I'm going to smile, and my smile will sink down into your pupils, and heaven knows what it will become.
-Jean-Paul Sartre

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I'm going to smile, and my smile will sink down into your pupils, and heaven knows what it will become.
-Jean-Paul Sartre
“‘I wanted to hurt him.’ ‘Why?’ ‘Because he had hurt me.’ ‘Why?’ ‘Because people hurt each other. That’s what people do.’”
— Jonathan Safran Foer, Extremely Loud and Incredibly Close (via goodreadss)
“Everything we hear is an opinion, not a fact. Everything we see is a perspective, not the truth.”
— Marcus Aurelius, Meditations
Advice to a Younger Introvert
- You don’t have to be academically inclined or some intensely deep thinker to be an introvert. The world isn’t neatly divided into bookish loners and party animals. Some extroverts love books and ideas, some introverts don’t. Don’t feel you have to be Van Gogh to ‘make up’ for being an introvert.
- Introversion comes with both strengths and weaknesses. In some fields it gives you advantages, in other fields disadvantages. It is not an excuse to avoid developing social skills.
-Think of socialising like exercise. Too much will exhaust you, not enough is bad for your health. Schedule socialising into your timetable.
- Also, like exercise, you dread doing it before you start but once you’ve gotten into it you start to have more fun.
- You run the risk of isolating yourself when you’re sad/on school holidays. The problem with isolating yourself is you don’t always realise you’re doing it, or realise the damage it does to your mental health so if you get sad/tired/irritable and you don’t know why, it could actually be a lack of people. It’s a balancing act, but as you mature, it gets easier to balance.
- Socialising doesn’t mean you have to go clubbing or make small talk. Quality time with friends and family, one-on-one, counts. Invest time in a few relationships, pay attention to them, nourish them until they blossom.
- When it comes to socialising, either explain to your friend it’s a one-on-one thing or specifically plan something that only two people can do/something that can’t be expanded to more people without prior notice, like cooking dinner or playing video games. It sucks when people bring along someone you don’t know without telling you first and leave you feeling left out. Third wheeling is not your friend.
-If you’re at a party and you’re overstimulated by loud music/bright lights/crowds/chatter, don’ t lock yourself in the bathroom for long, but maybe save some time recharging by switching the lights off in the bathroom and taking deep breaths, like an improvised floatation tank.
-but don’t forget to lock the door, otherwise people might walk in and wonder what the hell you’re doing standing in the dark.
-When it comes to class participation, quality counts as much as quantity. Don’t fret if you’re not speaking a lot, so long as what you’re saying is concise and useful to class discussion. Teachers do actually notice these things.
-If your voice isn’t loud, that doesn’t mean people won’t listen. If what you have to say is valuable, you’ll get more attention than you think.
- Public speaking is a necessary evil, but it gets better with practice. Introversion needn’t stop you winning that oratory prize.
- Introversion is about being differently social, not anti-social. Remain polite and courteous. Holding the door open for people is a nifty habit to get into because it allows you to show respect and concern to others without you needing to talk.
-If you want a book about introversion, by an introvert, Quiet by Susan Cain is a psychological treatise, a history, a biological explanation, a sociological examination and a defence all rolled into one.
Maybe in another universe we could have been something, but now we are just that empty space between lovers and friends.
Concept: I have my own house. My house has a library with a reading nook. There’s bookshelves filled with books from the floor up to the ceiling. I have 2 cats. It’s raining outside. I’m sat in my reading nook under the soft light of a lamp, with a cat curled up in my lap and a hot drink in my hands. There’s a fire burning in the fireplace and slow classical music playing. I am at peace.
“There are feelings inside her that don’t exist in me. She’s a very logical person, and I’m a very playful person. At first, I felt like we were alike but turns out we’re complete opposites—she thinks through things while I feel through things. She says that I’m too young and idealistic to love her and perhaps that’s true. I am a child when it comes to love. I feel things like we’re soul mates or we both like watching the stars together and fuck that explains a lot why we’re so drawn to each other because of destiny and all that stuff. She once asked me what love meant to me, and I said that love is the only thing that makes life less meaningless. And I held her hand and kissed it and then looked at her in the eye. “This is love,” I said quietly. And I held her face and kissed her on the forehead and then looked at her in the eye once more. “This is love,” I said again quietly. “Love is just an illusion,” she whispered in my ear, and we made love just with our lips, and it felt like a dream for the first time that we were together. It all felt like a dream to me, but I knew that she was the one that I wanted to spend the rest of my life with. I just can’t explain why I had to let her go when she was the only girl who made me feel something so absolute. “Love is just an illusion,” the very last words that she said to me when I walked out of her not so fucked up life. The very last words that brought me to an understanding that maybe love is nothing more than chemicals released in the brain that never does last forever like any kind of drug. But the thing about love is that it fucks you up eventually, and you want more of it. In good morning texts, during penetration, flowers and wandering the world together and forever. Love is just an illusion, but it does last if you really do believe in it.”
— Juansen Dizon, The Architect & The Destroyer
The #1 thing that the MBTI community misunderstands about the cognitive functions.
