Ur Friendly Neigbourhood Alt Gal

She/her ALSO GO FOLLOW MY ART BLOG!!! @yesimakeartsometimes !!!!!!!!!!!!!!Idk what type of alt I am anymore, I love grunge, goth, punk, post-punk, new-wave, Riot grrrl, indie, emo, britpop, some metal and you <3 ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~I’m also lowkey artist ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ I do not stan racists, homophobes, sexists, transphobes, ableists, pedo’s and other sorts of sex-offenders! ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~I hope y’all are save and healthy (mentally and physically) rn in this crisis, my dm’s are always open for anyone who wants to talk :) ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~FOLLOW FOR MORE FUN STUFF 🥀🕸🎨🎸⛓

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English isn’t my native language so one thing I never understood is why the fuck “I” is always a capital? Like do english people just want to write about themselves so bad they decided that everytime they say “I” it should be screaming in your face

like why?? I need some sleep real bad

[yesiskatesometimes]

Activity idea

Hey you there! Yeah you! Are you bored at home because of covid Do you have a screentime on your phone of 9+ hours and little energy to do litterally anything productive?  Then I have the thing for you! therapy BUT ALSO GOOGLE FORMS  Make bullshit questions for your friends with absolute more bullshit answers. Its actually pretty fun and interactive. Ive done some for my friends and it’s absolutely hilarious. If you dont have fun friends like I do? then idk send me the link and if the survey is pretty fun I’ll send it to other ppl cause we all bored af.

:3

[yesiskatesometimes]

I’m back (kinda)

I know you cant see dates on tumblr but basically I’ve been inactive for half a year on here. But yeah since were all regressing into our middle school tumblr phases, might as wel come back on here. So yeah imma post some shit maybe sometime hehe 

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MY GRANDPA GAVE ME AN AMAZINGLY GOOD ACOUSTIC GUITAR OMG I’M SO EXCITED!!

It used to be his but it was in their storage for a long time. But it looks like a new guitar and I’m gonna try some chords. I grew up with absolutely no music teaching except piano so this is gonna take a while. I’m so happy YouTube exists!

My parents say they will sign me up for lessons if i really like it!!

[sexyorganmusic]

They have arrived

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Just stared in the mirror for 5 minutes at myself and I think I’ve lost my human identity... What is quarantine doing to me?

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Some ppl be listening to Nirvana but still be sexist/racist/homophobic... y’all really ain’t getting the point

[niambi]

I’m????

[alarajrogers]

Oh my God this actually explains so much.

So there’s a known thing in the study of human psychology/sociology/what-have-you where men are known to, on average, rely entirely on their female romantic partner for emotional support. Bonding with other men is done at a more superficial level involving fun group activities and conversations about general subjects but rarely involves actually leaning on other men or being really honest about emotional problems. Men use alcohol to be able to lower their inhibitions enough to expose themselves emotionally to other men, but if you can’t get emotional support unless you’re drunk, you have a problem.

So men need to have a woman in their lives to have anyone they can share their emotional needs and vulnerabilities with. However, since women are not socialized to fear sharing these things, women’s friendships with other women are heavily based on emotional support. If you can’t lean on her when you’re weak, she’s not your friend. To women, what friendship is is someone who listens to all your problems and keeps you company.

So this disconnect men are suffering from is that they think that only a person who is having sex with you will share their emotions and expect support. That’s what a romantic partner does. But women think that’s what a friend does. So women do it for their romantic partners and their friends and expect a male friend to do it for them the same as a female friend would. This fools the male friend into thinking there must be something romantic there when there is not.

This here is an example of patriarchy hurting everyone. Women have a much healthier approach to emotional support – they don’t die when widowed at nearly the rate that widowers die and they don’t suffer emotionally from divorce nearly as much even though they suffer much more financially, and this is because women don’t put all their emotional needs on one person. Women have a support network of other women. But men are trained to never share their emotions except with their wife or girlfriend, because that isn’t manly. So when she dies or leaves them, they have no one to turn to to help with the grief, causing higher rates of death, depression, alcoholism and general awfulness upon losing a romantic partner. 

