Discussions and Writing Prompts about Complicated Issues

Bisexual. Female. Have auditory processing disorder. Writer. Tumblr cliche, basically.

[cryptotheism]

Sex is cringe. "Hey do you wanna come over and play boners together?" What naked bullshit. They have played us for fools.

[venttoabigirl]

You have your hobbies, I have mine...

[venttoabigirl]

I think it's important to say the word. Let's be real, the reason that terms like, "pansexual," "omnisexual" anf "polysexual" exist, the reason people will simply say they are "queer" when their orientation meets the definition of bisexual, is because of rampant biphobia, misinformation about bisexual history and shame. People are afraid and ashamed to admit they are bisexual. "Bisexual" does not mean "transphobic". "Bisexual" does not mean "only attracted to people who fit within the gender binary".

We need to say it. We need to normalise it. I am bisexual.

[venttoabigirl]

So I just finished the 4th episode of Paper Girls and I swear this show was handcrafted for Tumblr.

[anakinfromzadash]

anti-egg vegans are always a hoot. like, she’s not using it. it’s not fertilized. it’s going to rot and attract predators. you want me to just throw it in the trash??

[amapola-castellana]

its still animal exploitation, is it not?

[sheepsbian]

do you think a chicken with zero emotional attachment to the egg she popped out feels exploited when that egg leaves the coop?

[paniniwitharugula]

if that unfertilized egg cracked in the pen there’s not a chicken who would wait 0.002 seconds to slurp that shit down raw and unseasoned but I’m supposed to exploit foreign children farming for slave wages and ship all of their staple crops across the world to me instead. and this feels like the moral high ground to them. alright

[venttoabigirl]

Bringing up backyard eggs to vegans is like bringing up bridges to libertarians. Like, can we debate this when we've dealt with factory farming?

[venttoabigirl]

In retrospect it was kind of messed up that so many people saw a poorly-worded prompt about someone who starts to question her previously held assumptions about her own sexual identity and thought it was tantamount to advocating corrective rape. The lure level of biphobia in that is kind of insane.

"Some people question their sexuality even after they've come out."

"Rape apologist!"

[venttoabigirl]

So I just saw San Junipero for the first time and omg it was so good. Like even without the fact that it was about a romance between two women, it was such a cool concept executed beautifully. The other stuff was just a bonus, really.

[venttoabigirl]

Also, one of, if not the best bi rep I've ever seen.

[saveyourhelplessspite]

DONT SCROLL THIS IS IMPORTANT!

im begging anyone who sees this post to prevent rapesexual, im begging you. no one will see this but if you do reblog to get the message out that these fuckers exist and dont deserve to exist heres the flag so you can know who to fucking block, report and tell to fuck off

i dont want this to ruin the pride and help with self esteem of being lgbtq+ so a signal boost from larger accounts might be nice

[beloved-innit-moved-deactivated]

SIGNAL BOOST.

Sorry for the tags, but this is REALLY REALLY REALLY IMPORTANT:

@natsueyama @welcome-to-gaytown @sleepypaladiknight @blubeloved @bee-exists

PLEASE. BOOST THIS. SAVE TUMBLR AND THE REST OF SOCIAL MEDIA FROM ANOTHER WAR LIKE AGAINST THE SUPERSEXUALS.

[goore-whore-deactivated20250316]

@thehugwizard hey I know you’re on break but

[thehugwizard]

Boost!

[your-favorite-flower-fairy]

Boost please!!!!

[ginazmemeoir]

rapesexual?

