james (she/they)

30 • Queer & Trans • Latine • Writer • Larper • NJ WebFest Best Game Master 2023 • Occasional online game-player • Dragon Age Queer™ • Paladin Main • Rotisserie shithead • (cover photo art by aeipathea)

[felassan]

Happy 15th birthday Dragon Age II !

[hiveswap]

big fan of when you peel back all layers of a character and at the bottom of it there's love

[hiveswap]

why are they doing this? because they loved someone so much it caused the plot to happen. Grief counts btw

[hiveswap]

ESPECIALLY a big fan of when this isn't enough to make them a good person

[coffee-without-anesthetics]

forgive me father for i have opened a notification and read the message within to make the red dot go away and then forgot to reply for a month . it will happen again

[kittyoperas]

must be the season of the witch.

for @ioncrescent

[catcups]

[superdillin]

I think maybe I don't talk about how, as a former Sex Worker, these completely braindead talking points from SWERFs about the industry make it impossibly hard to have nuanced conversations about the actual risks, dangers, and broken stairs that exist in the industry. Imagine if, when people were working to make movie sets safer for talent and crew, some group was like "MOVIES DANGEROUS ABOLISH ALL FILM" and people nodded in agreement with that take and caved to it?

Like the industry IS exploitative often because having a conversation about regulation that actually moves toward legislation is nearly impossible. Politicians are afraid to touch the requests of actual industry workers because they will be bombarded by harassment groups, labeled as "groomers" or worse for even discussing our issues.

Instead it can feel like the conversation boils down to "Sex Work is empowering" vs. "Sex Work is rape" and those things are both absolutely insane, because sex work is a damn job???? It's not either of those things without additional information. My day job now sure as fuck isn't empowering. And I get threatened and assaulted here more than I did in any strip club, despite it being a "normal" job. The only difference is that I have avenues to escalate those things here, and people generally take me seriously when I do. Sex Workers need avenues like that too but you paranoia-stricken, self-centered, infantilizing mobsters don't want our actual needs to be met.

[superdillin]

There's been a lot of misinformation and also escalation-driven hysteria around this topic in my inbox and notifications (and a lot of death threats and suicide wishes, but that doesn't bother me, I know TERFs and SWERFs are just kinda like that)

So I'd like to do something different and open up asks for genuine curiosity, questions, and concerns about my time in the sex work industry. I obviously won't be responding to hate mail, because that's generally unproductive and does nothing to help educate. But I'll try to compile questions and answer as many as I can in one space.

I genuinely love getting to talk about this large chunk of my life, the good and the bad and the in between, because it's important to who I am now outside of the industry and also in demystifying it. There are plenty of people you know who have relationships to that industry that you probably wouldn't know because the stigma surrounding the topic reasonably keeps people quiet. But I'm in a good place and am not afraid of that kind of thing anymore.

[moghedien]

If you’re still “separating the art from the artist” with HP please know you are directly funding people having their rights taken away

[kosmogrl]

must be nice to be able to let things go, unfortunately everything that has ever happened to me never leaves my mind

[milton-chamberlain]

Once again we have to do what Bioware doesn't do themselves

[homunculus-argument]

Betrayed and backstabbed by your scheming evil advisor? Psch. Skill issue. Absolute amateur problem. Just hire two of them and reward them for snitching on each other. Just make sure that neither of them is gay or they'll just end up hate-fucking each other and fucking you over all the same.

[miss-hexatrix]

"hire two evil advisors but make sure neither of them is gay" are you hearing yourself right now. be serious

[waterdhaviancheeses]

Single Mages are dying to meet you!

[victusinveritas]

[liminalweirdo]

i'm not sure why this was posted without the link to the actual GFM but here it is

[chanafehs]

Hello everyone! Want to get some art from a Palestinian artist while also helping Palestine? I'm going to be running a raffle this week for Gaza Soup Kitchen, the winner will get a Tarot card from me! These tarot cards I usually charge upwards of $300 for due to complexity and time, so if you are pulled, you can receive one for as little as a $5 donation!

You can have multiple entries based on your donation. One entry starts at a $5 donation, multiple entries will be at each increment of $5 (ex: $10 = 2 entries, $15 = three entries, $20 = four entries).

A winner will be pulled on August 3!

Link to the form

Gaza Soup Kitchen's website (you can donate either through them or their GFM here. I will accept receipts from either):

Serving food not conflit

Rules:

You must have proof of your donation to Gaza Soup Kitchen. I will not accept any entries that do not have proof of donation. I have two examples in the Google form of receipts I will accept + please crop out or censor any sensitive info.

I will ony be accepting entries through Google forms - this is how I will keep track of everything and then transfer to sheets for the raffle.

I will only be focusing on donations for Gaza Soup Kitchen. Please only send me your receipts from them and not any other org.

Communication will be through the desired email listed in the form. If you have any questions or concerns, please send me an ask or a message through my art email: [email protected].

I will not draw any hate imagery or sexual content (non-sexual nudity is totally okay).

Thank you everyone!

[batsybat91]

Holding my blorbo up by the scruff of his neck to show him to you

[chaumas-deactivated20240115]

so tough being an evil advisor in this day and age, with attention spans being what they are and media being so omnipresent and distracting. I’ll be whispering dark tidings and wicked advise into my liege’s ear and does he hear a goddamn word of it? no. he’s busy scrolling through his fucking scrolls

[taxideermied]

I hate 2 say it but being a part of a “weird” subculture does not meaningfully inoculate you against a conservative moralizing impulse. You gotta unlearn that. Saying “cringe is dead” is not enough, you have to actually be okay with things that discomfort, perplex and/or disgust you.

[infectiouspiss]

you have to stay alive. you're going to be such a beautiful middle aged freak. young freaks will see you in the street and know that things can be okay.

[iwritebigbellies-blog]

I was 22 when I got my first bookstore job, and at the time my entire experience of "old people" was my grandparents, none of whom had been particularly healthy, and none of whom I was close with. To my young eyes, all they did was sit around and be old. That was life after 60.

The owner of the bookstore was this grand old dame of 76 who had been in the business for 40 years. She'd had three kids with a husband who was extremely gay, and as soon as those were old enough, they split up. She read on an epic scale, was an avid follower of the opera, sang in several choirs, and scheduled arts programming for a private club. She had gentleman callers (so they styled themselves) at the store continuously the entire fifteen years I worked there--yah, into her NINETIES. She never took up seriously with any of them, because they couldn't keep up. She was impeccably dressed and put together every single day of her life, drank regularly, and said they would pry her estrogen supplements out of her cold, dead hands. She had a gang of elderly single lady friends, though, and they went out every night of the week. They knew everything and everyone, collectively. She got her first smart phone in her mid-80s and became extremely Online. I bet she's on Tumblr now. She is 96.

This blew my mind. Life didn't have to be over...ever.

We worship youth in our culture. Only the young have futures, and the aged exist to enable the lives of the young. We act as if by the time you hit forty, you've had your chance. You are now expected to step aside and scede life to others.

FUCK THAT. I have a lot of life ahead of me. I have places to go and books to read and people to fuck and food to eat and music to dance to and emotions to feel and nazis to punch and stories to tell and hearts to break and ventures to capitalize and empires to conquer. I am going to be doing this for the next fifty years, minimum.

Life has so much in it. Do it all, forever.