Main blog where we're relearning to be unapologetically be ourself.
Asks are off right now. Here's why. I've been getting spammed with multiple of these daily despite blocking the anons. I'm really sorry. :(
More info about us will be under the cut!
sidesys shenanigans ☆
We're a sidesystem of 7. Usually our sign-offs are a guess based on vibes, but sometimes if we can't even manage that we'll just tag things with "#wonderposting".
"Are you parts or people?" Nuance/I'm bald; we refer to ourselves as parts, alters, folks, and chucklefucks.
We have a DID diagnosis and our origin label is playing the accordion and doing a silly little dance. These things can and do coexist. How? Whatever's funniest for the bit. Our beliefs align with "genicpunk".
Part Tags (plain text immediately follows colored text):
#a delusion of dawn (a delusion of dawn)
#shooting star starting signal (shooting star starting signal)
#pop music melody (pop music melody)
#from this shallow dream (from this shallow dream)
#a shadow of my former self (a shadow of my former self)
#the mediator (the mediator)
#places you've yet to see (places you've yet to see)
As mentioned, we also have #wonderposting for when we don't know who's fronting or when who's fronting isn't relevant (according to our discretion lol).
other boundaries + “DNI” ☆
We don't have a DNI. If we don't want to interact with someone, we won't; if someone interacts with us and it makes us go "zoinks", we will just block.
Relevant stances so y'all respect your OWN DNIs:
Endogenic supportive + endogenic safe (I choose not to use pro-endo for a multitude of reasons)
Anti-radqueer/anti-transID
I don't fuck with demonizing PDs. Yes, this includes the cluster Bs. Yes, this includes NPD and ASPD. This means I also don't fuck with the term "narcissistic abuse" or calling assholes "narcissists" or "psychopaths/sociopaths" or the armchair diagnosing of assholes and people who have done cruel things with PDs.
If you treat our introjects like blorbo personified, I will ask you kindly to stop. If you continue to do so, I will block you. This may not be a boundary for others, but it is for me. We are a person outside of our introjects; please remember that.
I joke a lot about my parts and most of what I talk about on here will be parts-related as of right now. There's a lot of shame around the "more important" parts of my disorder and I'm not going to force myself to talk about them online so you can determine how ✨ valid ✨ my DID is. I have a therapist and a journal that can be on the receiving end of that. Sometimes I reblog stuff related to the "more important" parts of my DID.
i wanna cook something but everything i wanna cook will end up being really heavy and a lot of us don't like reheated food so cooking for later isn't an optionnnn AAAAAAA i'm gonna explode food poisoning sucks :((
stray cat that's very affectionate and enjoys spending time on the porch with you but disappears once a week and after a while you think you'll never see them again until you open the front door and theyre sleeping in your boots
If I was a sociologist, I would definitely be doing a study on the methods and language of charity scammers. Especially the use of emojis, and identification by copied messages vs stock phrases.
For example, these four are all the same, with only slight variation in #1:
(I actually have duplicates from some of the "self-identified" anons above.)
But these two anons share the same new stock phrases:
"days are heavy" / "days that feel impossibly heavy."
Fascinated with the random person who commented on this post saying they've reported me for "genocide denialism."
Not to put too fine a tin foil hat on it, but:
That is the kind of threat someone involved in these kinds of financial scams and the social engineering behind them *would* make! It's a threatening statement to the existence of my blog which usually means heightened fear/anxiety of the target, which makes people more likely to fall for a financial scam. Social shame and embarrassment are also heightened emotions! Bullying works! This would make an excellent social engineering counterpoint (if tugging on heartstrings doesn't work!) and might even be effective on many people!
Sure, you can search the supposed connected usernames those anons claimed and find out specifics that way — but not a single one of those screenshots I showed specifies what they're referring to! The IDENTICAL messages from four "different people" never actually mention what their "family's struggle" even is! There's zero fucking context in the space of those messages. They're all IDENTICAL. I literally cannot be committing denialism about anything specific because those asks don't actually say anything I could be denying. How does this person know that these anons aren't a recently impoverished Nigerian prince?
