This was longer then I originally intended, but:
Donāt ever let anybody use you to make themselves feel better.
Donāt let anybody abuse you mentally, emotionally or physically. If what their making you feel, doesnāt feel right, or in the back of your head, you know that itās wrong. Please, get out.
Donāt let people who talk about you behind your back and spread rumors and lie about you stay in your life. They donāt deserve to be there. People who are genuinely your friends or who you are dating will never do that to you, if they are true.
Donāt let anybody make you feel like youāre nothing or hard to love, because youāre not. You should be loved, you deserve it. You deserve to be happy.
Donāt let anybody belittle you or make you feel like your emotions or feelings donāt matter when you express them. That youāre the one in the wrong for expressing how they make you feel. If they ignore it or yell at you in response, or manage to turn the tables and make you out to seem like the bad person for feeling these things, or that itās your fault. Run.
Itās hard, I know, especially when youāve been friends with, or dated these people or this person for anywhere between a couple days to a couple years and so on. Itās hard because your attached, and you love them, and maybe you think they love you back to. They donāt. They love the way you make them feel maybe. The attention you give them when nobody else will. They love the fact that youāll always stick around no matter how they treat you. That they can treat you this way and get away with it. That youāre basically their toy that they can just use as some sort of outlet for when their mad or happy. People like this only pretend to love you and be your friend. They know that you wonāt leave, and if you do. They will likely try and make themselves seem as innocent as possible. Which is another technique abusers use. Making you seem like the crazy one and the one who did all the horrible things. While they go out and treat other people the way you deserved to be treated. Itās a harsh tactic they use as either a final act of cruelty, to make you feel like you were undeserving of any true love or affection. Or its to trick you into thinking theyāve changed, even though they havenāt. Donāt let them. Please. Itās really hard, when somebody you love does these things, but believe me in the end youāll be better off without them.
No matter what they say, they donāt genuinely care about you, and they donāt love you. If they make you feel any of the above things or do any of these things, and many more Iām positive I havenāt listed. You need to get out. Loyalty isnāt staying in a toxic environment just for the sake of ābeing loyalā. Even if you love them. They donāt care about you. People who you love, shouldnāt be draining to be around, or talk to in general. They shouldnāt make you feel these things. They can make you happy on occasion but whatās that happiness even worth if the bad outweighs the good heavily. Even if theyāre your closest friend, or the love of your life. You still need to leave..for youāre own sanity. They will use you and not truly care about the affects theyāve had on your life or the negativity theyāve caused.
Itās ok to walk away. You arenāt a bad person for wanting to be happy and better yourself and not constantly have toxic energy around you.
It took me forever to figure that out and honestly I wished I had realized this years ago when it first started, and I wish I had been strong enough to walk away from these types of people. I lost so much in the process of trying to love them and be there and protect them from things that they were either causing or making up, and in the process I lost myself, some potential beautiful friendships, self worth and so much more I could have had if I had just walked away to begin with. It took me foreverā¦but I still did it. Itās never to late. Whether your young or old.
You deserve to be happy. You deserve to find peace. You deserve to live your life free of toxic people, who only want to see you drown. You deserve..to just..live.
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