why is it always a male character going mad avenging his dead wife and never a female character cradling her dying pure of heart husband in her arms then dragging the whole world down with her
I think something worth mentioning is maybe art is reflecting life in that aspect, women are way more likely to have an emotional support network and have people to lean on after great loss, and men don't maintain those kinds of connections? A woman in a story loses her husband and because she already had a lot of people she called up and supported in daily life, she gets a crowd of people saying "we're here for you, you can stay some nights at our place if it's too painful, your mother will watch the kids for a bit, etc".
Most of those stories wouldn't have really happened if those guys had had people to talk to about what they were going through. Like everyone in creation knew who John Wick was and how problematic it would be if he lost it. And some of them were amicable connections. His wife dies and he's just sitting alone in an empty house, and angry driving on empty lots with a puppy SHE sent him ahead of time. If Vigo's shithead hadn't set him off, something else was going to break the dam. Dracula in Castlevania just had potential usurpers and followers, no real friends from what we saw in the series, even before his wife was murdered. Of course he blew the world up after that, he bet everything on nothing happening to her! Revenge plots are about unhealthy coping, when you don't have people to support you, and men don't pursue that cuz...yeah.
I’m not gonna platform this idiot but I saw somebody reblog a post from a radfem I think by accident. But the post claimed that men who hire prostitutes are “rapists who buy their victims silence”
I don’t think I need to explain to y’all why this is wrong but in case I do, buying a service from someone and following their rules as a client is not a breech of consent.
A lot of the danger that comes from being a prostitute has to do with its illegality. If a client breaks the rules and the service provider can’t file a complaint without risking imprisonment of themselves and/or their client, that’s not a safe work environment.
The idea that nobody would willingly sell sexual services unless they’re desperate is just false. There’s also a lot of other jobs people do when they’re desperate and they don’t like doing. For me it was working retail.
The difference between me pretending to be happy for clientele while working retail and someone pretending to be happy while selling sexual services to clients is that while I was working retail I at least theoretically had sick leave, health insurance, and a way to file a complaint if a customer assaulted me.
Sex work isn’t inherently any more degrading or miserable than any other kind of work. The issue is the lack of protection and workers rights.
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traditionally in the old times offerings were either burned or buried, poured outside into and onto the earth. today most people can't do that due to lack of a garden. here are some ways you can dispose of offerings safely in my experience.
important thing is that you should collect trash selectively always if you are able ! and also think about the already insane food waste we all generate !
incense / candle / anything you burn : make sure the fire is fully out and the item is cold before throwing it out into the trash.
libation (wine, water, milk etc.) : you can dispose of water (water only!!) through house plants. other liquids once accepted / not in use should be poured down the sink.
food / edible offering : make sure it doesnt mold or rot ! once accepted / not in use anymore it should go to the communal trash. [if you dont like "throwing away" food you can donate food / ingredients to homeless shelters from what you have and don't need. and try offering other things than food for the Gods :]] this way you are helping out everyone ! also helping the helpless and poor is devotional in itself and just a nice thing to do !]
cut flowers, plants : once accepted / not in use anymore you should either dry them out or press them flat to preserve them. (it can be a nice home decor/permanent altar item)
seeds, grains : if they are still usable either plant them inside or scatter them during your next walk to feed the birds.
do NOT bury anything in house plant pots if its not composted, because it can rot and damage the plant ! always research eco-friendly ways from trustable sources !
please regularly dust off and clean your altar ! its both about respect and a clean sacred space ! spiders love altars with many items :p
please reblog this so it reaches more people and those especially who are new to helpol !!
normalize being dogshit amateur at your special interests and hyperfocuses. no more autistic savants. yes i am very into that topic no i am not good at it. we exist <3
So apparently people have bred mini micro cows? As house pets? This seems insane to me and I was wondering if you knew anything about that/ had any thoughts on it?
not good!!! very very not good!!
ahhh i try really hard to keep this blog as a positive space but this is a really really important thing to me that i feel really strongly about, and i think id be silly if i didnt at least try to warn people, so here goes!!
cattle are not dogs! please do not keep them as house pets!
cattle have very specific needs and if you're not knowledgeable about those needs and not equipped to raise cattle, please do not keep them. i understand that "micro minis" look cute, i completely understand seeing one and wanting one as a house pet if you're not super knowledgeable about them but i really have to warn you guys that cattle can not be happy and healthy under those conditions!
im going to pass it over to my good friend @horse-reviews for the writeup because im not very good at expressing myself when im frustrated and also he is literally an agriculture science guy so watch this space!
