Tired

atheist,brazilian,horror enthusiast,homosexual female (lesbian)|GC and anti-porn/prostitution,not a radfem.

[radfemsafe-deactivated20220201]

What are questions that have yet to be answered by the trans community that if they answered you might be inclined to change your mind about gender critical theory? I’m asking about questions that you ask and they respond with circular logic, or just avoid answering. 

[sickofeverythingmale2]

Why is the label “trans” okay when it is followed by “gender” but not other things? Ex. trans racial.

What makes someone trans/nonbinary?

[shes-unforgettable]

If a penis can be female, why are transwomen undergoing gender reassignment surgery to remove it?

[mayonnaiseolivia]

What is a woman?

[radfemsafe-deactivated20220201]

“If a man can decide to be a transwoman because words change meaning/language evolves and genitals have nothing to do with gender, why can’t a biological female identity as a transwoman?”

[gncenjoyer-moved-deactivated202]

If sex is a spectrum then why do y’all just have AMAB/TMA and AFAB/TME lmfao

[enigmatic-insect-deactivated202]

Why does “identifying as something” make you that thing?

[overt-menstruation]

Why is it the responsibility of womyn, the class of people with the least amount of power and wealth as well as the longest and most brutal worldwide history of oppression and slavery, to accommodate trans identified males and center them in our movement for liberation?

Why, with all of the money and strong public support (in "western" countries), do they not create their own third spaces?

Why do they not focus their ire on men, who are the perpetrators of discrimination and violence against them?

What is sexism? Why do womyn experience it?

The answers that I get to these questions are never satisfactory. They almost always end, at best, in appeals to emotion, and, at worst, threats of violence. Both of these tactics are very common and effective against womyn due to our socialization.

[radmenace]

since they can only observe us from a biased, outside vantage point, how can someone born male know how it ~feels~ to be female?

[federal-bureau-of-nerds]

If actual biological sex is a spectrum, what are the other gametes along with sperm and egg? Why has it taken so long for them to be observed?

[of-the-calm-inlet]

Can your gender identity exist for a second without validation?

[goblinous]

These are really good questions for peaking anyone who hasn't been sucked into gender ideology too deeply. I've used "what is a woman? What do all women share, and no men share, beyond our bodies?" and "How is this different from claiming to be a different race?" with some success.

[harrypotterf]

if being trans is "being born in the wrong body," how do you know what the "right" body is? if it's not being born in the wrong body, why is someone owed medical care to change it?

imagine encountering a human society that has never interacted with our culture and has entirely opposite gender roles from us - what's the difference between a man from this culture and a trans woman from ours? if being trans depends on cultural context and external signifiers, how can someone "just know" they're trans?

why aren't straight people asked to "get over their genital preferences"? if it's wrong to ask that of anyone, why is it wrong to build personal boundaries around that?

[moondrunklesbian-deactivated202]

If trans activism is truly only about getting trans people rights, safety, and respect. Why is so much of the online focus on policing words of strangers, in particular women? Why is there so much emphasis on whether one particular lesbian will date or sleep with a trans women or else she is a transphobe? Why is there emphasis on whether or not every women only space will include trans women or be deemed transphobic? Why isn't there as much focus on trans men as there is on trans women?

[girlsmoonsandstars]

tbh the transgender/transracial debate peaked me

[feminescu]

if sexual orientation is based on gender what about the hundreds of animal species with homosexual individuals we studied in the last few decades?

if sexual orientation is based on gender and pronouns don't mean gender. femininity/masculinity =/= gender. sex =/= gender then what *exactly* are we attracted to? labels?

if sex =/= gender why are female only spaces transphobic against trans women? on the same note why should we include trans men in discussions about abortion rights but we can't have female only spaces?

why are women oppressed based on gender? why aren't men the oppressed class and women the oppressors? just how and why did all this start?

