Verbose

Verbose is my chance to talk about anything that I want or need to. It is my outlet and commentary on anything 'life'. That's why I have called my blog Verbose; it is my chance to say as much or as little as I want. I hope you enjoy.

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Where to from here?

I'm not going to lie. I'd say that I'm definitely in a stage of where the hell is my life going? at the moment. I've got friends having babies left, right and centre, and I'm left over here feeling like I'm missing out on it all. I'm often left wondering where did I go wrong? I mean, why are they finding their happiness and I still seem to be going around in circles to find what makes me tick. 

Over the past six months of so, I've come to the realisation that I don't think what I'm looking for is here in Queensland. While this will always be my home and where I'll come back to, I just don't think that what I'm looking for is here. Is it really a reasonable expectation to think that the person that is meant for me in this world is conveniently located here? And do I really want them to be? I know that I want to be more than mediocre so I think that I need to get back out there in the world, start travelling again and really give myself some new experiences. Things feel stale and I'm falling into bad habits and not wanting to engage with the world. That has to change. 

[dkny]

In business as in life, you don’t get what you deserve, you get what you negotiate.

Chester L Karrass (via dknyprgirl)

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I'm baaack

Wow, I haven't written here since JULY - that's far too long. Where has life gone. Well, for me it's been a series of highs and lows and everything in between. I even started another blog elsewhere over yonder but I keep coming back here to my old faithful. Clearly, I just need to stick with it. 

I'm going to do that. There is lots happening with me so I really do need to document it somewhere, less I may lose my mind!

Here's hoping you take some enjoyment from my journey and antics.

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Stuck in a rut

I am in a big FAT rut. Yes, I have totally let my health and fitness slide, and as a result, I'm stuck in the squishy 'clothes don't fit me' rut. I'm annoyed at myself for getting there, annoyed that I don't seem to have the willpower to do something about it and just generally annoyed.

I know that I have complete control over this situation and the ability to change things, but I keep putting it in the 'too hard' basket. That is very unlike me. Very apathetic. Very lazy. 

I have every faith that I will find my drive once again, and that I will change and be happy with the changes that I make. But until then, I needed to get this off my chest.

What do you do when you're frustrated with something in your life and can't seem to get yourself back on track?

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This follows on somewhat from my last post about men and coaching them so they understand the type of relationship you want. 

This message really resonates with as I sometimes find myself questioning who I am, and wondering if I should change who I am.

As someone who struggles with self-confidence and self-worth I've had to remind myself that I DO NOT HAVE TO CHANGE for anyone!

I encourage everyone to remind themselves (daily) that the are worth it; they have a valuable contribution to make to this world; and that if people want to be in my life, they will step up and grab hold. 

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At the moment I'm reading Textbook Romance by Zoe Foster. I'm really enjoying it and finding her approach to dating, romance and relationships quite interesting. 

The reason I put up this quote is that I feel that some women don't take enough control of their love and romantic situations. Perhaps we're afraid that if we don't give in, do whatever it takes, seem completely agreeable, that we might loose our prospective suitor. 

Instead, I'm taking Zoe's view that we need to teach men how we want to be treated. Not in an 'I am woman hear me road / this independent female won't take your crap...' BUT, we do need to set the tone for what behaviour we will/won't tolerate (and the same goes for the guys) as it sets the tone for everything moving forward. 

What do you think, should we be coaching men (or any person in our lives) how we want to be treated and make it clear the type of relationship we expect and deserve? (that said, if they don't want to play ball, that's fine, but don't you think we owe it to ourselves and others to be up front?)

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This could not be more true. How often do we find ourselves looking longingly at other people and what they have? It's the good old 'grass is always greener' trap.

I'm guilty of it too.

I am learning that comparing myself and my life to others isn't helping me. It is not motivating me, it's preventing me from being grateful for all of the AMAZING things, people, experiences etc that I DO HAVE in my life. 

I really dislike the fact that I focus on what I don't have (or think that I don't have) rather than embracing all of the good things. So I am making a conscious attempt to embrace the good, and forget about what I don't have. Instead, I have a vision and faith that that vision will be realised. 

I have started a bit of a gratitude journal, not every day, and multiple times a week. I'm taking note of things in my life that I'm grateful for, as well as taking note of the things I like about myself (whether physical or other).

Have you tried it? Give it a go, you might be surprised with what you put down on the paper. It's nice to look back too, and see the consistent positives in your life!

[verboselady]

I sometimes feel like I am struggling with this balance. I'm finding myself holding onto (aka, not letting go of) the small stuff and it is eating away at me. 

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Hold the vision, trust the process

Unknown (but ever since I read this, it has been my mantra!)

[verboselady]

Reconnecting.

It has been TOO LONG between blog posts. But that's ok, I have had a lot on since my last ramblings on here, back in October 2012. I've found that I need to be back on there though, I need to be sharing what's going on in my mind and just clear all the angst and over-thinking etc. 

The tone and direction of this blog has changed may times already, and it will be again. Now, I'm going to make the focus about anything related to life as a 20-something career woman and what's going on with me. It might be fashion lifestyle, life, family & friends, love & romance, or just sharing a few affirmations or peals of wisdom (I do LOVE a good affirmation or motivational saying!!).

I hope that you enjoy what I've got to say.

Here's to the next chapter. 

[verboselady]

Bold and bright for race day! #melbournecup #race #rarasuperstar #brisbane

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Yesterday's casual Friday working from home outfit. Features vintage-inspired print skirt from #RaRaSuperstar #paddington #brisbane

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Sunday afternoon.

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Exploring Sydney #sydney #playingtourist #instacollage (Taken with Instagram)

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Love wandering through Paddington and Darlinghurst past all of the amazing terrace housing. I want one! #sydney #paddington #darlinghurst #instacollage (Taken with Instagram)

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Healthy start to my Sunday #sydney #darlinghurst #cafe (Taken with Instagram)

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Lunch on this dreary Sydney day - crab linguini and sparkling. (Taken with Instagram)