Mini breeds are sometimes used in agriculture due to being efficient producers of meat and milk on small lots of land, or in places where available fodder isn't very rich - see the Australian Lowline or the Dexter which are production animals and not pets. These are usually about a metre (3') tall at the shoulder and weigh at least a couple hundred kilos, so they're big animals despite being small cows. Cows smaller than this (like a micro mini) usually have some form of dwarfism like achondroplasia which humans also get, and which can cause health problems.
But even in a perfect world where cows could be infinitely tiny without health problems, I would still strongly be against keeping a cow as a house pet for multiple reasons:
Cows have different social needs from cats or dogs because they're herd herbivores. To feel safe and complete, they need to be with other herd herbivores - cows preferably but they can get along with sheep, horses, goats, and others. Cows can be great friends with humans but humans can't be their world.
The ruminant feeding cycle isn't suited for being a house pet. Cows typically graze continuously at dawn and dusk and nibble throughout the day, finding cozy spots in the sun to ruminate between bouts of feeding. This is awkward to set up in a household environment because it requires a lot of space and sun.
Cows (and other herbivores) don't understand bowel control like cats and dogs do. They will urinate and defecate wherever and don't understand why you would try to stop them.
Because of their complex social needs, they can develop serious behavioural issues if reared away from other calves, but if you rear them with other calves and then isolate them in a house, you're also heading towards trouble. There's no right time to take cows away from herd living.
Pets like dogs and cats enjoy being in a house and having human friends, and they benefit a lot from this. For a cow, you're just compromising their needs (open space, cowie friends, lots of grass and other fodder available) to suit your own pleasure. This is a terrible way to think about your pets, and having a housepet should be just as fun for them as it is for you.
For all of these reasons I'm strongly opposed to keeping any cow alone and especially alone inside a house. They're not dogs and they're just not made for it! Love your cows how they are and not because of how much they could be like something else.
I wish it was more normalized to be "ugly". I shaved my head when i was 16 because i was obsessed with my hair looking good and being pretty and i realized i didn't feel comfortable in my own skin unless i was "presentable". So i shaved it all off. I did this to teach myself i don't have to be pretty. I'm allowed to look weird, im allowed to look like a boy, im allowed to not be attractive. Im still just as vaild and should be taken just as seriously whether i look nice or not.
I hate that children go to Sephora now. I hate that every person on the internet is wearing filters or full glam make up or botox or lip filler. I don't hate these things because i think make up or botox is bad, i hate it because it seems like no one feels comfortable in their own skin unless they have all these things. Everyone thinks they need these things to be taken seriously or presentable, because if they don't have these things they WILL be judged. I hate that shit.
Let me be ugly, let me be chopped, let me have acne and scars and cracked lips and eye bags, let me have no hair and a weird shaped head, let me have a lazy eye, let me have my snaggle tooth. let me be a raw uncensored human being with no fucks to give. Let me remain unbothered in my least attractive state. And let us all realize that we don't need to look good 24/7.
Stop letting ai into occult spaces. Theres no reason for it. Ai is bad. Its bad for media literacy and the enviornment (its quite literally fucking up our water sources). How can u claim to be a witch/practitioner and single handedly be apart of a larger problem.
I started experimenting with witchcraft and paganism in middle school, I’ve tried a lot of different paths, and 15+ years later, my go-to protection method is still the quick and dirty one I leaned all those years ago.
Visualize a pentagram of light on the floor beneath you, and a bubble of protection surrounding you above and below. And chant:
“Thrice around the circle bound, sink all evil to the ground!”
I’m about to save you thousands of dollars in therapy by teaching you what I learned paying thousands of dollars for therapy:
It may sound woo woo but it’s an important skill capitalism and hyper individualism have robbed us of as human beings.
Learn to process your emotions. It will improve your mental health and quality of life. Emotions serve a biological purpose, they aren’t just things that happen for no reason.
1. Pause and notice you’re having a big feeling or reaching for a distraction to maybe avoid a feeling. Notice what triggered the feeling or need for a distraction without judgement. Just note that it’s there. Don’t label it as good or bad.
2. Find it in your body. Where do you feel it? Your chest? Your head? Your stomach? Does it feel like a weight everywhere? Does it feel like you’re vibrating? Does it feel like you’re numb all over?
3. Name the feeling. Look up an emotion chart if you need to. Find the feeling that resonates the most with what you’re feeling. Is it disappointment? Heartbreak? Anxiety? Anger? Humiliation?