[hatsunezz]

Can straight people stop glamorizing being gay in a homophobic era/country? "Oh to be a 50s housewife and make out with my female friend while our husbands are at work" those hypothetical lesbians are being forced to dedicate their lives to a man they aren't attracted to and children they didn't want to have, only a straighty would romanticize that shit

[jaubaius]

A person called OwlKitty changed the Business Card scene from “American Psycho” to the guys showing each other pictures of their cats on their phones… and it could possibly be the greatest masterpiece ever😭😂

[thyrell]

this is the funniest divorce in the world

[terf-gifs]

for those who wanted just this part

[iloveyoualeclightwood]

liberal feminism

[bulldyke-rider-deactivated20251]

i don't care about lesbians. only straight and bi women matter in my eyes. so if you don't care about straight and bi women, i think that's fair and should be respected. i feel like only real women can have attraction towards men, anyway.

This is just like how osa women really think but won't say out loud

[not-the-shinigami-eyes]

[catgirlheadmate]

"Chris Chan is a nasty pervert" So he fits in perfectly with his fellow transbians, is what you're telling me

[bulldyke-rider-deactivated20251]

I hate the bullshit. The "I stand with women of all sexualities because that's the right thing" bullshit. Ain't none of y'all ever stood with lesbians; stop playing. You only half pretend lesbians are alright with you because you hate trannies. So just leave me tf alone.

[lesbianluvr]

[soffansmol]

Love their confidence! :D

[terven]

Her*

Please spend time actually learning someone’s pronouns instead of resorting to default they/them. It’s actually still misgendering when you can actually find them out with a very quick Google search.

Do better.

[soffansmol]

No, using a gender-neutral term isn't misgendering.

Have a nice day.

[cecaeliawitch]

You literally saw a black girl who doesn't shave and said "that could never be a real woman" don't fucking pretend :/

[movedto-transmisogynistic-deact]

TIMs are constantly complaining about people using “them” instead of “she” for their literally male asses, and people take them seriously. They constantly complain about this as a form of misgendering. An actual woman decides to not shave and you default to they/them and claim it’s not misgendering. So do you disagree with trans “women” who say using they/them is a form of misgendering or do you just believe that a woman who doesn’t conform to gender roles must be they/them?

[radiqueer]

what does febfem mean?

@bai-xue-lives and @prismatic-bell both asked me the same question, so here goes nuffink

Febfem: On Bisexual Radfems, Facts Don’t Care About Feelings, and Lesbians Essentialism

Radical feminists describe ‘febfem’ as a bisexual female* who, by choice. exclusively dates females. It arose out of a specific subset of radfem tumblr, which holds some ideas about gender, sexuality, and identity to be self-evident. these facts include:

lesbian refers exclusively to homosexual females. words like bisexual and lesbian are not identities but statements of fact. any person who self-identifies as a lesbian must be a female homosexual. if you’re not a female homosexual for any reason (you’ve dated men in the past, you were assigned male at birth, you’re bisexual but only date women) then you cannot be a lesbian. you need other words.

females who are exclusively attracted to females are the most oppressed group. everybody else needs to protect them; their terminology, and their spaces. they are inviolate. an attack upon them is the greatest crime. bisexual women are their oppressors because bi women benefit from heterosexuality (what these benefits are is unclear)

lesbians are allowed to call bisexual women anything they want, including slurs like cockslut, bihet, handmaiden, etc. a lesbian referring to bi women using these slurs is venting about her trauma at the hands of her bisexual oppressors and is above question or reproach. bisexual women are not allowed to vent about their trauma at the hands of lesbians because they have privilege over lesbians and it would be lesbophobic.

bisexual women are untrustworthy rapists who want to invade lesbian only spaces and abuse lesbians. [please note that in this case, “bisexual women” also refers to trans-inclusive lesbians.] all bisexual women are untrustworthy, cheating cocksluts until proven otherwise.

Bisexual radfems who want to have access to spaces that keep them safe and people who don’t treat them like cocksluts who are only waiting to cheat on the nearest lesbian, must find some way to signal their virtuosity. “Look at us!” They say. “We’re good bisexuals, unlike these other bihet handmaidens. Please allow us into your safe spaces, and make room for us in your rhetoric. We promise to hate ourselves for being attracted to men, constantly apologise for oppressing lesbians, and allow lesbians to target and bully us whenever they like. Look, to make it easy for lesbian radfems to tell when a bisexual is one of the Good Ones, we’ll put this handy word that we just made up - Febfem - in our bios, so you know precisely how to find us.”

