Reality
As I told the person I’m nominating right now earlier, it’s not easy to put into words how someone has changed you. She told me that if I couldn’t, then she’d failed.
That’s not true.
It's hard to describe how someone has changed your life, because how do you put that into words that other would understand? How do you explain how deeply someone has affected you to the point where it resonates every day in your life? It's not something that can be whipped up and posted on a Tumblr post and *poof* you're done.
But I’m going to try.
I’m nominating my mom, @charmmad for this. Because although moms are everywhere, I think that we take them for granted. You don’t really think about the hard work they put into your life until you pull the note out of your lunch and see the tiny message.
And I think that we need to appreciate those tiny messages more.
Since I was born, I’ve lived with my mom all my life. She’s a single mom, and we’ve bounced around a little bit to stay afloat. It’s hard to find work, and she’s been struggling for a while now to find a full-time job. She’s at work right now while I’m writing this. She has a part-time job on the weekdays, usually working late from 6 PM to 10:30 PM and has been working on weekends from 2 PM to 10 PM, and we don’t have a car, so she’s not home ‘til close to 11 at night because public transit is terrible. I don’t see her all day.
She does this so that we can live in a home and eat food. She does this so that I can wake up every morning to go to school and come back to our apartment and have somewhere to sleep at night underneath a roof.
In the mornings she’s so tired I try not to wake her so she can sleep a bit longer.
We don’t have a big family, no brothers or sisters, no dad. Anyone else who’s in my family lives in British Columbia where we never call or visit, because they don’t care. And even so, my mom still finds money for Christmas and birthday presents for me. She gives me some money to buy her presents because I’m technically a bit too young to be hired to work anywhere part-time.
It’s not easy. If we switched places, I’d probably give up by now, because I don’t have that much willpower. I don’t think I could do it, that I could stay standing in the end.
I’ve often joked with her that our lives would be a better reality show than any other, because our struggles are real. At least, more important that whatever the Kardashians are doing right now.
So this is our reality, and I think that if this isn’t worth recognition, than who out there deserves it more?
My mom deserves someone to say to her “You’ve made a difference.”
Because love always wins.