4. Validate the feeling. Sometimes feelings misfire or are disproportionately big, but they’re still valid. You don’t have to justify what you’re feeling, it’s just valid. Tell yourself “yeah it makes sense that you feel that right now.” Or something as simple as “I hear you.” For example: If I get really big feelings of humiliation when I lose at a game of chess, the feeling may not be necessary, but it is valid and makes sense if I grew up with parents who berated me every time I did something wrong. So I could say “Yeah I understand why we are feeling that way given how we were treated growing up. That’s valid.”
5. Do something with your body that’s not a mental distraction from the feeling. Something where you can still think. Go on a walk. Do something with your hands like art or crochet or baking. Journal. Clean a room. Figure out what works best for you.
6. Repeat, it takes practice but is a skill you can learn :)
I have been in EMDR therapy recently to help with past trauma and like 90% of the appointments are just this post. Which I thought was silly at first bcs I was like "well I know how I'm feeling, I feel bad" but man you have no idea. Literally JUST talking through whatever stressful thing I have going on at the moment and whenever I feel a Big Emotion stopping and acknowledging, naming, and sitting with it makes a huge difference. I've made more progress with my trauma and mental illnesses just doing this in a single year than I have in like 10+ years of therapy.
It might feel silly or pointless at first but stick with it, it really helps.
it’s actually wild how terrified of the general public most usamericans are. like you don’t realize it if you’re someone who mostly walks and takes transit and spends a lot of time in populous public spaces but then you talk to one of the thousands of people that seemingly never set foot in any public space besides a parking garage or a starbucks and you suddenly understand why it’s so easy for fascist rhetoric about the dangerous alien to take root. this country’s median voter pretty much never interacts with strangers who aren’t their coworkers or people they met on dating apps
saw a post on instagram that was literally someone citing statistics saying public transit is one of the safest travel options out there and the comments were literally just “ummmmm op this is so ableist and misogynistic of you :) don’t you know the average public transit user is a dangerous violent criminal who wants to set you on fire :)))”
it must be so terrifying and sad to go through life convinced if you set foot outside your car in public or interact with people outside your nuclear family you’ll instantly be raped and robbed by the Evil Poors no wonder so many of these people are reactionary tar pits
I want to work on something more elaborate but basically what I want to say comes down to this:
Too many people waste their time staying informed about things they'll never change while ignoring the vast amount they could - and that is only to the benefit of everyone they profess to be against.
My recommendations:
Block ads - they track and sell your data on and offline; they're whole goal is to further capitalism/consumerism
Get off of social media entirely (especially Meta platforms) or move to decentralized platforms; decentralized ones at least aren't optimized to keep you on them
Leave streaming platforms (Netflix, Spotify) limit or avoid endless content platforms (YouTube). They have a vested interest in you not feeling satisfied, tiring you out so all you can do is consume them.
When you do consume, switch to more free/low cost media from collective sources like libraries (books, DVDs, music, Kanopy or Hoopla) and direct from creators (indie books, zines, games, etc). This supports your community and cultivates valuing exchanges outside of commercial factors.
Learn about security and privacy issues - consider degoogling, switching to Linux, using a safer phone OS or downgrading your phone, infosec online, etc.
Mask as often as possible with the best quality mask you can afford. This is not as effective at blocking facial recognition as has been reported but it does limit spread of many deadly viruses and saves lives.
Create an archive and back it up of work you enjoy or find useful. Have ways to access it completely offline. Prepare for an internet that is controlled by autocrats or cut off entirely. Make it so you can share it with friends and family if need be.
When you're less influenced by tech and business oligarchies, you're better able to think critically for your own and other's benefits. When you value spending time and consuming outside of their reach, you aren't a cog in their machinery - spending that time feeding them content they can train AIs on and spy on you to sell you to others. When you care about privacy and security and take measures to protect yourself, you help others who have to take those measure to protect themselves because they're targeted - activists, marginalized groups etc - by making it less easy to flag those people. When you mask you protect yourself and others from disease while the health care system is getting attacked and dismantled.
These are meaningful and concrete ways of assisting others that are getting completely ignored in favor of more performative ways of "helping" or not helping at all. And I just...wish people knew it wasn't all or nothing.
The powers that be are trying to destroy services that were intended to benefit all of us so they can sell it back to some of us at a steep mark up. When you use NWS for your weather or NPR/PBS for your news and television, you care when they're gone.
You do not have to consent to autocracy. You can resist it.
🔮 The Limits of Divination: What It Can and Can’t Tell You
Let’s be real: divination is one of the most beautiful parts of spiritual practice. It’s empowering, mysterious, insightful — and it feels like a direct line to Spirit, the Universe, the Divine, or your Higher Self.