It’s almost enough to make me feel sorry for them. If you go through the febfem tag on tumblr, a lot of posts talk about the importance of not talking over lesbians, not infringing on lesbian-only spaces, and not appropriating lesbian terminology, and reiterating constantly that lesbians don’t owe bi women anything (Just be grateful they didn’t call you an abusive slut today!). Of course, all this ground is won at the cost of bisexual women who aren’t female-exclusive, trans-inclusive lesbians, and trans lesbians. So I don’t really feel sorry for them. Except when I do, cause hyperempathy is a bitch that way.

also, they hate mogai tumblr even though they’re literally the radfem version of mogais

*Note: I use female when talking about AFABs (as radfems use female) and women when talking about people who identify as women regardless of AGAB.

[veronica6597-blog]

Uhhh, do you actually follow any RadFems?? I’m involved in multiple Rad Fem leaning groups, and never once have I been shamed for being Bi.

In fact, I’m really glad the phrase FebFem exists because it gives me a shorthand way of explaining my sexuality.

And no one I’ve spoken with has said that in order to be a lesbian you can never have been intimate with a man. The criteria is about who you’re attracted to, not who you’ve tried to be attracted to in the past. Many lesbians had intimate connections with men (bc of compulsory heterosexuality) before realizing that they lean the other way, and they are accepted as valid by at least all the RadFems in my circle.

I know many of you who reblogged this post will be unwilling to do anything I suggest, but I urge you to look at a real RadFem’s page. They aren’t a bunch of ooky-spooky villains, they’re mostly just young women who are tired of living in fear.

[annieisaround]

of course they don’t look at radfem blogs. listening to us is strictly forbidden, haven’t you heard?

[fitzgerald-sisters]

[lavenderfeminist]

Something about Harry Styles signing on to play a gay policeman, probably because he’s still trying to mask his heterosexuality, only to say the most offputting and heterosexual shit about gay sex in movies…

[misa-ndry]

hes bisexual though. there's a lot of evidence to his relationship with Louis Tomlinson, the most telling being Louis' heartbreak song that is 100% about him because he straight up references the place they lived together, not to talk about all their couples tattoos they dodge interview questions about...

[venus-loves-vulva]

What did he say tho?

[theeleanorvance]

with the whole “estrogen made me dumber” thing, there are three options:

1. they are lying. they just think it makes them seem more womanly if they are struggling with basic math. pathetic, embarrassing. other men applaud politely for their struggles

2. they are telling the truth. it is a placebo effect. they believe that women are stupid SO HARD that they truly have lost the ability to think on a higher level, but it’s all caused by their own false prejudices. epic self-own

3. they are telling the truth. high levels of estrogen are genuinely poisoning them to the point that they have lost significant mental capacity. instead of talking to a doctor and stopping their self-poisoning routines, they assume that causing themselves brain damage makes them think like women. kind of funny when it happens to the assholes who post on reddit, but ultimately extremely saddening because (mostly) gay children are being poisoned in the same manner through no fault of their own

[theeleanorvance]

with the whole “estrogen made me dumber” thing, there are three options:

1. they are lying. they just think it makes them seem more womanly if they are struggling with basic math. pathetic, embarrassing. other men applaud politely for their struggles

2. they are telling the truth. it is a placebo effect. they believe that women are stupid SO HARD that they truly have lost the ability to think on a higher level, but it’s all caused by their own false prejudices. epic self-own

3. they are telling the truth. high levels of estrogen are genuinely poisoning them to the point that they have lost significant mental capacity. instead of talking to a doctor and stopping their self-poisoning routines, they assume that causing themselves brain damage makes them think like women. kind of funny when it happens to the assholes who post on reddit, but ultimately extremely saddening because (mostly) gay children are being poisoned in the same manner through no fault of their own

[that1betch-deactivated20230628]

Reasons Why Anarchy is Great for Women:

if a man is abusing you, you won’t go to prison for killing him

if a man raped you, you won’t go to prison for killing him

if a man did either of these things to your sister, your friend, your cousin, your mom, you won’t go to prison for killing him

if you’re a black woman, good news: since police don’t exist, you will not ever be racially profiled again, and neither will your family

literally police and prisons don’t exist. they’re useless anyways let’s just kill rapists and abusers ourselves

[female-malice]

Reasons Why Anarchy is Not Great for Women:

If a man is abusing you, he can torture you without consequences

If a man raped you, he can rape you again without consequences

If a man did either of these things to your sister, your friend, your cousin, your mom, he can do it again without consequences

If you’re a black woman, bad news: white supremacists with guns can kill you without consequences. Without a badge, there’s no badge number. There’s no bodycam footage. There’s no investigation.