So now you're asking why don't I just click on the usernames and find out more details? Simple. Because they're fucking fraudsters who sent me the same message like, six times with 4 different usernames attached AS ANONS. Why as anons if they have their own blogs and could send the messages that way? SIMPLE AGAIN: because if they're not logged into the blog accounts, you could have whole teams of people copying and pasting these anon asks to various Tumblr users constantly, and you can probably just bypass the ask limits by changing VPNs or going incognito or something. This is a DEDICATED scam. Is it a bot? MAYBE! But that also would explain some of why it doesn't work *while logged in* to the blog accounts — because being anon probably makes it easier to focus on volume.
While we're on the subject of the incredible gullibility some people display on these scams, I'd just like to remind everyone that most online scams these days are being run out of massive scam farms, which often employ human trafficking.
Falling for these isn't just an 'oopsy doopsy, you're out some money' sort of a thing. If you send money to obvious scammers and if you platform obvious scammers, you are very likely directly financially supporting modern day slavery. That's not an exaggeration, and I'm not being alarmist. Please read any of these articles on the subject if you don't believe me:
Tens of thousands of people from across Asia have been coerced into defrauding people in America and around the world out of millions of dol
A man was abducted by a Chinese gang and forced to work in a scam operation. He gathered financial information, photos and videos and shared
Traffickers are forcing thousands of people from across Asia to work in online scam centres.
Myanmar youth recount life inside a cyber-scam mill before a city’s fall brought the scheme crashing down.
This is what you are supporting when you send these people money. It's not a neutral act to give to these scammers; it's a horrible, evil act, because in most cases, it directly supports horrific exploitation. And if you really were fooled? If you gave to one of these scammers and you really had no idea what you were probably supporting? Then I'm sorry, but digging your heels in and insisting that the lies you were fed are the truth helps no one. Take your blinders off and face reality, and start doing better.
This whole scenario is a really prime example of a phenomenon that probably has a proper name elsewhere, but I personally call Race to the Binary.
Step 1: an appalling atrocity happens, and victims of it ask for aid. We're all on board.
Step 2: Scammers pop up pretending to be those victims. A few users step forward to vet requests, to try to filter for genuine victims.
Step 3: the race begins. Some people, used to associating things like poor English and young accounts with scams, assume that most of these victims are therefore scammers, and the vetters are either incompetent or in on it.
Step 4: the race diverges. Other people recognise that these "tells" are just as easily symptoms of non-English speakers who are making hasty blogs under unimaginable circumstances, and so conclude that claiming a victim is a scammer on the basis of their English is actually racist.
Step 5: the race concludes. These two groups repeat their points so many times that they gallop in opposite directions until they reach the binary poles of this particular spectrum. Group 1: absolutely none of these accounts are genuine. It's all scams, and only stupid gullible babies would ever think otherwise. Group 2: saying a single one of these accounts is a scam is a racist denial of the very genocide itself that they're facing and only a simpering fascist would think so.
This happens all the time in all fields on all subjects and in every corner of humanity. But that's what's happening with the random accusation of genocide denial on this post. That is someone who reached their binary pole, and now even the suggestion that scammers might be posing as genuine victims - a thing that is literally, definitely happening, which is why we needed the vetting in the first place - is somehow twisted into a claim that there's no genocide.
Anyway - OP is right. And there's been a huge uptick in these, so for fucks sake, pay attention and learn the signs.
was gonna add more but i ran out of steam 😔👎 anyway here’s an infographic on how people with complex dissociative disorders are not that different from you lol
I DESPERATELY needed someone to tell me this as I grew up in leftist online spaces. So now I am going to tell YOU:
If you
Check what you sent over and over to make sure you didn’t say a slur instead of “hello how are you”
Fear that someone will find you thinking not-leftist-enough thoughts and will call you out and ruin you
Feel you have to make your intentions clear and over-explain your actions
Find yourself consistently resisting the urge to engage in reassurance-seeking WRT being a good enough ally to marginalized people
Stay up late endlessly debating political ethics in your head
Have a set of actions that you take after discovering you made a morally wrong decision so that you can atone, which you rely on for reassurance that you are not a bad person
Would rather not make a decision at all than make a decision that is the lesser of two evils, but is not morally pure
then I am gently, but firmly, requesting that you look into moral scrupulosity OCD.
Also, check the environment that you're in, specifically the people you engage with routinely.
