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icon by pumi-envy I use exclusively she/her/hers pronouns in english. do not call me "they."

[spiderbitesandvampirevenom]

can we bring back the term "fair-weather friend" bc I feel like if fair-weather friends got called that more this whole argument about whether or not you should be there for your friends when it's inconvenient/at what point of personal inconvenience it's ok to bail on your friends would kinda fall apart bc like. we literally have a word for "friend who's only there when you don't need something from them" because the baseline expectation is that a friend should be there even when it sucks. like we used to make fun of people for bailing on their friends.

[spiderbitesandvampirevenom]

Can you all shut the fuck up about your dumb musical in my notes this is a post about real people and real relationships and I'm tired of fandom-brainers calling it a "hadestown reference" because your musical happened to use a common turn of phrase in a song or whatever y'all are on about.

[tofu-rebecca]

seeing "protect the action figures" as a response to "Protect the dolls" is maybe the most insulting thing I've ever seen, to both trans men and trans women.

[tofu-rebecca]

First of all, the term "protect them dolls" exists because trans women, and especially trans women of color, are killed disproportionally. you are literally "all lives matter"-ing this. Secondly, can we stop this stupid fucking trend of giving gay/trans men the worse version of something that already exists for women?

[tofu-rebecca]

I still remember having to explain to a lesbian that the term sapphic comes from a real poet who was a lesbian and had droves of love poems about women and is so influential her home is what lesbians are named after and "acheillian" comes from a guy from a story who might've fucked his friend.

[tofu-rebecca]

"The mlm flag is only so ugly because its the lesbian flag but with boy colors" ok well that's lame as fuck actually

[suziewoosy]

Literally !! get ur hands off my things get ur own !!!

[spiralmindz]

white kids get to have quirky racist phases black kids dont get to be kids

[spiralmindz]

black kids get their lives stolen from them if they defend themselves from white kids "going through a phase"

[spiderbitesandvampirevenom]

I'm just gonna start assigning rosary prayers when white people act bigoted. like they clearly want to be assigned some form of penance when they get called out, to the point where it causes genuine mental paralysis and panic for a lot of them. might as well tell them to start spouting hail marys and whatnot. like they're culturally incapable of accepting that they've done harm without being given an option for absolution.

[oneheadtoanother]

[bruzum]

[spiderbitesandvampirevenom]

why am i seeing the word 'amerindian' being used self-referentially in the big '26 what did you get mind-melded with a fucking 20th century white anthropologist

[trans-girl-nausicaa]

generally speaking, the cooler and better your offline political activities are, the more important it becomes that you do not post about it on your personal social media acconts

[spiderbitesandvampirevenom]

its always the white pagans

[spiderbitesandvampirevenom]

like really the european pagan wants to try and speak on the appropriation and destruction of indigenous lifeways and knowledge? you are the primary perpetrator of these harms idiot!!

[tboy-trash]

non-passing trans men still have privilege over trans women

[tboy-trash]

i appreciate people jumping in on the post earlier saying they've been pretty much universally read as a man for years because young trans boys need to hear that. but also. it doesn't matter if you can't even transition you still have privileges over a woman from your same demographic that's just how that works.

[tboy-trash]

everyone can misgender you daily and you can have "F" on every single legal document and yet who's the demographic most likely to be forced into sex work, murdered, and regularly sent to the more dangerous prison. trans men have privilege over trans women and there's no caveat.

[bigboyhammerhead]

[spiderbitesandvampirevenom]

its always the white pagans

[spiderbitesandvampirevenom]

settlers are always so enthusiastic about ''foraging'' and then you'll start talking to them about indigenous horticulture & sustainable harvesting practices and they quickly reveal that they're more interested in the aesthetic of being a Crunchy Woodland Creature than like reducing their reliance on exploitative industrial agriculture or rebuilding their local foodshed

[spiderbitesandvampirevenom]

This is not true and it is in fact neither very simple nor very plain to forage sustainably. This kind of flippant "it's such an easy hobby" attitude when it comes to harvesting is exactly *why* there are so many problems with once-abundant traditional foods being depleted. Every plant is different, has different needs, and can support a different intensity of gathering. Foraging isn't just some fun hobby, and shouldn't be treated like one. It is a method of intentionally working land to gather resources meant to sustain oneself, whether those resources be food, medicine, or something else. It requires conscious maintenance of the land you are working, and active monitoring of not just your own gathering, but the gathering of your entire community. It requires experiential, often generational knowledge. You cannot boil a resource-gathering operation down to a simple truism and expect others to be able to do it respectfully and sustainably.

[then-said]

[spiderbitesandvampirevenom]

well... yes. where do you think the settlers i'm talking about came from? mars? do you think they invented all their awful ideas and practices out of thin air? like come on now. the settler mindset is a direct inheritance from grandpappy europe and its christian doctrine of anthropocentrism/human exceptionalism.

[fashionlandscapeblog]

Gian Lorenzo Bernini

Sleeping Hermaphroditus, 1620

[identitty-dickruption]

like I think it is good and important to be able to criticise porn and erotica for the relationship to the political environment/context of creation etc, but I think that’s not too different from criticising any other art on these grounds. how is the erotica speaking to conventions of the genre? what is the author trying to tell you in what they hold up as attractive? what might the author be saying that they’re not necessarily aware that they’re saying? how does the narrative relate to other dominant cultural narratives? these are all valuable questions to ask and can be answered in nuanced ways that do not involve kink-shaming & do not involve calling people degenerate perverts. yknow.

[identitty-dickruption]

something I read the other day had a storyline that involved a woman being kidnapped by foreign “disgusting perverts” (<- not supposed to be sexy) so that she could then be rescued by an army general (<- sexy) who had to fuck her as part of the rescue. now it’s no bother to me if someone else gets their rocks off to that, power to them. that said, we can criticise the framing of Woman Ending Up In Sex Trafficking Requires An Army Man To Fuck Her To Safety in the same way we would criticise similar framing in non-erotic contexts. how is this serving the image of the benevolent military? how is it feeding into the white woman’s fear of the other? what is being held up as ‘perverted’ in its juxtaposition to ‘sexy’? etc etc. this was bad erotica but it was also pro-military propaganda and that does mean something

[mezbiyen-deactivated20220330]

[ndnbutch]

personally I am of the opinion that vegans who are like “the way our food system currently works under capitalism on a large scale is exceptionally cruel to all animals including humans and is not sustainable, so I’m doing what I can to make the most ethical choices available to me about what I eat and encourage others to do the same” are generally very reasonable people who I agree with in spades. but vegans who seem to think human beings are not themselves animals who are ultimately also part of the food chain but instead some kind of other paternalistic higher entity that can never engage in ethical and sustainable hunting practices (and especially the fringe I’ve seen who think other carnivorous animal predators are also evil and need to be eliminated) are people I regard as foolish at best if not actively anti-indigenous and racist

[checkyourasianbias]

saw this tweet and like. exactly