What Even Is Self Care?

This blog is just a collection of thoughts that occasionally occurr to me (or you) some days when I (or you) feel most okay about life. Sometimes it seems like maybe that's what self care is, just doing what will help you feel okay even if it's in a very unconventional way. Please feel free to submit or send in suggestions via the ask box. Self Care is multidimensional.

[kimdaily]

above is a list of suicide hotlines from around the world. please do not feel as though you are alone, it is important to remember that you are not alone and there are thousands experiencing the same thing you are. there is always someone who is willing to listen to you and stand by your side during these dark times.

there needs to be a constant and ever growing conversation about mental health and how harmful and deadly it can become. we need people to no longer be scared to reach out, to speak, to share, to no longer feel trapped and suffering in silence, scared of what others may think.

reblogging this post can help save a life

[empresspinto]

hey guys, hope your skin is clear and you get a text from someone you like real soon.

also that your lunch tastes good, you find twenty dollars on the ground, and that thing coming up that you were dreading turns out not so bad

[loren-vance]

Passing this good karma

[pocketsofroses]

I reblogged this 3 days ago and my skin got clear and I got a message from a guy who refers to me as queen yesterday. Good karma vibes all around.

[blueastro-deactivated20170311]

ARE U FUCKING KIDDING ME I REBLOGGED THIS YESTERDAY AND MY SKIN IS CLEAR AS F NOW

[skinny-coffins-deactivated20180]

EDIT I REBLOGGED THIS AND MY BF TEXTED ME LIKE FOUR SECONDS LATER WHICH I TOTALLY WOULDNT EXPECT BC HES IN SCHOOL

[thin-like-twigs]

Here’s hoping

[lonely-little-caroline-123-deac]

maybe…?

[dizzyallthetime-blog1]

Fingers crossed

[overcast-veins]

Pls

[fiercefatfeminist]

It is our duty as feminists to protect and respect women in Hijabs

[fiercefatfeminist]

Now. More. Than. Ever.

[princeoftheplayground]

Question: if I see someone pull off a Hijab, what should I do? I know there are reasons they are worn so I want to if i should stand in between them and who did this, should i protect them from view somehow, or something else? This has been happening a lot so I feel it’s something everyone needs to know.

[protectnevillelongbottom]

Good question! I cannot correctly and effectively answer, as I am a white, non-Muslim person; however, I will reblog in case any of my followers can answer. 

[inquisitivespirit]

I asked my Hijabi friend, so here’s one Hijabi’s answer: 

“my opinion is, definitely try cover them or give them something to cover themselves with. And perhaps shoo off the person, without putting oneself in danger! God forbid, if that happened to me, I would like someone to come and comfort me and give me something to cover my hair with and then help me report it to the cops “

[animatedamerican]

(Followers, if any of you are hijabi and would like to expand on this answer or offer alternatives, please do.)

[scifibi77-deactivated20190412]

If u see it happen to 1 of us, pls cover our head + hair with a coat or shawl or any piece of cloth, while hugging us in comfort. Please don’t get hurt by lashing out @ the perpetrators in any way, coz if they dare to do that, they’re probably too far gone in their own hatred to listen to any reason. Much love + Thank You to anyone who supports us.

[meanieyards]

yes !! everything said here is important af. if you see someone pull off a girl’s hijab immediately cover her hair and provide comfort. don’t talk to the perpetrator but try to get the woman out of there if you can. maybe if you have a scarf on you at the time give it to her so she can wear it until she’s alone and can replace her hijab. please please protect muslim girls because we already had it hard before donald trump became president and now its gonna be worse with people going around thinking their violence and cruelty is justified 

[hollowedskin]

for my other white ppl who might have a hard time, it’s my understanding that a hijab is like a major item of clothing, not an accessory like a hat or a scarf. so think abt it more like if someone just ripped someone’s shirt or skirt off. u don’t want to be left there exposed or have to walk home without it.

everyone, even outside America needs to protect our Muslim sisters in these times.

[quadriparesis-deactivated201908]

as a man, what would be the best thing to do? should i turn my head and avoid looking at their hair? can i still offer a jacket or something similar?

[wear-it-like-armour-bastard]

^I’m hoping someone has an answer islamaphpbia is on the rise in my town and I want to be a good male non Muslim ally

[soul-angelos-deactivated2023102]

For men, yes please, we would prefer it if you avoided looking at our hair, and if we don’t have something to substitute as a hijab at that moment, anything you could lend us, a jacket, etc, would be very appreciated.

Also, since most girls avoid physical contact with men they’re not related to, please do not hug them, but rather shoo the offender away if you can, or at least escort the girl to a safe place. You can still offer words of encouragement and support. Furthermore, understand that the victim may not be very welcoming towards you because she’ll obviously be shaken, and won’t know where you are coming from. If that’s the case, please still give her something to cover herself (hijab is very important, think of it as someone ripping your shirt off) and stand some distance away until you are sure she’s in safe hands.

Thank you so much for your support, we really appreciate it, god bless all of you.

[clairethehuntress-deactivated20]

In the horrible climate we’re currently in, please take note of this.

[oak-antlers]

Reblogging this again for the guy-instructions

[geekandmisandry]

Same

[everyone-loves-purple]

As a white girl who supports these women with all my heart, BOOSTING!!!

[thepiscesactor-deactivated20121]

Just an experiment. Reblog if you actually give a fuck about male victims of domestic violence and rape.

[minotaursauce]

Of fucking course

What sick bastard doesn’t

[xaldien]

“You’d be surprised”, said Xaldien, who just lost four followers and received a lovely “men can’t be raped” anon shortly after reblogging this the first time.

[minotaursauce]

Yowch, disgusting.

[samuraiko]

If I don’t reblog this, assume I’m dead.

