saw this on Twitter and I’m getting so so fucking sick and tired of this take.
“They were saying their relationship would be more respected if they were married, and fans are reinforcing that narrative… And it erases the validly of queer relationships.”
okay so, there’s so much about this that just pisses me off. everyone is entitled to their opinions, however
first of all, as a queer person who is married, you can fuck all the way off with this disgusting take. whether queer people choose to get married or not does not validate or invalidate their relationship.
“gay marriage has only been legal for a decade in most of the world.”
YEAH, EXACTLY. and that’s not even correct?? It’s still illegal in more places than it is legal. It’s still an active fight!! but where they live, it’s only been about a decade, so for the first big chunk of their relationship together it wasn’t a realistic option for them. they couldn’t even think about if it was something they wanted in their future together. And then once it was legalized, their relationship was so far in closet with no certain date on the horizon they were going to come out of it that, again, it’s probably not something they gave themselves the freedom to consider for themselves.
most people I see talking about it/speculating about it are very much qualifying their thoughts with ‘of course they never have to get married to be happy. they can decide it’s not for them and whether they do or don’t doesn’t validate or invalidate their relationship.’ most people talking about it are just happy for them finally being out and authentic and now having the opportunity to joke about it or talk about it seriously or both.
all this fucking discourse saying marriage is and has to be inherently heteronormative is kind of disgusting actually. the LGBTQ+ community that has existed literally forever and spent decades and decades fighting for the rights we have now - INCLUDING MARRIAGE- and it’s being talked about like this?? being dismissed as invalidating??? ESPECIALLY for a couple that spent so long in the closet in regards to their sexuality and their relationship??
you don’t have to like marriage and you don’t have to want it in your queer relationship. WHY ARE WE DISRESPECTING QUEER HISTORY AND QUEER ACTIVISM.
but telling us it’s not okay to encourage dan and phil to explore that and be comfortable feeling like they could want that for themselves…
full disrespect but what the fuck are we doing here.