Because if you constantly are told that you need to be 150% clear, you must think perfect thoughts, or that inaction is better than imperfect-but-better action, you are surrounded by people who care more about performing moral purity than actually Being Good People and making a positive impact in the world.
So long as you're doing your best and choosing the best reasonable option that is feasible for you (ie harm reduction, donating time instead of money, voting for a candidate who isn't perfect but is better than pure evil, whatever the case may be), you're doing good. Perfect is impossible - don't let anyone tell you otherwise. Let go of that expectation, because not a single one of us can or will meet it. Do your best, apologize when necessary, and get comfortable with the fact that you will always be the villain to someone, and that's okay.
What is this bullshit where thinking about your actions and trying to examine your own behavior is not only fucking
"Overthinking"
But you guys keep trying to invent new varieties of fucking ocd and did and mental illnesses I never heard of to describe things every fucking teenager and 20 year old does?
Everything on this list except the slur thing is something you should do periodically on purpose so you don't become a calcified unthinking pod person who jumps to conclusions that reinforce your biases constantly.
There is no version of trying to improve yourself or being a moral human being that is OCD.
If I see one more goddamn post that implies that trying to be a good person is a goddamn mental disorder I am going to come to your house and give you real compulsions while you sleep to do things so you can understand what they feel like.
Trying to see your own behavior from someone else's point of view is not ocd
Trying to make sure you practice what you preach is not ocd
Feeling like you don't have a good choice available to you and deciding that you will abstain from making a bad choice so that you don't give legitimacy to a broken system that tries to force you to believe in a false dichotomy is not OCD
Reasoning out your own actions and examining your biases is not ocd
Processing new ideas, especially when you are in your teens and 20s or when something big happens like a strange political time or a new situation you aren't sure how you want to act in, like a big crazy unprecedented political time? That takes as long as it takes. If you discover new information that contradicts or challenges your worldview it should take time for you to figure out what it means to you. It's okay to process that out loud. To talk it over online with groups. To talk to chat gpt. To journal. You should not be taking other people's word on morality without processing it. You should be considering information and what it means for you. Having an ironclad belief system that never changes based on the situation or new information is not mentally healthy. There is not a "wrong way" to process your emotions or decide on your opinions and feelings or design your own lifestyle. Taking your time with it is not OCD.
Depending on your world, it may be that fear of losing a social support network or losing a job is a valid fear. But pathologizing your fear, even irrational fear, is just going to beget more fear. Human beings are pack animals and we live in a society that forces people to beg others for money in increasingly ridiculous jobs that are more vibes based and parasocial every day. In that environment fear of social ostracism, even if you would survive, is not ocd.
It is not ocd to want to be clear and precise in your language.
It is not OCD to struggle to do so sometimes.
It's not going to make you speak more succinctly to pathologize your speaking habits.
Taking actions like donating to charity, abstaining from eating meat for a while, volunteering, reading, etc. Are not ocd. Even if you feel that you sometimes maintain balance in your life morally by doing things like deciding you can eat meat or drive a car daily but you don't want to do both because of your carbon footprint or deciding to purchase items for a local shelter when you feel like you are struggling in life on a moral level in some other way and want to see yourself as a good person overall is not ocd. If it is, every corporation has ocd. Carbon offsets are ocd. Harm reduction is OCD.
If acts of service to your community make you feel better- if anything makes you feel better and it isn't hurting anyone, no one has your best interest at heart if they are attempting to pathologize that for you.
I promise you even if it is OCD that the people at your warming center don't care why you bought them canned heat.
I promise you that if it's ocd that makes you decide that when you get to a certain income level you will donate money each month to a no kill shelter or a strike fund, the world needs more people with ocd.
All human beings worry that they are a bad person sometimes.
All human beings can do is try to do more good than bad in this world.
Anyone who pathologizes that is literally a demon.
Go read the screwtape letters you're literally just doing the screwtape letters we did this already it's 2025.
I usually don't do this kind of thing but this reblog bugs to hell out of me (as someone who's known I have OCD for about 6 years just to be spared that argument lol) because it is the worst possible faith you could've taken this.
First of all, that reblog wasn't even talking about OCD anymore, it was talking about people who put perfect moral purity above actually doing the right thing. So that's a moot point and we can move onto OP now.
