unbearable

or so I am told

[nancyvana]

Yet another entry in the "We Used to Have A Country" department:

A white woman, with zero background in history, has been put in charge of what will be considered "appropriate" to be displayed at the Museum of African American History. 🙄 Someone please point out to me where in the founding documents of this country it says that the President can dictate the content of museums, libraries, and universities, as he's doing. And if that authority isn't there, WHY THE HECK are our legislators and judges and others letting him get away with becoming more and more like a dictator?

[unbearable16]

Money. The president is abusing control of spending to coerce institutions into following his expectations. Without government money institutions need private money... which comes from wealthy people like trump or musk or bezos. Which means no money for sesame street.

[elierlick]

I love that topless protesting is becoming something of a trans tradition in the UK. If the protesters are arrested, the state must admit they're women. If they aren't, it shows the glaring contradictions of labeling trans women as "male." It helps their cause either way. We don't see this nearly enough of this in the US (photo by Rusty Elias, St. Peter's Square, Manchester, May 31st, 2025)

[venusoveraquarius]

"Sure, some people will lose some rights and privacy, but at least we're protecting the kids!"

When I was 14, I used to carry a flashdrive with TOR on it to bypass the school's internet safety filters so I could get on Facebook and play flash games. Kids are smarter than you want to think. You aren't protecting shit.

[unbearable16]

Your average 9 yr old has enough ingenuity to get past most age filters. It us old farts that can't figure it out.

[derekscorner]

The UK is targeting 4chan. They dont know the hornets nest they're kicking. 😂

[unbearable16]

Right up to the point the US passes KOSA. Then all will be well.

[leniisreallycool]

okay first i'm not nor have i ever been in the uk and second fucking hate this censorship bullshit i'm so sorry y'all are going through this too

[onlytiktoks]

[unbearable16]

I went to a hospital in vegas a few years back; I didn't have my insurance information with me. So the hospital gave me the option to pay in cash and get a 60% discount for not using insurance.

1 ask what the cash discount is when you are given any service.

2 at 40% of list price, the hospital was still in the black. This means 60% of what you pay for medical services goes to the insurance company not to the hospital and staff providing the service.

3 you want to cut medical costs in half, get rid of private medical insurance and make medical insurance mandatory for everyone.

[lokiinmediasideblog]

Protect VPNs from governments

Defend VPNs from government bans!

You can sign this even if not in the US.

[imawitchywitch]

Everyday I wake up and think about FDR’s second bill of rights

[misanthropemom]

Self torture

[unbearable16]

If you come to Canada you can have everything except #3

[ifitpleasuresme-deactivated2018]

I greeted him at the door on 4" heels, a high ponytail, and a satin apron.

He pushed me into my apartment with hungry kisses and desperate gropes.

I peeled back the layers of a long day at work: briefcase with a thud by the door and the friction of his belt through each belt loop. The buckle jingling as it fell to the floor.

He bent me over the table and thrust himself against my back and ass before unzipping and revealing his excitement to me. I ran the stiletto heel up his inseam while using the mental map of his body to guide my hands to revisit my treasure.

His mouth and hands raced to discover every spot that would make me gasp or moan. I cocked my head and squirmed in the shadow of his stature. The high ponytail danced against my skin.

He grasped my long brown tresses at the tip and recalled all the photos and videos in his wank bank of arched backs and bent necks.

He yanked so hard that he herniated C5-6. During the surgery for my artificial disc replacement, my surgeon found a bone shard 3mm from my spinal cord.

The man who whispered in my ear of how i was “marriage material” moved to Toronto 2 weeks after he damn near made me into a quadriplegic. He closed on a house the day of my surgery.

To this day, I jump when someone puts their hands near my head. My ears ring constantly. And every time I see one of you all post a photo of someone having their hair pulled, I think about all the pain one dumb, badly-executed move caused me.

1. Get consent. 2. Give warning. 3. Grab slowly and smoothly at the roots 4. Movement comes from the wrist (minimizes chance of injury to directional force) 5. If need be, let the person with the hair being pulled hold on to your wrist to either limit your movement or as a failsafe. 6. Over time develop trust with your partner to dial up neck extension, force, or speed.

All that and the fucker never even gave me a single orgasm.

