Be Gentle To Yourself

Helpful words reblogged from others, or made up by me, or some I borrowed and cited from a source. Consider this: you deserve to heal. Adult, they them

[transbiansaregood]

Trans women make the world a brighter place

[nonaferatu]

This would have had me crucified on tumblr 10 years ago but maybe we are ready for this conversation now:

If you are a socially anxious person, you have to socialize. Your panic/anxiety attacks will only get worse and trigger more frequently if you constantly avoid contact with The Public. Not saying that you need to be a social butterfly- but there is a genuine problem with not being able to order your own meal at a restaurant. And it cannot be solved by always having someone else do it for you.

This is a PSA to about 3/4s of the Portland Youth populace

[nonaferatu]

everyone who reblogs this and is like "I ordered my own tea this week" or "I only barfed once when I had to give a presentation'- you are doing amazing sweetie. Have patience with yourself, you are relearning a skill so difficult that people get 4 year degrees to do it professionally.

[gentleaffirmations]

Even if you were a difficult child, you didn't deserve to be hurt.

[gentleaffirmations]

I hope this message reaches all the neurodiverse and disabled people who were made to feel like their abuse was justified because they had "behaviors".

While this message is true for every child, you are who I had in mind when I wrote it.

[notgreatbob]

''i wasted those years'' who cares. you lived the only life you could've lived in those moments

[callmezeemonic]

You did the best you could with all you had and knew. That was then. Here is now

[castaras]

prev tags correct

[adhdedrn]

[Image ID: Tags from @realblogbot: #you needed those years to get here #time spent growing isn't wasted #there's no rules and no right way to do this End Image ID.]

[wholeheartedsuggestions]

late night reminder to self: your depressive episode will not last forever. it will have an end. tonight will not be the end of you.

[burgundy-forest-deactivated2024]

Hey guess what i saw this a few days ago when i was in an absolutely scary slump and then i spoke to my counsellors and did what they told me to do and now i feel so much better. So this is true. Reblogging for more good luck

[shamwowxl]

[i-like-reblog-maps]

[wholeheartedsuggestions]

why is this so beautiful in like a space way

[kassil]

Because the essence of humanity and life as a whole is a constellation of connections with one another. We are all here in this cosmos together, from the tiniest creatures to the distant stars.

You're not alone.

[twigsofmanyfaces]

you got lots of company, and you're gonna be okay 🫂

[suggestionsofkindness]

I’m taking your hand very gently when I say this, especially cause I struggle with it too:

It is more important that you are in the pictures than how you look in them. Having pictures of something joyful and being in them helps you remember good times years ahead. The more time passes, the more nostalgic it gets, and the more you might regret not being in the pictures or having them. At some point, you will hopefully also look at yourself with kinder eyes, and notice the joy in the pictures themself and the joy the memories bring.

Your presence matters far more than your looks ever will. 🌸

[fandom-trash-goblin]

we've got a life to love living.

[depsidase]

[dandelionsresilience]

Just gonna drop these here as a starting point :)

How to identify, and then deal with, your emotions

Emotional regulation skills

Conflict resolution skills

Creating and enforcing boundaries

Dialectical Behavioural Therapy skills

Emotional intelligence ideals to aim for

Axes of self-care/wellbeing

Self-care self-evaluation (find out where you’re starting)

How to make a self-care checklist

How to start a self-care habit

Reparenting resources

Crash Course Psychology

KhanAcademy: Understanding the Self and Society (some units more relevant than others)

Emotional education activities for children and teens

Social-Emotional Learning activities for kids (information can be adapted for adults)

[kosmogrl]

[manwhorewednesdays]

This is actually such a crucial part of healing from neglect and abuse and I have to add to this.

Because indeed, people who like you will not roll their eyes and sigh at the idea of accommodating your needs, they will value your voice and be upset with you about injustice done to you, not at you for "being difficult". They will be happy when you find a way to live a better life, and help you to get there. If you are struggling, someone who loves you wants to see you smile, not tell you to smile because "you have it so good".

[alexseanchai]

[image: tweet by overlyxclusive: "when people love you they find joy in making life easier for you"]

[3000s]

learning that people want you in their lives is a skill you can develop if it does not come naturally

[only-knives]

hi if you set a boundary or asked for help recently, no matter what the outcome was, i'm proud of you. you are very brave, even if you don't see it.

[liones-s]

a big lesson for me was learning that most things are not as fragile as I’d believed. missing a class, or turning in a bad assignment, won’t instantly destroy your professor’s opinion of you. accidentally saying something harsh won’t make your friend want to end the friendship. it takes work to repair these things - it takes effort and research and sometimes a sincere apology - but you can do that because they’re not irreparably broken. what you’ve worked to build, in academia and in relationships and in life, is stronger and more enduring that your mind may teach you to believe. don’t let imagined fragility lead you to giving up

[syissuffering]

reminder to trans, nonbinary, and any other non-cis people in the usa: there are people that love you and care about you. things are going to be okay, please don’t do anything drastic. i know things are scary right now but your lives are all worth so so much. don’t let him win. i love you

[weltenwellen]

Stephanie Foo, What My Bones Know: A Memoir of Healing from Complex Trauma

[puppygirllaika]

Finally experiencing good things after being in a really shit place for a while can actually feel really destabilizing. When you spend years growing ever more convinced you can't be loved and then suddenly are, it can really screw with your conception of yourself and your experience. That's okay. It doesn't mean those things are bad. It doesn't mean that you're not meant for good things. It doesn't mean it's wrong. It just means that your perception of your life has been so deeply embroiled in the pain of your existence that realizing what's truly out there for you forces a massive shift in perspective, and any shift like that is going to be hard, even if it's good. Keep going. Keep loving. Keep experiencing all that is good for you in this life. One day you'll get used to being happy.

[aditiv3rse]

we were meant to live slowly!!!! we were meant to savor moments and feel unabashedly lazy and frolic and smell the flowers and laugh with our entire hearts and love with our entire souls!!!!! don’t ever feel guilty for resting!!!!!! don’t ever feel guilty for slowing down!!!!!! enjoying life shouldn’t be something you’re ashamed of

[quotespile]

“It’s so hard to forget pain, but it’s even harder to remember sweetness. We have no scar to show for happiness. We learn so little from peace.”

— Chuck Palahniuk, Diary