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redefy is an organization committed to defying stereotypes and redefining our perspectives positively. Visit us at: www.redefy.org

[ambidisastrous]

I made these in response to hate crimes in my community. They are full size and free to download and print if you’d like to use them, too.

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“Tomboy”

I used to call myself a tomboy because I dressed “like a boy” and played with the boys at recess, even though I’m a girl. I’d wear a pair of my brother’s old, loose and baggy basketball shorts that drooped below the knee, never fitted shirts like most girls my age. I acted liked a stereotypical boy, and I was perfectly happy about that until I began to see myself the way others saw me.

I was in 4th grade when I first began to see the “problem” with acting as if I were a boy. I was playing chess against a boy, and his friend was playing the game next to us. The game was long and frustrating, as my opponent was rude and insensitive. Toward the end though, his friend asked me the question: “So are you a boy or a girl?” I’d been asked similar questions by multiple people, but for some reason this time it bothered me more. My opponent took that opportunity to latch onto the conversation, laughing, “yeah haha ’cause I just can’t tell”–as if it were a bad thing, as if the fact that I didn’t let society’s take on my gender define ways to express myself were something to be ashamed of.

People didn’t seem to understand that I didn’t want to be a boy, and the truth was that I loved being a girl. At that point in my life, I simply enjoyed doing things some boys did and dressing the way many boys dressed, but neither of those aspects made me a boy, and the fact that I refused to subject myself to the stereotypes that surrounded being a girl didn’t either.

Why do girls need to wear shorter shorts and tighter pants to make people believe that they’re girls? Why do they need to stay away from the football field and not get dirty or else be scorned? Who defines what types of frivolous things differ boys and girls? But society says that there is a difference beyond biology. Gender states that a girl must act one way while a boy acts another.

I no longer use the term tomboy anymore because it refers to a difference between boys and girls that shouldn’t exist. It classifies a type of girl for doing something “different” when really, we’re all people.

And if I could go back in time to relive the moment with the boy playing chess, I wouldn’t respond that I was a girl; I’d say that I’m human–because that’s what counts.

-Katie Jain (redefy Journalism Team member)

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#GENDERationEquality

YOU MUST CHECK OUT our latest article, "'Tomboy'," by Katie Jain Jain POWERFULLY shares her perspective on the DESTRUCTIVE nature of GENDER stereotypes: "Why do girls need to wear shorter shorts and tighter pants to make people believe that they're girls? Why do they need to stay away from the football field and not get dirty or else be scorned? Who defines what types of frivolous things differ boys and girls? But society says that there is a difference beyond biology. Gender states that a girl must act one way while a boy acts another." HIT THE LINK below to read the rest! And don't forget to #SHARE #GENDERationEquality https://redefy.org/2016/12/27/tomboy/

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[kurosae]

Heres a fun new crazy idea

 A cis boy can be feminine and still be a boy.

 A trans boy can be feminine and still be a boy.

 A cis girl can be masculine and still be a girl. 

A trans girl can be masculine and still be a girl.

TL;DR: If someone is comfortable with how they look despite it opposing the stereotype of the gender they identify as, let them be and don’t tell them otherwise.

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This is a must read! Our international interest is growing !

Contact us for more information on how to get involved, no matter where you are around the globe! https://redefy.org/stories/ YOU MUST check out our latest story in the above link by Korea International School senior Ken Young Ko. Ken Young's perspective is REFRESHING and MUST BE HEARD: "So here I come to the conclusion that no matter what happened to the presidential election, as long as we are open-minded and are willing to accept other people’s differences (as my friend and I have with our respective religions), we will always have each other’s back and the next four years is our chance to show that. All I hope for our future is that we don’t let religions, appearances, or other factors that make YOU a human with rights bring so much hatred that we don’t want. We live to love -- not to hate." READ the entirety of Ken Young's story on our page (hit the link below and #SHARE)

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redefy proudly supports all people, regardless of sexual orientation or gender identity. We believe that all people should feel #safe and accepted, not face #judgement and discrimination. Join us today to #learn how you can #fight against stereotypes. #LGBT #Pride Graphic: Emily Deng

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PLEASE READ! On this Thanksgiving we appreciate people like Farah Emory

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"We are struggling for a uniting word, but the good news is that we have a uniting movement." —Emma Watson Credits to Emily Deng

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Hillary Clinton’s concession speech – full transcript

“The Democratic presidential nominee concedes the election to Donald Trump, thanking supporters and calling for listeners to ‘have faith in each other’” - The Guardian

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[dandeeliiion]

Love trumps Hate.

[badasstherapist]

How I feel when I see someone telling another to pack their bags and leave the country:

[allisonperryart]

This is probably the only political post I’m going to make on my Tumblr - it’s been about 24 hours since the president of the United States was announced. I don’t know if there’s anything I can say that hasn’t already been said at this point, so instead of focusing on what has happened, I want to keep my sights set on what can happen and how I can contribute to that brighter future. Friends, take as much time as you need to experience the emotions you’re feeling right now and don’t hesitate to ask others for help or healing. No matter what happens, though, I want to continue making empathy, compassion, and love the center of my work and life regardless of what happens around me. Let’s move forward together.