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[pocket-deer-belly]

honestly advertising is so fukcing wasteful not even just in the convincing you to buy shit you never actually wanted but like

how much electricity is wasted displaying ads that could've gone to keeping houses warm. How much paper is produced just to be turned into pamphlets and ads that will just be thrown away. how much internet bandwith is wasted just on the amount of ads that are on the internet nowadays. How many hours worth of labor went into producing ads that are going directly into my adblocker or my waste bin that could've been time spent doing literally ANYTHING useful?

[thejsorcerer]

one of the reasons why I advocate for the use of lgbtqia+ labels as tools and not as "boxes-to-fit-into" is because no two queer people's experience is going to be the same; even if they use the same label. we can't pretend that everyone who uses the label ______ has had the same journey coming to terms with their identity. that's the beauty of the human experience: it's diverse and different! that's what a community is about. that's what our lgbtqiap+ community is about!! to embrace the diversity of gender and sexuality. I believe labels are the tools we use, the language we feel most comfortable using, to describe, as closely, as possible, our own queer experiences. that's why we shouldn't "gatekeep" or keep policing who should or shouldn't use x, y or z label. let people be, and describe their life the way that best fits them 🌈.

[livseses]

The "queer is a slur", "only [X] can call themselves [Y]", and "you can't be [Identity A] while also being [Identity B]" nonsense always feels just so pathetic to us.

Like, how do you look outside, see the absolute fucking danger that queer folk are in and think it's important to gatekeep or police terms and identities? If someone wants to throw their lot in with us, I'm fucking for it.

"But what if the amatanormative patriarchy doesn't take us seriously??" They literally do fucking not already. And when they do, it's because they take us as a threat and are working towards our extermination. Maybe don't help them with that?

"What if a cis perisex man starts calling himself a lesbian?" Yeah that's what terfs think all of us tranny lesbos are anyway. Maybe we meet this guy with curiosity and acceptance? Either we get another taste of the wide wondrous diversity of the queer experience, or he does. If he's trolling, he'll get bored way faster than we will.

"But what if they aren't really queer and are just jumping on a band wagon because it's trendy?" If you're new to this, look up the whole "transtrender" thing. If you're already using it, fuck off. Again, if someone throws their lot in with us I welcome them wholeheartedly. There is nothing to be gained by being queer except for the love and acceptance of the queer community, and the hatred and vitriol of the state and its loyal enforcers.

"But queer is a slur!" And so the fuck is every single word under the rainbow. If it upsets you so much, mute the fucking word and move on.

[dragon-in-a-fez]

it’s always amazing to watch adults discover how much changes when they don’t treat their perspective as the default human experience.

example: it’s been well-documented for a long time that urban spaces are more dangerous for kids than they are for adults. but common wisdom has generally held that that’s just the way things are because kids are inherently vulnerable. and because policymakers keep operating under the assumption that there’s nothing that can be done about kids being less safe in cities because that’s just how kids are, the danger they face in public spaces like streets and parks has been used as an excuse for marginalizing and regulating them out of those spaces.

(by the same people who then complain about kids being inside playing video games, I’d imagine.)

thing is, there’s no real evidence to suggest that kids are inescapably less safe in urban spaces. the causality goes the other way: urban spaces are safer for adults because they are designed for adults, by adults, with an adult perspective and experience in mind.

the city of Oslo, Norway recently started a campaign to take a new perspective on urban planning. quite literally a new perspective: they started looking at the city from 95 centimeters off the ground - the height of the average three-year-old. one of the first things they found was that, from that height, there were a lot of hedges blocking the view of roads from sidewalks. in other words, adults could see traffic, but kids couldn’t.

pop quiz: what does not being able to see a car coming do to the safety of pedestrians? the city of Oslo was literally designed to make it more dangerous for kids to cross the street. and no one realized it until they took the laughably small but simultaneously really significant step of…lowering their eye level by a couple of feet.

so Oslo started trimming all its decorative roadside vegetation down. and what was the first result they saw? kids in Oslo are walking to school more, because it’s safer to do it now. and that, as it turns out, reduces traffic around schools, making it even safer to walk to school.

so yeah. this is the kind of important real-life impact all that silly social justice nonsense of recognizing adultism as a massive structural problem can have. stop ignoring 1/3 of the population when you’re deciding what the world should look like and the world gets better a little bit at a time.

[timemachineyeah]

Keep seeing posts in solidarity with the WGA strike that say things like “no one cares about your favorite shows” and “fuck your tv show. I hope it gets canceled” and while I understand and agree with the underlying sentiment, which is clearly “Real people are more important than fictional ones, you dipshit” I don’t like the framing because, well, it feels shitty to dismiss the importance of the work made by the workers we’re trying to defend.

No one cares about your favorite shows more than the writers do.

