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It's my 5 year anniversary on Tumblr 🥳
Dear Abusers...Here I Am.
Here you go.
It's what you asked for.
What, you didn't want me naked?
This isn't the me you fantasized? The flesh you paid for? You wanted the the girlfriend experience, not the meat slab? You wanted to pretend first, that I wanted you? You wanted the harem dreamscape, not the slave auction? You wanted to pretend first, that I chose you?
This isn't the me you imagined? The fun you paid for? You wanted to unwrap me like a gift, not skin me like a captive? You wanted to pretend first, that I don't bleed? You wanted to arrange me like a doll, not strip me like a prisoner? You wanted to pretend first...
...that I don't know?
But I do know. So here you go.
What you asked for.
To tear me apart.
When He Comes Back.
He holds it hostage, doesn't he? Should he ever come back, ever wonder, ever bother...he knows it's there as sure as if he'd taken it with him on his cowardly venture, clipping it to his coat collar like an exotic broach or pocketing it like a lucky charm:
OUR LOVE.
We'd give anything to have it back, pay any sum. This love he took. Twirling it in his fingers like a pocket knife to lodge in our chest when we look him in the eye, drive into our back if we walk away, slice across our throat should we say our rage. No better than a thief in the night of our dreams, a jester in the court of justice where we testify:
YOU LEFT ME.
Disappeared one day, like a rabbit in the hat, but faded slowly as the smoke of a cigarette. Lighting this fire and killing us softly, floating away and leaving this stench. We breathed it in, already too late. No patch can kill our craving for him:
OUR ABSENT FATHER.
He knows it too. He thinks he does, a vulture circling our last breaths at the crossroads. Surely, there's room for him in our lives...he dug the hole. What confidence he has, even behind the clumsy speech, a grave-robber smiling down at our coffin safe-keeping the treasure he's returned to claim:
MY HOPE.
He promises to give what was always mine, like a jolt of lightening to awaken this monster sewn together from our pieces left to rot. It's like he can see it, his creation, his miracle of raising us from the dead, all the proof he needs that he is our savior. Away, but home now, and all suffering can end...even as our hearts swell around the knife still gripped in his hands:
MY LIFE.
I'm left to bleed, and always more left: an endless rain of red to compliment those hands, those of a butcher with his pound of flesh to pulverize to his liking, carve to his ease, peeling and slicing for an easy swallow. His hands, his mouth, painted uncanny. His words as hollow as a mime who sings:
THIS PRODIGAL GAME.
Dear Survivors, Look! Beyond the Waves...
Bobbing in and out as you waver and fear, fighting and treading and clawing to live...
But wait.
Don't leave.
Stay here a moment...
This second? It's important: When you hear the birds, see the trees, smell the air, feel the heat...? This picture, this breath?
IT'S REAL. I promise.
The waves are unkind, but the Earth still turns. It won't disappear, even if you're thrown back under. The green in the leaves, the red in the roses, the blue of the sky, the white of the sun, the stars of the night, the slow of the country, the song of the city, the rhyme of its people, the rays of the morning...
It all waits for you.
It will never leave.
For whenever you're ready...
Dear Survivors, Take It Easy.
You think this was your fault.
You and your foolish heart.
You HAD to believe them. You HAD to trust them. You HAD to let them in... and then they did it. They HURT you. Your mind, your heart, your body...everywhere meant to be safe.
Maybe you'd taken a beating before...so maybe you should have known better...but it's harder for the heart to see through swollen eyes. Harder for the body to resist under a tortured mind. Harder for the mind to know with a bleeding heart. Harder to know who stands at the other end of that...RELIEF.
They held ice to the bruises, wrapped your shivering bones, filled an empty belly, bandaged the broken promises, kindled a hope in your chest...What else could love have been?
It wasn't your fault to wish for goodness.
You and your hurting heart.
To believe someone...
To trust someone...
To let them in...
Your brave heart wishing for what it's scarcely had, can barely remember, yet knows it deserves...is the WILL TO LIVE itself.
Dear Abusers, Where Do You Go?
THERE.
You've done it.
