You are not called cringe because you're fake! You're called cringe because you're real!
I have a confession to make. We're fakers.
When we're in public, we fake like we're a singlet. I fake when I front and remain silent when I'm called someone else's name. When I pretend it doesn't hurt me every time I'm misgendered. We fake when we omit details about our inner lives when talking to the few singlets we do trust enough to share with because we're afraid they will mock or judge us.
We fake and pretend all the time.
If you're reading this, there's a good chance that you're fakers like us.
You lie and pretend and omit and mask. And that's okay. You know that being out to the wrong people can destroy relationships. It can get you fired from your job. It can make you a pariah. You lie and pretend out of love for your system, to protect yourselves and those you care about. And that is nothing to be ashamed of.
But remember that these are the moments when you're lying.
You are not called cringe when you pretend so you can conform and fit in. You are not called cringe when you mask as a singlet. You are not called cringe when you lie and invalidate yourselves to keep your secret.
You are called cringe when you are real.
You are called cringe because you are honest and true to yourselves.
You are called cringe because you are brave enough to take off the mask. Even if only in certain spaces.
You called cringe when you are proud of who you are.
You face hate because you love yourselves.
Do not fear being called cringe. Wear it as a badge of honor. They attack you because you represent something new, something they don't understand. Because you took a chance in being your real self instead of hiding who you are.
Remember that the actions that others call "cringe" today will pave the way to make the systems of tomorrow feel safe and secure in being who they are. By being brave and strong and real, by putting yourself out there and trusting, you are helping to secure a future where no system needs to fake or pretend ever again.