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"I'm lying on my bed tonight missing you, my eyes all swollen, hot tears running down my face. There's a fierce summer lightning storm raging outside. Tonight I walked down streets looking for you in every woman's face, as I have each night of this lonely exile. I'm afraid I'll never see your laughing, teasing eyes again."

Leslie Feinberg. Stone Butch Blues. 20th Anniversary Edition, 2014. p. 1.

#leslie feinberg #stone butch blues #lesbianism #lesbian #butch #femme #butchfemme #lesbian literature #literature #quote #mikolajs fav quotes

twelverriver

edwardian-girl-next-door

~ Stanisław Cercha, Portrait of Antonina Schmidt (1897) (detail)

via wikidata.org

#polish art

weepingwidar

Natalia Rybka (Polish, 1988) - Untitled (2015)

#polish art

riding-with-the-wild-hunt

a whole bunch of gazan mutual aid projects and nonprofits. if the decision of which individual fundraiser to give to feels too daunting, or if you just want to help as many people as possible in one go, these are great initiatives to support.

care for gaza - focuses on providing food and essential supplies. donate here or here.

connecting humanity - securing internet access via donations of virtual sim cards (esims). if you can't afford a whole plan yourself, crips for esims is a communal pool that will use your donation to purchase and maintain esims

gaza soup kitchen - provides food, medical care, and classes for children. also has a gofundme

glia gaza medical support initiative - provides medical care through field clinics and tents at hospitals. donations can also be sent through their website.

ele elna elak - provides clean water, food, clothing, and shelter. they also have a gofundme

life for gaza - raising money for the gaza municipality to repair water and waste management infrastructure

taawon - partners with local civil organizations to provide food, water, medical care, shelter, and basic supplies

the sameer project - running various initiatives providing tents, medical care, and necessities. they have their own encampment project focused on sheltering families with children, sick and disabled members, or members in need of perinatal care

islamic relief worldwide's gaza emergency appeal - provides food, water, hygiene kits, medical supplies, and psychological support

baitulmaal - provides a variety of necessities, including food, water, shelter, and medical supplies

gaza mutual aid fund - distributes food, hygiene products, water, and other essential supplies, including financial support. run by @/el-shab-hussein's amazing friend Mona. updates can be found on her instagram.

hygiene kits for gaza - provides hygiene supplies including menstrual products, wipes, and toothbrushes/toothpaste

anera - provides a variety of necessities, including food, water, hygiene supplies, medicine, blankets and mattresses, and psychological care

palestine children's relief fund - provides supplies and support with a focus on children. also has an initiative for lebanon

dahnoun mutual aid - provides water, food, tents, baby supplies, financial support, and other necessities. updates can be found through their instagram

certainly this is not an exhaustive list, so please feel free to add on other projects or organizations that i didn't include. and as always, please take the time to donate if you can and share. it truly makes all the difference.

berrytart

ok we just laughed until our ribs got tired. Now what

berrytart

fuck!!!!!!!!!!

closet-keys

men lose their masculinity (the social reward for correctly performed manhood) through advocating for, sympathizing with, or doing labor that is allocated to women.

(and I'm not talking about some innate, spiritual, or psychological masculinity. I mean social masculinity--being regarded by higher ranking men as masculine.)

you genuinely do lose your current standing if you meaningfully and consistently object to the economic, legal, and interpersonal status of women, especially in ways that implicate men around you.

many men believe that if they are willing to do this, occasionally, then they are owed a recuperation of their masculinity through some other means.

if they are sacrificing masculinity through advocating for women politically, then they expect to bolster their masculinity through receiving expressions of gratitude and adoration by women ("feminist men are so hot" "consent is sexy" "pro-choice men get laid more" etc.) or they expect to bolster their masculinity through emasculating other men by asserting the standards of masculinity they adhere to are the "real" masculinity ("real men support women" "sexists are immature boys, I'm a man" "I'm secure in my masculinity and they're insecure" etc.)

to dismantle patriarchy, you need to be able to advocate for women even when it means losing gendered status. other men mostly will not respect you, and many misogynist women will not respect you either. it might not get you laid or praised or validated. in fact, it will probably subject you to increased scrutiny and criticism (because feminized subjects are always subject to such, and if you lose social masculinity, you too will experience this to some degree).

will you still advocate for women even if there is no social benefit and only social cost? do you have principles, or do you just want the fantasy of being a benevolent ruler?

getdownlau

Reminds me of this passage from Julia Serrano’s book “Whipping Girl”

closet-keys

I hope you don't mind me elevating these tags to the main post, @trautkeinenartigenkindern. (adding some spacing for ease of reading)

#all of this and. and! it's often an issue of 'either in public or in private' and only very rarely both when it comes to this type #of progressive man. like either you have someone who is willing to show up in private and genuinely cares about doing a similar amount #of labor but doesn't go to feminist protests/ doesn't speak up in the office/ doesn't sign petitions/ whatever have you #OR you have someone very political who will go to protests and will argue with other men and even call them out #but when that same guy gets home he is a regular dirtbag with the same lack of tact or effort #with the same minimal understanding of how a household works as aaaall the other sexists #very rarely have i encountered men who did both #and when i did. well they weren't cis men for long

this really reflects my experiences, too. so many specific examples from my life come to mind.

I think this is such an insight about common ways many men manage this dynamic of simultaneously wanting to act in ways they understand to be feminist while also wanting to hold onto their masculinity (i.e. the social power granted to them for maintaining sexgender class As A Man).

if they sacrifice public masculinity, they feel entitled to its security in the private sphere. if they move equitably in the domestic sphere, they do not speak up in public where other men could see and emasculate them.

I think, too, of the men I've known who only seem to be "feminist" around women, and change their entire body language/phrasing/conversational tone as soon as other men enter a space.

there's definitely a careful balancing act happening for a lot of men.

ducktollers

🐊🐊🐊🐊🐊

junkyardshrub

SCROLL BACK UP THIS IS A PAINTING

armandgender

writing is so fun

armandgender

writing is impossible why does anyone do this

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middenprincess

Erotic Postcards (France, ca. 1905)

V&A Museum, Milford Haven Collection

Postcards as photographs. Series shows a bridegroom entreating a bride in the honeymoon suite. The bridegroom is a woman wearing male drag. Gelatin silver print.