But here’s the truth most seasoned practitioners know (and more of us need to say out loud): divination has limits.
Yes, even if you’re a gifted reader.
Yes, even if you’ve been doing it for 30 years.
Yes, even if your deck is cleansed, your pendulum swings perfectly, and your runes hum with energy.
Divination is a tool, not a god. It’s not a cheat code for life. It can reveal patterns, point toward possibilities, and reflect back what’s happening beneath the surface. But it cannot tell you everything — and expecting it to can lead to confusion, obsession, or even spiritual burnout.
Let’s talk about what divination can do… and what it can’t.
✅ What Divination Can Tell You
🪞 The Present Moment
Most divination tools — tarot, oracle, pendulums, runes, scrying — are most accurate when asked about the now. They help uncover:
Hidden emotions
Subconscious blocks
Influences you’re not consciously aware of
Energy patterns playing out in real-time
Think of it like a spiritual MRI — it shows you what’s happening under the surface so you can make empowered choices.
💭 Likely Outcomes Based on Current Energy
Divination is great for forecasting — not fortune-telling. When done skillfully, it can show the likely trajectory of a situation if nothing changes.
But here’s the catch: the future isn’t fixed. Your choices (or someone else’s) can shift that path dramatically.
🧭 Guidance, Not Guarantees
Divination is an intuitive compass, not a GPS. It can suggest:
What you need to focus on
Where growth or healing is needed
When to pause, act, reflect, or release
But it won’t (and shouldn’t) replace your own judgment, intuition, or lived experience.
❌ What Divination Can’t Tell You
Let’s get one thing straight: while divination can sometimes give you specific answers — like a date, a season, or even a name — those answers are based on current energies, not fixed fates.
Yes, I’ve personally gotten exact dates through pendulum work.
And yes, they’ve been right — as long as the energy stayed on course.
But that’s the catch: energy shifts. People change. Free will kicks in. One decision — yours or someone else’s — can reroute the entire timeline. So while divination can show you a specific point in time, it’s more like predicting traffic with a weather app. It’s accurate… until it isn’t.
And no, you’re probably not going to get next week’s winning lottery numbers. That’s not how the Universe works (or, if it does, it’s not sharing that cheat code just yet).
The takeaway?
Divination can offer precise insight — but never permanent certainty. Treat specific answers as possibilities, not promises.
🧠 What Someone Else Is Thinking With Certainty
It’s one thing to ask, “What energy is influencing our connection?”
It’s another to try to mind-read your ex through a deck of cards.
Divination can hint at someone’s motives or emotional state from your perspective, but it can’t ethically or accurately give you full access to someone’s private mind and heart. That's not divination — that’s projection.
⚖️ Absolute Truth
Cards lie if the reader isn’t clear. Pendulums wobble under stress. Astrology can be misread. Your spiritual tools are filters — and you are the lens. If you’re tired, scared, biased, or too attached to the outcome, your reading may reflect that.
This doesn’t mean the tools don’t work. It means divination requires discernment, clarity, and honesty.
⛔ Answers to Everything
Sometimes, Spirit just says, “Not right now.” Or gives you a confusing reading. Or no clear answer at all.
That isn’t failure — that’s sacred mystery.
Not all things are meant to be known in advance. Some things unfold through living, not divining.
🔄 When Divination Becomes a Crutch
If you’re pulling cards three times a day to make minor decisions…
If you keep asking different tools the same question until you like the answer…
If you feel worse after a reading instead of clearer…
Pause.
Breathe.
Step away from the tools.
Divination should empower, not paralyze. It’s a conversation, not a command.
Your intuition still matters. Your choices still matter. The cards are guides — you are the spell.
🕊️ Ethical and Empowered Divination
Here’s how to use divination responsibly:
🌑 Cleanse your tools and self before reading
✨ Ask open-ended questions, not ones that box in your fate
🧘 Reflect on what resonates — and what doesn’t
🤲 Accept when Spirit doesn’t answer
💬 Seek a second opinion if the message is unclear
🛑 Know when to stop asking and start acting
Divination is sacred, but it’s not a shortcut. It is a mirror for the soul and a map for the journey — but you still have to walk the path.
💬 Final Thoughts
Divination is powerful. Transformative. Magical. But it’s not perfect — and it’s not meant to be.
It won’t solve all your problems. It won’t give you absolute certainty.
But it will teach you how to trust yourself, how to ask better questions, and how to walk your path with awareness and intention.