[glory-of-hera-blog]

Always reblog this

[nygmobblepot-der-pool-deactivat]

If you Dont reblog this if u see it then i cant call u my friend

[witchofthefuture]

IF ANYONE TELLS ME THAT MEN CAN’T BE VICTIMS OF DOMESTIC VIOLENCE AND RAPE, I AM SICKENED BY THEIR MERE PRESENCE ON MY BLOG.

If you disagree with me, unfollow my blog, block me and never look at my blog again.

If you want to debate about this or send anon’s about this, I will reply but your actions have consequences.

[witchofthefuture]

Out of 19000+ followers I have, only one of you actually reblogged about this issue, yet a lot of you have reblogged and liked a picture by playboy about catcalling and that how men should never do it.

Additionally, I have received abuse in my ask box (which I will be answering when I can) and threats. In particular death threats and rape threats.

I can see the real problem here already. Male domestic violence and rape is just invisible in our society because we don’t want to talk about this because it just damages the status quo of this fucking website.

[tarothy-deactivated20230301]

I’m a male victim of child sexual abuse. We matter. Please, reblog this.

[happerbunny-deactivated20211002]

Please never forget male victims are real and it can happen to everyone/anyone

[brightb-vt]

Make sure the romance is there on both sides people

[cwote]

You are beautiful :))

[scienceshenanigans]

Good afternoon, the academic culture of “if you’re not overworking, you don’t deserve success” is unhealthy.

[abstract-concept-difficulties]

Put this on your blog if it’s 100% alright for someone thinking about suicide to message you for a chat, even if you don’t know each other.

[weepy-togepi]

!!!

[loubanoff]

Hey guys

I know my blog is flagged but just saying these 3 pairs of shoes are on sale at my depop rn

Doc Marten 1490s for 95$ (including shipping, 80$ for the boots, $15 for shipping) size 7 womens, been worn 4 times, small scuff on left toe

Puma Sky II Highs in Olive/Gold for $50 (again including shipping, 40$ for kicks, $10 for shipping) size 8 womens but would reccomend them to a size 7 foot cause they run small, been worn once

Adidas Busenitz for $40 (including shipping, 30$ for kicks, $10 for shipping) size 6 mens, size 7 womens, run a little narrow, been worn 3 times

So idk if anyone sees this and I hate doing this but if anyone might be into this could yall at least reblog this and pass it along. Really tryina sell this so I can have some $ for food in case the govt shutdown continues (btw anyone else on food stamps, I wish you the best of luck).

Thankyou so much to anyone who even reblogs this I hate doing this and if you know me you know how much I hate selling shoes, but these run a little small on me and I’d rather someone else benefit from them than me just hoard them for the sake of hoarding them. Anyway, thanks so much! Yall are dope.

[millyredhead]

Remember that 💕

[thesadghostclub]

[thesadghostclub]

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[minuty]

[achronicarchive-deactivated2020]

You can discover your favourite band when you’re in your late twenties. You can meet your best friend when you’re in your thirties. You can finally accomplish a life goal when you’re in your fifties. Your youth isn’t the only time frame where amazing, life-changing things can happen.

[major]

[crystalepidemic]

[loubanoff]

Happy New Year Everyone <3

[xcleanx]

may 2019 bring you your “i’m doing better than i ever was” moment

[parentless-suggestions]

//tw: incest mention// What does 'emotional incest' mean? You tagged a post with it

It’s basically a subset of emotional abuse describing a relationship between a parent and child in which the parent uses the child for the emotional support another adult should provide, like using a child as their dumping grounds instead of a therapist or partner. It occurs when the parent doesn’t know how to successfully form relationships with other adults or doesn’t want to. For example, a parent using the child consistently to complain about all of their problems with work or describing sexual issues they are having with a sexual partner. A child should not be the place where an adult works out their problems. -kitten

[themoonsoldourmemories]

Another part of this can be when a parent is overly involved in their child’s body and/or sexuality, or does not respect bodily autonomy or boundaries. A couple examples of this are a parent prying into what you and your partner have or haven’t done sexually under the guise of being a peer rather than a parent. Or your parent will come in the bathroom while you’re using the toilet or showering for a prolonged conversation or to clean or something. One other way is your parent being inappropriate around you but not necessarily to you. Think your dad walking around in only his underwear, or your mom wearing a short nightgown with nothing underneath, and if you call them out they would get upset and say “it’s okay because we’re family!!”. These are incredibly common, and many times one or two habits that could fall into this category are not abnormal, but if there are behaviors of your parents that just make your skin crawl for some unknown reason, or you feel like you’ve been sexually abused before but have no actual memory of it those are often signs that you may have experienced covert emotional incest. Check out the Mental Illness Happy Hour podcast, he goes really in depth with this stuff.

[parentless-suggestions]

^when it happens like this, it counts as sexual abuse, for anyone who’s wondering.

Here’s a good article: http://debrakaplancounseling.com/getting-past-emotional-incest/

[thedarkperidot]

Your daily reminder that traumatised brains are literally physically different to a normal brain. Repeated trauma and abuse has a severe, long-term effect.

If you have difficulty maintaining social bonds, concentrating, sleeping, focusing, or regulating your emotions, it’s because you’re traumatised. If you’re not happy with yourself, if you worry you’re a burden, you’re toxic, that you don’t matter, it’s because you’re traumatised. If you struggle to make it out of bed, think straight, get motivated or distracted, it’s because you’re traumatised.

Have you ever been told you’re too dramatic, or emotional? Has anyone wondered why you trust no one? Why you analyse every person’s smallest behaviour? Why you’re paranoid of the most minor signs of history repeating itself? It’s because you’re traumatised.

And it is NOT your fault.