RAPESEXUAL??

i am sharpening all of my weapons it’s time to send some bitches to hell

[artxmisss-deactivated20211002]

Boost please

@ladyvesuvia @railmeharrypotter @kanshah @adoginthemanger @jurdan-my-beloved @iknewyouweretroublegoatremix @i-wanna-b-yours @glittering-galaxy-grapes @knife-wife-inej @coffee-fandoms-and-chaos @mayor-of-stupidville @silverdelirium @mellifluousart @the-fault-in-our-inquilab @sarcasm-caffeine-and-chaos @didyouputyournameinthegobi and @anyone else who sees this

[ladyvesuvia]

excuse me what the fuck is this???

boosting this!!! @holden-caulfield @mauvea @selenesheart @silverdelirium @railmeharrypotter @untowardflower @potters-heart + anyone else sees this

[prongs103]

WTF

Boost!! @dead-gay-wizards @mendesxruel @el-imaskingforyourlefthand @marauderslovewolfstar

[dear-evanrosier]

@mirrorinthesky @prongsy @prohibitionincurls @achliegh @slut4remuslupin @starkid525600

[viva-1a-resistance]

@jeguluswhore @randomslasher @krystalliumm @desi-culture-is @fuckyeahdrarry @somehow-i-got-an-account @womenrights @womenempowermentmovement sorry for the tags but this is so important. i tagged you all because you reach more people than me i apologise again for bothering you

[venttoabigirl]

Do we know for sure this is real and not just someone trolling?

[tsukkisedits]

HeYoOoOo.... WoUlD yOu Be DoWn MaKiNg A gAmZeE mAkArA sTiMbOaRd?

from: anon

[venttoabigirl]

You can pretend mono-normativity doesn't exist all you like, honey, that won't change the facts.

[venttoabigirl]

Pansexuality is a philosophy, not an orientation. Change my mind.

[venttoabigirl]

At the risk of getting in trouble with the lesbians again, gay people need to to stop taking ownership of bi representation. It's not all or even most gays, obvi, but I'm so sick of hearing that celibate bi characters or bi characters in opposite sex relationships aren't proper bi representation from people who aren't even bi. Feel free to take ownership of the way MM or FF relationships are represented, regardless if they're bi or not.

But if a character is bi, they don't automatically have to be in a same sex relationship to "count" as bi. It's not about you, Louise. It's about a group that literally has a term for when our existence is back-pedalled or ignored. Our experiences are diverse and varied. So if you want to say that a bisexual character that never dates someone of the same sex isn't real bi representation, you can kindly fuck off.

[i-cannot-live-without-coffee]

So if the reason no one has accents (except Tahani) in The Good Place is because everyone hears everything in their native language and accent, why does Chidi still not have an accent after their deaths are reversed? I’m behind on this show. Please tell me they address that.

[venttoabigirl]

They address it almost immediately.

[casscade01]

Myfanwy and Gestalt's kiss ❤😍 I love this show

[venttoabigirl]

The way Gestalt grabs Myfanwy by the back of the head... and then later when she hesitantly reaches for their hand and they firmly grasp hers... fuck, I am never getting tired of this scene.

[juanikuz-deactivated20210427]

omg lover’s tracklist leaked

[venttoabigirl]

Nice try but there are 18 tracks, silly.

[gaynfl-moved]

i’m losing my fucking mind target has a straight ally flag for $3 but no lesbian flag

[gaynfl-moved]

who the FUCK

[i-put-the-purr-in-perfect]

Aight first of FUCK THE ALLY FLAG. You shouldn’t get a fucking flag, nothing is taken away from you for supporting us so you shouldn’t really have one.

[venttoabigirl]

Perhaps it’s like a safety pin, a way for allies to identify themselves so we know who’s a safe person, or simply to show support.

[gaynfl-moved]

man shut the fuck up, even if they are a fucking “”””good ally””””” they’re being given a flag over lesbians the first fucking letter of LGBTQ during pride month and that’s absolutely RIDICULOUS. they wanna show support they can shut the fuck up and get out of LGBTQ spaces

[venttoabigirl]

My comment was in response to @i-put-the-purr-in-perfect . I agree that it doesn't make sense to sell an ally flag without selling a lesbian flag. That being said, in terms of having a flag at all, a flag is merely a symbol, literally anyone can make a flag. I have another blog where a significant number of my followers have designed flags for nonexistent countries and noone gives a shit about that.

