Just to Say

They/them/theirs. Vague is as vague does. Often used as a vent blog.

[sandersstudies]

Low-level nausea is a miserable kind of sick. Like yes I’m barely inconvenienced but also no I can’t do anything at all.

[vaguepersonalposts]

The outright hate stings, but being constantly told by people who are supposedly on your side that you just aren't with caring about or basic acknowledgement is what really hurts.

Here's an exercise in kindness: take a few minutes today to learn about the lives of a minority group. People with chronic illnesses, trans people, people with disabilities, queer people, Mexican immigrants, different Asian diaspora populations, etc. Just a bit and to learn a hint of their struggles and their humanity. Just before you charge in dismissively.

[vaguepersonalposts]

I swear to God if people don't learn the difference between neurodivergence and autism

Like not all Neurodivergent people are autistic. Some neurodivergent people have conflicting access needs with many autistic people and that's okay. If I see one more post complaining about what "neurotypical" people do and it's something that's done often by people with anxiety, PTSD, mood swings, or whatever I am going to continue to be quietly irritated and not say anything because I'm conflicts avoidant.

Neurodivergence includes mental illness, it includes ADHD, it includes people with unusual conditions, it's a term built to be inclusive. Can we stop trying to turn it into only one thing? Especially when even then it's only going to be one version of autism represented?

And while I'm ranting, people who are like "well, I/my friend/whoever can do this and is (x condition) so providing any support on this is offensive and ableist! I can't believe you think we're so stupid!" Like, I'm glad you think anyone with a different version of that condition is "stupid."

I see this so often with tone tags and just, if you have ever used this argument, fuck you personally. I don't care what conditions you do or don't have. Not everyone can recognize sarcasm and that doesn't make them lesser as a human being. Like there is discussion to be had on conflicting access needs, but if you come in acting like just offering something for an access need is ableist or someone is lesser in any way for having a certain access need, you're the ableist one.

[vaguepersonalposts]

I've been trying to figure out what "gender based rights" TERFs are trying to defend, because the law doesn't even give rights based on gender, but now I remember TERFism is a UK heavy movement. I have recently learned that in the UK cis women cannot legally commit rape as TERFs use that to defend rapist Lily Cade and excuse her acts of sexual assault. That's the only major "sex based right" I can think of and the only one that's majorly come up from TERFs I've seen that's not actually at least equal to different genders.

Except that the truth is no one has the right to rape another person. No one has the right to commit rape and be defended from that rape being legally recognized because of their gender. No one of any sex should have the right to commit rape.

Fuck TERFs. Fuck "sex based rights."

[vaguepersonalposts]

Am I sick? Is this my chronic sore throat coming back? Will I ever feel well again?

Thanks GERD

[vaguepersonalposts]

Me:

No one:

Absolutely no one:

My throat: maybe I should crawl out. Don't you feel that? Don't you feel me wanting to crawl out?

[vaguepersonalposts]

Am I sick? Is this my chronic sore throat coming back? Will I ever feel well again?

Thanks GERD

[dog-teeth]

dog teeth #337

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Some people just take for granted that eating is a pleasant experience and sometimes I'm a little bitter toward those people

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Do you think we were built to be tradgedies? Isn't the end built in from the start for us all?

[vaguepersonalposts]

What does it matter what time, what day, what month, what year it is when this will never end?

[vaguepersonalposts]

I wish I had a functional brain. All I have going for me is my smarts and I don't even have that

[vaguepersonalposts]

People be like "trust your gut" and meanwhile my gut constantly thinks I'm about to die and my loved ones want to hurt me

[vaguepersonalposts]

You know who deserves to lose his teeth? Senator Hawley. Fuck that man

[vaguepersonalposts]

I'm so trapped. This wasn't supposed to happen. I wasn't supposed to graduate into a cage, increasingly isolated and lonely. I wasn't built to live like this. Stuck back at home this cold dark winter.

[vaguepersonalposts]

I do not want to pull out my teeth. I do NOT want to pull out my teeth. I want my teeth inside my head. My teeth belong inside my head. My teeth are good there. I do not want to pull out my teeth. I do not want to pull out my teeth.

[vaguepersonalposts]

I do not deserve to lose my teeth. I should not pull out my teeth. I deserve to keep my teeth. I deserve to have healthy, strong teeth. I do not deserve to be tortured. I do not deserve to be in pain. I deserve good things and healthy things.

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Transphobes think trans people have straight privilege and meanwhile straight society is like "if a woman's on top of a man while they have sex it's gay"

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I’m such a fuck up