You've scared me, belittled me, bruised me, confused me, crippled me, so I can stay with you, need you, love you, obey you...
You got what you wanted.
NOW WHAT?
I shouldn't ask. I shouldn't wonder. I was never a person to you; why extend that courtesy? To try and see you as you've never seen me? But I can't help but picture it, torturing myself, to ask where you go after you've left me like this. Because surely, you take me with you.
Do you talk about me to your friends? Do they laugh when you describe what you did? Do they laugh at me when I want to be treated kindly? Do they take notes for the next time they're alone with their dates, trying to talk at the bar, when they buy her a drink?
What do you tell your wife? Does she believe you, question you, leave it be? Do you kiss her, hold her? Do you think you love her? Is it funny when she's angry, is it important when she's hurt? Can she tell you no, not now, not tonight? Should she expect a fuss? A fist? A fight? Is she sorry for me, to know somewhere, somehow, I met you?
Are your daughters there? Are they afraid of you? Do your sons watch? Do they admire you? When you tuck her in, do you see my face? When he pulls her hair, do you make him stop? When you wipe her tears, do you think of mine? When he wants his way, do you think he right?
As you unweave your tie and unbutton your shirt, and look into his eyes...that man staring back: Who is that? Someone you know? Somewhat familiar from hours ago? Does he know what you did? What I'll never forget?
THAT MAN.
What does he say?
HOW DO YOU BELIEVE IT?
Dear Survivors, Embrace the Seasons.
Chill brushes your skin like feathering needles, as the past whispers through foliage in the breeze. What "was" fades and falls and settles in a slow exhale, pooling underfoot as if to be tears.
Frost blankets the red, freshly fallen to beckon sleep. The trees, poise in their nakedness, bundling for rest. Your eyes close as the rivers slow and your breath settles as labor fades, your spirit curling as a fetus in the womb under flakes of a frozen sky.
Hope plays like music with a crescendo of thawing snow, christening as you spring forth wide-eyed and infant. Blossoms sweeten the air as your voice flies to join the returning birds, breaking free as earth crumbles from you, taking what has died.
Blood runs hot to fill your cheeks and brighten, like embers, the light in your eyes as you emerge to pasture, where nectars flow down the chin of beasts, and fragrant fruits weigh against the breeze that sway the leaves in a playful dance. Rhythm runs through you, a warm ambrosia filling to your brim: a palpitating joy!
Faster than your legs across the fields, harder than your feet against the grass, wider than your arms amidst the sky: the volcanic passion and delirious love of a healing heart...
READY FOR THE WORLD.
Dear Survivors, You Didn't Sacrifice Yourself. You Were Murdered.
They've nailed you to a cross and slashed their rage and loathing upon you, speared their pettiness and greed through your person, traced their shame and hurt across your flesh. Believing, somehow, that you must be deserving. Determined, somehow, that this will relieve them. Convinced, somehow, that this is love.
The red runs down, drawn as if by instinct, to the eyes of the spectators, the opinion of the bystanders, the judgment of the witnesses...where they always seem to be, awestruck in praise of your agony. If only enough blood could pool at their feet, then their sandals could be stained and the world would know how closely they stood...and greatly they failed.
No amount of love can elevate someone to be something they were never meant to be. Your life was never a cure for their sickness. Their tragedy was never an excuse for your torture, and the world's choice to revere instead of rescue was never validation.
Don't die on this hill.
Come down from the cross.
It was never meant for you.
It's my 3 year anniversary on Tumblr 🥳 New posts coming soon to kick off the coming year!!
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Dear Survivors, Feeling is Overwhelming.
However well-meaning the layperson or advocate may be, their sincerity can be as overwhelming as it is relieving. The interactions that should have been genuine and kind, were used to manipulate and trap you. The men who should have walked away and called the police, used you for their fantasies of violence. So this person who wants to pay for your coffee, hold open the door, ask for directions, likes your shoes..."What if they want something from me? What if they're lying? What if I believe them? What if this is the first step back down the road I barely escaped?"
The need for BOUNDARIES becomes paramount.