No one understands the power and importance of tv and film more than the writers who created them.

No one loves tv, movies, games, and stories more than the people who fought tooth and nail in an incredibly competitive and underpaid profession for the chance to be part of it.

They know it’s important. They know it changes lives. They know it can be more than just a story, more than just a bit of entertainment. They’ve loved and respected this medium, continue to love and respect this medium, more than you ever will.

The person who wants a show to get canceled the least is the writer who poured their everything into making it good.

TV and movies are great, actually, and you are not wrong to be invested and care about them. That’s what the writers gave you. That’s what the writers wanted when they wrote it. That’s why they wrote it.

Which is why we respect them when they make the call that this strike and its demands are worth risking it.

The people on that picket line do not want their shows canceled. They want to keep writing them. They can’t, not under the current conditions.

So we accept the risk with them and support them.

But I don’t want to berate the power and importance of their work, the value they put into it and the love they have for it, in the same breath that I am defending their strike. Worthy shows will likely get canceled or derailed and that will be a tragedy worth mourning. The writers know that better than anyone.

So when they say something else is even more important, we listen. And when your favorite show gets ruined, you make sure your fully justified anger and grief is pointed in the right direction - at the CEOs who killed it.

[moonkitty]

your fat activism posts should include people who are not healthy at their current weight or have an eating disorder where they eat too much btw

[moonkitty]

like YES there are plenty of fat people who ARE healthy and that is a super important thing to say but fat people who are not currently healthy (especially fat women) are treated like dirt by both camps. like i dont know how to explain to you that unhealthy people dont deserve to get treated like garbage

[smoov-criminal]

btw the abled ND =/= cripple punk debate isn't "slur discourse". it isnt us big mean cripples gatekeeping others from the community for no reason. its about respecting Tai, the creator's wishes on the cripple punk moment being by and for physically disabled people only. there are other similar movements out there (neuropunk and madpunk) that work towards the same goals but for mentally disabled people. please use them.

[yirenqueer]

anti psych/psych abolition bitches when psych is abolished and millions of ppl kill themselves in the first few months: wow we are such heroes

[comradesaucegay]

you know those old ‘hentai free’ banners? that’s this blog but with harry potter

[comradesaucegay]

[theconcealedweapon]

You can also stop pretending that capitalism is voluntarism.

[sanjidysphoria]

yes btw i want homeless people to be able to sleep on benches in the metro. yes even if they are drunk. yes even if they smell bad.

[sanjidysphoria]

as minuses are approaching im here to remind you that if you dont have a problem with anti homeless architecture you are a piece of shit and i hope you freeze to death one day

[arobisexualstruggler]

Like and reblog if your account is a safe space for trans lesbians. It feels like trans lesbians in particular get shamed and ridiculed a lot by people in and out of the community. If you’re reading this I want to let you know you’re valid and I hope your safe and doing well.

[uncle-fruity]

Taking T didn't ruin my singing voice, and frankly I'm sick of folks panicking and ignoring the fact that cis boys go through two or three years where their voices are fluctuating and cracking and changing before they settle.

Your voice isn't ruined, it's changing.

If you want to make that transition easier, you gotta keep using it. Sing! Even if your voice cracks in goofy ways. Even if you have trouble placing your voice comfortably. It gets easier, I promise. Get a voice teacher (if you can) who has experience with vocal changes for pubescent cis boys if it's really making you anxious or if you're having a hard time controlling it.

To be clear, I'm not trying to be dismissive of people's emotions, nor am I trying to tell you about your own experience. If you feel something intensely, that's fair and valid. Respectfully, you should unpack that with a therapist or supportive peers.

However, when one of the main TERF tactics against transmascs is convincing trans guys that T makes you Worse in a Variety of Ways, and that you'll be ruining your body if you take it, I am EXTREMELY dubious of how many people online report any part of their body being ruined by T. Sounds suspiciously like TERF shit. And, yes, even Actual Trans People can play into TERF talking points. I'm begging y'all to stop the rampant fearmongering surrounding T.

So, after nearly a year being on T, I'm here to say that YES my voice cracks and YES my voice fluctuates and YES sometimes it feels like I have to relearn everything I knew about being a vocalist, but goddamn if I won't have fun figuring it all out, because I know this is just one stage of the transition I'm going through, and it's worth it.