So men suffer terribly from being trained in this way. But women suffer in that they can’t reach out to male friends for basic friendship. I am not sure any man can comprehend how heartbreaking it is to realize that a guy you thought was your friend was really just trying to get into your pants. Friendship is real. It’s emotional, it’s important to us. We lean on our friends. Knowing that your friend was secretly seething with resentment when you were opening up to him and sharing your problems because he felt like he shouldn’t have to do that kind of emotional work for anyone not having sex with him, and he felt used by you for that reason, is horrible. And the fact that men can’t share emotional needs with other men means that lots of men who can’t get a girlfriend end up turning into horrible misogynistic people who think the world owes them the love of a woman, like it’s a commodity… because no one will die without sex. Masturbation exists. But people will die or suffer deep emotional trauma from having no one they can lean on emotionally. And men who are suffering deep emotional trauma, and have been trained to channel their personal trauma into rage because they can’t share it, become mass shooters, or rapists, or simply horrible misogynists.

The only way to fix this is to teach boys it’s okay to love your friends. It’s okay to share your needs and your problems with your friends. It’s okay to lean on your friends, to hug your friends, to be weak with your friends. Only if this is okay for boys to do with their male friends can this problem be resolved… so men, this one’s on you. Women can’t fix this for you; you don’t listen to us about matters of what it means to be a man. Fix your own shit and teach your brothers and sons and friends that this is okay, or everyone suffers.

[dollbeshop]

The next time a guy says, “What? You don't want to be my friend?” I’ll text him this and then ask if he really wants to be friends or just have another potential girlfriend.

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y’all I am living for these analyses where the new way to fight the patriarchy is to teach men to love each other and themselves

[astronomically-androngynous]

Im a communication student and can confirm the above is absolutely 100% accurate and it’s called agentic vs communal friendship theorized by Steven McCornack

[yesiskatesometimes]

GO FOLLOW MY ART PAGE PLS :)))) I need Some support on there! I Will be posting a lot of art on there soon

@yesimakeartsometimes

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Hahah imma reblog my own post

[babbyartwhore]

Yess she's fucking talented so go follow! (Talking to all my six followers)

[yesimakeartsometimes]

Naww thank u!! Also go follow @babbyartwhore

She’s also a talented little baby and show her Some support pls

[yesiskatesometimes]

Just also wanted to Reblog this on here!! So pls go follow the both of us!!! @yesimakeartsometimes is my artblog so Yes I’m selfish and promoting myself but if you wanna support Some young artists then go follow :)

[yesiskatesometimes]

GO FOLLOW MY ART PAGE PLS :)))) I need Some support on there! I Will be posting a lot of art on there soon

@yesimakeartsometimes

[yesiskatesometimes]

Listen to the cure for clear skin

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After Elon Musk and Grimes’ baby I’ve decided to name my future child in morse code

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You know it’s going insane time when u put on da Mindless Self Indulgence...

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I LOVE RIOT GRRRL MUSIC

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When are people gonna realise that being racist, homophobic, transphobic or sexist is not a political stance!!!

You being ignorant and discriminating things people can’t change about themselves isn’t an opinion. I see this all the time when ignorant people say “it’s my opinion” or “I Just don’t agree with the lifestyle” or some bullshit like that. Yes you can have opinions about certain topics in the lgbt community such as SOME neopronouns or how SOME feminists portray themselves and those are actually opinions. But those are actual harmful things inside these communities who mainly Just consists of people wanting equal rights. People denying rights is NOT a political stance. Being conservative is not an excuse for being sexist, homophobic, racist or transphobic! This is not what conservative means. Same goes for ignorant leftists who discrimate against other groupes. A conservative can be a openminded person who thinks everyone deserves equal rights. I could be friends with someone who is conservative if they aren’t ignorant and open for conversation. Discrimation isn’t part of left or right, sadly it is so closely involved with politics that it’s hard to see them apart. So always think before you vote or agree with a politician or authority, What are opinions and what is discrimination.

[yesiskatesometimes]

Here are some cute watercolour paintings, they are small projects I like to do when I don’t know what I should make. They’re just some aesthetic kinda tiktokinspired paintings. I’m still Not really good with watercolouring but I’m certainly improving. So yeah enjoy :) I will be posting more artstuff!

[yesiskatesometimes]

I’m always ironically pissed off