OP is ABSOLUTELY correct that all of these behaviors can come from a place of OCD. They are not ALWAYS OCD for sure, and some can sometimes be normal or even good, but there are circumstances where they're worth looking into. And even if it's not OCD, it's still good to talk to someone about it.
I think the best example of one is having political debates in your head. That can be normal—in fact, it can even be good! It's true! It ensures that you understand where you're at in terms of your knowledge and opinions. However, if you're doing it constantly to the point where it's taking up a lot of your thinking space constantly but you Have to do it or else you're going to Hell or people are going to die every time you don't do it so you have to do it Now or you're Bad and you're tainted with Bad forever...that's 100% for sure something to look into.
Being able to explain yourself when necessary—also a good thing! Again, it's good to ensure that you're solid in your opinions and you have a fully understanding of them. But feeling the need to justify yourself all the time because if you don't then everyone will think you're Bad and Evil and you will Never be clean and you need to explain until you are "pure" again...is also something to look into.
Making sure you're being a good enough ally for marginalized people—doing research, talking to us, donating if possible, etc.? Good! Doing that to the point that you can and still needing to constantly seek reassurance because if you don't you're SURE you're a bigot you're being a bigot right now by existing you're not doing the work you're evil right you're evil for sure you need to do more to ease this feeling of being evil? Something to look into.
The way some people talk about these things isn't just "I'm doing what I can to make sure that I don't get wrapped up in a hivemind and can draw my own conclusions"; it's "If I don't do this, I'm Evil and I'm Bad REGARDLESS of what my true beliefs are and REGARDLESS of if I'm solid in them and have been shown to be in the past". I'm not trying to armchair diagnose anyone, and neither is OP! It's a suggestion because these are common patterns seen in moral scrupulosity OCD and they don't look like what's traditionally thought of when OCD is discussed.
But honestly, like I said above, even if it isn't OCD and it's "just" overthinking—which is for sure a possibility—it's still worth seeking someone to talk to about it to me. Because living like that is exhausting, and you're not even going to be able to do what little you can do if you're constantly bombarded with the things you feel you're not doing enough but literally can't do. It's a horrible, terrifying world out there and there capital w Will be a lot of pain in trying to do what we can, but all we can do is what we can. It's about balancing the awareness of what's going on with not feeling morally reprehensible for not being able to singlehandedly fix it or do every single possible thing to fix it. Just do what you can. Even if it's something as little as doing your one click or a reblog.
Anyway, sorry for the long ramble. 👍🏾 I dunno if I explained myself well here. It's just my opinion + ngl the whole "omg EVERYTHING is OCD" thing bothers me because it's pretty much the opposite from my experience. If anything OCD is minimized to the point where things like this are beyond its scope to most people, lol.
TL;DR, "There is no version of trying to improve yourself or being a moral human being that is OCD" is…not correct. This isn't like some Tumblr woo-woo shit lol morality can ABSOLUTELY become OCD and that's becoming more known even within the medical community.
Im gonna be so real can yall actually talk about ways we can support trans women in the UK instead of giving all the attention to fucking JKR. I already know that Harry Poter sucks, I wanna know how to actually HELP people. Something something you have to love the oppressed more than you hate the oppressor
Instead of focusing on a TERF who we've known about for at least 8 years and giving her more fucking attention, we should focus on learning about and supporting groups like TransActual, a trans/NB run organization in the UK supporting and fighting for the rights of trans and NB people (tumblr straight up won't embed the link, suspicious)
Im a usamerican and it took me literally googling "how to help trans women UK" to find them. The people on tumblr in 2025 aren't going to stop engaging with jkr no matter what you say, please put your effort elsewhere
I DESPERATELY needed someone to tell me this as I grew up in leftist online spaces. So now I am going to tell YOU:
If you
Check what you sent over and over to make sure you didn’t say a slur instead of “hello how are you”
Fear that someone will find you thinking not-leftist-enough thoughts and will call you out and ruin you
Feel you have to make your intentions clear and over-explain your actions
Find yourself consistently resisting the urge to engage in reassurance-seeking WRT being a good enough ally to marginalized people
Stay up late endlessly debating political ethics in your head
Have a set of actions that you take after discovering you made a morally wrong decision so that you can atone, which you rely on for reassurance that you are not a bad person
Would rather not make a decision at all than make a decision that is the lesser of two evils, but is not morally pure
then I am gently, but firmly, requesting that you look into moral scrupulosity OCD.