[gaynfl-moved]

i’m losing my fucking mind target has a straight ally flag for $3 but no lesbian flag

[gaynfl-moved]

who the FUCK

[i-put-the-purr-in-perfect]

Aight first of FUCK THE ALLY FLAG. You shouldn’t get a fucking flag, nothing is taken away from you for supporting us so you shouldn’t really have one.

[venttoabigirl]

Perhaps it’s like a safety pin, a way for allies to identify themselves so we know who’s a safe person, or simply to show support.

[solidaritysuggestion]

lesbians dismantling the biphobia in our dating circles. don’t let someone get away with saying “I just don’t date bi’s.” push back. stand up for your sisters.

[venttoabigirl]

Speaking as a bi woman, date whoever you want. Noone is entitled to your attraction, affection or body. Not wanting to date bi people is not biphobia. Rejecting us from LGBT+ spaces and services is biphobia. Dismissing the high suicide rates is biphobia. Lesbians not wanting to date us is not biphobia The mentality that not wanting to date a certain type of person is discriminatory is rapey as fuck. Do I think it’s close minded? Yes. A little silly? Yes. But not biphobic.

[solidaritysuggestion]

Hi, I understand where you’re coming from here. Certainly individuals not dating certain other individuals doesn’t have the same severity of impact as high rates of suicide, rejection of services, and partner abuse.

And, certainly, someone can date or not date, have sex with or not have sex with, etc. whomever. No one needs to justify why; we all have the right to do and not do what we want.

However, excluding an entire group of people based on one characteristic *is* discrimination. It’s prejudice, and in this case, we can call that prejudice biphobia. It doesn’t mean every lesbian is required to date a bi person. It just means that they should probably examine where their decision to only date one specific type of woman is coming from, especially in the context of anti-bisexual sentiment in the lesbian community.

Although I wasn’t the admin of this blog when that post was made, the amount of people misconstruing it to mean “you’re required to say yes to every bi person who’s into you” is really concerning and I want to emphasize that that was not the sentiment. Instead, the sentiment was encouraging lesbians to ask others in the community, “why do you exclude women only because they’re bi?” And “what is it about bi women that makes you think they’re all not worth your time?” Because I think these are important conversations to have.

[venttoabigirl]

Hi. Thanks for responding even though you didn’t write the original post. Technically speaking, you’re right, if you are using the literal definition of discrimination, which just means to choose one thing over another, or draw a distinction between two ore more things. However, in this context, it’s clear the word discrimination is being used to mean “Wrongful discrimination”” especially when you use words like “prejudice”or “biphobia”. I prefer the word “”bias”” over “discrimination”. We all have biases that impact how we view and treat other people, and we should examine our opinions to make sure we’re not biased, and if we are, try to see where those biases come from. Not wanting to date any bi person simply because they’re bi is biased and close-minded. It’s not prejudiced. Again, I know you didn’t write the original post, but I never thought it was saying lesbians are required to date every bi person that’s into them. I interpreted it as saying to lesbians that if a fellow lesbian happens to mention they don’t date bisexuals, that you should be combative and defensive. “”Push back”and “stand up for your sisters”are combative terms. “Ask them why they feel that way”or “challenge their biases in a productive conversation in which you hear them out, do not invalidate their experiences and offer an alternative perspective that may allow them to reconsider their position without shaming them for their dating preferences” are more constructive. If OP had really meant the latter,. they would have said that. Not that there’s never a time to push back against legitimate prejudice or defend other groups, but someone simply stating her dating preferences is not one of them, in my opinion. I appreciate the sentiment but if a lesbian doesn’t want to date me because I’m bi, I don’t need anyone to stand up for me. There are plenty of open minded, unbiased bi people, lesbians and straight dudes out there. It concerns me that some lesbian women could put themselves in situations they’re not comfortable with for fear of offending or discriminating against someone. Dating discrimination is not a term that should even exist. We fight discrimination to protect people’s rights. Dating is not a right. Thanks again for your thoughtful and polite response.