I feel like I need to say make this point, because I see a lot of the people in this group (and in MBTI boards in general) make this extremely common error when they approach Jungian typology, and I feel compelled to correct it. A lot of people view the cognitive functions (Ne, Ni, Te, Ti, Fe, Fi, Se, Si) as a set of personality traits, or a tool or skill set that can be sharpened and honed, or used as needed; but that isn’t how the functions (or our personalities) work. All the functions are is a set of paradigms that dictate in what order our brains place a priority on certain types of external and internal sensory input - and your brain does this instantaneously and automatically; it isn’t a conscious decision on your part at all. All this means is that, in its natural state, your brain is placing a higher premium on certain types of information that on others. In the case of Se, for example, an Se-dom’s brain is, first and foremost, placing the highest priority on objective sensory data gathered through the five senses (smell, sound, touch, taste, and smell) - when they’re eating ice cream, their brain is, fire and foremost, involved in the sensory pleasures of what they’re eating; the pleasant, creamy coolness of the sundae on their tongue; the tangy, quasi-soggy under-taste of strawberry; the juxtapositional crunch of the waffle cone compared to the softness of the ice cream; the the ripe, sweet berry scent wafting into their nose, fitting with specificity into their olfactory glands.
“But when I smell, sound, or taste something, then doesn’t mean I’m using Se, too?” you ask; and the answer is that yes, you are, but that doesn’t mean that your brain is automatically prioritizing that information over other types of data. For example: say you’re an INTP who is eating a strawberry ice cream cone, too. Yes, that INTP is experiencing all of the same smells, tastes, temperatures, and textures associated with eating ice cream as the Se-dom was (though perhaps not as intensely); but his brain is also likely thinking back to the last time he had ice cream, and recalling all of the sensory experiences involved with that memory as well. Maybe, for example, as he’s eating, he will recall the sound of the ice cream truck driving past (Si), and then start wondering what it would be like to create an ice cream shop that exclusively makes unusual combinations of flavors, like Bertie Bott’s Every Flavor Beans from Harry Potter (Ne). In this way, his brain has prioritized all of these other types of experiences to him over top of Se. And so when he recalls this memory later on, what he will remember are things related to his Ti, and his Ne, and his Ti, and his Fe; but when the Se-dom recalls it later, he will mainly be recalling all of the different sensory experiences that the memory evoked in him - the smell of the ice cream, the way it tasted, the texture of it, the temperature, how hot it was outside where they were eating it, how many and which of his friends were there, what they were all wearing, and so on. Same memory, but their brains are placing a priority on completely different types of data in order to categorize external input and make sense of the world around them.
The point that I’m trying to make here is that functions are not tools. They’re not toys, they’re not personality traits, they’re not skill sets that we can pick up and put down when we’re done using them. They are psychological paradigms that simply describe the order in which our brains prioritize certain types of information. (And this is certainly up for debate - I’m by no means an expert, people argue about this all the time, and even Jung himself didn’t seem to know the answer to this - but this is why I believe that it isn’t possible for people to be more than one type, or to be able to use both Te and Ti or Ne and Ni with equal proficiency. There are other reasons why I believe this too, but that’s a bit of a different topic and I’m getting lazy, so… bye!)
Another thing I’d like to add that I feel is very important to make known is that YOUR MBTI TYPE DOES NOT DICTATE WHAT KIND OF PERSON YOU ARE! Being of a certain type does not make you kind, it does not make you intelligent, it does not make you creative or athletic or a poet or philosophical or profound or ambitious or honest or authentic or sweet or a good person. Those are CHOICES (or personality traits), and ANYBODY can be empathetic, or genuine, or compassionate, or selfish. MBTI says absolutely nothing about the kind of person that you are EXCEPT for the way in which your brain absorbs, interprets, and responds to environmental stimuli in its natural state. So please don’t get discouraged when you read the INTJ Celebrity Types page and see five or six terrorists on there, or go to the INFP page and realize that half of them have committed suicide. That DOESN’T have to be your life just because you share the same type. You are who you are, and who you want to be; and MBTI tells you absolutely nothing about whether you’re a kink, thoughtful, perceptive, open-minded, or empathetic individual. Be who you want to be, and don’t let MBTI hold you back from being who you want.
Thoughts, opinion, and rebuttals welcome, as always!
People I want to surround myself with:
bohemians, intellectuals, artists, idealists, philosophers, librarians, humanists, antiquarians, bibliophilist, cinephile, pacifists, dreamers, dancers, existentialists, cultivated persons, travellers, Parisians, introverts, vintage lovers, humanitarians, visionaries, profound thinkers etc.
“I like people who dream or talk to themselves interminably; I like them, for they are double. They are here and elsewhere.”
— Albert Camus (via quotemadness)
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“Don’t fall into the trap of living inside your own head. Look outward, keep an open mind, and see the world in all of its beauty.”
— Nicole Addison @thepowerwithin
Hiking in Mount Hood National Forest… most trails are still snowed in but luckily we were able to explore this one! - pupperloverrrr
And I want to be here. I want to feel everything and nothing at once. I want to breathe the fresh air, dance in carelessness, wear the wilderness and cry in joy. Nature nurtures us and I want to be nurtured at its best, in a way that I never go back to the same worldly things. I want to walk on the fallen tree across river, and want to keep walking until all I can see is myself getting lost in the woods....
“People who live in society have learnt how to see themselves, in mirrors, as they appear to their friends. I have no friends: is that why my flesh is so naked?”
— Jean-Paul Sartre
And the air was full of Thoughts and Things to Say. But at times like these, only the Small Things are ever said. Big Things lurk unsaid inside.”
― Arundhati Roy, The God of Small Things