anti-transmed, pro-living however tf u want

[ Gabriel/Gabe ][ He/Him ][ not a transmed anymore /gen ]

[woke-transmed]

im not a transmed or truscum anymore

whaat? gabe you trender wym?

As you can tell by my very much dead blog, I haven’t been very active. It’s because I’ve been distancing myself from this community. 

Ever since I’ve joined the transmed community, I have been fixated on my femininity and have been hyper aware of every little thing i do, trying to make myself as masculine as possible when that’s not me. My mental health plummeted, leaving me extremely depressed and dysphoric. 

Learning to truly embrace my flaws and feminine side has been really difficult for me on my journey, and I lashed out against any trans/nb person who was even remotely feminine. The community I surrounded myself with influenced my negativity towards these other people, and I now feel total guilt. 

I wanted to apologize to anyone I’ve hurt, insulted, or harassed previously. It wasn’t fair of me to hurt other people in trans community when I am also a member of said community. The trans community should be a place to bring each other up and support each other, there’s already so many transphobes out there, why should I be a part of the problem?

I still hold some of the beliefs expressed on this blog, but lots of them I’ve let go of. Including the belief that nonbinary people/people who use pronouns other than he/she/they aren’t valid.

I’m going to keep this blog up because I’m nostalgic and like to look at the dumb things I’ve said in the past, but please know that I do not believe in most of the things on here anymore. Unfollow me, block me, I don’t really care. I’m still Gabe, nothing has changed other than my opinions.

Please, take care.

[spiderbitesandvampirevenom]

"this is a universal queer experience"

>ask if it's universal or white

>they don't understand

>I pull out a diagram explaining what is universal and what is white

>they laugh and say "It's a good experience sir"

>I'm a native american trans woman

>Experience is white

[woke-transmed]

Happy Pride!! It’s kind of crazy to think this blog is almost 7 years old. I’ve very recently come to the conclusion that I am definitely nonbinary.

Because of this, I’ve been thinking a lot about the angry person who I was at 17 and I guess I’m back here to check on him again. I read my old posts and the more I realized 17 year old me was so hateful because he hasn’t experienced the queer joy of starting testosterone, finding an offline fully queer friend group, moving out of an abusive house, having your first gay kiss, going on dates as a man, and now having a relationship with gender that I never could’ve imagined at 17. He’s mad because his parents taught him to be ashamed of being anything outside of cishet. Now, I’m so happy that I could never be that.

I’m sorry for everything 17 year old me has done to avoid processing my feelings. I love him, and sometimes it’s hard to accept that he will always be me, but I also know that I need to take responsibility for what he has done.

[woke-transmed]

Seeing Kalvin Garrah apologize for the harm he did to the trans community was something I never expected to see but is definitely nice to hear.

As somebody who has apologized for the harm he’s done to the trans community as well, I actually don’t think that Kalvin Garrah’s apology is a fix-all. However, it is absolutely a step in the right direction. I don’t even believe that MY apology was a fix-all, but I’m doing everything I can to show that I’m not the same person who I was at 18.

I’m hoping that this shows young trans men that they don’t have to turn to extreme beliefs to be accepted, and that love and compassion is so much stronger of a way to fight transphobia than hatred. ESPECIALLY during this time of extreme violence against us trans people.

[butternaan]

idk which young trans person needs to hear this but transmed ideology and the culture surrounding it is not helping you

[butternaan]

man reading some of the tags under this post makes me so goddamn sad like im glad that so many of u escaped that circle and are happy where u are today but it sucks that this even exists as a potential threat to trans kids like... being miserable should not be an integral part of trans identity... if theres a billion trans ppl theres a billion ways to be trans and no one has or ever will have a patent on the "trans experience" (especially white ppl) i truly hope transmedicalism and "truscum culture" becomes less and less of an actual problem in the future

[mackologists-r-us]

I'm having a BBQ and exclusionists are not invited ❤️

[woke-transmed]

genuinely if you don't think someone can stop being a trumed you're a moron

[mioxenoblade]

Since apparently i had truscum following me: trans people don't have to experience dysphoria to be trans, trans people dont have to take hrt or want surgery to be trans, non-binary people exist, and neopronouns are not ruining anything - youre just transphobic.

[woke-transmed]

if a show has no trans characters but has non-binary characters news flash it’s a bad show

[woke-transmed]

shut the fuck up bitch anyways shep/sadie rights

[ratwarlock]

[another-exclus]

Everything is like “QUEER history” and “List of QUEER young adult books” or “Top 10 QUEER movies” and queer this and queer that and for the love of god please just say LGBT.