Also, check the environment that you're in, specifically the people you engage with routinely.
Because if you constantly are told that you need to be 150% clear, you must think perfect thoughts, or that inaction is better than imperfect-but-better action, you are surrounded by people who care more about performing moral purity than actually Being Good People and making a positive impact in the world.
So long as you're doing your best and choosing the best reasonable option that is feasible for you (ie harm reduction, donating time instead of money, voting for a candidate who isn't perfect but is better than pure evil, whatever the case may be), you're doing good. Perfect is impossible - don't let anyone tell you otherwise. Let go of that expectation, because not a single one of us can or will meet it. Do your best, apologize when necessary, and get comfortable with the fact that you will always be the villain to someone, and that's okay.
I just want you all to know, that if and when this site does experience a real exodus and/or get sunsetted for good, even if we don't keep in touch I'll remember you so fondly. You're the online equivalent of the other kid on the beach where we built sandcastles together; the girl at the campsite where we explored the trees. You're the drunk person who shared kind words in the bathroom at the club, you're the talented artists at the life drawing class or the poetry night in a city where I don't live anymore. It makes me sad that maybe in the future our paths won't cross so easily, but even when we leave this little shared piece of cyberspace, carried away on our briefly intersecting trajectories, just know I still love you
Sometimes i feel like younger queer kids are getting a bit to bold with openly talking to people they don’t know In The Context Of:
More than once i have had a younger/same age queer person come up to me in public settings and say something about “finding other gays” or clearly clocking me as nonbinary and I’m like :)))))))) hey buddy I’m here with my conservative parents can you fucking not out me :))))))))
Just say you like my outfit or hair and move on, fuck even tell me you like my shoelaces. Don’t call me gay and limp your wrist at me when you don’t even know me? Especially when there’s a bunch of ppl around?
i was out with my ex once when three *very* young queer kids, like thirteen years old, came up to us and asked us “are you guys, you know…” and did the limp wrist thing at us. one of them loudly exclaimed that it was so cool to meet other queer people in real life. this was in public in an unbelievably conservative area - we didn’t even feel safe holding hands because we were surrounded by Mormons. we got lucky that day, but I’m begging y’all to remember that the world doesn’t work like the internet. other queers are real fuckin people. don’t do this shit. OP is right; tell me you like my jacket, or my patches, or the rainbow spokes on my wheelchair, but don’t out either of us!
This used to be standard operating procedure not even ten years ago: NEVER OUT OTHER QUEERS, even if they’re supposedly already out. Never assume that it’s okay to let third parties know that so-and-so is queer. Ever. You never know when you’ve found the one uncle with the heart condition that they can’t bear to risk telling, or the one neighbor who’s just threatening enough that they don’t mention it around, or even the grandma that they haven’t gotten around to mentioning it to yet. You might have just ruined a very important milestone for someone, or you could have put them at actual risk of harm.
Also… stop freaking assuming. If you don’t see a pride flag on them, please don’t just assume. You can’t tell ANYTHING about a person’s gender or partner preferences by what they’re wearing on any given day, what their hair looks like, or whether or not they’re using makeup. You legit cannot, and you look like a jerk when you try.
Younger queer people have grown up in a better world, but we’re in a time of backsliding right now. Do NOT out other queer people. Also, I’m not gonna tell you how to present yourselves in public………..but please, I am begging you to re-evaluate HOW safe you are in the current climate.
in early cyberpunk, the point was more along the lines of “if we integrate technology into our bodies we risk becoming dependent upon the people and institutions who control that technology, who would then use that to enrich themselves at our expense”
unfortunately that was too anti-corporate for American mainstream culture so as cyberpunk moved out of its niche it became “uhhh it eats your soul I guess”
#this is important context #if you weren’t around at the time it is easy to miss but #anti-corporate sentiment was pretty much the lynchpin of cyberpunk until there were movies and games making money off it #it was the 1980s you guys #the entire point was that corporations are evil and technology should be used to circumvent them and escape their control over our lives #and not be used to make ourselves into another product #now that the internet is entirely monetized and corporate it’s harder to remember that originally it was synonymous w freedom & independence
Yes, exactly. Cyberpunk is anti-corporations, not anti-body-modification.
