is my tie straight?

stars hockey, six of crows, other miscellany. she / her. Block #starslb and #dallasstars to skip (most of) the hockeys.

[urashiningstar]

On this season of the Dallas Stars: it’s time for battered knight miro heiskanen to get the respect he deserves. Time for mavrik bourque our sopping wet kitten to have the breakout season befitting his model-esque features. Time for young old man thomas harley to continue being odd about mouselike future captain wyatt johnston. Time for thrice jilted (4 times if you count our ex coach) lover boy extraordinaire jake oettinger to score a goalie goal or five and remember the he is That Girl ™️. Time for misplaced european club rat roope hintz to serve levels of speed and cunt heretofore unseen. Time for esa “the thighs” lindell to light up our screens with the sunniest smile you’ve ever seen. Time for mikko motherfucking rantanen to continue what is already the greatest revenge arc in hockey. It’s hockey season, folks. Let’s get it.

[our-queer-experience]

we DO grow old and happy. btw.

[imconfusedallthetimehelp]

And you find love and it stays with you.

[irisbleufic]

Older women are so, so beautiful, and older trans women are no exception. Celebrate the beauty of our elders! Celebrate trans beauty!

[our-queer-experience]

^^^

[stayingmachine]

I wanted to share some more of these, specifically trans women of color. The images I'm posting are from a project called To Survive On This Shore and it's an interview project. I am only posting a handful so it's so worth checking out!

This is Linda, 60

Alexis, 64

Helena, 63

Kendrah, 72 (!!)

Tasha, 65

It was deeply healing to me to discover this project. The site has selected photos and attached interviews and it's definitely worth your time. I didn't include any because the focus of this post imo is transfems but there are a lot of beautiful interviews with transmasc people too if you're interested! But that'll have to be another post 💖

[houndmother]

for those interested, the photographer is Jess T. Dugan. The link to this particular project is as follows:

To Survive on This Shore — JESS T. DUGAN

[ryebreadgf]

[darnitjack]

I know many married women with children who are healthy, work full time, are fully in control of their finances (sometimes their husband's too) and live quite comfortably.

That's not to say I Don't know some single women who are living their best lives, but the two aren't mutually exclusive

[ryebreadgf]

that’s cool man! I dreamed once that the world was made of pudding

[raisedbylibrarians]

“I know many married women with children who are healthy”

that you know of, you are not privy to their private health history

“work full time” working full time doesn’t mean that they haven’t been forced to give up careers less compatible with kids or been passed over for promotion/advancement because of having children (and the perception that her priorities are elsewhere)

“are fully in control of their finances (sometimes their husband's too)”

Those finances are still effected by having children, childcare is stupid expensive

“and live quite comfortably.”

Again, that you know of, you don’t know what choices they’ve made

So many of the ways that women are oppressed are subtle and underhanded. It’s illegal to pass over someone a promotion or raise because of them taking maternity leave in the past or for simply having children, but companies still do it constantly. Pregnancy irrevocably changes the body in so many large and tiny ways, most of which people don’t talk about because it’s not well known. Then once the baby is here women are more likely to be the ones waking up in the middle of the night/not sleeping at all to take care of the baby. Women are more likely to be the ones getting kids up and ready for school, cleaning up after them, doing the grocery shopping, cooking, etc and again, it’s not really discussed. Lost sleep harms the body, extra stress harms the body, frequently lifting and carrying children can harm the body. Maybe she has a support system, maybe she has paid staff, maybe her partner helps, but so many women don’t have that.

[redstonedust]

i do find the rules around clothes fascinating because of how made up it all is. we invented the idea of covering our bodies from the elements because we lack fur like other mammals and then made up all these rules around it and now people will unironically tell you "men cant wear skirts its unnatural" girl none of this is natural. we are born naked and made up the rest as we went along. hope this helps.

[sailermoon]

having unwashed hair will have you believing shit like i can’t be saved

[ieatratsyummy]

They could never make me hate you, complex female character whose reaction to trauma was not pretty and digestible like how people think it should be.

[philcollinsenjoyer]

about 90% of fanfiction takes place in a utopia where men are thoughtful and unsure of their place in the world

[mycatismyfriend]

@skulandcrossbones this might be the greatest tag on a reblog I’ve ever seen.

[urashiningstar]

why can’t i call in tired to work? why can’t i say “sorry guys I feel like I am slowly fusing to my bed and trying to form a thought is like trying to eat soup with a fork?” but no. I’ll just drink several coffees and be tired but with heart palpitations. yay.

[willgrahamscock]

why would you ever outsource fun to chatgpt? are you stupid? you can make mediocre shit by yourself too.

[willgrahamscock]

you're missing out on all the crazy euphoric moments where you execute an idea flawlessly, sending it to your friends and feeling the genuine happiness at their reactions to something you made authentically. you're robbing yourself of something beautiful.

and I get it, writers block, artists block, depression can really be terrible, but once you break out of it (and you will) it will feel like climbing Mount Everest.

[willgrahamscock]

peace and love on planet earth! you are saving the environment AND you’re cool!

[willgrahamscock]

WE ARE PROUD OF YOU!!!!

[badwolfbadwolf]

I think I am officially Fandom Old. I am so worn out from the arguments on who's the top or the bottom (who cares), what is allowed to be written (anything you want, bejeebus), what is Problematic (I know, just tag it), what other people Should Do (they Should live their lives free of judgment). There isn't a Right Way to do things. Tag your stuff appropriately, don't read stuff you don't want to read, and leave other people (me) alone.

[leeshajoy]

There is nothing quite like the freedom of having gone through all of the Discourse and come out the other side into the promised land of Not Giving A Fuck.

[8nin]

“would 14-year old you be proud of you?” listen, i’m not here to impress a mentally ill child

[str-ngeloop]

you will struggle to say the unsayable thing for five years straight. and then it will suddenly become easy on a Wednesday morning

[orphic-mysteries]

If it keeps you from killing yourself it's not stupid. This applies to anything btw.

[brb-on-a-quest]

Bestie. How dare you leave “do not mock the life preserver…” in the tags.

@onewingedsparrow

[insomniac-arrest]

Taylor Tomlinson, Look At You (2022) Netflix special

[urashiningstar]

I’m genuinely so fucking sad. Definition of have all the pieces but can’t put them together.

[urashiningstar]

Archmedian??? Archimedean???? Razor no one has, does, or will ever do it like you.

[urashiningstar]

FUCK YOU GET FUCKED MILD

[urashiningstar]

CHALLENGE THAT SHIT