[spacelazarwolf]

thank you so much for this. i’m a professional singer who’s wanting to go on t but it’s IMPOSSIBLE to talk about it bc even other trans men and mascs keep peddling this “t ruins your voice you’ll have no range and will never be able to sing again” garbage. and it’s infuriating because i’ll make posts asking specifically people who are singers what their experience was, and people will show up to fearmonger about how their voice is ruined when they themselves admit they didn’t sing before t, didn’t have any training during the transition, and haven’t done much singing afterward.

and when i try to point out that i know several trans men who are still professional singers after transitioning people are always like “what makes you think you’ll be one of the lucky ones?” what makes you think i won’t????? i have over a decade of training and performance experience under my belt as well as teaching experience, which requires knowledge of the anatomy of changing voices. and tbh i’m furious that i was put off t for so many years because i was told i would have to give up singing when apparently what’s more likely is that i’ll just have to take some time off while my voice changes to retrain.

basically, there’s a shit ton of fearmongering around “t voice” and it’s kept me from going on t for literal years when t could save my life and i’m very mad about that.

[transmascrage]

There are multiple articles out there and all of them say going on T as a singer is safe, as long as you train your voice to change with you.

Transgender Men, Testosterone, and Singing: Some Advice

As a singer-songwriter and voice teacher who is an openly transgender man, I regularly get questions from people considering taking testoste

Testosterone and the FTM Singing Voice

The loss of singing ability on Testosterone is not inevitable, and there are ways to ease the transition of the FTM singing voice. Find out

Testosterone therapy may bring you closer to your gender identity, but how will it affect your singing voice? | CBC Music

A new short film, Voice Trans*formed, follows two classical singers taking testosterone as they find answers for themselves.

Men and women aren't two completely different species. It's not like a trans guy experiencing voice crack is something cis boys don't go through. Just because afab teenagers don't experience it, doesn't mean it's catastrophic for a trans guy.

Cis boys have the same issue and usually stop singing for a while, but continue singing after.

How to Sing When Going Through Puberty - OpenMic

Learning how to sing when going through puberty will prevent you from becoming frustrated and possibly even damaging your voice. Patience is

24 votes and 12 comments so far on Reddit

(I love this thread. All the educators are really careful and use affirming language for the kids they teach. A lot of them also say boys can be treated very harshly during this period, and it's probably very sudden for the kid. The belief (I fear) is that he's "becoming a man" so he shouldn't be helped or treated kindly anymore.

Never ever call it the voice "breaking". That implies that there is something wrong with the voice, when it is of course an absolutely natural transition. We call it the vocal transition or change.

I think this is cis women panicking because they'd never want to change their voice and feel the need to project on us, like always. And then it spreads to transmasc circles.

[spacelazarwolf]

^^^^!!!!!!!!!

[duckbunny]

ALKAHEST - Full Series

Start to finish. I sound great and I sound like myself.

[roach-works]

hey i'm going to chime in (ha ha) as someone who hated singing as a woman and who still doesn't sing well as a man: T gave me a singing voice i like to sing with. i sang in the car all the year my voice was changing, and it was terrible and it was fun, and i sound like if kermit the frog fucked the decemberists and that's cool with me, actually.

not everything T does to you is a blissful upgrade, but it sure as hell hasn't ruined any part of me. it's nice. this whole thing has just been nice.

[caramiaaddio]

I’d like to chime in as a music educator/voice teacher to just add some tips and tricks here!

Taking T in no way “ruins” your voice — that’s not what testosterone does to the body! Inside your larynx (your ‘voice box’) you have what we call the vocal folds, which are two flaps of skin that are very thin on the inside. They’re shaped kind of like a V, and when you put the folds close together and push air through, they vibrate and create sound! When you stretch them, the sound is higher, and when you loosen them, the sound is lower.

What testosterone does to the vocal folds is thicken them, which lowers the pitch of the sounds you make! When moving from thinner folds to thicker folds, there’s always going to be a period of adjustment — you have to remember, these are muscles, and new ones! They can often struggle to hold a certain pitch because your muscles are changing and functioning in a new way. This is what leads to voice cracks — your body is trying to put a pitch in head voice or chest voice when the new musculature indicates it should be elsewhere. The voice ‘cracking’ sound is literally just your voice switching rapidly between chest and head voice!

The period of time in which your vocal folds are still thickening and haven’t quite settled, you are referred to as a cambiata — essentially, an in-between voice. But that doesn’t mean you should stop singing! In fact, you should absolutely KEEP singing in order to get used to your new musculature and passagio (the places where your voice switches from chest to head and head to falsetto).

Tips for singing through your voice change as a cambiata:

1. It’ll take a while. Don’t rush it. It could be up to a couple years before your voice really settles

2. Don’t push your voice! There may be notes you could hit before that you no longer can or low notes that you’re almost able to hit but not quite — don’t force them! This is what actually does damage to the voice, because you end up grinding the vocal folds together, which can create friction and eventually callouses! If a note seems out of your reach, let it be! It’s better to not sing a note/switch octaves for that note than force it and end up damaging your voice.

3. Ranges! While you’re going through a voice change, it’s best to stick to the cambiata range of ~F3 to ~F4, and move lower/higher as it feels natural. Here’s a little video so you can actually hear what I mean!

