. This is about the society you live in.

[andremichaux]

Look I know you are cool with this, but you have to understand. I am a religious woman. [clicks tongue] I know, Mami.

One Day at a Time | 1.11

screenshots do not do this scene justice, so here’s the video posted by @sunflowersrain

[aromantic-diaries]

Hello! Do you want ace representation? (You said aro but same difference, right?) We have

Asexuality 101: They're the token ace in The Sex Show and they say "I've never had sex before and I don't think I want to, am I... broken?" And then they learn about asexuality. Their entire character arc revolves around not having sex in The Sex Show. Completely unrelatable if you're anything other than sex-repulsed and alloromantic.

Asexual Book: it feels like reading a wikipedia article and will stop resonating once you're over the accepting-yourself-stage and start discovering yourself beyond the standard asexual experience.

Token Ace: they're the asexual character in the current big queer cartoon and she has significantly less screentime than the other characters. Confirmed asexual on social media.

Cartoon Animal: the creator didn't wanna think about them having sex because that's a cartoon animal. You'd be surprised how much porn people draw of this character.

The Dark And Mysterious Nerd: don't get your hopes up, he's also a tumblr sexyman and nothing in the source material indicates his asexuality.

Todd Chavez.

Twink Of The Month: he currently has swarms of people going "asexuals can still have sex" but they're not really interested in exploring sexual relationships from an asexual perspective, they just don't want him to be asexual. The other half of the debate is working tirelessly to alienate sex-favorable people from the asexual community.

Ace Coded: they're the most asexual character of all time but it's not stated in the source material or confirmed by the author so you have to write a thesis in hopes that someone might consider that they could be asexual. You might get called homophobic if you do.

Alien Robot: their lack of interest in sex is directly tied to them not being human. The fanbase has a massive collective boner for them though.

Murderer: Yeah... Collective boner also applies here.

Actually Good Representation: she's from a piece of media that has a fandom smaller than the population of a small village and does not suit your taste whatsoever

Your Own Fucking OC: at this point, just do it yourself.

[demiromantic-daily]

GUYS, WE'RE IN THE CHICAGO MANUAL OF STYLE!!!!!

[wolverineheight]

hey controversial opinion but clean water should be fucking free and people should never be allowed to make money off of it because its fucking needed to live

[specialagentartemis]

my petty gripe about anachronism in historical/fantasy/spec-fic worlds is attraction language.

We’ve all heard the “should you use modern queer labels or not” argument but honestly even when people go “true, they wouldn’t use the labels ‘aromantic’ or ‘asexual,’” so often the characters describe their experiences as “I never felt romantic attraction” or “I don’t feel attracted to anyone” in ways that makes me go. You are stilllllll thinking about this in an extraordinarily modern online way. That 19th century steampunk detective man will NOT be angsting about having never felt romantic attraction, he would be angsting about being unable to feel moved by the beauty or charm of a woman, or something. And I do think that “attractiveness” language is different from the identity-level idea of experiencing attraction—Sherlock Holmes does not talk about not experiencing attraction, but when Watson says “What a very attractive woman!” Holmes responds “Is she? I did not observe.” (And then Watson calls him an inhuman automaton and calculating-machine and Holmes calls Watson’s judgement biased). Never swayed by the attractiveness of a man or woman, never desirous of marriage, never charmed by the delights of love, all of these feel like some of the variety of ways that someone in this milieu might describe an ace- or aro-spectrum identity more than “never felt attraction” does. Mostly because, like the terms for aromantic and asexual themselves, nailing down an exclusively attraction-based definition of a-spec identities is a relatively new and extremely post-AVEN thing. And yet in fiction everybody knows to articulate their experience as feeling sexual/romantic attraction. And I always want to go nooo how would THIS character think about it?? Not how you think this character SHOULD think about it, how would THIS person in THIS context articulate their feelings?

[marrogerson]

#I think part of this language conversation should touch on how divisions between romantic and platonic love change with time and cultures#like romantic friendships are a thing we simply Do Not recognize anymore#sworn brotherhood is a relationship dynamic we do not recognize anymore#relationships that fuzz the line between what WE NOW consider romantic and platonic but were in their og context fully platonic--#or at least were defined by and overtly held space for fully platonic expressions--#were completely standard at various points in history#men could share a bed and that was considered platonic#women could write gushing love letters to each other and that was considered platonic#were some people queer-allosexual in this context and able to use these relationships to make space for themselves? absolutely#but ace/aro people had more options for fulfilling relationships than I think we give history credit for#so if we're encouraging writers to examine their ahistoric use of modern definitions of attraction#then IMO we should also be encouraging folks to examine their ahistoric use of modern models of romantic love#ok that's been my messy little addendum

Love these additions by @clovexei !

[honeyfaer]

fave dynamic is platonic but somethings weird with it (the weird part is an insanely deep level of devotion, trust and understanding, as well as narrative importance that is not typically allowed for platonic relationships in media, making the portrayal feel unique and queer in nature. typically best served as m+f)

[travelerbetweenworlds]

Kai's not aromantic but I think he should be. As a treat. I think he would enjoy it. I think he would have fun with the ambiguity of relationships. What's the difference between friendship and romance? Am I in love with my friend or do I want to be friends with my crush? What's the difference between found family and romance? What's the difference between friendship and found family? Can you make out with your friends? Can you sleep with your best friend? How to ask your friend to be your soulmate? All questions Kai'isteron, Aro Witch King, would love googling.