[just-an-irish-rose-deactivated2]

Too important not to reblog

[kthmistythoughts]

😳

[asubmissiveview]

I am so sorry for what you experienced @ifitpleasuresme. Thank you for sharing this wake-up call.

[instructor144]

Signal boost. If you go charging into a scene thinking you can act like they act in those gonzo BDSM porn loops, you’re a fool. Always keep the Safe in Safe, Sane, and Consensual. If you are not absolutely sure of what you’re doing in a scene, don’t fucking do it.

[hiswifeslut]

Even a wake call for 24/7 dynamics, because it’s too easy to become complacent with your play, and forget to check in with your partner about if anything has changed.

[itsallprimal]

This wasiin my que.. but @hiswifeslut hit the real nail on the head here!

[beentherehaventdonethat]

I had a much lighter experience - where after some rough face fucking in an awkward position, I awoke the next morning unable to rotate my neck all the way. The chiropractor said 3 of my cervical vertebrae had been rotated or slipped. I don’t even know what I came up with as an excuse for that one lol. He was able to adjust them back into place.

It’s important to know how to take care of acute injuries- I actually had to wait two days because it was the weekend to see my chiropractor. In the mean time I iced my neck and took ibuprofen. Had the injury been more severe there is a real chance that even just swelling and inflammation could cause irreparable damage to the spinal cord or surrounding structures. Ice and ibuprofen are go-to when you need to treat acute injuries that have caused or could cause dangerous inflammation.

The neck is such a common feature in sex and bdsm play. It’s so important to be aware of how it’s angled and how it’s handled during sex and scenes. Always put safety first and remember to pull- not yank on anyone’s hair or head!!

I was very sad to read the OP. I am so glad the OP posted it though because it is such an important message that needs to echo throughout the bdsm and even vanilla communities.

[foreverexploringsexuality]

I come back to this post pretty often. I actively and deliberately seek it out.

You want to know why?

Because this is the harsh reality of the potential damage that kink done improperly can cause.

It’s very easy to get caught up in all the extreme activities and the rough and tumble type of play that we all love, but every so often we need to all be given a reality check that firmly plants our feet back on the ground. Something that forces us to revalue the mantra of “Safe, Sane and Consensual.”

This post for me is my wake-up all. It humbles me and grounds me every single time I read it, and I applaud with all the strength in my hands the woman that was courageous enough to post it.

Safety always comes first and I’ll be damned if I ever forget it.

[foreverexploringsexuality]

Reblogging in honour of 5 years post-surgery ❤️

[instructor144]

BOOST.

[beautifulaquafina]

Boosting

[shortyskittles]

Repost boost

[babygirl-1972]

BOOST!

[striderofthen0rth]

I will never ever not reblog this. My acquaintance with life altering neck injuries is real and strong. The number of scary hair pulling gifs I see on here is appalling.

That’s probably verbatim to the last time I reblogged this. So be it.

[littlesouthernbrat]

And this is why I allow so few people to pull my hair.

[gprincessa]

Eye opener 🧐 pulling hair harshly was already a hard limit for me because growing it out is such a commitment… however this is a far more important reason….

[submissivelittlemuse]

This will always always be a reblog!💜

[beardandcoffee-deactivated20220]

Another example of how rough play requires consent, trust, and cooperation. The sub really has all of the control.

[mental-wanderings]

BOOST THIS. WHAT YOU SAW IN THAT CLIP MAY BE DANGEROUS. Explore carefully and with consent. Going to make my own post on this in a sec

[hypnobrainwasher]

Tumblr is great. People start blogs about nature or art and two weeks later, their likes are full of sex, hypnosis, and misogyny. Welcome to your awakening, starring all of the rest of us.

[foxantoine]

oh he's such a loser freak

[v-sk-dommeextraordinaire]

Okanagan Beach, Penticton

Photo credit: C. Robinson

[adampov]

Secretary (2002)

[v-sk-dommeextraordinaire]

Just wash My hair. Shut your fucking mouth. I don't want to hear a word out of you...

[unbearable16]

This movie is totally awesome, it is hilarious as anything you have ever seen.