4. Most importantly: keep singing! Your vocal muscles are like any other muscles, and they get stronger/weaker depending on how much you use them. It may feel awkward as you adjust to the changes just because you can’t actually see them, but I promise you it’s completely normal for your voice to do the things it’s doing! I mean hell — I’m a cis woman and my voice was lowered by testosterone during puberty, and I’m an opera singer now! It’s your body’s normal and natural reaction to testosterone, and it’s not going to ruin your voice.

Also just a side note while I’m here because I’m passionate about this — the human voice is not as gendered as people want it to be. I won’t rant on it here, but there as cis men who sing soprano (countertenors!) and cis women who sing tenor or lower (contralto — this is me!). Singing is absolutely not “boys are this and girls are this”, it’s a spectrum with a whole lot of overlap. If you’re a pre-T/no-T trans man? You’re a countertenor. It’s a real voice part, and is highly sought after in the world of classical singing. Just listen to this — it’s John Holiday, masculine as all hell, and he’s a countertenor.

And if you’re a trans woman? Well then you’re one of the beautiful and rare contraltos, women with deep voices who are ALSO very rare and highly sought after (not to brag or anything, but welcome to the club lol), just like the gorgeous Korneva Julia.

People really want voices to be binary, and they’re just…not. Real people who study the voice know that it’s SO much more complex and beautiful than that. Okay rant over lol

[letsgo-emxos]

“don’t go on testosterone, you’ll get hairy and big” so you’re telling me I’m going to be a bear. why are you threatening me with a good fucking time. 

“what if you start balding!” there are so many hot balding/bald people. why would I care. 

“you’ll get acne” yeah and? I currently deal with acne, and I don’t think that acne makes a person gross. 

“your voice will change!” yup I’m depending on that

“what about your fertility?” my fertility is my business, not yours.

like all these concerns I have already been through with several doctors. very unoriginal. also cis guys deal with these things too. have you considered men are faced with stupid societal and beauty standards, that fact will not deter me from pursuing a more “male” body. 

[hauntanelle]

the general population’s education of indigenous american cultures is literally painful like people walk around not knowing that native americans domesticated dogs and turkeys, that many communities had farms that stretched for hundreds of miles, that many communities had completely terraformed their territories, that there were native trade systems stretching across the continent, that there were native metalsmiths before european arrival, that most native people were multilingual etc

[hauntanelle]

also fed up with peoples assumption that sedentary cultures were “more advanced”. like sure, they had technology that hunter gatherer cultures didn’t, but that’s because the hunter gatherer cultures didn’t need those technologies. hunter gatherer cultures have their own ways of doing things, and they do it that way because it works for them. like what if i called you less advanced because you don’t know how to make a serrated arrowhead, and you don’t know how to work a bow drill or an atlatl or a long bow.

[mercuryfountain-deactivated2024]

if you want young queers to want to associate with elder queers then maybe the culture shouldn't be so ridiculous and over the top. I get second hand embarrassment from drag queens and leather daddies and kinksters in puphoods acting like they represent all gays

I would much rather be represented by drag queens, leather daddies and pups than by petulant cowards afraid of their own reflection. You are talking about people who never had the option of being seen as "normal people who just happen to be gay" and channeled their pain into self expression, community and art. And who are you? You define yourself not in terms of who you are and what you create but in terms of who you are not and what you lack. These people you hate only seem larger than life because your life is too small and insignificant to fit them.

[caustic-light]

Also young queers are also kinky and larger than life and ridiculous sometimes. It’s not like there is a generational line that divides the pup hoods from the “I am just like you” people. That conflict has been going on for longer than young queers have been alive. And a lot of the perception that younger queers aren’t as freaky stems from society developing in a way that treats repression and assimilation with conditional acceptance a lot more than it has in the past. Young queers have the option to hide halfway and be halfway open where older queers largely could only hide fully or be fully open and freaky. And the ones who were open are the ones you meet at pride today. Young queers not only should get to be exposed to this at pride, even if it may be uncomfortable, they also have a right to be exposed to it and see that this is something we can do and that queer people have been doing before us. To take it away would be to signal young queers that assimilation is the only hope for freedom we have. And that is cruel.

[swagpaws]

my plus size clothing store doc!

hi! ive compiled all of my plus size clothing links!

60+ stores listed

size range listed for most (eventually all)

Coming Soon: price info, store descriptions

please feel free to add your suggestions to this post if its not already on the doc!!

plus size clothing stores

Angry Young and Poor Ashley Stewart - 1XL-4XL ASOS Curve - L-4XL ASOS Plus - 2XL-6XL Atomic Cherry - XS-4XL BadRhino - M-8XL Berserk - XS-3X

[swagpaws]

update!

approx 80 stores now!

size, price, and store info now added to all!

please keep sending ur suggestions so i can keep adding!