[lythelia-art-deactivated2021071]

But queer is more inclusive

[a-tired-humanist]

And faster to pronounce if you are talking instead of writing.

[another-exclus]

It’s not more inclusive, and if your excuse of using a slur as a blanket term is “it’s faster to say”, GENUINELY what is wrong with you

[a-tired-humanist]

It’s called economía del lenguaje.

[throesofincreasingwonder]

It’s also the respected academic term?? The acronym isn’t static and it’s usage is varied by things like generational difference, location, and knowledge of the community. Even just in the U.S. in the last few decades the common usage gone from GLBT to LGBT to LGBTQ, to LGBTQA/LGBTQIA/LGBTQIAP/etc (Which, let me tell you as someone who has given presentations in the past using these updated acronyms, are all real mouthfulls), to LGBT+.

Also yes, queer is more inclusive! Especially coming at it from an academic standpoint, people didn’t always use or identify with the terms we use now and you can’t always try to cram them into our modern perceptions of sexuality. We can argue for years about whether a famous historical figure was gay or bisexual or straight and trans or whatever, but if we can all agree that they were somehow queer then using that term allows us to move past the debate and into productive discussion. And not everybody everywhere shares the same terms for sexual and gender identity, or even the same concepts of those things, so queer really is a more inclusive term in a lot of cases.

Like yeah if you’re talking specifically about gay or trans people you can just say gay or transgender, but if you’re talking about more than one identity or someone who doesn’t conform to our perceptions of ‘LGBT,’ or a person or people whose identity you don’t know, queer is just the better word.

[jabberwockypie]

“That’s SO gay”, “Oh my god, you’re not a LESBIAN, are you?”

Your words are slurs, too. Why do you get your words, but I don’t get mine? What makes you so special?

I’m here, I’m queer, go fuck yourself.

[levynite]

queer is not a slur, stop drinking the TERF koolaid

[darthsuki]

[matronofthevoid]

every time one of you fools spout about ‘queer is a slur’ a terf laughs because their fucking plan to make that word ‘taboo’ is fucking working you dipshit.

[letmetellyouaboutmyfeels]

I did not get my degree in queer literature for you all to keep pulling this bullshit.

[moki-dokie]

baby gays,,,, i beg of you to learn your queer history and stop listening to terf bullshit

every single one of our labels has been used as a slur against us.

terfs and -phobes are always going to try and hurt us with what we identify as. but the fact remains these are OUR labels and always have been.

we’re here, we’re queer, get used to it.

[triviallytrue]

Conservatives accidentally doing this never gets old

[triviallytrue]

based

[entitty]

dont any of you dare forget this gem i quote this daily

[arachnid-bastard]

Extremely well played

[gadunkie-deactivated20251222]

[woke-transmed]

Hey bestie saw that you changed your opinion for whatever reason!!! Get well soon xx

Thanks you too 🥰

[woke-transmed]

to whoever compared being an ex transmed to being an ex nazi: fuck you. you don’t even care about nazis you just wanna use them to “own on” people who you don’t like.

you can’t even COMPARE a nazi to a fucking transmed, nazis are real and disgusting and a transmed is just a kid online who cares WAY too much abt other people.

no ACTUALLY i opened my asks like

HOW could you even compare a nazi, a very real, very dangerous group, to transmeds?? All of the trouble transmeds cause is online, there's no way that they're similar. Both are hurtful, but one is literally 100x more serious than the other. I was just... SO in shock at what that was.

[woke-transmed]

queer is still a fucking slur!!! people who keep saying that it’s not, please for the love of god be quiet. call yourself queer or the queer community or anything you want, it’s not my business, but don’t be offended when i say I don’t like the word because of my past trauma. 

[woke-transmed]

no one calls you queer outside your family please get over yourself 💀

[woke-transmed]

Honestly, I've also left the transmed community, not because ive changed my beliefs, but cause ive finally noticed that outside of these weird inner social media trans circles, all the "tucute vs transmed" discourse is meaningless and doesnt even apply to most people. Me and other friends found that we dont have the specific beliefs that would categorize us in either group, and fall in a gray area? It all ended up coming down to respecting each other's different opinions, hope youre doing good!

I’m not even gonna lie, I’m pretty anti-transmed, but you’re right that the debate doesn’t effect people outside of these social media circles.

The tucute vs transmed debate is so chronically online, I’m tired of people being rude to others for doing what they want to do.

Thanks anon, hope you’re doing good as well :)

[woke-transmed]

Of course you'd enjoy being called a nazi

bff idk what to say 😭 if you're so convinced i'm transphobic and ig a nazi???? why don't you block me?