You've borne the brunt of other's trauma and apathy long enough, either living in numbness or overload to survive their emotions. You had to find an equilibrium with pain to defy death on so many levels. The greatest challenge now is evolving out of this hypervigilance: Your feelings do and move without permission or consideration, living apart and independent from any sense of familiarity. They can be selfish things, but a wonderful part of your healing is allowing these feelings to be selfish on behalf of your RECONSTRUCTION.
These feelings...they care about you, about your safety, even as they startle and run wild. There's no room for guilt once you realize this sincerity. All you need are fences strong enough to corral these feral feelings: just enough boundary to coax them back into view without inhibiting the warmth you want to build with the world. Oh, how more EASILY SAID THAN DONE.
YOU are the only face your feelings should recognize in the mirror and the first hand they trust to steady their rages. We can never say enough that it will take time, as healing always does, but aloneness with oneself is the FIRST STEP to trusting yourself. YOU are the most important person in YOUR world right now.
FEEL THAT.
Dear Survivors, You Can Make Pearls <3
As soon as an oyster is born, their shells start to form; proteins and minerals wrap around them and enlarge as the oyster grows. This formation is natural: needed for the protection of any young new to a world of mystery, and the same is true for YOU. However young or old you may have been, you were exposed to a side of the world we thought disappeared, one of the deepest pits of human depravity: SLAVERY. A shell that should have grown gradually under love's watchful eye, now roughens with haste from an existential betrayal so deeply opposed to your personhood, the friendly fire of your own mind makes your hopes and dreams daily casualties of liberation.
But did you know that a pearl forms when an oyster senses a wayward object in its mollusk? The animal senses the irritant and coats it with layers of aragonite and conchiolin...
and these two substances that create its pearl are the SAME materials it used to build its SHELL!
Shells aren't made in a day, anymore than a pearl, and sometimes from fortitude much of the world won't recognize or appreciate. But your capacity for BEAUTY is ELEMENTAL! Scribed even within the gorgeous language of nature itself to create it, to display it, to nurse and cherish it in the nooks of an inner world without a soul to see or covet. Pearls are miracles of your resilience, the Crown Jewels of your survival, convictions of worth NEVER to be cast before swine!
Dear Survivors, Just BREATHE.
It is the earliest connection we have with our body and the first relationship between ourselves and the world. After all, the newborn's FIRST instinct is to BREATHE: a need more instantly vital than light, drink, sleep, warmth, or love. Existence solidifies, moving away from theoretical and abstract to something tangible and present within our own consciousness. We become distinct from surrounding creation, yet immediately and intimately dependent on it, both blurring and drawing the line between US and OTHER.
Communication within and as individual ensues in that first breath: Every organ and cell signaling with and to the other in healing, death, and change. Familiarity of this exchange — of the LIFE within us, encircling us, leaving us, and returning to us — this mindfulness of breath, bears witness to the miracle of survival. Your trauma is still real, and you will always need time...But you are ALIVE.
You are still HERE. And this fear, as you live and breathe, has NOT overcome you.
Dear Advocate, Tears are Part of Recovery.
Make the best of it? Look on the bright side? Such things are shallow comforts, arrogant in the face of those fighting for survival, losing their innocence, and escaping with only the breath in their lungs. The taste should be metallic to the advocate's tongue, like sandpaper on the lips of any who say such things. What good could there possibly be in being abused and used and commoditized? For a person's cries to be auctioned and their screams to be sold? Stay positive? It could always be worse? Such nonsense! What good can there be in looking for the sun without a boat to weather the storm?
Recovery begins in the shambles, in the destruction of what someone thought people and the world to be.
Buried under the rubble and wandering among the ruins; the debris is crushing and rough underfoot. For some, the callouses are thick enough to numb. For others, the soles are raw and bleed. Their eyes will remember the sting of ash and soot, and the smell of smoke will linger in their nostrils. They may find belongings in the wreckage, but only some may be salvageable. Such inevitabilities are no threat to recovery. We shouldn't stand in the way of your grief. We shouldn't dread your tears. We shouldn't fear your sadness...
The only threat to healing is DENIAL.