[v-sk-dommeextraordinaire]

Only in Canada you say? 🍁🍁🍁😆🤣😂

[sounddesignerjeans-deactivated2]

I wish kinky sex ed wasn't so stigmatized even among left-leaning "sex positive" circles. Everyone's all "uwu I'm a sub I'll do anything you ask" okay mommy wants you to read The New Bottoming Book so you learn how to sub without hurting yourself since your sex ed up to this point is porn and your ex boyfriend Jared who liked to choke you incorrectly

[sounddesignerjeans-deactivated2]

I’m so glad you asked! Let me list off what I’ve got for you:

Books I personally recommend:

- The New Topping Book and The New Bottoming Book, by Dossie Easton and Janet W. Hardy

If you’re having kinky sex at all, you need to read at least one of these two books. Point blank. They’ll teach you the very basics of negotiating properly (which is critical!), and help you identify what you are and aren’t into.

- Mindfucking Mindfully, by Sir Ezra Where this book really shines isn’t actually in helping you “mindfuck” people, it’s in taking a close look at how to do so ethically. It’s a great answer to the question “how do I get someone to consent to something and still surprise and shock them with it?”

- Real Service by Raven Kaldera and Joshua Tenpenny This is a slightly niche pick but there simply isn’t a better book on the subject. It’s written from a 24/7 M/s perspective, which is not what I do, but the book itself is an indispensable guide to giving and receiving service. The phrase “if the Master doesn’t want it, it isn’t service” will be burned into my psyche for quite some time. I love this book a lot. Maybe my favorite out of all of these.

- Enough To Make You Blush: Exploring Erotic Humiliation, by Princess Kali This one’s high on my reading list; I’ve heard it recommended by a number of people whose opinions on these things I trust.

- Pretty Much Anything Midori Has Ever Done Midori is a great resource for this stuff - I haven’t personally read much of her work, but she’s a well known sex educator and great at what she does. She’s known for bondage, but has a lot of range beyond that.

- This Negotiations Worksheet from Bex Talks Sex This is what I default to using a lot of the time for negotiations. Forget BDSMtest, you don’t need that, it’s no good. Just look through this worksheet’s wordbank with your partner. Big fan especially of the “how do you want to feel?” section.

Books I can kind of recommend:

- The Ultimate Guide to Kink, edited by Tristan Taormino This book is weird. There’s a lot of good info for experienced players, but some of what’s written here skeeves me out. I think if I had a top that thought the way some of the tops in here think, they would not be topping me for long. But there’s some good techniques and so on to pick up that I wouldn’t have otherwise. I liked the distinction one of the authors makes between being sadistic in the sense of inflicting pain and being sadistic in the sense of doing something your sub doesn’t “enjoy.”

- The Ritual of Dominance and Submission, by David English Man, this book fucking sucks. The writing and editing are garbage, and the fear and protocol play described need way more careful negotiation than he ever lets on, let alone recommends. This is some 50 Shades bullshit. The only time I recommend this book is to tops like me who tend to be very affirming to their partners and need a guide on how to really scare them - when their partner consents and when you negotiate it, which this book sucks at teaching you. Really good content on fear, punishment, and protocol play, really terrible presentation of the topic though. Don’t read this if you don’t already know what you’re doing.

- Paradigms of Power, by Raven Kaldera I love this book. Great book. Very focused on 24/7 M/s play though, and, being an anthology, some chapters are better than others. If you can’t read something and pick out what is and isn’t for you, don’t bother. But some really great inspiration, and generally pretty well written. Big fan of the discussion of leather throughout the book.

Hope some of these are helpful for people ^-^ for the average person reading this I recommend New Bottoming/Topping, but they’re all important parts of my library and I’ve recommended all of them to friends at some point or another.

[sparklefartstheunicorn]

May I also suggest Hell on Wheels and Kneeling in Spirit by Raven Kaldera, d/s companion books that address kink with a disability. They're a should read for everyone, imo. You never know when you or a partner are going to have changes in your body that affect what you can physically do. Temporary illness/injury and even just age can affect your sex life.

[dogspouse]

I'd like to suggest Better Bondage for Every Body! It goes really in depth on anatomy, pain processing, self-tying, and has chapters specifically focusing on how to do rope bondage on/for someone who is disabled or has chronic pain, which was really important to me.

[friendlycoffeefiend]

reblogging specifically for these last additions bc I don't think I've ever seen resources for kink w/ disability

[unbearable16]

Hey sweetie, do you like to eat pussy and anal also 💦🥵

Of course. Do you need some pussy eating

[darkeagleruins]

[unbearable16]

What is the best choice when there are no good choices? The least worse.