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ACE's and What They Mean for a Lifetime

Are we aware what the term ACE's means? Furthermore, do we realize that approximately 25% of our society is affected by it?

Photo by S Migaj ACE’s – you might think card games or school grades, but in this instance I am referring to Adverse Childhood Experiences. You may have read the term in a passing article or heard it on a news show. However, do we fully understand what this means for individuals and society at large? It’s doubtful, but we need to. From 1995-1997, Doctor Dr. Vincent Felitti from Kaiser…

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The Woman Who Scandalously Anointed Jesus

Photo by Mareefe on Pexels.com No one knows how she even gained entrance to Simon’s house. After all, it was a gentleman’s dinner, as all group dinners were in that day. Certainly no females allowed…they were ranked somewhere close to dogs. Except somehow, scandalously, this woman barged in, ignoring their barbs and outrage as she anointed her beloved Jesus. She carried an extremely expensive…

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The Women Stayed - They Usually Do

The Women Stayed – They Usually Do

Then that little man in black there, he says women can’t have as much rights as men, ’cause Christ wasn’t a woman! Where did your Christ come from? Where did your Christ come from? From God and a woman! Man had nothing to do with Him. ~ Sojourner Truth Photo by Chelsi Peter on Pexels.com Like many of you, I’ve read the Easter passages for decades. In addition, I’ve listened to Good Friday and…

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Perfectionism - A 20-Ton Shield

Perfectionism – A 20-Ton Shield

Perfectionism is the 20-ton shield we drag around to keep from being hurt. In truth, it keeps us from being seen. ~ Brene Brown, PhD Photo by Pixabay Today I received an email from a company wanting to sell me skin care products. They informed me it is International Women’s Day…I’m not super excited about their 20% off offer. What would excite me much more would be laws put in place protecting…

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Robbers of Joy

Photo by Ben White These days we live in…how often do you catch yourself taking deep, down-to-your-toes sighs because of all the sad or bad news you hear? One friend is so depressed that she has isolated from everyone. A good friend from my hometown is in constant pain and is facing serious back surgery. Another friend discovered, after her mom had a fall, that mom’s cancer has spread to her…

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Coercive Control - What is It and What to Do About it?

Coercive control is a covert form of domestic violence. Its victims demonstrate characteristics of hostages.

Photo by Sammy Williams I trust most of you are having a lovely Valentine celebration with the one you love. My desire for you is that your loved one is treating you special, bought you a present AND flowers. Today, however, I want to draw our attention to an insidious form of domestic abuse that many in government are too slow to address. In fact, too often it is overlooked in churches and…

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#coercive control #dpmestic violence #safety plan

What to Do With Guilt, Shame & Chronic Illness

Most don't realize the burden of guilt and that people who suffer from chronic illness often carry.

If Your law had not been my delight, I would have perished in my affliction. Psalm 119:92, ESV Photo by cottonbro If you have been reading my blog for awhile, you are aware of my personal health challenges. In fact, I have been afflicted with fibromyalgia and chronic migraines for nearly 16 years. The battle that most can’t know, unless you also have a chronic illness, is the guilt and shame…

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#Chronic illness #guilt #lament #shame

Missing People's Faces

Missing People’s Faces

The face is the mirror of the mind, and the eyes without speaking confess the secrets of the heart. St. Jerome I haven’t been out and about much in the past month due to a case of Omicron. Uninvited, it decided to hang around with a few long Covid symptoms, which have kept me hunkered down at home. Thanks to a steroid prescription, today I had the thrill of running a couple of errands,…

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Managing Chronic Stress and Maintaining Hope in 2022

Photo by Anna-Louise on Pexels.com The prospect of a Happy New Year began to fade on the horizon when the newest Covid-19 variant wrecked any notion of what historically was a normal Christmas for thousands of people. As Omicron raced across the country, families were once again separated for the holidays. Pandemic-weary Americans, ready for a fresh start, look to be facing another year that…

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Advent-Looking Forward in Anticipation

Photo by George Becker The celebration of Advent is possible only to those who are troubled in soul, who know themselves to be poor, and imperfect, and who look forward to something greater to come.Dietrich Bonhoeffer When I was young, I thought Advent was a ritual in which only the Catholics took part. At the time, my best friend’s family attended the Catholic church. My family attended a…

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What is Attachment Theory and Why Do I Care?

Photo by nappy on Pexels.com The standing joke when children act out is that ‘it’s always the mother’s fault’, right? Furthermore, often mothers inwardly feel guilt or shame if emotional or mental health problems develop in their child. I wonder why? Children have 2 biological parents. Unthinking confidence in the unfailing accessibility and support of attachment figures is the bedrock on which…

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Growing a Gratefulness Muscle - Grace Upon Grace

Growing a Gratefulness Muscle – Grace Upon Grace

Photo by Dodie Smith In the midst of this season when we are reminded to Give Thanks, I wonder if some of us are out of practice. As we wrap up the beauty of autumn and set our faces toward winter, it may be asking too much for some of us to be grateful after a year like 2021. Our ability to strengthen our gratefulness muscle has missed too many opportunities. Like 2020, this year has been…

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#gratefulness #health #negativity #thankfullness

Falling Back - Is It SAD?

Falling Back – Is It SAD?

video by German Korb The Growing Darkness photo by Anna Jones Like some of you, there were many years when I could not enjoy the entirety of autumn due to my dread of winter. By Thanksgiving, I often felt the weight of depression descending upon me. With the shorter days came darker moods and darker thoughts. At that time, during the holidays, there was usually turmoil surrounding my…

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Despair is Not The Last Word

Because I remember, I despair. Because I remember, I have the duty to reject despair. Elie Weisel, Holocaust survivor photo by Lara Pelipoer- What is Despair? It isn’t often that you hear someone say, “I am in despair!” A friend is more likely to admit depression than despair. Depression is a very real condition and clinical depression can be debilitating. Despair, however, is different than…

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#depression #despair #God #hope #Jesus

When Narcissism Comes to Church

The heart is more deceitful than all else and is desperately sick; who can understand it? Jeremiah 17:9 photo by Rod Long Beware of Narcissist Leaders In The Church This is the last in my series on the narcissists among us. Sadly, we are looking at the last place on earth we expect to find the most self-centered, egotistic person we’ve ever encountered – the church. Ironically, the church is a…

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#church #God #leaders #narcissism #pastors

The Pain of Narcissism, Part 2

Narcissists will destroy your life, erode your self-esteem, and do it with such stealth as to make you feel that you are the one that’s letting them down. Anonymous photo by Caleb Woods Where Does It Begin? People often wonder where narcissistic behavior began. Was someone born a narcissist or were they molded into one? There are several theories, but no definite cause that is agreed upon by…

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#God #narcissism #narcissistic abuse #relationships

The Pain of Narcissism

The Narcissist Test Step 1: Take a moment to think about yourself. Step 2: If you made it to step 2, you are not a narcissist. Anonymous photo by William Fortunato What is Narcissism? The word narcissist seems to get thrown around often in the selfie-obsessed world in which we live. If someone is more self-absorbed than the average person, she is quickly labeled a narcissist. However, in the…

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#arrogance #covert #God #narcissism #overt #passive-aggressive

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