Literally prisons exist for a reason. Men are useless rapists and killers. The threat of death does not stop them from raping and killing others. It actually only encourages them. They see death as a “get out of jail free” card. The only thing that deters men from raping and killing is the threat of life imprisonment with other men.

[that1betch-deactivated20230628]

So basically, you think men are going to protect you from men? You think a male run government and a male run prison system are going to protect you? How is that working out? Are the cops white knighting for you or any other abused women you know?

You really forget that women are right now sitting in prison for killing their abusers. Women who would be free and potentially organizing with other women if they were not in prison.

Prisons are also violence factories where men go in for a drug charge and come out hardened killers. They create more violence. There would be less violent men without prison.

The Black Panthers used to roll around with guns and follow cops until Reagan started gun control to stop them. But yeah, relying on the state to protect you is so much better.

[female-malice]

Reread my post. Where did I say anything about supporting a male government? Where did I say anything about relying on male protection?

Anarchy means no group has governing power over another group. Which means under anarchy, women can’t have governing power over men. That’s what you’re advocating for. You’re advocating for a system where men face zero consequences for their actions.

I don’t believe daily life for women will improve when men face zero consequences.

Daily life for women will only improve when women take over the government. Women taking over the government is not anarchy because women having governing power is antithetical to anarchy. Matriarchy and anarchy are diametrically opposed political ideas.

[that1betch-deactivated20230628]

Matriarchy is a family structure, not necessarily a government one.

Consequences do exist in anarchy. Individuals and communities have the freedom to kick people out of their lives. Social ostrazation is a powerful and painful consequence–it’s what keeps so many women in line, women are kept in line by the threat of social ostrazation. You can’t under estimate this power.

So basically you’re going to have women take over the government and get rid of women’s prisons and only have men’s prisons, and you think society is going to be cool with that? People won’t think that’s sexist?

And who will police these men? Who will jail them and keep them captive and kill them?

You want people socialized to be police and jailers and state ordained killers, then expect a non-violent society?

[female-malice]

Violent men don’t mind social ostracization. It works fine for them. They easily find a new community to manipulate and violate.

I’m using matriarchy as a political term, not a family term.

And yes, the matriarchal government system you outlined is more or less correct.

But where did I say anything about expecting a non-violent society? It will take violence for women to take over the government. And it will take violence to keep men from taking it back. That’s fine with me. In your original post you called on women to kill all violent men. So neither of us are rooting for pacifism here.

But although the death sentence is an economically sound response to male violence, I have doubts about its effectiveness. I don’t believe the death sentence is an effective deterrent. Violent males already carry out death sentences on themselves. They go on killing sprees or raping sprees and then they kill themselves. If men knew the only consequence was a death sentence, it would encourage spree violence.

The best deterrent is the threat of life imprisonment. Having to be alive while not having the freedom to commit violence. The prospect of that is terrifying to violent men.

Prisons should only exist for men who commit violent crimes like rape, murder, and sex trafficking. On a case-by-case basis, some people who’ve committed one murder can be rehabilitated. They should be housed separately from rapists, serial murderers, and sex traffickers.

I really don’t care if prison guards see rapists, serial murderers, and sex traffickers as subhuman. I see them as subhuman, too.

Oh and you can call me a sexist misandrist all you want. I don’t mind it.

[carolairdofficial-deactivated20]

the reason that carol (2015) and the handmaiden (2016) were snubbed by the academy of motion picture arts and sciences but call me by your name (2017) was not is because the idea of women living without men and/or exacting their justified revenge upon men makes men and patriarchally conditioned women so uncomfortable that they would rather see a grown man sleep with a teenager. in this essay i will